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Post by paperaddictedpea on Apr 23, 2023 0:51:48 GMT
I’m so sorry - I can’t imagine how hard this must be. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.
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Post by laurasw on Apr 23, 2023 0:54:07 GMT
I'm really sorry to hear that she's having such a hard time. I know it must be so hard to watch as a mother when all you want to do is make it all better for her. Hugs!
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Apr 23, 2023 1:08:57 GMT
Oh man, I hope it's a mild case of Covid. Hoping that your daughter can get the help she needs quickly. You're certainly going through a lot right now. Hang in there!
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Post by moodyblue on Apr 23, 2023 1:15:24 GMT
I'm so sorry that your family and your DD are dealing with this. I can't help but think that she's angry with you because it's safe--she knows that you love her. Sending healing thoughts your way that things improve and that your DD accepts the help that she's being offered. My twenty-four-year old cousin was diagnosed with bipolar II several years ago. He is doing well now, but it was rough for a while. His sister, who is 30, had a major mental break several weeks ago, four months after she and her husband had a baby. She now has a bipolar I diagnosis. When she was hospitalized she said some awful things about her father; she loves him dearly and has always had a very close relationship with him. Her brother said that the attacks like that are usually on the person to whom they are most close, that she might not even remember what she said later, it’s the disease and not HER saying the horrible things, and in order to move forward, they would all just have to put “that shit” aside and focus on her getting better. It may help to know all that, but it still has to stab you right in the heart to hear. Hang in there!
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Post by cade387 on Apr 23, 2023 1:31:02 GMT
I’m so sorry for all that you and your family are dealing with right now. Many thoughts for strength through all of this.
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Post by ModChick on Apr 23, 2023 1:52:10 GMT
I’m so sorry to read this. Big hugs to you.
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Post by seaexplore on Apr 23, 2023 2:43:37 GMT
Covid now too!? I’m so sorry. You need an April do over! Sending more love to you all.
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Post by NanaKate on Apr 23, 2023 2:47:42 GMT
I’m so sorry. Sending mom to mom hugs and lots of strength and hope your way ❤️
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Post by auntkelly on Apr 23, 2023 3:09:51 GMT
I’m so sorry about the Covid on top of everything else. I will be thinking of you.
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Post by kate on Apr 23, 2023 3:47:09 GMT
I am so sorry you're going through all this - and covid on top of it all?! Good grief.
Please know that I'm holding your DD and you & DH in love and light. I, too, have a college senior who has struggled mightily - the finish line is so close, and my heart was in my mouth as I read your post. The good news is that your DD is still here - I know that's a pretty low bar for good news, but we'll take it - and where there's life, there's hope.
I'll be thinking of you and praying for your peace as the dust settles.
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Post by Jili on Apr 23, 2023 4:47:49 GMT
I’m just reading this, and I’m feeling so terrible for your daughter and for your family. I hope that the inpatient treatment is a helpful start. Hugs to you.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Apr 23, 2023 4:53:52 GMT
Merge so sorry for the Covid diagnosis... You CAN do this! How did it go with her dad last night?
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Post by gar on Apr 23, 2023 8:58:30 GMT
Catching up on Sunday morning and wasn't expecting to see you've got flipping' Covid to deal with too! Ugh, truly hope it's very mild for you at the very least.
I'm hoping you have the chance to rest up and sleep a bit today. Big hugs to you (((hugs)))
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Post by nursema on Apr 23, 2023 9:50:56 GMT
I am so very sorry for all that you and your family are going through right now, Merge. My mom heart aches for you as you are navigating your daughter’s struggles. I just can’t believe you are dealing with COVID during such a painful and highly stressful time.
The wisdom and support you’re receiving here is extremely insightful and inspiring. I’m so glad you shared this with your friends here, I hope their advice and sentiments have provided comfort and hope.
You and your family are in my prayers. You are one amazing mama.
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Post by sabrinae on Apr 23, 2023 18:11:13 GMT
I’m so sorry. What I’ve seen through my work is the early twenties are incredibly difficult for young adults with bipolar. The brain is still developing and the medications and the stress of college/graduating/ figuring out adult jobs. It’s all a lot to deal with. Hopefully, this hospitalization will get her stabilized and back on her medications and back on her path.
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Post by maryland on Apr 23, 2023 20:44:30 GMT
So sorry for what you and your family are going through. Thinking of you.
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Post by RosieKat on Apr 23, 2023 20:54:19 GMT
Oh, Merge, good grief! I'm so sorry you now have Covid on top of it all. That just sucks on its own. Please do your best to take care of yourself, you have professionals taking care of your DD. Are you allowed to call her or anything, or is she even up to it yet? (Or are you?)
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Post by silverlining on Apr 23, 2023 21:05:35 GMT
I can just hear my grandma saying, "Oh my stars! When it rains, it pours!" I'm so very sorry you have Covid on top of everything else. Please take very good care of yourself. I worked online through a mild case of COVID but wished afterward that I hadn't because I was still SO tired after I "felt better." And was so behind on my work because I had a hard time being productive.
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Post by Merge on Apr 23, 2023 21:11:57 GMT
Oh, Merge, good grief! I'm so sorry you now have Covid on top of it all. That just sucks on its own. Please do your best to take care of yourself, you have professionals taking care of your DD. Are you allowed to call her or anything, or is she even up to it yet? (Or are you?) She has called me several times for short periods. They have one phone for the unit so they can’t use it for long. I could also call her there but I haven’t because I don’t know their therapy and activity schedule. One call this morning she was pretty upbeat, but on the others she’s mostly been tearful and begging to come home. As she is there per court order, there is of course nothing I can do but encourage her to cooperate with treatment so she can be released ASAP. They have visitation only once a week. Her unit is Friday from 6-7. It’s possible she’ll be released before that, but if not, DH and I will go. My quarantine will be over by then. I’ve been going over to her apartment to care for her cat, and it’s obvious she has been on a bad state and not taking care of herself for some time. The place is filthy. I’m working on it a little at a time, as much as I feel able being sick and all. Today I took out four bags of trash. I hope to go back tomorrow to start on the enormous pile of dirty dishes. It’s not good. We’re going to need to keep a closer eye on her in the future because the state of the apartment is a big red flag that she hasn’t been well. It all makes me very sad.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2023 22:26:54 GMT
I'm so sorry that your family and your DD are dealing with this. I can't help but think that she's angry with you because it's safe--she knows that you love her. Sending healing thoughts your way that things improve and that your DD accepts the help that she's being offered. I am no psychologist/psychiatrist but I completely agree with this.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 23, 2023 22:53:52 GMT
That doesn't surprise me Merge. It seems like my house and my physical appearance (showering, washing my hair) are the very first things to go to hell when I don't feel well. I'm so sorry. I've also been at the receiving end of crying please get me out of here phone calls too. Thank goodness it was never in my power. Although there was a time or two when I was the one who initiated the ER/police visit. So I was somewhat responsible. But I'll just tell you that my kids never held that against me after they were released. So I think a stable kid on meds understands the kind of fear that a parent has for their child's safety. The last time Esther had an unsuccessful suicide attempt by the time she woke up we were able to have a very rational discussion. And she said to me that none of this was ever about me. No matter what she said in the heat of a moment and she said Chloe's outbursts too were never really about me. She was very wise and I clung to that conversation. The mental illness and the decisions that were made by them were never about me. And no matter what she says to you, know it isn't about you either. ❤️
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Post by monklady123 on Apr 23, 2023 22:59:52 GMT
Well shit. Now on top of everything else, I have Covid. Started symptoms yesterday and tested today, and it popped positive immediately. So who knows who I exposed yesterday in the ER (though we were required to wear a mask in any public area). Just lovely. Thank you again to everyone for your support. She’s a very unhappy kid right now, but we were at least able to drop off some clothes and toiletries for her so she’ll be a little more comfortable. Omg, Covid on top of everything else? Hopefully it will be a mild case, and gone by the time you're allowed to visit.
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Post by Merge on Apr 23, 2023 23:08:33 GMT
That doesn't surprise me Merge. It seems like my house and my physical appearance (showering, washing my hair) are the very first things to go to hell when I don't feel well. I'm so sorry. I've also been at the receiving end of crying please get me out of here phone calls too. Thank goodness it was never in my power. Although there was a time or two when I was the one who initiated the ER/police visit. So I was somewhat responsible. But I'll just tell you that my kids never held that against me after they were released. So I think a stable kid on meds understands the kind of fear that a parent has for their child's safety. The last time Esther had an unsuccessful suicide attempt by the time she woke up we were able to have a very rational discussion. And she said to me that none of this was ever about me. No matter what she said in the heat of a moment and she said Chloe's outbursts too were never really about me. She was very wise and I clung to that conversation. The mental illness and the decisions that were made by them were never about me. And no matter what she says to you, know it isn't about you either. ❤️ Thank you. I know it isn’t really about me, but her words hurt all the same. As you know. I am somewhat concerned as the doctor she saw yesterday said, after a 15 minute consult, that he doesn’t believe she has bipolar and instead has depression and BPD. We had the BPD diagnosis before but just to say she doesn’t have bipolar like that? He put her on Abilify and Prozac. Historically she hasn’t done well with SSRIs and Abilify did nothing for her the last time she was on it. She had been on Lamictal before she stopped taking it and did well on that. What would you do, if anything? We had no say in which hospital she was sent to or which doctor she saw and neither did she. They did not consult her current psych or anything.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 23, 2023 23:19:18 GMT
I didn't mean that the words didn't hurt. I was verbally abused my Chloe for years. What I meant was that it was the mental illness talking and not a referendum on your parenting or relationship.
At first they thought Esther had unipolar depression. They put her on an SSRI and she had a manic episode to the point where she threatened to hit a child in the head with a stapler at school and then they removed her from the classroom and put her in the guidance counselors office. She threw his computer against the wall. She was only 13.
And if you knew Esther at all, she was so laid back she was ten feet behind you. This was so out of character they didn't even suspend her. The school talked to her psychiatrist with my permission but this did not get held against her.
So I don't want to scare you but SSRIs can really trip the switch of people with bipolar disorder. I had found that I can usually control my depression by increasing the level of lamictal I take. I also take an antipsychotic. Latuda is the one I take. I rarely have to take any antidepressant at all.
I'm just saying if they put her on it, watch her close. But these things are often trial and error. A definitive diagnosis takes time.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Apr 24, 2023 0:09:57 GMT
I'm sorry to hear you came down with Covid. That seems unfair while you are already dealing with so much. Hope it doesn't get you down too much. Take care of yourself.
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Post by Laurie on Apr 24, 2023 0:21:08 GMT
I am so sorry Merge. Keeping all of you in my thoughts.
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Post by peasquared on Apr 24, 2023 0:36:05 GMT
I haven't had a chance to read all the pages, I just returned home from a long weekend. Your post hurt to read, I can only imagine how you are feeling right now. I pray that your DD gets the help she needs and is receptive to it. I pray that your find the strength you need to get through the weeks ahead. The job of MOM is a hard one, and it never ends. But, you're a great one! We are here for you! Oh dear, covid? When it rains, it pours. I'm so sorry! I hope you feel better soon!
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Post by Merge on Apr 24, 2023 0:46:43 GMT
I didn't mean that the words didn't hurt. I was verbally abused my Chloe for years. What I meant was that it was the mental illness talking and not a referendum on your parenting or relationship. At first they thought Esther had unipolar depression. They put her on an SSRI and she had a manic episode to the point where she threatened to hit a child in the head with a stapler at school and then they removed her from the classroom and put her in the guidance counselors office. She threw his computer against the wall. She was only 13. And if you knew Esther at all, she was so laid back she was ten feet behind you. This was so out of character they didn't even suspend her. The school talked to her psychiatrist with my permission but this did not get held against her. So I don't want to scare you but SSRIs can really trip the switch of people with bipolar disorder. I had found that I can usually control my depression by increasing the level of lamictal I take. I also take an antipsychotic. Latuda is the one I take. I rarely have to take any antidepressant at all. I'm just saying if they put her on it, watch her close. But these things are often trial and error. A definitive diagnosis takes time. Yes, as I recall the last SSRI she was on caused a similar aggressive manic episode. I will be watching her very carefully. Normally her mania is pretty subdued. Hypomania. Seems like just normal good spirits, maybe a little extra active or some poor decisions like overspending. I’ve learned to have my guard up when she seems to be doing especially well, because it usually presages a depressive episode coming soon.
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Post by lemondrop on Apr 24, 2023 0:51:24 GMT
I am so sorry. Sending hugs to you all
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Post by scrapmaven on Apr 24, 2023 3:00:02 GMT
Merge I know that she wants to be released and it's hard to have her at an inpatient hospital, but it might be best if they get her stable and keep her stable for a bit before her release. That way she'll have a head start on her recovery. I'm so sorry that you have covid on top of everything else. This is absolutely a "life isn't fair" moment.
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