tuesdaysgone
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Jun 26, 2014 18:26:03 GMT
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Post by tuesdaysgone on Aug 3, 2015 0:44:21 GMT
I'm so glad you felt safe enough here to share this personal and important part of your family life. You and Noah are brave and your story was so moving. I wish your family and Noah all the best as you move forward. No doubt there will be many more challenges, but I hope you find courage and strength to face it together as a family.
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Post by SabrinaM on Aug 3, 2015 0:47:35 GMT
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I'm so happy for Noah that he has you to help navigate the road ahead. ((Hugs))
Did you suspect A was struggling with gender identity or did it come as a surprise?
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Post by ajsweetpea on Aug 3, 2015 0:55:19 GMT
Thank you for sharing your story with us. You sound like you are a great mom and it is so great how you have been so supportive and loving to Noah during this time. Sending lots of hugs to you and your family! I have a friend who is transgender. It was shocking in the beginning (as none of us saw it coming) but all of his friends rallied around him to support and encourage him. So know there are people out there who will be supportive and encouraging!
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TankTop
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Jun 28, 2014 1:52:46 GMT
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Post by TankTop on Aug 3, 2015 0:59:58 GMT
Please give Noah a hug for me and tell him this momma thinks he is so brave.
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tincin
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Jul 25, 2014 4:55:32 GMT
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Post by tincin on Aug 3, 2015 1:13:48 GMT
I am so glad that Noah and your family have made it through the tough times. You're right, not every child who is transgender, gay, bi, etc. has an understanding family. One of my DS's best friends from high school was transgender. She is a wonderful person but she went through hell and back to get to where she is today. Good luck.
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Post by Chips on Aug 3, 2015 1:25:19 GMT
Such gratitude to you for sharing this with the Peas and I hope we all can lift you, Noah, your family and friends to grow stronger together. Lots or love and hugs to you and Noah.
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janeliz
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Jun 26, 2014 14:35:07 GMT
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Post by janeliz on Aug 3, 2015 1:28:23 GMT
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. The fortitude and grace you've displayed, and are displaying, as a parent and human being, is really inspirational. Noah is truly fortunate to be surrounded by so much love.
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Post by mamastone on Aug 3, 2015 1:31:34 GMT
Thank you for sharing your family's story. You are all handling this with so much grace, and strength.
My cousin's daughter was born female and identifies as male. They live in another country, and we don't know them that well, just what we see and hear from Facebook. Thank you for shedding more light on something that I am trying to understand more, and learn about, especially now as a parent myself.
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purplebee
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Jun 27, 2014 20:37:34 GMT
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Post by purplebee on Aug 3, 2015 1:35:51 GMT
What a wonderful family you all are. Love and kindness and acceptance is the only way and you have shown all of that, not only to Noah, but to all who encounter you in their journey through this life. I wish you peace and joy and contentment. Keep us informed about Noah, he sounds like he will go far!
I agree that you need to share your story to a wider audience, you are a talented writer.
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georgiapea
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Jun 27, 2014 18:02:10 GMT
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Post by georgiapea on Aug 3, 2015 1:46:13 GMT
What a wonderful person Noah is, and you told the story beautifully. Your family is to be congratulated for the help you've given and provided for Noah. What a confusing time it must be for a youngster to discover they belong in a differently formed body than the one they inhabit.
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Post by Katie on Aug 3, 2015 1:50:05 GMT
I couldn't help but cry through your entire post. The emotions were palpable...I could sense precisely how alone and frightened you were, and the feeling that you had to 'fix' everything. It's so unfair that it IS hard for kids to just be who they are, and it's maddening to me. Maybe I'm emotional about your post because I remember just how hard middle school was and how mean kids are. I just can't imagine your poor child keeping those feelings inside all that time...it makes me sad. I am so happy to hear you have come through this journey on a positive note and that the future is looking bright. Much love to you and your family.
I will echo the other comments that said you should spread this story to more than just us Peas. A blog, public speaking, maybe even a book. I thank you for sharing your story.
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Post by mirabelleswalker on Aug 3, 2015 1:51:05 GMT
It sounds like the universe picked the perfect family for Noah. Thank you for sharing your story.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Aug 3, 2015 1:56:04 GMT
That was beautifully told.
I can't clap loud enough!
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back to *pea*ality
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Jun 25, 2014 19:51:11 GMT
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Aug 3, 2015 1:55:59 GMT
You are a shining example of love endures all things. I hope parents like you can pave the way for others.
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Post by seikashaven on Aug 3, 2015 2:29:01 GMT
I think your story is beautiful and raw . Hugs to your whole family for walking this path with the grace and transparency you've shown here.
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Post by wezee on Aug 3, 2015 3:12:18 GMT
Thank you for sharing Noah's journey. With parents like you his future is bright!
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Post by circusjohnson on Aug 3, 2015 4:17:35 GMT
Thank you for sharing your story. We have friends that are dealing with this right now. Their son identifies as female. She has changed her name and we are all adjusting to using female pronouns. She has suffered greatly with depression and anxiety. I hope she can get to the point that your Noah has.
Tina
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Cara in TX
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Jun 25, 2014 21:54:39 GMT
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Post by Cara in TX on Aug 3, 2015 5:57:05 GMT
What a wonderful post, your love for Noah shines through. And you know I love the name Noah, he chose a wonderful name and I'd love for you to share the stories of my own Noah with him.
You and your dh should be very proud of yourselves for how you have come through such a hard time and Noah is lucky to have you as parents. I know it's been hard, but you are now on the other side and can get on with your "normal" lives. I'm thrilled that Noah is off to camp and is planning on college, he will thrive there.
What a strong Mom you have been! (((((Hugs))))
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Post by ScrapsontheRocks on Aug 3, 2015 8:27:35 GMT
Very, very powerful stuff. All good thoughts for your family going forward- Go Noah. Well done, Mom.
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Post by KelleeM on Aug 3, 2015 8:48:29 GMT
Thanks so much for sharing this with us. I wish your Noah the best. You sound like the most amazing Mom!!
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Post by Florida Cindy on Aug 3, 2015 11:33:17 GMT
I am using the word "he" because their circle of friends from school still call him by his birth name. The letter of his first name is "S". My 22 yr old son, who has disabilities, has a friend who is transgender. We've known this person since "S" was a child in middle school. DS and "S" were best friends throughout high school and 2 yrs post high school.
Then, "S" found a male lover. This hurt DS. He felt his best friend abandoned him. Then, DS could not understand why "S" was taking hormone pills, putting on makeup and growing out his hair. DS's disabilities make it difficult to generalize information. He usually has black and white thinking. There is no gray in his thought process.
With therapy and discussion with his psychiatrist, DS is okay with "S".
To the OP: I wish more parents could be like you! You're very proactive, supportive and intelligent regarding your transgendered child. I hope you can find more balance in your life. You are a remarkable person!
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Post by Really Red on Aug 3, 2015 11:47:23 GMT
Well. I didn't expect to start my morning crying, but I cried through your entire story. Noah is lucky to have a mom like you I'm glad he's coming out of high school in a happy place Thank you for sharing your story. Wow
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Post by kristi521 on Aug 3, 2015 12:36:15 GMT
Wow! Noah is so blessed to be a part of such a wonderful family! Thank you for sharing your beautiful story!
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AllieC
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Jul 4, 2014 6:57:02 GMT
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Post by AllieC on Aug 3, 2015 13:00:23 GMT
Thank you for sharing such a raw and honest account of Noah's journey. I can read into your pain of his dark days and I honestly think that the way you have cared and accepted him during his dark days is a wonderful example of how parents should do everything they can to keep their kids safe.
I have a friend whose 16 year old daughter is going through a similar experience and we now refer to E as a male. He has gone through some really dark times and has attempted suicide several times. My friends have been wonderful and he is very open with them about his struggles. My heart aches for him but he has parents and family that are willing to do anything to help him through.
My thoughts are with you and brave Noah.
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Post by hosschick on Aug 3, 2015 13:06:41 GMT
Thank you for sharing Noah with us; I wish him and your family all the best!
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Post by KikiPea on Aug 3, 2015 13:10:08 GMT
Your story sounds very familiar. Our family struggled as well when we discovered that this was going on with my niece, now nephew. It was VERY difficult at first, and we still don't completely understand it all, but we are all coming around. We saw him for the first time for a lengthy period of time since the start of the change, and we all got along great. He is a fun, spunky person, and seems much happier now than he was before.
More power to him, as well as Noah! He has a great support system and loving family. He couldn't ask for anything better. Hugs to you all!
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Post by yivit on Aug 3, 2015 13:16:55 GMT
First off, hugs to Noah and your whole family! I don't know any TG youth - at least I don't think I do. I do know several TG adults though. Two stand out in my mind. The one I've known the longest is K (m2f). She works where I work and went through GRS back in the 80s. I remember what a difficult time that was - the uptight ladies in her building didn't like her using the ladies room so one of the one-stall restrooms was designated for K's use (others could use it as well), but the same uptight ladies complained about not being able to use it because "it" (their word not mine) used it. K made it through all that and is a very successful and wonderful person. Most people at work don't even know about her story because it really isn't pertinent to work, although there are those who seem to enjoy telling others that she used to be a he. Sigh. The second is my friend A (also m2f). She went back 'home' last year to the east coast to see her family (only her grandma knew she was coming) after not seeing them for 5 years or so - and the first time post-transition. It was a great homecoming and she has been so much happier since that elephant was kicked out of the room. She is a big advocate for the community here and puts on a benefit for one of the nonprofits that cater to homeless LGBTQ youth. She is the lead in two bands and is also a kickass master Harley mechanic.
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Post by rainangel on Aug 3, 2015 14:13:55 GMT
Thank you for sharing. I have friends with children that are trans. They are young still 8-9 years old, but they have both chosen a female name for themselves and now live like girls. The parents of both girls are talking to professionals already about the road ahead, and discussing hormones to prevent male puberty. It's already been a long road for these two girls, and they still have a long way to go. At least they have already been accepted for their souls, now they have to do the physical part as they become adults.
Best of luck to your son and your family. It makes my heart sing a little bit louder when yet another person has the courage to live as themselves.
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 3, 2015 14:17:26 GMT
Thank for sharing your story, as well as Noah's story. I hope you will consider a blog to help other parents. Your family is wonderful.
My answer to the bible quoters is always something like this: "God made Noah. God doesn't make mistakes."
The more we all have these conversations, the better society becomes.
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anniebygaslight
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Jun 28, 2014 14:08:19 GMT
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Post by anniebygaslight on Aug 3, 2015 14:19:38 GMT
Sending best wishes to you and Noah. X
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