ingrid
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Post by ingrid on Jul 16, 2014 0:43:36 GMT
The cheesecake story makes me feel so sad. Even if my husband was a selfish jerk, I would go without before letting my child be the only person not having a treat, and believe me, I've been there, done that with that one. That poor little girl
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Post by yodutchess on Jul 16, 2014 0:50:09 GMT
I remember the Chick Fil A story too! My friend had a douchewaffle husband who we could not stand. If she managed to go out on a girls day he would call her every 15 minutes about stupid stuff. She had to answer the phone too. He always had $ in his pocket, she had to ask him for $. They are now separated. DH is an engineer, good with investments. But when we are out, we eat and tip appropriately!
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ReneeH20
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Post by ReneeH20 on Jul 16, 2014 1:04:15 GMT
The husband is douche. My DH is an engineer and doesn't act like that.
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Post by maryland on Jul 16, 2014 1:10:16 GMT
That's hard when you travel with friends. Even if you love the friend, you may not like their wife or husband.
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Post by maryland on Jul 16, 2014 1:17:14 GMT
what a jerk, but let me say that "engineers" aren't typically like this. anybody can be an asshole. I'm an engineer, and I'm generous to the bone, and so is my husband who is an engineer also, as is my brother and my BIL. so please don't stereotype us a tightwad assholes. Thanks. I agree. My husband is an engineer and he is the complete opposite. So are his friends in his field, very nice, overly generous people. There arr some women and men who are just mean, but it's the person, regardless of gender, job etc. It's hard too when we have the sweetest friend ever, but their wife/husband seems opposite.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2014 2:18:21 GMT
As soon as I read this I was wondering if he was the Chick-Fil-A guy. What an a$$!
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Post by jenettycakes on Jul 16, 2014 2:24:32 GMT
Story #1: tool
Story #2: tool
so sorry that he's in your life in some capacity
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Post by pierkiss on Jul 16, 2014 2:38:44 GMT
I lost my best friend because of her asshole husband. We can't handle him, and when I tried to explain my feelings to her (she confronted me), she accused me of making her choose between me and him (WHICH I NEVER DID). So, as that was the way she felt, I made the decision to step away from the friendship, therefore she would not have to make a choice between us. I will say that my life has been wonderfully drama free since I said goodbye to her a few years ago. She was very dramatic about everything. But if it weren't for her despicable husband I would still have my friend.
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Post by Scrapper100 on Jul 16, 2014 4:50:19 GMT
Yes it is expensive but if you are willing to buy it for yourself and wife you buy for your child. Usually we don't get dessert at restaurants but often we will split an item or get something just for DS. That poor child. I am glad you shared with her what a message to give a child that they aren't worth anything.
I don't think I could go out with him. We are frugal but just the couple stories you shared he isn't frugal he is rude. Dave Ramsey would never encourage that behavior he would say stay home if you can't afford to go out but to be rude and take advantage of other people nope. Rude rude rude is right. I would have to tell your friend you don't want to do anything with her DH and why. I am sure you aren't the only one that feels this way you just might be the only one still going out with them.
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freebird
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Post by freebird on Jul 16, 2014 5:01:55 GMT
Your friend is a puke too frankly. She had no problem eating in front of the girl.
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Post by lindywholoveskids on Jul 16, 2014 5:10:13 GMT
This seems unreal. Do people really act this way? I guess so. Very sad for the child and your friend.
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Post by katlaw on Jul 16, 2014 5:17:08 GMT
A friend of mine married a man just like this. He was controlling, he belittled her, he insulted people and generally was an ass all the time. She just let him take over and never said a word. I never said a word either because I was afraid he would stop her from seeing me if I confronted him. I was afraid for her a few times though she denied he was ever violent. I regret not stepping in but it is so easy to have 20/20 vision in hindsight. When she finally left him she ended up having to live in a safe house. He contacted everyone trying to find her, it was frightening. I hope your friend realizes she does not have to stay with this man.
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Post by miominmio on Jul 16, 2014 5:57:33 GMT
Your friend is a puke too frankly. She had no problem eating in front of the girl. I agree! Don't blame everything on her husband, they deserve each other. That poor little girl!
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Post by littlemama on Jul 16, 2014 12:40:35 GMT
They did post on Facebook, "We officially HATE Houston," meanwhile my kids, my DH and I are having a blast. They were miserable butts the whole time -- mostly because the husband was being a jerk and ruining everyone's fun because he had to spend money. They follow Dave Ramsey and he's not only a stickler for the rules, he's just really MEAN. This is the guy who we invited over for breakfast, the wife said they'd pick up Chick-Fil-A for everyone in addition to what we had (donuts), and then they call to say they don't have time, that they'll just eat our donuts, then the husband shows up with a bag of Chick-Fil-A only for him. Same dude, different day. Oh my gosh, this is Chick-Fil-A guy again? I believe I would be all done inviting him anywhere.
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Post by Chips on Jul 16, 2014 16:34:36 GMT
What an ass and your friend too. I would go without cheesecake before I'd eat if in front of my kids saying none for them it's too expensive. What a couple of bad nuts!!!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2014 16:37:30 GMT
I don't understand why you'd plan a vacation with this man? He sounds horrible and not someone I'd include on any vacation of mine.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Jul 16, 2014 16:42:35 GMT
Since the parents are making no effort to share, I cut some off of my kid's pieces and give to Allison. The husband says, "Since you're sharing with Allison, I guess I wont ask you to pay your 15% tip for the cheesecake we brought back to you." Baloney. There's no way Mr Tightwad there tips 15%. If the bill is $19.44, the server would be lucky to get the 56 cents. He was just trying to scam you out of extra cash.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2014 5:56:26 GMT
I see Girls' Night Outs in your future! Ditch doing things with her crazy husband but don't ditch her!
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inkedup
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Post by inkedup on Jul 17, 2014 6:07:40 GMT
I, too, have to wonder why you keep subjecting yourself to situations with your jerk friend and her jerk husband. The cheesecake incident shows that neither parent seems to care about the girl - mom was happily "stuffing her face" while her daughter went without. Your friend allows herself and her child to be treated this way, and she allows her husband to be a total ass to the people around her. Maybe he's abusive or maybe he's just an asshole. Either way....I wonder why you're subjecting yourself to it.
I do have to say, though, that I find it odd that you're surprised he's cheap because he has a history of being cheap and you mentioned that he just lost his job. Perhaps it wasn't the best time for the family to go on a vacation? Why would you want to go on vacation with these people and their drama, anyway?
I'd avoid both of these people moving forward. I think you get some kind of enjoyment out of being the one with the stable life and marriage and trying to "save" your friend from her life. You were sure to drop all kinds of little tidbits here about all the things you "have" to do to save yourselves from his cheapness. You pay for everything. You gave their daughter half your cheesecake. You paid for their parking. You want congratulations for being such a great friend, IMO. I don't think you enjoy the friendship. At least, it doesn't come across in anything you've said about this couple. You seem to pity her and patronize her, but you don't seem to respect or like her. Cut ties. You're not going to save these people and you're only making yourself miserable.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Jul 17, 2014 6:32:30 GMT
It might be time to say something snarky like "I always forget what a penny pincher you are." Not that you are going to change him but it might be fun to mess with him... I think I'll say, "Can't take it to the grave with you, _______." We had to pay to park somewhere and we were a car ahead of them, so I just paid for them so I didn't have to hear him bitch on the last day. It's THAT bad. I would say, "Allison's gonna be one wealthy widow!!" I wouldn't pay for them ever, he's figured out how to work you, and I think if it were my DH, If have to allow him to pound him a little a little!!
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Post by inkedup on Jul 17, 2014 6:44:42 GMT
I also don't understand all of the passive aggression. Why make cutsey comments about his rude behavior instead of just confronting him?
"Tom, your constant grousing about money and everything else is making us uncomfortable."
Or, "Betty, Tom's behavior makes us uncomfortable."
Is it that hard to be direct, adult and honest?
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Post by Lindarina on Jul 17, 2014 9:58:24 GMT
I went back to Twopeas to check out the Chick-filet thread So, this is your friends daughter, not his? Am I correct? And they just married a little over a year ago? If so, my heart breaks even more for that little girl who got this man into her life, with a mother who will not stand up for her. I can't even imagine getting cake for everyone but my own child. That was in public. How does he treat this girl when no one sees it?
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Post by ddly on Jul 17, 2014 11:33:41 GMT
Poor little girl. Thank you for sharing!
What an ass.
Lisa D.
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Post by uksue on Jul 17, 2014 11:42:59 GMT
I have a wonderful friend, I am God- mother to her two adopted children. Her husband us generally ok- except for his mean-ness. Even if I was still with my ex ( I met them through him) I wouldn't go on holiday with them again after a similar experience on the three breaks we took with them. On the last one, my friend actually purposefully got him tipsy and took his wallet off him, threw it to my ex and told him to pay for the whole meal for the 8 of us quickly to make up for his mean-ness the previous 3 days! They are very well off with a wonderful home, but he is so tight that I don't think he ever enjoys anything- any expense associated with anything he has seems to ruin it for him.
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Post by mallie on Jul 17, 2014 11:49:35 GMT
I think I'll say, "Can't take it to the grave with you, _______." We had to pay to park somewhere and we were a car ahead of them, so I just paid for them so I didn't have to hear him bitch on the last day. It's THAT bad. I would say, "Allison's gonna be one wealthy widow!!" I wouldn't pay for them ever, he's figured out how to work you, I have to agree based on my experience with my MIL -- these people DO figure out how to work you so you'll pay for them to avoid their douchiness. I saw my MIL's smug little smile on a few occasions after people paid for her and realized she was doing it deliberately. I confronted her and she admitted it -- that was was being an asshole about money so people would essentially pay to shut her up.
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Post by Ellie on Jul 17, 2014 13:12:52 GMT
I remember the Chik-fil-A story and that was bad enough. That poor girl.
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Post by annabella on Jul 17, 2014 13:37:56 GMT
Wow talk about rude and cheap. He could probably save a lot of money by not eating out and drinking soda.
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peppermintpatty
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Post by peppermintpatty on Jul 17, 2014 13:39:03 GMT
Sorry, I don't think highly of either one of them if the mom was willing to just let her daughter go without. I would never do that. The father sounds like an asshat and the mom just doesn't seem to care about anyone.
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Post by khaleesi on Jul 17, 2014 13:56:20 GMT
Douchecanoe
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Post by I-95 on Jul 17, 2014 14:04:58 GMT
Wow. Just wow!
I would be mortified if my DH behaved like that in front of other people.
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