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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2021 10:22:29 GMT
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Post by KelleeM on May 16, 2021 10:27:37 GMT
I’m so sorry.
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Post by ss on May 16, 2021 10:33:27 GMT
As horrid as all this is, I hope you feel some closure in knowing what happened. I don’t understand why life has to be so difficult. In my prayers.
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Post by christine58 on May 16, 2021 10:39:26 GMT
Just going to live in the moment. That's all you can do right now. No expectations at all. I am glad you have some answers.
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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2021 10:49:31 GMT
Also, my mother was able to connect with both his realtor and his attorney. Both of which are quite familiar with his properties and affairs. My mother is just going to have his attorney act as executor for his estate and the realtor is going to be the one to help liquidate his properties. So I am thankful she isn't having to start at ground zero with everything. He wasn't always straight in his business dealings and the attorney talked like he had back taxes he owed that have not been sorted out.
He just sold a four-unit condo building, but it will be a miracle if anything is left over. I am just sooooo glad she has some help with this.
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Post by gillyp on May 16, 2021 10:51:50 GMT
I can understand the sort of relief at knowing he did not die at the hand of someone else. Had that been the case you would probably still be imagining all sorts and not be able to start thinking logically. That knowledge doesn't make it any less worse to go through though, and I am really sorry you are living it and being so far away too. That must make it doubly hard. It does sound as though your mom is dealing with things pretty well. I think it's harder being away from a situation than actually being involved and being able to do things.
I'm so sorry for your loss and hope you are able to feel a little peace going forward.
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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2021 10:54:06 GMT
It is helpful to have some answers instead of thinking all of these horrible things. No matter the past, my mom and I just want to do right by him in his passing.
I am going to write something, a poem maybe that she said she will read at his funeral. She is going to do an evening visitation and a private burial.
Several of his "friends" have been bugging her about a "will" if you can believe that. There is actually no will. She has turned everything over to the attorney as it will have to be probated. I told her that if there is anything that is left over, it should all go to her. I also told her that she can tell the rest of these people to go to hell. They really weren't friends to my uncle. They were just leeches always trying to get free drugs from him.
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Post by mikklynn on May 16, 2021 11:50:08 GMT
I am happy to read he was not murdered. I am sure you are much more at peace, knowing his death was accidental.
Sending much love your way as you continue to process this.
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Post by peace on May 16, 2021 11:58:04 GMT
I am sad for you and your mom. While this end can provide relief, I'm sorry you have to go through this. Death is difficult enough without it being untimely and preventable. Peace to you and yours. May you find a way to navigate it together.
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Post by sleepingbooty on May 16, 2021 13:27:40 GMT
I just want to express my sincere condolences. Violent crime deaths are difficult to grieve through as they include a third party and all the speculation that comes with that. But losing a loved one due their addiction isn't easy either. I hope you find some peace and comfort knowing that no ill will was involved in his passing although it is only a small consolation.
Take good care of yourself. I hope you can be vaccinated real soon!
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on May 16, 2021 15:53:07 GMT
I'm thankful you got some answers and that it wasn't murder.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on May 16, 2021 16:20:52 GMT
May you find comfort in your new found knowledge that your mom's not dealing with everything alone. Peace with the death of your uncle.
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Post by JoP on May 16, 2021 16:36:21 GMT
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Post by MissBianca on May 16, 2021 16:42:40 GMT
It is helpful to have some answers instead of thinking all of these horrible things. No matter the past, my mom and I just want to do right by him in his passing. I am going to write something, a poem maybe that she said she will read at his funeral. She is going to do an evening visitation and a private burial. Several of his "friends" have been bugging her about a "will" if you can believe that. There is actually no will. She has turned everything over to the attorney as it will have to be probated. I told her that if there is anything that is left over, it should all go to her. I also told her that she can tell the rest of these people to go to hell. They really weren't friends to my uncle. They were just leeches always trying to get free drugs from him. I had a feeling this would happen. Best to leave it to the attorney and tell any “friends” that come around that he had debts so there is nothing. It would also be wise to get into the residence he lived in ASAP and remove anything of monetary value. The place will be ransacked if left alone. She should also get the locks changed and take his truck to her place or somewhere else.
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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2021 16:56:17 GMT
I hope you're a little more at peace with the latest information allipeas. It doesn't make the loss any less but at least you have closure on the possibility that he died at the hands of anyone else. It's still very sad that his life ended in this way. Drugs have such a devastating affect, not just for the person taking them but for their families. Take care.
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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2021 16:56:29 GMT
I’m sorry your family is going through all this. Hire an administrator to deal with the probate. You and your mom don’t need to deal with the stress of handling all that.
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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2021 16:58:31 GMT
Happy to hear your update. Hoping you and your mom find some peace and maybe a new relationship.
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Post by lucyg on May 16, 2021 18:55:02 GMT
Happy to hear your update. Hoping you and your mom find some peace and maybe a new relationship. Exactly what she said. I’m so sorry you and your mom have to go through this, but maybe it will help heal your relationship. And I’m very sorry you’ve lost your uncle this way. Difficult relationship or not, it is heartbreaking. Hugs to you. allipeas
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Post by greendragonlady on May 16, 2021 19:08:23 GMT
I'm so sorry about your Uncle, and about everything you and your family went through up to this point. I'm glad you have an answer and it wasn't deliberate or malicious.
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Post by Deleted on May 18, 2021 8:58:57 GMT
This is my uncle. His name is David. The police released his body yesterday and my mom is arranging for the funeral on Friday. I am gutted to not be able to be there. I just got my vaccination yesterday and it is mandatory here. So I cannot travel until I get my 2nd shot in a few weeks.
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Post by gillyp on May 18, 2021 10:04:18 GMT
Sweet photo allipeas. Could the funeral be zoomed or maybe you could hold a small memorial yourself at the same time? Family members just placed flowers and feathers at a favourite spot when they couldn’t attend a funeral.
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Post by sueg on May 18, 2021 10:24:31 GMT
I agree with the suggestion to see if the funeral can be somehow streamed online. The funeral directors were able to arrange this when my uncle died in Australia last month. With much of my aunty's family living in New Zealand, and me over here, it was lovely to be able to join in, even though we couldn't be there.
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Post by oh yvonne on May 18, 2021 13:51:04 GMT
oh I'm so sorry Alipeas, what heartbreak. He was a handsome man, my condolences to you and your family.
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Post by floridagirl on May 18, 2021 14:25:28 GMT
I am so very sorry for your loss.
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Post by Really Red on May 18, 2021 14:59:44 GMT
I am so sorry. What a sad ending. I am glad it wasn't violent, but sad is sad. You are good to come over and be with your mom, particularly after what you have shared with us.
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Post by milocat on May 18, 2021 15:07:16 GMT
I don't feel like happy or even relief is the right phase to say about learning that he wasn't murdered since an overdose from addiction is not good either but at least you know.
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Post by hockeyfan06 on May 18, 2021 16:32:29 GMT
Very sorry for your loss of your uncle and the tragedy behind it. In time, I hope your sadness will fade and remember the good moments you had with him. He looked happy in that picture holding the baby.
Sending you peace and prayers.
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Post by sleepingbooty on May 18, 2021 17:43:25 GMT
allipeas I hope you can be included in his funeral in some way. Streaming in real time or a video for you to view afterwards. Maybe someone can call you and let you listen in on the memorial if streaming is unavailable? It's important to be able to say goodbye even if you can't physically attend. Wishing you healing and sending you hugs as you mourn your uncle's passing. ETA: We couldn't attend a funeral last year due to the pandemic and had a little candle lighting ceremony at home happening as the funeral was taking place.
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Post by karinec on May 18, 2021 17:52:49 GMT
I’m hoping the news you received has helped ease your pain a bit, but I know it’s not much of a consolation. I’m sending kind thoughts for you and yours.
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Post by Nanner on May 18, 2021 20:37:46 GMT
I'm so sorry, allipeas. Such a tragic end to a sad life.
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