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Post by jenjie on May 18, 2021 20:45:25 GMT
I don't feel like happy or even relief is the right phase to say about learning that he wasn't murdered since an overdose from addiction is not good either but at least you know. This. I’m so sorry.
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Post by Deleted on May 21, 2021 12:56:23 GMT
Last night was the visitation and a long time family friend of my uncle and I had me on a video feed at the funeral home. It was different and most everyone thought it was cool that I was "there". I was able to talk with some people that I had not seen in a very long time. It was nice to share some good memories about my uncle. My mom was pretty cold, which is her typical MO. She has never had much compassion for me and it showed. I talked more with her boyfriend than I did her. I had only been on the video link for about an hour (visitation was from 6-9pm) when she came over and said it was time to go. It made me feel so unwelcomed. I really fell apart when my friend showed me the chapel with the flowers and especially the casket. It was closed, which I am so thankful for. But I still cannot absorb the fact that is really him. That he is gone. I am just not in a good place this morning to handle the graveside service. My friend was going to video link me in again, but I don't think I can handle it mentally. I have set up a memorial place for my uncle and I am going to light candles and play some music and sync it in time with the graveside service.
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Post by Deleted on May 21, 2021 16:46:29 GMT
Update on Page 4
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Post by questioning on May 21, 2021 16:53:58 GMT
Beautiful memorial, your Uncle has a kind face. I am so sorry for what you both experienced. And what you are going through now.
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Post by jenjie on May 21, 2021 16:55:53 GMT
What a wonderful picture of your uncle. Your memorial setup is lovely. I’m glad you were able to patch in for a bit. Again I’m so sorry. {{{gentle hugs}}}
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Post by workingclassdog on May 21, 2021 17:06:23 GMT
Hang in there... that is a beautiful memorial you setup.. hugs...
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Post by malibou on May 21, 2021 17:11:53 GMT
I'm glad you are honouring yourself. That is a lovely memorial. May all of your happy memories of him fill your heart and help you find peace.
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Post by hop2 on May 21, 2021 17:22:15 GMT
I’m so sorry your hurting so much. Hugs
I hope you can find peace with the good memories you have.
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Post by inkedup on May 21, 2021 17:45:45 GMT
That is a lovely photo of your uncle, and the space you created looks peaceful and meditative.
No matter how accustomed one becomes to a loved one's slights, some actions feel especially cruel. My heart hurts that your mother was not able to keep her nature in check and that her actions made this especially painful for you.
Good for you for knowing your limits and for choosing to honor your uncle in your own way. That was an act of bravery.
My heart is with you. I can't imagine all the emotions you're coping with, but know that you have all of us sending love and support your way.
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Post by sleepingbooty on May 21, 2021 17:57:28 GMT
Much love to you on this difficult day. Spend the time you need to say goodbye. This isn't easy. This isn't straight forward.
May the candles that burn in his honour bring light into your heart.
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Post by MichyM on May 21, 2021 17:58:11 GMT
I'm so sorry about this whole thing, and that things are so tough for you right now. Sending lots of warm, squishy hugs.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on May 21, 2021 21:11:16 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. But for his sake, I'm thankful that he is at peace now after such a train-wreck of a life.
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Post by marmargirl on May 21, 2021 22:07:12 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Your memorial is lovely 💕
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Post by gar on May 22, 2021 6:20:20 GMT
((hugs))
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Post by ss on May 22, 2021 10:35:39 GMT
My heart aches for you. May you find peace, starting today. Gentle hugs.
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Post by J u l e e on May 22, 2021 10:51:59 GMT
That photo makes it look like he’s a part of his memorial, like he’s there participating in it. I’m not sure how to say that so it doesn’t sound weird, but it’s a lovely way to honor your uncle. I’m so sorry for your mother’s behavior. I’m wishing peace for you.
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Post by mikklynn on May 22, 2021 10:56:29 GMT
I like your memorial. I hope you will fill your mind with happy memories of him.
As to your mother, some people are just broken. Having no expectations of her is best. You are NOT broken, dear friend. You are such a compassionate woman.
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Post by gramasue on May 22, 2021 11:14:46 GMT
I love the way you've set up your memorial. That photo of your uncle will help bring you warm memories of him and the times you spent together. Sending my sympathy.
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Post by Restless Spirit on May 22, 2021 12:24:30 GMT
Your memorial is a lovely remembrance and a peaceful way to stay connected. Your mother’s words and actions cannot change the way you feel, your sense of loss or the love and connection your feel towards your uncle. Peace and love to you as you go through this difficult time.
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