ginacivey
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Post by ginacivey on Jul 25, 2014 13:40:50 GMT
mother of two boys and a girl - the youngest is 17
i don't have a problem with it
my youngest boy views his boxers as an accessory -
he'd be thrilled to get 'good underwear'
be thankful it's not a banana hammock!
gina
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Post by Zee on Jul 25, 2014 13:42:28 GMT
I wouldn't care even one little bit. In fact,I don't even know what DD got her bf for his birthday when she was 16. I never asked or was interested. She used her own money from her own job. My son is 16 and if he got a package of boxers from a girl he'd been dating for 10 months, I'd...still not care.
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krbeah
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Post by krbeah on Jul 25, 2014 13:46:44 GMT
Prude here too! Boxers are underwear and not something a 16 year old girl buys a 16 year old boy. That's what mom is for!
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grinningcat
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Post by grinningcat on Jul 25, 2014 13:48:22 GMT
You do realise that she'll go back and buy them and give them behind your back, right? Honestly, I'd really resent my parents interfering with the items I choose to give. I don't even remember my parents getting involved when it came to gifts.
It's boxers not a thong. Or condoms.
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Post by miominmio on Jul 25, 2014 13:51:43 GMT
I would not appreciate a gift of boxers from a girl to my 16-year-old ds. It's unnecessarily personal at that age and as a mom of boys I get very tired of the double standards. I wholeheartedly agree with this. I'm not going to set other rules for my son than for my daughter.
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Post by pretzels on Jul 25, 2014 13:56:13 GMT
I think it's fine... to me it's along the lines of pj pants. That's kind of where I am with it. My 15-year-old DS wears boxers OVER his regular underwear (he wears the knit boxers, I guess is what they are?). Inside I probably would think, "WTH is that girl doing, buying my son underwear," but I'd let it go. I would not encourage my DD to purchase boxers for her boyfriend.
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artbabe
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Post by artbabe on Jul 25, 2014 13:57:35 GMT
It isn't a big deal to me but I'd probably say no. There are so many things she could give as a gift, why pick something that is questionable?
The double standard is troubling.
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Post by apeacalledliz on Jul 25, 2014 14:02:18 GMT
Mum of two teen boys and a teen girl, I would have no problem with my DD buying boxers for her hypothetical boyfriend, nor would I have a problem with either of my boys receiving boxers as a gift from their girlfriends. I do however see a bit of a double standard that you were A-OK with him buying her stuff from Victoria's Secret(yes I realize it wasn't underwear), just going into that store had to give him lots of 'impure thoughts' about her in any one of the multitude of "outfits" they have displayed.
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Jul 25, 2014 14:06:52 GMT
He could have impure thoughts walking through Macy's to buy her a tote bag and cologne. I would consider it a double standard if he had bought her underwear, and I was okay with that, but not okay with her buying HIM underwear.
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Post by Meri-Lyn on Jul 25, 2014 14:08:20 GMT
You know, when I was a teen, girls used to wear boys' boxers as shorts. As in out in public, in gym class, etc. So that experience is what makes me lean towards somehow being more okay with boxers than with boxer briefs or other underwear or a guy that age giving underwear to a girl. I know it's crazy, but I think it really has to do with seeing people use them as actual shorts. ETA: Oops. I missed this first time reading through! Glad the girls wearing boxers wasn't something only happening here. I had a pair of flourescent orange plaid boxers that I wore as shorts when I was in college. I went to a little college in rural PA, so we weren't exactly the fashion epicenter of the world. I think it does affect my perception of them as not being something intimate. Boxers with college logos emblazoned were a big thing when I was in college. So, it wasn't just a rural thing, it was a big college thing, too. No issues with me. If it were thongs, or some kind of slinky briefs or something, it would be different.
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River
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Post by River on Jul 25, 2014 14:14:32 GMT
That pretty much sums it up for me. Ingrid, I have told my daughter that there is no way she is giving them to him. We are going shopping for a real gift tomorrow, and I am making her take them back.
I know his mom quite well...we talk a lot. She helped him pick out her 16th birthday gift--a Victoria Secret tote bag and some cologne. I know that she would not be happy with my daughter giving her son underwear for his birthday.
Thanks again for everyone's input.
Bold is mine. Am I the only one that see's this as a double standard as well? You see boxers as something to fight a battle on, but think something (even a tote) from Victoria Secret is fine. Just how did he buy it? Even from online and he would be bombarded with Victoria Secret ads. Just shaking my head. You had me until this little info slipped out. Now I believe the boxers are just as appropriate.
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grinningcat
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Post by grinningcat on Jul 25, 2014 14:16:19 GMT
I see a double standard as well. Anything from VS exudes a sexual connotation. Even tote bags. The name alone just screams sexy.
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Post by Meri-Lyn on Jul 25, 2014 14:17:22 GMT
He could have impure thoughts walking through Macy's to buy her a tote bag and cologne. I would consider it a double standard if he had bought her underwear, and I was okay with that, but not okay with her buying HIM underwear.
Yeah, I gotta admit, I see a double standard here as well. You said they had a "silly print" on them, so I imagine they were bought to be a joke or something goofy. But yet, he can go buy something at VS, which sells all kinds of stuff for girls (most of it intimate) and that's okay?
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River
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Post by River on Jul 25, 2014 14:21:53 GMT
Nice to know I'm not the only one. Must have taken me to long to quit shaking my head and post.
I'm dealing with the whole 15/16 year old dating scene right now myself. My 16 year old son is dating a 15 year old, the problem is that her parents are practically pushing her on him. Mines enough drama for me so I'll go back to my porch.
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oblibby
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Post by oblibby on Jul 25, 2014 14:22:55 GMT
I don't think boxers are like buying sexy lingerie. I think of it more like the scenario of a teen buying his gf, who enjoys swimming, a speedo one-piece - pretty harmless. I'd feel differently if it was a string bikini or the girl was buying the boy 'sexy' underwear or some kind of novelty penis adornment. I put 'sexy' in quotations because men's undies are generally pretty sexless (unless the right man is in them). Take a look at my blog to find out what I've been up to
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grinningcat
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Post by grinningcat on Jul 25, 2014 14:30:20 GMT
I put 'sexy' in quotations because men's undies are generally pretty sexless (unless the right man is in them). Ain't that the truth. And they are a hell of a lot more comfortable than women's underwear. I'd much rather wear men's undies than women's. That reminds me. I need to find a pair of lobster boxers...
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Jul 25, 2014 14:34:43 GMT
Sorry, but how silly....her tote bag is clear pink vinyl, with pink pineapples all over it, and it says "Pink" in random places. I'd take a picture of it to show you, but she's at work and has it with her. He got it for her to use as a beach bag because right after her birthday, we went to Florida. That screams sexy? Who knew...LOL And he was with his mom when he got it.
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Post by LAM88 on Jul 25, 2014 14:38:40 GMT
I may be completely inconsistent in my views here, but I'd be a little more bothered by the Victoria's Secret tote bag than I would by the boxers. Victoria's Secret is all about sexy, so of all the places to buy a cute tote bag it would annoy my just a bit that he had to buy one from there. The boxers might raise an eyebrow, and if it were my daughter asking my opinion I would steer her in another direction, but since I only have sons I would say that I would't be horrified by the gift, but I would find it curious.
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Post by theboydbunch on Jul 25, 2014 14:42:04 GMT
I'm not quite sure how I feel about this one... I wouldn't want my 16 year old daughter buying boxers for someone! At first, I didn't think it was a big deal, when thinking about my son (who is 19) but then I started thinking about my own daughter buying them...don't like it!
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Post by theboydbunch on Jul 25, 2014 14:45:52 GMT
Mother of a teen boy here. (Two of them actually.) On the surface, I would cringe and think it is too familiar. BUT. The boys I know are funny about boxers. They like name brand boxers and look at them as I would an accessory. Both my kids are like this, and love to get boxers for gifts...the more prestigious the name brand, the happier they are. ETA: I meant to include the fact that boxers do not really have the sexual connotation to the kids that we have. THIS is what made me think it was ok at first...My son is the same way and always has been. Most of his boxers come from AE or Aeropostle, etc.
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Post by kckckc on Jul 25, 2014 14:50:49 GMT
My sons are in their 20s now, but no I would not have liked their girlfriend buying them underwear when they were 16.
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Post by Meri-Lyn on Jul 25, 2014 14:53:24 GMT
Sorry, but how silly....her tote bag is clear pink vinyl, with pink pineapples all over it, and it says "Pink" in random places. I'd take a picture of it to show you, but she's at work and has it with her. He got it for her to use as a beach bag because right after her birthday, we went to Florida. That screams sexy? Who knew...LOL And he was with his mom when he got it. No more sexy than the goofy boxer shorts she's buying.
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Post by auntkelly on Jul 25, 2014 15:10:54 GMT
I don't think it's a huge deal, but I wouldn't let my 16 year old daughter give her boyfriend boxers as a present.
Thank goodness my son is not 16 years old any more, but I can just imagine trying to explain to his 16 year old brain why it is okay for his girlfriend to give him boxers, but it's not okay for him to give her panties. He would have said "but mom, they're both underwear. You always say the sexes are equal. Why is it okay for her to give me underwear, but I can't give her underwear." It would go on and on.
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Post by Tamhugh on Jul 25, 2014 15:18:40 GMT
Boxers with college logos emblazoned were a big thing when I was in college. So, it wasn't just a rural thing, it was a big college thing, too. No issues with me. If it were thongs, or some kind of slinky briefs or something, it would be different. I am glad it wasn't just me that remembered it. We always had them with our Greek letters too.
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Post by SweetieBugs on Jul 25, 2014 15:21:20 GMT
My almost 18 year old DD just purchased some gifts for her almost 19 year old boyfriend. They have been dating almost one year and are not sexually active yet. She bought him a box of penis shaped pasta!!! It was from a joke store. And, they are very anatomically correct with all the kibbles and bits of the male genitalia. I so much would have preferred boxers!!!! OY.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2014 15:22:53 GMT
Ten months is like a lifetime when you are 16.
But I'm still going with no.
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Post by melanell on Jul 25, 2014 16:18:26 GMT
You know, when I was a teen, girls used to wear boys' boxers as shorts. As in out in public, in gym class, etc. So that experience is what makes me lean towards somehow being more okay with boxers than with boxer briefs or other underwear or a guy that age giving underwear to a girl. I know it's crazy, but I think it really has to do with seeing people use them as actual shorts. ETA: Oops. I missed this first time reading through! Glad the girls wearing boxers wasn't something only happening here. I had a pair of flourescent orange plaid boxers that I wore as shorts when I was in college. I went to a little college in rural PA, so we weren't exactly the fashion epicenter of the world. I think it does affect my perception of them as not being something intimate. I was also in PA, only with a pair of white & navy striped boxers that I wore until they wore out! (Of course, boxers wear out a lot faster than actual shorts, LOL.)
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Post by ingrid6 on Jul 25, 2014 16:24:18 GMT
My almost 18 year old DD just purchased some gifts for her almost 19 year old boyfriend. They have been dating almost one year and are not sexually active yet. She bought him a box of penis shaped pasta!!! It was from a joke store. And, they are very anatomically correct with all the kibbles and bits of the male genitalia. I so much would have preferred boxers!!!! OY. There is absolutely no way that I would be ok with my 17 year old daughter giving that as a gift. But you're right, it certainly does make the boxers the more preferable choice
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Post by apeacalledliz on Jul 25, 2014 16:25:46 GMT
I guess I see going into VS store to buy gifts equally as intimate if not more so than your DD going into American Eagle and buying a pair of boxers with a silly print on them.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jul 25, 2014 16:54:04 GMT
Guess I really AM a prude.
The girl in question is my daughter, the boy her boyfriend. They have been dating for 10 months.
I just do not think it is appropriate for a 16 year old to buy their significant other underwear. She just turned 16 less than a month ago, and I would have been completely horrified if he had bought her underwear. I just about lost it when she showed them to me last night. Of course, she thinks I'm totally over-reacting and there is nothing wrong with it.
Oh well, I'm a prude and I own it. I think I'm a prude right there with you. I wouldn't want my teen daughter buying her bf underwear of any variety. Nor would I want my teen son buying a gf underwear or garments of any variety. It's just too openly intimate of a gift when there are endless other possibilities that have no intimate connotations whatsoever.
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