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Post by scrapsuzy on Mar 5, 2016 13:50:57 GMT
I am getting the windows in my condo replaced. The guys came the other day and started, but had to stop due to rain. They arranged with my dh to come back today. They were supposed to call him and tell him when they would be here so he could meet them here (he lives elsewhere.) I had told them I would be asleep when they got here, after having worked all night.
Well, they knocked on the door at 8:30. I was already in bed, but not asleep, and my dh wasn't here yet. They kept knocking when I didn't answer. I called him and he said he was on his way, so would I please let them in. I refused, because I am already on my pajamas, and I am here by myself, and he was supposed to be here already.
So now he's mad at me for making them wait. (I did open a window and tell them he would be here soon. ). He will be here by 9, the time they said they would be here.
Would you have let them in? It's okay if you say I'm being a bitch and/or ridiculous.
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Post by gailoh on Mar 5, 2016 13:53:55 GMT
If they were to be there at nine and you had your hubby there that is fine, I would not like to have strangers around when I am trying to sleep.
For myself I would have been dressed, made sure hubby was on the way and let them start but that is me.
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Post by freecharlie on Mar 5, 2016 13:54:19 GMT
I would have let them in and just stayed up until DH got there. Sometimes we have to adjust our schedule for things.
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Post by anonrefugee on Mar 5, 2016 13:55:17 GMT
I understand being upset, but your goal is to get work done. I'd bite the bullet and let them start.
its only 20 minutes or so now. I'm sorry your sleep is interrupted though. Hope you can get to it when DH arrives.
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Post by pjaye on Mar 5, 2016 13:57:06 GMT
Yes I would have. I worked night duty for 10 years and I understand how disruptive it is to have to get up...but if you want/need something done, then you just have to suck it up and let the tradesmen in when they arrive. It's not like you didn't know they were coming and your husband was on his way. I'd be mad at you too.
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Post by moveablefeast on Mar 5, 2016 13:57:53 GMT
I would have let them in and put on a robe.
You already know who they are and what they're there to do. The sooner they get started the sooner they're done anyway.
Unless there was specific instruction DH needed to give them I would have just gone in another room and let them work. If I needed my DH to chaperone the workmen I would have gone a lot of years having nothing done around my house while he was on assignment elsewhere.
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Post by littlemama on Mar 5, 2016 14:00:55 GMT
I would have let them in.
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Post by wellway on Mar 5, 2016 14:03:40 GMT
Another who would have thrown a few clothes on and let them in, made them a coffee and let them get started. You knew they were coming, what they looked like and that your DH was on his way. Making them wait comes off as a petty thing to do. You sound like you were annoyed with DH for not being there and took it out on workmen who had turned up early to do the work.
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Post by JustTricia on Mar 5, 2016 14:13:20 GMT
I'm unclear from your OP whether you knew what time they were going to be here. I know you said you told them you would be asleep and that they were to call your husband.
Also, you were already in bed but not asleep. Had you just gotten in bed or had you laid there for an hour not being able to fall asleep yet?
If you did know the time and had just gone to bed, I would have stayed up instead of going to bed just until husband arrived, so I would have been awake to let workers in.
If you knew the time but had been in bed over an hour, I would have maybe texted husband "they're here, but I'm already asleepish and not getting back up since they're early".
If you didn't know the time, nope, wouldn't get up. I would call husband to find out the time (which, honestly, I would have done earlier and then stayed up until he got there), and after finding out they were half hour early and he'd be there on time, I'd go back to trying to sleep. Since you may not have known the time it could have been 9 or noon.
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Post by maryland on Mar 5, 2016 14:29:27 GMT
I would have thrown on sweats or just stayed in my pajamas and opened the door for them.
But if your husband lives far away and it would have taken him a couple hours to get there, I could understand you being upset, as you may not feel comfortable leaving them unattended. And you needed to get to sleep! My friend has a cleaning person, and she makes sure she is always home and in a nearby room when the cleaning person is working.
But if he lives close, I would have just let them in and have them get started, and then go to bed when he gets there.
Just my thoughts though! That's really nice of your husband to come over and be there so you can get some sleep! I hope your windows look beautiful!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 5, 2016 14:31:27 GMT
I think you were wrong.
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Post by scrapsuzy on Mar 5, 2016 14:34:09 GMT
I didn't know what time they were coming, just that it would be after I was in bed/asleep. Dh had said he'd be here before them (he is the one who knew the time) because he had to move some stuff around for them to work. I was ticked that he even let the guys use the hall bathroom when they were here. Totally sleeves me out. I sure as hell wasn't up for making them comfy while waiting for him. I have been fortunate in that most of the time we've had workmen, he was able to be around (works odd schedules, too) or it was someone we knew. Just because I met them the other day (very briefly, as I was gone most of the time they were here) doesn't mean I was comfortable around them. I couldn't even pick them out of a lineup if I had to).
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Post by paigepea on Mar 5, 2016 14:39:47 GMT
I would have let them in. We all work hard and get disrupted at times. It's best to be flexible and not let these things upset us or get us down. I would be upset with you too.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 5, 2016 14:40:40 GMT
Yeah, I would have let them in. Leaving them outside while you sit waiting in your pajamas is petty. And not wanting them to use the bathroom for goodness sake. That's ridiculous. Smh
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Post by melanell on Mar 5, 2016 14:44:15 GMT
I'm not sure what I would have done, because I think it may have been influenced just by how I was feeling in general, and how I was feeling about the situation and the people involved. So I can't say anything definitive about that.
However, I will say that I don't think you were wrong with what you opted to do. I think people who work a "normal" shift don't really understand how difficult it can be for people who are stuck trying to sleep when everyone around them is awake. And I don't think people always understand that some people are uncomfortable having strangers in their home, especially if they are home alone.
If you hadn't been home, and they arrived before your DH showed up, they would have had to wait for your DH. And that seems to be on the shoulders of them for not calling like they said they would and your DH for not being there when he said he would. So it's not a situation where everyone did what they were supposed to do and you threw a wrench into their plans. It's the opposite. Your plan was to sleep and everyone else's failure to do what they said they would do threw a wrench into your plans. I'm sorry it worked out that way and that your DH is annoyed. Hugs!
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Post by gar on Mar 5, 2016 14:46:52 GMT
I would have let them in. They hadn't turned up out of the blue so you knew who they were and that your dh was on his way.
I would have wanted them to get started - being nit picky over 20 mins seems a bit counter productive.
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Post by anxiousmom on Mar 5, 2016 14:48:50 GMT
Honestly, I would have let them in. As the sole adult in the house I don't have the luxury of waiting until someone else shows up to be there with me when I have to have work done around the house. I often have rearrange my schedule, sometimes inconveniently so to accommodate a plumber, or a cable technician, or whomever.
I get that my circumstances are not the same as yours, so probably what I would do is different than what others might do. I would be dancing a jig if a worker showed up early on a Saturday morning.
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Post by katiejane on Mar 5, 2016 14:48:57 GMT
I would of let them in offered them a coffee and let them get started. The DH could of taken over when he got back. I don't get the bathroom problem either. Shouting out of the window to make them wait seems a bit rude to me.
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Post by leannec on Mar 5, 2016 14:52:04 GMT
I would have let them in but I'm pretty casual about stuff like that ...
Did your dh show up quickly?
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Post by Zee on Mar 5, 2016 14:52:49 GMT
Yeah, I'd have let them in. I think it was ridiculous to stay in bed and refuse to let them get started. You're not a child.
When I was selling my house in IA before moving to PA, I was working all different shifts and my DH was 900 miles away. Many things had to be done to get the house ready to sell, and that required many different workers. I wouldn't have gotten much done if I refused to answer the door without a man present. I wouldn't want to sleep with a work crew in my house, but for half a hour you could have put on sweatpants and laid on the couch.
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Post by padresfan619 on Mar 5, 2016 15:02:55 GMT
I would have let them in and let them get started. I used to work from home and spent many times alone in my house with an electrician or a plumber. I would have been afraid they would have charged billable hours for making them sit around and wait before they could start working.
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Post by darkangel090260 on Mar 5, 2016 15:05:31 GMT
OMFG, What the hell is wrong with you?
The poor guy is human and need to be treat as such. Using the restroom after they have spent hours working on your home and your Ticked.This is a point you need the grow the hell up and be a adult. This is your home not you'r husbands. So dealing with work men and such fall on you not him. People are not animals treat them with respect and kindness
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Post by myshelly on Mar 5, 2016 15:16:41 GMT
I think you made it a much bigger, more dramatic deal than it needed to be.
I mean, we're talking about 30 minutes or less here.
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Post by epeanymous on Mar 5, 2016 15:33:45 GMT
I think you are lucky if they didn't charge you for the time that they spent at your house, as well as that they didn't just pack up and leave when they arrived and found that you would not let them in to do the work that you had hired them to do.
We moved house last summer and had to have who knows how many work people in and out of both houses over the course of several months. It is a PITA, and really disruptive, but you do what you gotta do.
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Post by disneypal on Mar 5, 2016 15:34:41 GMT
Yes, I would have waited until the workers and DH were home before I changed into my PJs and went to bed. I would have let the workers in and once DH was there, then I would have gone to bed.
Why was it a problem for them to use the bathroom? People can only hold it for so long before they have to go.
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Post by auntkelly on Mar 5, 2016 15:37:21 GMT
I definitely would have gotten up and let the workers in so that they could get started.
I live in Houston where traffic is very unpredictable. If I have scheduled work on my house, I never expect the workers to be right on time. If they showed up thirty minutes early or thirty minutes late it would be no big deal.
If those workers were hourly employees, the boss had to pay them while they stood on the porch. If they were being paid by the job, then the workers were making no money while they were standing around on your porch. Either way, it seems like a complete waste of time and money.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 5, 2016 15:37:52 GMT
I would have thrown some clothes back on and let them in, then gone back to bed once DH got there. I don't see the big problem. Life happens.
And as far as getting mad that your DH let them use the bathroom - really?! What are they supposed to do? Pee in a cup in their truck? What is the big deal? Are they just too gross to use your precious facilities because they do physical labor for a living?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 5, 2016 15:38:05 GMT
I would have thrown a dress or robe over my pj and let them in so they could get to work. Then called the dh to let him know they have arrived. I've worked nights so I get how disruptive it is to have someone show up to disrupt your sleep routine but it isn't like they are random people just standing on your door step. You asked them to be there to install windows. Let them get on with window installing.
If a worker is doing something in my house that is lengthy, I don't mind if they use the bathroom. I'd rather they use mine and get back to work than leave and be gone for an hour or so and delay getting finished.
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Post by GiantsFan on Mar 5, 2016 15:38:43 GMT
I would've let them in, and stayed up until DH got there. And probably offered coffee.
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Post by AN on Mar 5, 2016 15:41:03 GMT
I would have let them in. Especially after my DH asked me to. These are people you/your DH got a quote from, not strangers showing up knocking. I don't think it was a security risk in any way. I don't really get the opening a window to talk to them and refusing them entry. And the bathroom thing, don't even get me started - I though it was just ridiculous in your OP, but I think it was bitchy with the bathroom thing. You didn't have to "make them comfy," I imagine they would have just gotten to work.
Super duper in the wrong here.
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