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Post by izzyscraps on Mar 21, 2016 19:46:54 GMT
And you saw this on Facebook, but she didn't contact you personally, would you offer to take the kids so she could sleep off the fever??
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Post by Deleted on Mar 21, 2016 19:50:21 GMT
Sure, why not?
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Post by TankTop on Mar 21, 2016 19:51:02 GMT
I would, but nobody in either of our families even did so much as make us a meal when we had a newborn so they wouldn't.
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Post by raindancer on Mar 21, 2016 19:51:38 GMT
I'm not a mother in law. But I would say yes with caveats. If you were going to feed them at dinner or lunch (whatever meal was in the middle of your time with them), if you truly expect nothing in return, if you can functionally pick them up without needing her help (installing car seats, or packing up a diaper bag and whatever else you might need and not have), and if you can pick up and drop off. I have had offers of help that when it came right down to it were much more effort for me and more hassle than if they had left me alone. I have the flu and I don't want to remove 2 carseats and put them in your car, and no I can't pick them up later because you have other plans (now requiring me to install seats a second time back in my van). Etc.  But if you can do it drama free, I think the offer is fantastic! |
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Post by magentapea on Mar 21, 2016 19:51:47 GMT
Absolutely. Why wouldn't you?
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Post by valincal on Mar 21, 2016 19:52:50 GMT
Well when my kids were small and I was sick I just popped some aspirin and carried on with my day. And both my mom and my MIL live in my town. But back then there was no Facebook to vague-book on. If you need help, just ask. Don't play games.  |
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Post by gritzi on Mar 21, 2016 19:52:58 GMT
Of course
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Post by KikiPea on Mar 21, 2016 19:53:51 GMT
Sure, why not? I'm sure she'd appreciate the offer.
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Post by gar on Mar 21, 2016 19:54:45 GMT
Assuming you have a 'normal' happy relationship - why not?
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Post by Zee on Mar 21, 2016 20:01:46 GMT
Honestly, probably not, because I don't want those germs. I don't have any grandchildren so I can be heartless like that. That's assuming the kids are going to get it next.
I wouldn't have expected my MIL to do that. No sense her getting sick too.
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Post by mom on Mar 21, 2016 20:03:30 GMT
I would call or text, asking if I could do anything to help - bring dinner, take the kids, whatever she needs.
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Post by trollie on Mar 21, 2016 20:05:22 GMT
Yes I would
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Post by mikklynn on Mar 21, 2016 20:06:21 GMT
Yes, I'd offer. But, DIL knew she could call me for anything, when they lived in MN.
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Post by Sarah*H on Mar 21, 2016 20:08:47 GMT
I'm the kind of person who asks for help when I want it it so I guess I would probably make the same assumption about my mythical DIL. If she asked for me to take the kids, I would take them. I would probably volunteer to bring dinner. Otherwise, I would assume my kid and his/her spouse would have it covered.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Mar 21, 2016 20:10:41 GMT
Sure--why not ! It's never wrong to be kind!
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Post by jbelle on Mar 21, 2016 20:12:26 GMT
I wouldn't want her thinking that I am stalking her facebook so I would first give her a friendly call, just to see how things are going. If she tells you that she is under the weather, then I would offer to help her out if she was ok with it. (This is a thoughtful gesture btw  |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 21, 2016 20:17:57 GMT
I would call offer to sit with the kids there. And bring dinner, snacks and canned mandarin oranges. And gaterade.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Mar 21, 2016 20:20:27 GMT
I would help anyone I love that is sick. But those especially with small children who probably could use an extra hand.
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Post by izzyscraps on Mar 21, 2016 20:29:17 GMT
I'm sorry. I didn't clarify. I'm the DIL. Ha. I'm sick. Been running fever today. Feel like I've been run over. I did post on Facebook that I wasn't feeling well. In about 2 minutes my mom and sister posted asking how I was. They live 5 hours away. My husband offered to come home, but unless I'm throwing up or dying, he's the only one with a job. He needs to keep it. He's been out already a few times lately and I don't want him to get in trouble.
My MIL who lives 6 miles away, has not said a word. She does not work. Is at home by herself. Has not messaged or called or texted or commented on Facebook. I shouldn't be surprised. But I am.
I know I also sound selfish. I should have just asked for help if I needed it. But you get tired of asking for help when you need it when you hear she is talking bad about you.
So I'm suffering through. DH should be home by 5.
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Post by raindancer on Mar 21, 2016 20:31:25 GMT
I'm sorry. I didn't clarify. I'm the DIL. Ha. I'm sick. Been running fever today. Feel like I've been run over. I did post on Facebook that I wasn't feeling well. In about 2 minutes my mom and sister posted asking how I was. They live 5 hours away. My husband offered to come home, but unless I'm throwing up or dying, he's the only one with a job. He needs to keep it. He's been out already a few times lately and I don't want him to get in trouble. My MIL who lives 6 miles away, has not said a word. She does not work. Is at home by herself. Has not messaged or called or texted or commented on Facebook. I shouldn't be surprised. But I am. I know I also sound selfish. I should have just asked for help if I needed it. But you get tired of asking for help when you need it when you hear she is talking bad about you. So I'm suffering through. DH should be home by 5. Maybe she didn't see it. You realize that fb chooses what you see or don't see unless you follow a person right? My sister-in-law's mother in law (yeah) was upset with me because I never liked the pictures of her dog and our niece. I never saw them. I rarely see anything pop up from her. But random woman from high school or annoying cousins I don't care about? Yup. See every little thing they post. |
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Post by scrappert on Mar 21, 2016 20:36:25 GMT
Now that you have clarified. lol
If my MIL was talking bad stuff about me, no, I would not ask for her help. I would ask a friend first before her!
I know how you are feeling, I had that a few weeks ago, I was just happy I did not have kids to look after. I hope you feel better tomorrow and your DH will take care of everything tonight for you.
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Post by anniefb on Mar 21, 2016 20:39:03 GMT
Sure, why not? I'm sure she'd appreciate the offer.  |
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Post by Kerri W on Mar 21, 2016 20:48:40 GMT
I'm sorry. I didn't clarify. I'm the DIL. Ha. I'm sick. Been running fever today. Feel like I've been run over. I did post on Facebook that I wasn't feeling well. In about 2 minutes my mom and sister posted asking how I was. They live 5 hours away. My husband offered to come home, but unless I'm throwing up or dying, he's the only one with a job. He needs to keep it. He's been out already a few times lately and I don't want him to get in trouble. My MIL who lives 6 miles away, has not said a word. She does not work. Is at home by herself. Has not messaged or called or texted or commented on Facebook. I shouldn't be surprised. But I am. I know I also sound selfish. I should have just asked for help if I needed it. But you get tired of asking for help when you need it when you hear she is talking bad about you. So I'm suffering through. DH should be home by 5. Your OP is quite misleading. I'm sure you don't feel well and would like help. We've all been there. BUT...it isn't in fact your MILs responsibility just because she lives 6 miles away to make sure your adult needs are met. Nice, yes. Maybe she has something going on today? Maybe she isn't feeling well herself? Who knows what is going on in her life. It's not fair for any of us to make assumptions about another person's time. Huge huge huge pet peeve of mine. |
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Post by scrapsotime on Mar 21, 2016 20:53:25 GMT
I would, but my son and DIL live 4 hours away and they live with her parents.
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Post by myshelly on Mar 21, 2016 20:56:04 GMT
How do you know she saw the post on FB?
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Post by CarolT on Mar 21, 2016 20:58:52 GMT
If you want or need help, you need to ask for it. It really isn't fair to your mil to be mad at her for not offering.
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Post by luckyexwife on Mar 21, 2016 20:58:55 GMT
I'm sorry. I didn't clarify. I'm the DIL. Ha. I'm sick. Been running fever today. Feel like I've been run over. I did post on Facebook that I wasn't feeling well. In about 2 minutes my mom and sister posted asking how I was. They live 5 hours away. My husband offered to come home, but unless I'm throwing up or dying, he's the only one with a job. He needs to keep it. He's been out already a few times lately and I don't want him to get in trouble. My MIL who lives 6 miles away, has not said a word. She does not work. Is at home by herself. Has not messaged or called or texted or commented on Facebook. I shouldn't be surprised. But I am. I know I also sound selfish. I should have just asked for help if I needed it. But you get tired of asking for help when you need it when you hear she is talking bad about you. So I'm suffering through. DH should be home by 5. How are you sure she even saw it? If your DH knew you were sick, why didn't he call her for help? |
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Post by izzyscraps on Mar 21, 2016 21:02:20 GMT
I know she saw it. She liked the status. My DH doesn't have much to do with his mother cuz of circumstances I won't share, cuz they aren't mine. They are his.
I only talk about what she does to me.
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Post by loco coco on Mar 21, 2016 21:06:23 GMT
ugh, so sorry! It would be a very nice offer. If it makes you feel any better my own mom wouldn't offer. Try not to get annoyed by it, feel better soon!
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Post by jbelle on Mar 21, 2016 21:11:59 GMT
Oh my. I call my adult children when I want to communicate with them. I have no idea about what is going on in their social network world and if I did, I wouldn't follow their spouses. Heck, I don't even follow my own siblings  It's just too much for me. |
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It's just too much for me.