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Post by alexa11 on Mar 5, 2016 15:41:59 GMT
I would have let them in, too. The workers shouldn't have to wait because your husband wasn't there. If I was one of the workers and an adult was home, I would have expected to be let in to start working. In fact, I would probably be pissed because of time wasted.
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Post by Chips on Mar 5, 2016 15:45:57 GMT
Yeah, I'd have let them in. I think it was ridiculous to stay in bed and refuse to let them get started. You're not a child. When I was selling my house in IA before moving to PA, I was working all different shifts and my DH was 900 miles away. Many things had to be done to get the house ready to sell, and that required many different workers. I wouldn't have gotten much done if I refused to answer the door without a man present. I wouldn't want to sleep with a work crew in my house, but for half a hour you could have put on sweatpants and laid on the couch. This ^^^ when we sold out house I often had men in the house to work. I would of absolutely let them in to start working. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 5, 2016 15:46:00 GMT
You're being bitch and/or ridiculous.
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Post by Really Red on Mar 5, 2016 15:49:54 GMT
I do not think you were wrong, but I'd have probably bit the bullet and put on a bathrobe and let them in. But I do not think what you did was wrong at all. They were early. Too bad for them.
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Post by basketdiva on Mar 5, 2016 15:52:42 GMT
I would have let them started. There will noise installing the windows so I wouldn't be able to sleep anyway.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Mar 5, 2016 15:54:11 GMT
I would have thrown on a robe or some clothes and let them in. Yes, it's an inconvenience but usually having any kind of work done on your house tends to be that way. You suck it up and deal because you're kind of at their mercy. And like others have mentioned, the sooner they start the sooner they're out of there.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 5, 2016 15:56:22 GMT
I do not think you were wrong, but I'd have probably bit the bullet and put on a bathrobe and let them in. But I do not think what you did was wrong at all. They were early. Too bad for them. It actually sounds like her husband was late, not that they were early - though it's not entirely clear. I seriously cannot imagine treating people who I was paying to do work for me this way. Frankly, I can't imagine treating anyone this way. It's just rude. |
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Mar 5, 2016 15:58:21 GMT
I have mixed feelings on this one.
When we had an extension done on our house we had people show up to work on Saturday or Sunday between 7 and 9 am.
I had a baby, who would get up for a feed at 5 am and go back to sleep until 8 or 9... I LOVED those extra hours sleep on the weekend. A few times I got up and let them in and told them, they were not welcome before 9 am on the weekends... I was fine with them showing up at 6 or 6.30 during the week... but I needed my sleep on the weekend.
They kept doing it. I finally just stopped answering the door. But usually if they woke me up I couldn't go back to sleep... so it was a loss anyway... sometimes I would make them wait until, 9 sometimes not. I did wonder if I hadn't got up the first few times would they have not come back.
Sleep is important. Setting boundaries is too. If it was a one off I would probably let them in and wait for H to get there. If it would be more than one day, I would probably have ignored the knock called H and let him deal with it.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Mar 5, 2016 15:59:10 GMT
You're being bitch and/or ridiculous. Wow. That is harsh. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 5, 2016 16:01:02 GMT
You're being bitch and/or ridiculous. Wow. That is harsh. It's okay if you say I'm being a bitch and/or ridiculous. It may be harsh, but the OP also explicitly invited it. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 5, 2016 16:01:30 GMT
I didn't know what time they were coming, just that it would be after I was in bed/asleep. Dh had said he'd be here before them (he is the one who knew the time) because he had to move some stuff around for them to work. I was ticked that he even let the guys use the hall bathroom when they were here. Totally sleeves me out. I sure as hell wasn't up for making them comfy while waiting for him. I have been fortunate in that most of the time we've had workmen, he was able to be around (works odd schedules, too) or it was someone we knew. Just because I met them the other day (very briefly, as I was gone most of the time they were here) doesn't mean I was comfortable around them. I couldn't even pick them out of a lineup if I had to).  I really don't understand the outrage about someone using your bathroom. That's what it's for bodily functions. It's not like they were peeing in your kitchen sink. Some how with your attitude I doubt they were all that "comfy" around you. |
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Post by scorpeao on Mar 5, 2016 16:01:30 GMT
Ridiculous! On both making them wait outside and not wanting them use the bathroom??? Seriously? You would refuse the restroom to men who are working on your house? That's a bitch...
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Post by moonglowe21 on Mar 5, 2016 16:01:40 GMT
Because we have had workers show up way earlier than they said many times, I would have been ready to let them in just in case. We have also had people show up way later than they said, but the point is you never know, so better to be prepared when someone is coming. |
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Mar 5, 2016 16:01:52 GMT
I'm surprised they didn't say "Oh, no one's here to let us in even though they knew we were coming? Guess we have to move on to the next job."
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Post by just PEAchy on Mar 5, 2016 16:02:39 GMT
I would have gotten up and let them in. It was rude to make them wait.
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Post by Kerri W on Mar 5, 2016 16:03:34 GMT
Well it's not the way I "do business." I would have let them in and been happy they were there (early if that's the case). I'd also let them use the restroom. Seriously?! I mean I wouldn't make them steak and eggs for breakfast, but not allow them to use the restroom?! No, I treat others the way I'd want them to treat me. But honestly, I don't think you really care what our opinions are...you were inconvenienced and you're just not going to stand for that.
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Post by scorpeao on Mar 5, 2016 16:03:42 GMT
You're being bitch and/or ridiculous. Wow. That is harsh. Not really. The OP later stated that she was pissed her DH let them use the restroom. WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK?  Are they supposed to leave to find a public restroom, hold it, or carry around a port-a-potty? That's a bitch! |
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Post by johnnysmom on Mar 5, 2016 16:07:33 GMT
Yeah sorry I think you should have let them in. Throw on a hoodie and curl up on the couch for a bit. But yelling out to them that they have to wait is something I'd expect/want my 14yo to do, not an adult.
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Post by Kerri W on Mar 5, 2016 16:09:52 GMT
Not really. The OP later stated that she was pissed her DH let them use the restroom. WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK? Are they supposed to leave to find a public restroom, hold it, or carry around a port-a-potty? That's a bitch! The bathroom thing really irritates me for some reason. So if they can't use your restroom, then they're going to need to leave the job to go elsewhere to use the restroom. Are you going to compensate them for that time? I'm sure they bid the job at a flat fee for labor so essentially you're just screwing them. |
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Mar 5, 2016 16:14:40 GMT
It's okay if you say I'm being a bitch and/or ridiculous. It may be harsh, but the OP also explicitly invited it. You're right I missed that in my original reading of the OP |
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Mar 5, 2016 16:16:11 GMT
Not really. The OP later stated that she was pissed her DH let them use the restroom. WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK? Are they supposed to leave to find a public restroom, hold it, or carry around a port-a-potty? That's a bitch! The bathroom thing really irritates me for some reason. So if they can't use your restroom, then they're going to need to leave the job to go elsewhere to use the restroom. Are you going to compensate them for that time? I'm sure they bid the job at a flat fee for labor so essentially you're just screwing them. OK I totally missed that post. I have to say I agree... you have people working in your house you should not deny them basic human needs. Heck I always ask the guy who cuts my yard if he wants a drink, needs to use the restroom. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 5, 2016 16:21:49 GMT
I'm wondering if the OP goes to the bathroom at work? How is a couple of workmen in the house using your bathroom more skeevy than you using a shared/public bathroom at work or in a retail store?
The full "what would I do"
First, the day the job wasn't finished I would have texted the dh to find out when they planned to come back.
Knowing they planned to come back at 9am on Saturday I would have done one of two thing 1) not gotten dressed for bed until dh arrived or 2) gone to bed, closed the bedroom door, and simply ignored the door as though no one was home. By talking to them through the window they knew you were home but denying them access to their job site.
It is the talking to them through a window as though they are rapists that is the bitch move. That was treating them with disrespect.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 5, 2016 16:30:07 GMT
You're being bitch and/or ridiculous. Wow. That is harsh. Yeah, if you don't read the whole OP (last line, in particular.) ETA: I see others beat me to it! |
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Post by compeateropeator on Mar 5, 2016 16:45:18 GMT
I would have let them in and let them get started. I also have no problem offering my bathroom to anyone that needs to use it.
Sorry that this is a bit of a pile on but I agree with the consensus and it makes me feel a bit better about kindness in general. It seems to me that we have had threads about this before and there was more that replied that they would not want to be alone in a house with workers or have them use their bathroom. I am hoping that I am wrong about those memories of past threads, but this one makes me feel better.
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Post by Nanner on Mar 5, 2016 17:59:33 GMT
I would have let them in. And to not let them use the bathroom??? Total bitch move.
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Post by ~summer~ on Mar 5, 2016 18:05:36 GMT
I would have thrown on some clothes and let them in
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Post by grinningcat on Mar 5, 2016 18:06:37 GMT
Not seeing the issue with letting them in and getting started. I think it was rather rude to deny them entrance just because you were in your pyjamas and were just feeling selfish. Same about the bathroom. Big deal that he used the bathroom. People have to pee when they are at work.
It honestly sounds like there's a bigger problem than just these windows. As someone who lived alone, I had to let workers in by myself, so I really don't see the big deal since you knew someone was coming shortly.
ETA: Actually, the more I think about it. If they are YOUR condo windows and you live separately from your husband, why isn't this your responsibility? Why is it thrown on him? Seems really weird.
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Post by luckyexwife on Mar 5, 2016 18:11:01 GMT
Not seeing the issue with letting them in and getting started. I think it was rather rude to deny them entrance just because you were in your pyjamas and were just feeling selfish. Same about the bathroom. Big deal that he used the bathroom. People have to pee when they are at work. It honestly sounds like there's a bigger problem than just these windows. As someone who lived alone, I had to let workers in by myself, so I really don't see the big deal since you knew someone was coming shortly. I was wondering the same thing, perhaps the anger us actually with her DH, but is being projected on the workers? |
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Post by chaosisapony on Mar 5, 2016 18:13:30 GMT
Yeah, I'd have let them in. I think it was ridiculous to stay in bed and refuse to let them get started. You're not a child.  You weren't asleep yet. Would it really have been difficult to open the door, let them get started, and just hang out in a robe for the few minutes it took for your husband to get there? To leave them outside waiting is, in my opinion, really rude. And where do you expect them to go to the bathroom? |
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Post by woodysbetty on Mar 5, 2016 18:16:47 GMT
I would thrown some sweats and let them in staying up until DH got there.....mainly because I find it disruptive to have unfinished projects and I would have wanted the workers to get in so they could get out.....
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Are they supposed to leave to find a public restroom, hold it, or carry around a port-a-potty? That's a bitch! 
