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Post by twoboyzmom on May 11, 2015 0:01:52 GMT
We have my family over to BBQ on mothers day. And of course I'm the one who busts my butt to get the house in order on the weekend since I work all week. With a bad backache to boot.
Dh takes the boys to Walmart at noon today for cards. ..at that point I'm like really?
Dinner with family goes ok...also celebrated mine my niece and nephews bday which are next week.
But as far as any other acknowledgement for what the day is from dh and the boys...nada.
So I'm bummed and he doesn't know why? Maybe I'm just being selfish. Who knows.
Our anniversary is tomorrow. ..who knows what that will bring (and my bday is Friday! )
Anyway. ..anyone else bumming this evening?
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Post by chaosisapony on May 11, 2015 0:05:29 GMT
A bit yeah. It was my birthday yesterday and I didn't get any gifts. I should be used to it by now but it still stings a bit when I plan other people's birthday gifts and wrap them nicely, deliver them to them, etc and then my birthday comes around and no one gets me anything.
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Post by twoboyzmom on May 11, 2015 0:07:43 GMT
So dh and one son just walked in with 2 candles they forgot to give me. Oooookkkkk. Lol
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Post by twoboyzmom on May 11, 2015 0:07:54 GMT
A bit yeah. It was my birthday yesterday and I didn't get any gifts. I should be used to it by now but it still stings a bit when I plan other people's birthday gifts and wrap them nicely, deliver them to them, etc and then my birthday comes around and no one gets me anything. Happy Birthday!! |
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Post by Freefallfast on May 11, 2015 0:10:05 GMT
I totally get it.Actually this is the first year I got a smidgen of acknowledgment from the son (26). We did the same crap take my mom and then my MIL to restaurants deal with other family members. But this year I got a card!!! A card!!!! I felt like I was handed a star!! Absolutely encouraged to do it by DH but he did it and I got A CARD!! my cup runneth over. Lol!!
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Post by scraphop on May 11, 2015 0:18:06 GMT
Bummed here too.
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Post by littlemama on May 11, 2015 0:22:48 GMT
If you're disappointed, say something to your husband. I bet he has no idea what your expectations are. I'm not sure why it matters when they bought the cards, but since it matters to you, you need to let him know when he should have bought them.
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Post by twoboyzmom on May 11, 2015 0:24:38 GMT
He's aware. Happens all the time ..guess I thought after 19 years something would be different. Obviously I'm wrong
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Post by chaosisapony on May 11, 2015 0:25:09 GMT
A bit yeah. It was my birthday yesterday and I didn't get any gifts. I should be used to it by now but it still stings a bit when I plan other people's birthday gifts and wrap them nicely, deliver them to them, etc and then my birthday comes around and no one gets me anything. Happy Birthday!! Thank you.  |
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2015 0:25:11 GMT
I was too. Several of my friends all wished me a Happy Mothers Day today, though my first born is still in my belly, 27 weeks. I had asked my mom a few weeks ago if Mothers Day counted for me this year and she said "nope, not til next year". So everyone who wished me a HMD I said oh thanks but it's not official yet..next year.
Well, I got to my moms today and she had a white rose and a HMD card for me and when I reminded her of what she said, she goes "oh I was just messing with you!!! I wanted to surprise you and I didn't think you would believe me!"
I'm blonde. And very gullible. So now I feel like I threw away my first Mother's Day.
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Post by littlemama on May 11, 2015 0:33:16 GMT
I was too. Several of my friends all wished me a Happy Mothers Day today, though my first born is still in my belly, 27 weeks. I had asked my mom a few weeks ago if Mothers Day counted for me this year and she said "nope, not til next year". So everyone who wished me a HMD I said oh thanks but it's not official yet..next year. Well, I got to my moms today and she had a white rose and a HMD card for me and when I reminded her of what she said, she goes "oh I was just messing with you!!! I wanted to surprise you and I didn't think you would believe me!" I'm blonde. And very gullible. So now I feel like I threw away my first Mother's Day. You didn't throw away anything- it was nice of people to wish you a happy mothers day, but let your first one be next year when you have that baby in your arms (or you are chasing him/her around). |
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Post by scrappinspidey2 on May 11, 2015 0:42:11 GMT
I am a bit. My son forgot not only his sisters 16th birthday (and yes he was well aware) he also hasn't acknowledged Mother's day and Im guessing my birthday will come and go without a word from him. Did we remember his birthday? Yes. I know I raised him better than that. But he is in a snit over a miscommunication on his part and now isn't speaking to anyone. He's 21.
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Post by pb on May 11, 2015 0:44:00 GMT
My dad is unwell and traveling for work.
My mom is worried sick.
Both are somewhat delusion about said health issues.
My husband ran out of muffins (I bake a months worth at a time).
My shoulder hurts
A friends daughter is facing her first Mother's Day since her daughter was still born.
My youngest had a severe meltdown during his call to me. He just graduated from college and saying goodbye to his friends just got him going.
So I rejoiced in the outing eldest took me out to yesterday
Took a happy pill
Will take my husband up on his offer for baking the muffins if I get it all put together
And I am sitting on the couch watching MLS soccer with eldest.
Hugs to everyone.
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Post by Tamhugh on May 11, 2015 0:45:56 GMT
Yes, but for a totally different reason. I work two jobs. One is at our school district as a para and the other is a seasonal job in an office nearby. This year, I am in charge of the office so I have been working crazy hours pre-season, which I don't usually do. Today was my first day off in almost three weeks and most of those days, I was at both jobs. All I wanted was to sleep in. For no known reason, I was wide awake at 5 am and never did get back to sleep. I probably won't get another chance to sleep in for several weeks and I am feeling a little bitter about it.  I guess that is definitely a first world problem, but it made me cranky this morning. |
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Post by caro on May 11, 2015 0:48:13 GMT
Oh Spidey, 21 is still a self absorbed kid and particular a boy. It will get better but I might say something to him a little later in a calm way about expectations. |
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Post by mikklynn on May 11, 2015 0:54:54 GMT
twoboyzmom - Oh, DH did that one year for my birthday, said he had to go get me a card? Seriously? I blew up and told him not to bother. He had 365 days to get me a card. Announcing he had to leave to get one made me feel terrible. He hasn't done that again. chaosisapony - I'm so sorry, that is really hurtful. Happy birthday, dear pea-friend! I hope you'll do something nice for yourself. @carblover443 - It absolutely is Mother's Day for you! My DH is lucky to be alive after not getting me a Mother's Day card when I was a WEEK overdue with our first child scrappinspidey2 - I hope your DS gets over it. I know he's been your steady one!
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Post by lisacharlotte on May 11, 2015 0:55:48 GMT
no, I don't care about getting anything for my birthday (may 6) or Mother's Day. I had a 2day crop that I did Fri/Sat. Today was grocery shopping. my son cooked me dinner. Im happy that I had a good weekend. For my birthday I received lots of well wishes from friends and family online and at work. I appreciate gifts when given, but I'm not upset if I don't get them. But I do expect presents from Santa.
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 11, 2015 0:56:44 GMT
Not too bad but our anniversary was Friday and DH left with DS on a road trip Thursday night (state history competition for DS).
They are still an hour north visiting his mom so they won't be here in time to do anything tonight.
I did hit breakfast with DD so that was fine.
Sorry you are disappointed. I understand.
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Post by gonewalkabout on May 11, 2015 1:00:06 GMT
Yep, bummed here also.
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Post by Baseballmom23 on May 11, 2015 1:02:33 GMT
Me too. I got a "HMD" from husband and youngest DS. Oldest is still at school and is coming home tomorrow. He called. Its just a normal Sunday with chores and all. People at church asked what we were doing, and I just said oh celebrating next weekend when oldest DS is home (lie unless I make it happen). Thursday is our anniversary. I don't expect to be lavished upon, but something nice would be nice. I make sure everyone is taken care of for all holiday but no one thinks of me.
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Post by Just T on May 11, 2015 1:04:04 GMT
A tiny bit disappointed, yes. First, I spent a great deal of time and thought planning a nice Mother's Day gift and gathering for my mom yesterday. My mom and I don't have the greatest relationship, but I always do what I can to make special days nice for her. I was so excited about the gift I got for her, and she loved it, which was nice. She's hard to buy for sometimes, and gifts can be hit or miss. I do nice things for her all the time, but when my birthday rolls around in a few weeks...I'm lucky to get a text late that day saying "happy birthday." I do what I do for her because I want to, but at the same time, it stings. So there was that bit of damper on the day.
My husband and daughters went shopping last night and bought me this cute little Vera Bradley bag I have been wanting, and my 16 year old daughter bought me a beautiful flower bouquet from the flower shop at the grocery store where she works. She was so proud of that, and it was so sweet. They gave me those things late last night because they were too excited to wait. I loved that.
My son on the other hand...yeah, a bit disappointed. He is almost 21, lives at home...he's had a really, really REALLY rough year since getting discharged early from the Navy last May. I mean HARD. We've been through so much with him, have been very supportive through some stupid sh!t he has done, have given him a place to live, etc. We've done everything we possibly can for him over the past year, while also going the tough love route. He finally has a good paying job, and finally seems to be getting his act together, but it's been a rough road with many sleepless nights along the way. So...last night, he drove almost an hour to spend the evening with his new friend/girlfriend at her house, helping her make some desserts for her mom for Mother's Day. I didn't really expect or want him to get me a gift because he's just getting on his feet financially, but he didn't even say Happy Mother's Day. He even made some comment about how his friends family "makes a bigger deal out of Mother's Day than you do." I told him it is not my job to make a big deal out of Mother's Day. I try to not get my feelings hurt by much, but if I am totally honest, it did sting that he pretty much ignored Mother's Day after the year I have had with him.
Oh well. Other than that, my day was nice. Since I spent yesterday with my mom, I didn't have to go anywhere today. I got up early and went shopping for flowers, came home and planted hanging baskets for my front porch and planted some other pots for the porch. My husband and daughters made dinner. Overall, it was a good day. |
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Post by pierkiss on May 11, 2015 1:05:25 GMT
Yes. That's all I'm going to say.
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Post by ~Sherri~ on May 11, 2015 1:15:44 GMT
Just a bit disappointed. My youngest(19 years) has not spoken to me or her Dad since January. She did post a generic Happy Mother's Day on Facebook. My sweet DGS and DGD and oldest DD gave me a gift on Friday. The grands made me a hand-print bouquet of flowers and DD made me a beautiful beaded bracelet and a few other goodies. And DH painted several rooms in our house this weekend so I did have a lot to be thankful for.
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Post by brookeq on May 11, 2015 1:15:58 GMT
My birthday, mothers day and anniversary are all around the same time too.
I think that makes it harder for our husbands. Its ok to feel a bit disappointed. Wait and see what happens for your anniversary. Hopefully he has something planned
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Post by lbp on May 11, 2015 1:22:12 GMT
Today was horrible! Not only was it Mothers Day but me and DH's 35th anniversary. His mom is now requiring 24/7 care and is incredibly demanding and it was well into the day before either of us realized it was even our anniversary. He gave each other a quick kiss and went back to caring for his mom. DS did great though, he sent me flowers and brought me a cake and a card!
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Post by grammanisi on May 11, 2015 1:22:16 GMT
Yes. I haven't even received a phone call from my daughter today. This is so unlike her, but it still hurts my feelings.
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Post by Anita on May 11, 2015 1:33:24 GMT
Yes, and I don't know why I bother hoping anymore.
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Post by YooHoot on May 11, 2015 1:44:38 GMT
The weather sucked (snow) but I watched an afternoon of junk TV. Had a roast in the crockpot, oatmeal cookies and finished a load of laundry in my new top loaders that I got a week ago. It as an "eh" day but I'm over the whole hoopla of a special day. This was just fine.
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Post by tincin on May 11, 2015 1:49:46 GMT
I can completely understand. I do think you need to be clear what it is you expect because otherwise they (the DKs and DH) are left in the dark. Yes, it would be nice if they did some thinking on their own but if they don't you need to sit them all down and tell them exactly why you are disappointed. My DSs forgot my birthday one year. I didn't say a word then but when they remembered I told them exactly how I felt to have been forgotten. I asked how they would feel if I forgot their birthday. I didn't hold any punches either. It has been about 15 years and they have not forgotten it since. In fact it has become sort of a running joke about the consequences of forgetting my special day.  |
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Post by 950nancy on May 11, 2015 1:51:30 GMT
One year when my boys were young, my husband let the kids pick out MD gifts. One got me a tooth brush and the other toothpaste. My husband thought it was funny. We had a sit down shortly after and I told him it was his job to help me teach the boys to put some thought into how to give someone a gift. My husband isn't great at it. While their gifts are better now, I know they will still be something they picked up at the last minute. My son does do a good job of getting a nice gift for his girlfriend. He always asks me to help him and I tell him if he talks to me three weeks or so in advance I will help him. I now tell my husband what I want or give him a picture if I really care about it. My birthday is in 10 days. I am expecting that he will give me tickets to take the family to the wolf reserve just outside of town.
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