artbabe
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Post by artbabe on Aug 16, 2023 15:50:22 GMT
My sister brought this up to me. She is in a book club and they were reading a book with a person who is transgender in it. Everyone in the book club except my sister said they didn't know anyone that was transgender. My sister was " ". My sister and I know lots of people who are transgender. Like, a lot. We were astonished that no one else knew any. Just off the top of my head: My nephew's room mate is transgender male. He has two other transgender friends. Two of my friends have transgender female children. My boss has a child that is transgender. I have taught 10 kids that are transgender. I go to a bar that has a lbgtq clientele. A person on another thread mentioned that they didn't know anyone who is transgender. Admittedly, I live in a city, I'm liberal politically, and I teach 500 kids a year, so I know a pretty diverse population. I forget that not everyone else lives in that world. I was wondering what other people's experiences are like.
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Post by marmargirl on Aug 16, 2023 15:53:41 GMT
My nephew is transgender and we have a friend whose son is transgender.
My husband works in construction and has had a couple of co-workers with trans children.
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Post by jenb72 on Aug 16, 2023 15:56:52 GMT
Yes. One of my DH's high school friends is trans female. We also know several younger people through our DS that are trans and through our niece who has two trans roommates and several trans friends.
Jen
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Post by Lurkingpea on Aug 16, 2023 15:58:05 GMT
I have at least 2 former students who are transgender. And both of them knew when they were in my class at the age of 6. One is a pre-teen now, one is a young adult My mother worked with someone who was transgender over 30 years ago. It was pretty unusual at the time for someone to be transitioning and open about it I think. I am pretty sure one person at a store I frequent is transgender. I also assume there are more that I am just not aware of. I know lots people who are gender neutral or gender fluid which I think might qualify as transgender?
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Post by sueg on Aug 16, 2023 15:59:02 GMT
DH had a boss who transitioned, aged 50ish, about 20 years ago. She is the only person I personally know.
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Post by Lexica on Aug 16, 2023 16:00:03 GMT
The only person that I know that is part of the way through the process is my dog groomer. If I know any that have fully transformed and are just not announcing it, then I would have no idea. I would be willing to bet the some of those people do know someone who is transgender but just not telling people about it, which is fully their right.
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MrsDepp
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Post by MrsDepp on Aug 16, 2023 16:00:51 GMT
I know many.
My hair stylist does drag shows. We talk about how they make wigs and jewelry and such.
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Post by epeanymous on Aug 16, 2023 16:02:49 GMT
I have one nonbinary kid and one gender-fluid kid. They have lots of friends who are also trans in various ways. One of my colleagues basically founded trans law scholarship. Lots of my law students are trans (usually 2-3 in a 70-person class).
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Post by lainey on Aug 16, 2023 16:05:16 GMT
Yes just one person.
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Post by rainangel on Aug 16, 2023 16:05:52 GMT
I know two of my DD's who started transitioning in primary school. They are teenagers now, and doing great. One of my closest co-workers is currently transitioning, she is 25 now. I've only ever know her as 'her'. I also know about people in town who are. Don't know them personally, but it's a small town.
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Post by aprilfay21 on Aug 16, 2023 16:07:42 GMT
I thjink that if you don't know a single transgender person, it's because they don't trust you to know.
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Post by snyder on Aug 16, 2023 16:07:54 GMT
Even though I live in a state with a town that was onced considered the world's sex-change capital, where a doctor began doing surgeries in 1969, I do not know anyone that is transgender. I live in a county of 750,000 people too, so I do find it odd that I don't know someone that is trans. However, I have not been in the work world for 10 years, I'm an extrovert, so my world is rather small these days.
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Post by lainey on Aug 16, 2023 16:11:39 GMT
I thjink that if you don't know a single transgender person, it's because they don't trust you to know. Or maybe you have a small social circle, aren't working outside the home or have an illness that stops your world from being big. I don't think it automatically paints anyone as untrustworthy.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 16, 2023 16:11:40 GMT
My child was transgender and I have two high school classmates (old friends) that are both transgender. I also have a very favorite librarian at my branch whom I talk to every time I go in, they are gender ambiguous and I have never asked pronouns. I just call them by their name. I wish I knew if it were rude to ask someone their pronouns, it feels rude to me, like I'm pointing out, "I can see you are different and don't fit in a box", so it feels wrong to ask. But they are an awesome librarian and they always comment on my book selections.
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Post by pjaye on Aug 16, 2023 16:12:35 GMT
I don't think it's that uncommon not to know any transgender people personally - especially in the older population, as if they have/had trans people in their friends group they probably hid it...either they transitioned and lived as the other gender and never told anyone, or never openly admitted how they felt.
Also despite some sections of the media wanting us to believe that trans people are everywhere and taking over sport and every single public toilet, there's really not that many of them. I just looked up statistics for Australia, and the estimated number is 25,000 out of a population of 25.6 million.
I work with trans people, and all my life I have always had gay male friends...but if it wasn't for work, I doubt I would know any trans people personally. One of my friends has 2 sons who are gay, and two people I know have teen children who identify as non binary (both AFAB) but that isn't the same thing. In my personal life, even though I am an ally, a big fan of drag and have gay friends, I don't have a single transgender friend.
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Post by pjaye on Aug 16, 2023 16:14:36 GMT
I thjink that if you don't know a single transgender person, it's because they don't trust you to know. That's bullshit
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Post by Lurkingpea on Aug 16, 2023 16:14:48 GMT
I thjink that if you don't know a single transgender person, it's because they don't trust you to know. Maybe they just don't feel the need to announce it? I don't go around announcing I was assigned female at birth.
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Post by Katie on Aug 16, 2023 16:15:44 GMT
I do not know anyone who is transgender.
But, I do have a very small social circle. I work at home and don’t have kids. I REALLY don’t believe it’s because I am not trustworthy! 🙄
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Post by mollycoddle on Aug 16, 2023 16:17:53 GMT
No, but I am old, most of my friends are also old and their children are middle-aged now. But honestly, I wouldn’t bat an eye. I do not think that it is my business to weigh in on how someone chooses to live their life.
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Post by breetheflea on Aug 16, 2023 16:18:31 GMT
My 16-year-old's best friend. I don't know if they are transitioning, as that seems rude to ask. I just know they used to be named Megan and now if I use that name on accident, DD gets really annoyed with me...
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Post by peano on Aug 16, 2023 16:19:39 GMT
Yes. Two. One is the sibling of one of DS's closest HS friends. The other is a student older than DS from his HS.
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Post by KelleeM on Aug 16, 2023 16:20:36 GMT
One of my dd’s best friends is transgender. I had a coworker who was but she no longer works here.
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Post by pjaye on Aug 16, 2023 16:20:38 GMT
My hair stylist does drag shows. The hairstylist might be transgender, but the majority of people who do drag are not trans.
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Post by gracieplusthree on Aug 16, 2023 16:21:42 GMT
Yes a good number. I work at a grocery store, so yes both in customers and coworkers and otherwise.. and a lot of lgbtqia
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pantsonfire
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 16, 2023 16:22:28 GMT
Yes. Family member. Friends. Children of friends. Friend of dd's.
I also have a few friends who are gender fluid as well.
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Post by pjaye on Aug 16, 2023 16:23:32 GMT
Yes a good number. I work at a grocery store, so yes both in customers and coworkers and otherwise.. and a lot of lgbtqia Do customers tell you they are transgender?
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Post by River on Aug 16, 2023 16:26:42 GMT
I personally do not know any transgender people. I live in a really small town but work in a larger city. I admittedly don't have much of a social circle. I'm new to my company but have become friendly with most of my coworkers. I don't believe I put any vibes out that would cause someone to not want me personally to know as aprilfay21 suggested.
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Post by casii on Aug 16, 2023 16:37:22 GMT
The closest would be friends where the husband transitioned to female about 10 years after they got married. They're still happily married for 25 years now this year in fact! And if you didn't know them before, you'd never know she was trans. They've got 3 daughters and a granddaughter and are all around a great family.
I have a friend & neighbor in my running group, four friends whose children (some adult now) are. One of those adult children lived with us for a while right after they told their parents. All is well there now. Our house was just a neutral zone. I know folks around town who are, but I wouldn't call them friends. One that surprised us, we used to have an antiques business and an auctioneer we know transitioned. They're still married and quite happy.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Aug 16, 2023 16:40:15 GMT
When I first read the OP, my initial thought was that I don't know anyone who is transgender. Then I remembered that a girl in DS's high school band is a transgender male.
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Post by sueg on Aug 16, 2023 16:44:27 GMT
I would be willing to bet the some of those people do know someone who is transgender but just not telling people about it, which is fully their right. I think this is probably more common than people think. If we meet someone after they have transitioned, they are not likely to make an announcement about it, and we will just accept the gender they introduce themselves as.
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