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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2014 23:41:07 GMT
For the record I wouldn't approve of my 16 year old buying pajamas for her boyfriend either.
But then again in the spirit of full disclosure my just turned 16 year old would not have been dating someone for 10 months either.
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Post by gritzi on Jul 24, 2014 23:44:44 GMT
I guess I'm a prude, too. I wouldn't be okay with a girl buying my 15yo DS a pair of boxers.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 24, 2014 23:51:20 GMT
I wouldn't think it is sexual at all. It is a gift that I would give my young boys or teen boys. Nobody would gasp and go "gross, eww, too sexy" It is the same as pajama pants. Dh and our then 14 yr old bought my 17 yr old nephew a pair of boxers with a funny saying on them for his birthday. It was slightly ewww for me but everyone else thought it was just another article of clothing so no big deal.
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Post by KateMarie on Jul 24, 2014 23:51:23 GMT
Wouldn't bother me.
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Post by purplebee on Jul 24, 2014 23:59:24 GMT
Nope, it is underwear. 16 is too young for that kind of a gift exchange. It's not like there aren't 20 other clothing items that she could have chosen. Yep, I'm an old fuddy-duddy, and I know it, but I would not have wanted a young girlfriend giving my ds underwear, boxers or not, when he was 16. 18, a whole different situation.
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Post by momofkandn on Jul 25, 2014 0:09:12 GMT
It's a complete double standard, but I agree, boxers are not "intimate" wear. I bought my boyfriend funny boxers when I was a teen and no one thought anything of it. But back in that day, girls were wearing boxers as shorts all the time. They weren't seen as just boys underwear.
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Jul 25, 2014 0:13:08 GMT
I would not be bothered by it at all.
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Post by myshelly on Jul 25, 2014 0:31:23 GMT
Meh. Everybody did that when I was in HS. I just can't see it as a big deal.
In fact I gave my now DH a pair of boxers the first Christmas we were dating. I was 18.
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Post by melanell on Jul 25, 2014 0:44:19 GMT
You know, when I was a teen, girls used to wear boys' boxers as shorts. As in out in public, in gym class, etc. So that experience is what makes me lean towards somehow being more okay with boxers than with boxer briefs or other underwear or a guy that age giving underwear to a girl. I know it's crazy, but I think it really has to do with seeing people use them as actual shorts. ETA: Oops. I missed this first time reading through! Glad the girls wearing boxers wasn't something only happening here.
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Post by Just T on Jul 25, 2014 0:45:06 GMT
BF, dating is not quite accurate. LOL They have been a couple, yes. But, most of their time is spent hanging out at either my house or his house. They haven't been on many real dates...3 movies, 2 dinners out...and they have been driven back and forth by us and his parents. I know there is the possibility they have snuck around because when there is a will, there's a way, right? LOL But...his mom and I talk all the time. She knows that he can't be dropped off at my house when I am not home, and I don't drop her off at his house when she is not home. We have had as tight of a rein on them as we possibly can right now.
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Post by paigepea on Jul 25, 2014 1:42:13 GMT
I'm a bit of a prude and I don't think it's a big deal. Boys walk around with their boxers showing, they sleep in boxers. Maybe I'd feel differently if the gift was a pair of briefs.
I would find it inappropriate if a boy gave a girl a pair of panties. Panties are more private and intimate.
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Post by sues on Jul 25, 2014 1:42:32 GMT
I would not be a fan of my dd buying boxers for a boy- nor would I be a fan of a girl buying boxers for ds. It doesn't matter to me how they're worn these days- they're underwear. My daughter doesn't need to be buying underwear for a boy- friend or boyfriend.
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Post by bandjmom on Jul 25, 2014 1:54:36 GMT
I would not appreciate a gift of boxers from a girl to my 16-year-old ds. It's unnecessarily personal at that age and as a mom of boys I get very tired of the double standards.
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Post by Tamhugh on Jul 25, 2014 2:29:47 GMT
You know, when I was a teen, girls used to wear boys' boxers as shorts. As in out in public, in gym class, etc. So that experience is what makes me lean towards somehow being more okay with boxers than with boxer briefs or other underwear or a guy that age giving underwear to a girl. I know it's crazy, but I think it really has to do with seeing people use them as actual shorts. ETA: Oops. I missed this first time reading through! Glad the girls wearing boxers wasn't something only happening here. I had a pair of flourescent orange plaid boxers that I wore as shorts when I was in college. I went to a little college in rural PA, so we weren't exactly the fashion epicenter of the world. I think it does affect my perception of them as not being something intimate.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2014 2:35:34 GMT
I just don't see a problem with it. Boxers don't seem to have a lingerie kind of connotation to anyone I know. (Double standard, I know). This. And usually theres a small bottle of cheap (smelling) overly expensive cologne from those places in the bag too. No big deal here.
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Post by gavinsmom on Jul 25, 2014 3:05:43 GMT
No underwear of any kind to be given or received at that she..
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Post by cannmom on Jul 25, 2014 5:07:13 GMT
As the mother of a teen boy I would not care for that kind of gift. Way too personal in my opinion.
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Post by DinCA on Jul 25, 2014 5:29:14 GMT
I don't have a problem with boxers as a gift either.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Jul 25, 2014 5:39:23 GMT
I was 15 when my Ex and I started dating...I remember buying him boxes for our first Christmas together and it was in no way a sexual thing. I just thought of it as sleep wear. The boxers were Tommy Hilfigure and back then TH was big and expensive for me so I was more thrilled with the fact I got him a nice gift. I also got him and sleep shirt to. I just don't think it was a big deal at all.
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Post by mom2paige on Jul 25, 2014 5:49:52 GMT
My first inclination was no. Underwear is too personal. And then I read some of the replies and have to agree (at least in my son's case) that his boxer briefs (from American Eagle) are a bit of a fashion statement, so maybe it isn't that big of a deal. Until I read more replies and thought about him buying her underwear. Nope. Nope. Nope. And what's good for the goose is good for the gander, so I'm back to no. This^ . I have two DD's that aren't anywhere near dating age, but I imagine that I would be uncomfortable with them giving boxers as a gift at that age.
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Post by boxermom73 on Jul 25, 2014 5:52:10 GMT
Heck no! Buy him some shades , or a new watch.... Ijs
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 25, 2014 6:17:25 GMT
Unless they have some hideous sexual slogan on them, I can't see what the fuss is about. Teens like brand names, but tend not to have too much money. In my experience, having sons, boys are very fussy about their boxers. This is a nice way of giving a branded gift.
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Post by gar on Jul 25, 2014 8:35:50 GMT
Annie - you have a good point about logos. Kids, many of them, love the big brands but they're expensive so giving boxers or something similar is a way of being able to give a gift with cache but without the price tag.
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Post by peabay on Jul 25, 2014 10:48:44 GMT
Mother of girls here (sort of like mother of dragons, but more dangerous): not a big deal at all.
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Post by oblibby on Jul 25, 2014 10:50:43 GMT
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Post by ingrid6 on Jul 25, 2014 11:29:17 GMT
I would not be a fan of my dd buying boxers for a boy- nor would I be a fan of a girl buying boxers for ds. It doesn't matter to me how they're worn these days- they're underwear. My daughter doesn't need to be buying underwear for a boy- friend or boyfriend. I agree with this. It's underwear and she'd be returning them for a different gift. ETA - JustT, just curious, are you going to let her give them to her bf?
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Post by Just T on Jul 25, 2014 13:19:59 GMT
That pretty much sums it up for me. Ingrid, I have told my daughter that there is no way she is giving them to him. We are going shopping for a real gift tomorrow, and I am making her take them back.
I know his mom quite well...we talk a lot. She helped him pick out her 16th birthday gift--a Victoria Secret tote bag and some cologne. I know that she would not be happy with my daughter giving her son underwear for his birthday.
Thanks again for everyone's input.
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Post by khaleesi on Jul 25, 2014 13:23:36 GMT
It's a complete double standard, but I agree, boxers are not "intimate" wear. I bought my boyfriend funny boxers when I was a teen and no one thought anything of it. But back in that day, girls were wearing boxers as shorts all the time. They weren't seen as just boys underwear.
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Post by oldcrow on Jul 25, 2014 13:27:50 GMT
Boxer are underwear. And underwear is private and personal as far as I am concerned. You say he doesn't wear his showing as an accessory - then how does she even know what kind of underwear he wears.
I am old and a prude and "out of the loop". And don't tell me I am "old school" - I get that enough at work, it is just an excuse to not have to follow rules.
In my day anyone who received underwear, lingerie or pajamas from non family members had better be married or they had a lot of explaining to do.
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Post by Just T on Jul 25, 2014 13:31:38 GMT
I'm not sure that she does. She told me she got them because she thought he would like the silly print on them.
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