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Post by scrapsuzy on Mar 6, 2016 15:07:34 GMT
Okay, since I'm put this all out there, I'm gonna try to respond to some of the comments: First of all, the bathroom comment that upset so many of you... I don't remember a worker at my house ever asking to use the bathroom. And I know when we had an addition built on to our house and had workers for many weeks, they never used our bathroom. I don't know what they did, but it wasn't in our house. So yeah, it does kinda skeeve me out to have a stranger using my bathroom. Right or wrong, it just does. But giving it some thought now, if he had asked me instead of my dh, I would've said yes, too, even if I was skeeved out about it. I really can't imagine saying no... how awkward would that actually be to say? And it's not like I even have to clean that bathroom... someone else does it. Yes, my dh & I are separated right now. And yes, there are issues. But he is the one doing the remodeling on the condo, or having it done. Supposedly he's going to live here with me, at some point. The workers were early, for when they said they'd be here. My dh was supposed to be here before them, but he was late. I didn't know what time had been arranged, only that it was going to be after I was asleep, which is why I called him when they were knocking on the door. I did ask him to call them, but he said just to tell them that he was on his way. They had his number, so could've called him if I hadn't spoken to them. As for speaking to them out the window... My condo is 2 stories, but only the garage, front door, and laundry are on the lower level. It is very difficult for me to go up and down the stairs (due to health issues), and I do it as little as possible. The "window" I spoke to them from was actually a sliding glass door that is right over the front door (with a stupid one foot deep balcony that you can't even step onto.) It is not uncommon for me to talk to someone downstairs at the front door from there, usually to let them know that I am on my way down but am slow. What I actually said to the guy was "My dh will be here in a few minutes and y'all can get started." And he said, "No problem, we're early. We'll just be getting our stuff out of the truck." As do some others on this thread, I have serious sleep issues. Combine that with working nights and having health problems anyways, and mostly all I do on the weekends is work and sleep. The only reason I even heard the guy knocking is because I had forgotten to get a bottle of water for my bedside, otherwise I would've already been asleep, with earplugs in. At the time, the whole thing felt like a bigger deal than it actually was because I was so extremely tired (having been awake since Friday morning,) and it did stress me out and make it harder to go to sleep. I posted here during that stressed out time. And I spoke to my dh when he got here (after I'd posted) and told him that I was sorry for being a bitch. He apologized for not being there when he said he would be, and for even arranging for them to come back on a day when he knew it would potentially disrupt my sleep. And now it is once again time for me to go to sleep. Oh, wait... not making them comfy... Yeah, I don't have things like coffee and juice, and currently not even a bottle of water. And since they seemed to be okay with the idea that it would just be a few minutes before my dh was there (and it was, like not even 10 minutes), I think that was okay.
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Post by freecharlie on Mar 6, 2016 15:40:12 GMT
Often things are a much bigger deal when we are tired.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 6, 2016 18:47:51 GMT
Okay, since I'm put this all out there, I'm gonna try to respond to some of the comments: First of all, the bathroom comment that upset so many of you... I don't remember a worker at my house ever asking to use the bathroom. And I know when we had an addition built on to our house and had workers for many weeks, they never used our bathroom. I don't know what they did, but it wasn't in our house. So yeah, it does kinda skeeve me out to have a stranger using my bathroom. Right or wrong, it just does. But giving it some thought now, if he had asked me instead of my dh, I would've said yes, too, even if I was skeeved out about it. I really can't imagine saying no... how awkward would that actually be to say? And it's not like I even have to clean that bathroom... someone else does it. Yes, my dh & I are separated right now. And yes, there are issues. But he is the one doing the remodeling on the condo, or having it done. Supposedly he's going to live here with me, at some point. The workers were early, for when they said they'd be here. My dh was supposed to be here before them, but he was late. I didn't know what time had been arranged, only that it was going to be after I was asleep, which is why I called him when they were knocking on the door. I did ask him to call them, but he said just to tell them that he was on his way. They had his number, so could've called him if I hadn't spoken to them. As for speaking to them out the window... My condo is 2 stories, but only the garage, front door, and laundry are on the lower level. It is very difficult for me to go up and down the stairs (due to health issues), and I do it as little as possible. The "window" I spoke to them from was actually a sliding glass door that is right over the front door (with a stupid one foot deep balcony that you can't even step onto.) It is not uncommon for me to talk to someone downstairs at the front door from there, usually to let them know that I am on my way down but am slow. What I actually said to the guy was "My dh will be here in a few minutes and y'all can get started." And he said, "No problem, we're early. We'll just be getting our stuff out of the truck."As do some others on this thread, I have serious sleep issues. Combine that with working nights and having health problems anyways, and mostly all I do on the weekends is work and sleep. The only reason I even heard the guy knocking is because I had forgotten to get a bottle of water for my bedside, otherwise I would've already been asleep, with earplugs in. At the time, the whole thing felt like a bigger deal than it actually was because I was so extremely tired (having been awake since Friday morning,) and it did stress me out and make it harder to go to sleep. I posted here during that stressed out time. And I spoke to my dh when he got here (after I'd posted) and told him that I was sorry for being a bitch. He apologized for not being there when he said he would be, and for even arranging for them to come back on a day when he knew it would potentially disrupt my sleep. And now it is once again time for me to go to sleep. Oh, wait... not making them comfy... Yeah, I don't have things like coffee and juice, and currently not even a bottle of water. And since they seemed to be okay with the idea that it would just be a few minutes before my dh was there (and it was, like not even 10 minutes), I think that was okay. Maybe you should have mentioned this in your original OP because the above bolded basically means the rest of your story is irrelevant. They arrived, you said get started, and they did. I don't think there was ever a problem in the first place.
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Post by fruitysuet on Mar 6, 2016 18:53:08 GMT
Yeah, I would have let them in. Leaving them outside while you sit waiting in your pajamas is petty. And not wanting them to use the bathroom for goodness sake. That's ridiculous. Smh Completely. My DH is a 'workman' he is not a sub standard citizen incapable of being tidy or using the bathroom.
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Post by gar on Mar 6, 2016 19:14:10 GMT
Okay, since I'm put this all out there, I'm gonna try to respond to some of the comments: First of all, the bathroom comment that upset so many of you... I don't remember a worker at my house ever asking to use the bathroom. And I know when we had an addition built on to our house and had workers for many weeks, they never used our bathroom. I don't know what they did, but it wasn't in our house. So yeah, it does kinda skeeve me out to have a stranger using my bathroom. Right or wrong, it just does. But giving it some thought now, if he had asked me instead of my dh, I would've said yes, too, even if I was skeeved out about it. I really can't imagine saying no... how awkward would that actually be to say? And it's not like I even have to clean that bathroom... someone else does it. Yes, my dh & I are separated right now. And yes, there are issues. But he is the one doing the remodeling on the condo, or having it done. Supposedly he's going to live here with me, at some point. The workers were early, for when they said they'd be here. My dh was supposed to be here before them, but he was late. I didn't know what time had been arranged, only that it was going to be after I was asleep, which is why I called him when they were knocking on the door. I did ask him to call them, but he said just to tell them that he was on his way. They had his number, so could've called him if I hadn't spoken to them. As for speaking to them out the window... My condo is 2 stories, but only the garage, front door, and laundry are on the lower level. It is very difficult for me to go up and down the stairs (due to health issues), and I do it as little as possible. The "window" I spoke to them from was actually a sliding glass door that is right over the front door (with a stupid one foot deep balcony that you can't even step onto.) It is not uncommon for me to talk to someone downstairs at the front door from there, usually to let them know that I am on my way down but am slow. What I actually said to the guy was "My dh will be here in a few minutes and y'all can get started." And he said, "No problem, we're early. We'll just be getting our stuff out of the truck."As do some others on this thread, I have serious sleep issues. Combine that with working nights and having health problems anyways, and mostly all I do on the weekends is work and sleep. The only reason I even heard the guy knocking is because I had forgotten to get a bottle of water for my bedside, otherwise I would've already been asleep, with earplugs in. At the time, the whole thing felt like a bigger deal than it actually was because I was so extremely tired (having been awake since Friday morning,) and it did stress me out and make it harder to go to sleep. I posted here during that stressed out time. And I spoke to my dh when he got here (after I'd posted) and told him that I was sorry for being a bitch. He apologized for not being there when he said he would be, and for even arranging for them to come back on a day when he knew it would potentially disrupt my sleep. And now it is once again time for me to go to sleep. Oh, wait... not making them comfy... Yeah, I don't have things like coffee and juice, and currently not even a bottle of water. And since they seemed to be okay with the idea that it would just be a few minutes before my dh was there (and it was, like not even 10 minutes), I think that was okay. Maybe you should have mentioned this in your original OP because the above bolded basically means the rest of your story is irrelevant. They arrived, you said get started, and they did. I don't think there was ever a problem in the first place.
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Post by moodyblue on Mar 6, 2016 19:47:57 GMT
There is so much to your story that might have changed people's responses if you'd mentioned that in the beginning.
Going off on a tangent, if your health makes it so difficult for you to navigate the stairs, why plan on remaining in that condo? Unless this is a temporary condition, I think you might want to consider moving to a more accessible location, for your own comfort and convenience.
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Post by melanell on Mar 6, 2016 20:00:54 GMT
There is so much to your story that might have changed people's responses if you'd mentioned that in the beginning. This is sort of a 2 Peas pitfall, though. If you attempt to give all details and/or background to a story, people may say that your OP is too long or they may question why you had to go into such detail. BUT, if you try to keep the OP short and sweet, then people may either ask you a million questions or not understand where you are coming from. And the worst part is that if you try to add info later, people start accusing you of changing your tune because the thread isn't going your way. So, yeah, sometimes it's tough to guess how to best go about telling a story here.
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Post by Country Ham on Mar 6, 2016 20:15:52 GMT
There is so much to your story that might have changed people's responses if you'd mentioned that in the beginning. This is sort of a 2 Peas pitfall, though. If you attempt to give all details and/or background to a story, people may say that your OP is too long or they may question why you had to go into such detail. BUT, if you try to keep the OP short and sweet, then people may either ask you a million questions or not understand where you are coming from. And the worst part is that if you try to add info later, people start accusing you of changing your tune because the thread isn't going your way.
So, yeah, sometimes it's tough to guess how to best go about telling a story here. Well even you have to admit that this (in the first post): Is quite a different version of the events then:
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Post by scrapsuzy on Mar 7, 2016 0:36:39 GMT
Maybe you should have mentioned this in your original OP because the above bolded basically means the rest of your story is irrelevant. They arrived, you said get started, and they did. I don't think there was ever a problem in the first place. I didn't actually tell them to get started. They said they would be getting their stuff out of their truck, but that didn't mean they could do anything with it yet. I didn't think it was a problem in the first place, either. But my dh did and was mad at me, which is why I posted. Thank you melanell for the post about post length. I definitely ran into that problem this time! moodyblue due to financial reasons, I kinda have to stay here, at least a few more years. It's complicated and not fun, but it's what I have to do. Hopefully the health issues that make the stairs difficult will improve at some point. The stairs weren't an issue when I first moved in.
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Post by StephDRebel on Mar 7, 2016 3:41:13 GMT
Maybe you should have mentioned this in your original OP because the above bolded basically means the rest of your story is irrelevant. They arrived, you said get started, and they did. I don't think there was ever a problem in the first place. I didn't actually tell them to get started. They said they would be getting their stuff out of their truck, but that didn't mean they could do anything with it yet. I didn't think it was a problem in the first place, either. But my dh did and was mad at me, which is why I posted. Thank you melanell for the post about post length. I definitely ran into that problem this time! moodyblue due to financial reasons, I kinda have to stay here, at least a few more years. It's complicated and not fun, but it's what I have to do. Hopefully the health issues that make the stairs difficult will improve at some point. The stairs weren't an issue when I first moved in. Psssst: in your update you said you specifically told them to get started. You have to day the same thing each time or people will begin to question your story and think you're back peddling since you made yourself sound rude in your original post.
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Post by gar on Mar 7, 2016 8:08:06 GMT
I didn't actually tell them to get started. They said they would be getting their stuff out of their truck, but that didn't mean they could do anything with it yet. I didn't think it was a problem in the first place, either. But my dh did and was mad at me, which is why I posted. Thank you melanell for the post about post length. I definitely ran into that problem this time! moodyblue due to financial reasons, I kinda have to stay here, at least a few more years. It's complicated and not fun, but it's what I have to do. Hopefully the health issues that make the stairs difficult will improve at some point. The stairs weren't an issue when I first moved in. Psssst: in your update you said you specifically told them to get started. You have to day the same thing each time or people will begin to question your story and think you're back peddling since you made yourself sound rude in your original post. I think in the update she said that they could get started when her Dh arrived in a few minutes. OP, you certainly did manage to make yourself sound really rude by not adding a few key points and mitigating factors.
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Post by scrapsuzy on Mar 7, 2016 10:58:35 GMT
Psssst: in your update you said you specifically told them to get started. You have to day the same thing each time or people will begin to question your story and think you're back peddling since you made yourself sound rude in your original post. What I actually said was "My dh will be here in a few minutes and y'all can get started." Meaning they could start when he got there. Which they did, when he got there.
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Post by scrapsuzy on Mar 7, 2016 11:03:27 GMT
OP, you certainly did manage to make yourself sound really rude by not adding a few key points and mitigating factors. I know. It was the whole "didn't want to make it too long" plus the being so tired I wasn't necessarily thinking as clearly as I usually would when posting.
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Post by Drew on Mar 7, 2016 13:49:59 GMT
Glad you shared, OP? Lol We are quite skilled at murdering wwyd threads then ripping them apart like self-righteous vultures. Good for you for hanging in and thanks for the update.
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Post by scrapsuzy on Mar 7, 2016 14:30:16 GMT
Glad you shared, OP? Lol We are quite skilled at murdering wwyd threads then ripping them apart like self-righteous vultures. Good for you for hanging in and thanks for the update. I've been a Pea for 15 years. I can dish it out and so it is only fair that I take it, too.
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