iluvpink
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Jul 13, 2014 12:40:31 GMT
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Post by iluvpink on Aug 16, 2023 16:45:17 GMT
Yes, but only in passing.
A colleague at work, different department so I've only exchanged pleasantries for the most part.
A few of dd's friends who I've met, but do not know well.
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anaterra
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Location: Texas
Jun 29, 2014 3:04:02 GMT
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Post by anaterra on Aug 16, 2023 16:49:36 GMT
I do know several...
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Post by withapea on Aug 16, 2023 16:53:39 GMT
Yes. A few close, a few casually.
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Post by myshelly on Aug 16, 2023 16:53:40 GMT
Yes.
I know a wide circle of teens and amongst them are kids who identify as gay, bi, trans, and non binary.
I know adults who identify as asexual and pansexual.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Aug 16, 2023 16:55:23 GMT
I don't personally know anyone who is transgender and don't think that is an indication of my trustworthiness. Being in an older demographic, retired and not having a wide social circle probably factors into me not knowing any. Current figures I find range between 0.5% and 1.6% of the US population identifying as transgender/non-binary. With that low of a percentage I don't find it surprising that there are those of us who don't know any transgender people.
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Post by Ryann on Aug 16, 2023 16:59:30 GMT
I am married to someone who is transgender. I know two other transgender individuals, one adult and one teen. Three years ago, I knew zero. I suspect as time marches on, even more people will feel comfortable coming out and living their lives as their authentic selves. jeremysgirl DW thinks you’d be fine to say something now, as you have gotten to know them, from the perspective of you wanting them to know who you are (your pronouns). Your exchange of information is from a place of respect and not rudeness. For futures, at the beginning when introducing yourself you could also include your pronouns. That would invite the other person to share theirs.
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 16, 2023 17:02:18 GMT
Even though I live in a state with a town that was onced considered the world's sex-change capital, where a doctor began doing surgeries in 1969, I do not know anyone that is transgender. I live in a county of 750,000 people too, so I do find it odd that I don't know someone that is trans. However, I have not been in the work world for 10 years, I'm an extrovert, so my world is rather small these days. I had to laugh... I was like I know that town well. The doctor there was a client of ours a million years ago. At that time the transgender was 'new' to most people.. so it was definitely the talk of the office. Oh to answer the questions.. I know a handful of people..
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Post by Merge on Aug 16, 2023 17:04:08 GMT
I’ve had transgender students since before anyone was using that word regularly. We have a trans male second cousin (DH’s side) and some family friends have a trans daughter.
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sharlag
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Location: Kansas
Jun 26, 2014 12:57:48 GMT
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Post by sharlag on Aug 16, 2023 17:08:04 GMT
My daughter. And, through her, several of her trans friends.
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Post by FrozenPea on Aug 16, 2023 17:08:42 GMT
Yes a cousin and a nibling.
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milocat
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Post by milocat on Aug 16, 2023 17:10:14 GMT
I don't know anyone or of anyone. I live in an area where everyone knows everything so I would have heard something like you know John and Jane's, John works at the xxx, anyway their oldest child is transgender.
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MrsDepp
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Jun 30, 2014 18:36:02 GMT
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Post by MrsDepp on Aug 16, 2023 17:10:44 GMT
My hair stylist does drag shows. The hairstylist might be transgender, but the majority of people who do drag are not trans. Yes. I agree and do know this. I separated the thoughts. My hairstylist does drag shows and is not transgender. He is gay. Yes, I know many transgender people.
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Post by epeanymous on Aug 16, 2023 17:11:07 GMT
I would be willing to bet the some of those people do know someone who is transgender but just not telling people about it, which is fully their right. I think this is probably more common than people think. If we meet someone after they have transitioned, they are not likely to make an announcement about it, and we will just accept the gender they introduce themselves as. Yes, I know a lot of people think you can always tell, but you definitely can't always tell.
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Post by padresfan619 on Aug 16, 2023 17:12:31 GMT
Yes, I do.
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Post by hopechest on Aug 16, 2023 17:15:41 GMT
I do know several.
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Post by Linda on Aug 16, 2023 17:19:18 GMT
yes and no
IRL - I don't personally know for sure of anyone who is. I'm also in my 50s and living in a very conservative area where I would guess people who are tend to either hide it or leave. My daughter (16) has friends who identify as non-binary, gender-queer, or transgender -I haven't actually MET any of them afaik and she certainly doesn't out them to me but she's very upset about the new laws here in Florida and what impact they'll have on her friends. I do know they aren't all out to their families.
I've been on two parenting boards for over 20 years now - and there are quite a few board-children who are transgender or non-binary or gender-queer. Some have fully transitioned, some are still in the process. But in day to day conversation, they are just someone's DD or someone's DS and their new name is used. So anyone new to the boards wouldn't necessarily know they were transgender.
Honestly I don't see it as my business. If someone tells me their name is X, I'll call them X. If someone says they prefer certain pronouns, I'll do my best to use those pronouns. If I accidentally misgender someone - I'll apologise.
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Post by busy on Aug 16, 2023 17:19:58 GMT
yup
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Post by finsup on Aug 16, 2023 17:20:15 GMT
two people I know have teen children who identify as non binary (both AFAB) but that isn't the same thing. The non-binary people I know all identify as trans so from my perspective it is the same thing. To answer the original question, I know many transgender people: family, friends, and acquaintances. Most if not all are under the age of 35.
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Post by hop2 on Aug 16, 2023 17:21:48 GMT
Yes. I do.
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pantsonfire
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 16, 2023 17:30:07 GMT
two people I know have teen children who identify as non binary (both AFAB) but that isn't the same thing. The non-binary people I know all identify as trans so from my perspective it is the same thing. To answer the original question, I know many transgender people: family, friends, and acquaintances. Most if not all are under the age of 35. Most transgender people are not nonbinary. While some transgender people are nonbinary, most transgender people have a gender identity that is either male or female, and should be treated like any other man or woman. Nonbinary persons do not have the traditional man or woman gender identity. So it is not the same. ETA: some nonbinary persons do undergo gender afirming care to help them feel more comfortable with their body and achieve the look they feel. But that doesn't make them transgender due to not having a male or female gender. I follow a nonbinary person on IG and they just had their breasts removed. They are still nonbinary. They just felt the need to have the surgery to feel comfortable in their body.
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Post by koontz on Aug 16, 2023 17:31:37 GMT
I have a transgender niece. I have known her from birth and honestly, she was a girl before she could even say it.
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Post by Lexica on Aug 16, 2023 17:31:46 GMT
I would be willing to bet the some of those people do know someone who is transgender but just not telling people about it, which is fully their right. I think this is probably more common than people think. If we meet someone after they have transitioned, they are not likely to make an announcement about it, and we will just accept the gender they introduce themselves as. I think this is the way it should be. Even if I am close to someone and have suspicions that they are trans, I would never ever mention anything. With my dog groomer, I always refer to them by name. And I am honestly not sure if they are trans or fluid. And if they are trans, which way they are transitioning. I just asked for a name and always make sure I frame any conversation to where a pronoun won’t be used. Trans people have enough stress in their lives. I’m certainly not going to be a person that adds to it.
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wellway
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Jun 25, 2014 20:50:09 GMT
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Post by wellway on Aug 16, 2023 17:40:56 GMT
Yes, I do.
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Post by belgravia on Aug 16, 2023 17:42:10 GMT
Twenty years ago, when I worked in finance, I had a client who was transitioning (male to female). We did a name change on all her records when her ID was updated. It was interesting…definitely not spoken about as openly as it is now. There was a trans woman who worked in a bookstore I shopped at. We had many discussions about which scented candles I should buy.
To my knowledge, that’s it.
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Post by sabrinae on Aug 16, 2023 17:42:38 GMT
I do. Both around my own age and my teen kids ages. And this is in rural Appalachia - where it’s not well accepted.
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TXMary
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Jun 26, 2014 17:25:06 GMT
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Post by TXMary on Aug 16, 2023 17:47:04 GMT
I thjink that if you don't know a single transgender person, it's because they don't trust you to know. I do not agree with this statement at all. I'm 61, don't work outside the home, have no children and my nephews/younger family members are all mid to late 30s. I have a very small social circle and consider myself an introvert. Anyone who knows me for any length of time would quickly know that I'm an ally and very accepting of everyone and would be "trustworthy" with that information but I would also respect their choice not to share if they so desired.
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blue tulip
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Jun 25, 2014 20:53:57 GMT
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Post by blue tulip on Aug 16, 2023 17:47:49 GMT
yes, a child of my cousin (whose immediate family cut the off completely unfortunately), and 3 other friends/aquaintances of different closeness levels.
ETA totally forgot 2 kids of friends. i was thinking only adults.
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Post by deekaye on Aug 16, 2023 17:49:39 GMT
Just two, both male transgender. One I met as his Girl Scout leader several years ago and have watched/supported him through the process. Happily attended his wedding two years ago.
I would be surprised if someone said they didn't know anyone who was transgender. They may not be aware of it but I'm sure they know someone...
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Aug 16, 2023 17:51:40 GMT
Many, many people. In the workplace and larger social circles.
This conversation feels like the ones many years ago discussing whether people knew anyone who was gay. Many people on this board probably do know trans people they just aren’t aware. It’s not like a drag show. It’s people going about their lives, with changes in appearance and names along the way. Depending on when you meet a trans person, if they’ve already made a name change or publicly announced it, you may never know.
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Post by MichyM on Aug 16, 2023 18:04:44 GMT
I thjink that if you don't know a single transgender person, it's because they don't trust you to know. Holy cow, that is quite the leap.
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