Am I making a huge mistake here? UPDATED ON THE TOP OF #3
Aug 27, 2017 22:01:13 GMT
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Post by Lexica on Aug 27, 2017 22:01:13 GMT
Ok, you guys were all with me through the ordeal with booting out my frustrating odd renter a few months back. I have been slowly getting things unpacked from the leak issue and other things packed up/sorted for the move. I am realizing I am not going to be making the move this year. I ran out of money and had to pull some out of my retirement fund to do the final things that will be needed to make this house sell well. It isn't anything horribly expensive like a total kitchen renovation, but it took time to orchestrate and have also just taken a break from all the people being in my house. I do not want to push myself to move before I am totally ready. The realtor was pushing for a while until I told him to back off.
So I am in a great place with the money now here and no more pressure from anyone. This morning, I received a call from a lovely woman that I worked with a bit through my last company. She is very nice and we got along well, but never worked in the same office, just interacted at times on the phone for various things. We have kept in contact these past 10 years since she was laid off and I quit due to my fall. She has been living with her little brother taking care of him for the last 20 years at least. They were very close as kids, and he moved to California, had a nice sporty little car, and was in some horrible accident to where they didn't expect him to survive. He has horrible burns over the bulk of his body, his face was badly damaged, as were his arms and legs. He cannot live alone. My friend had just lost her husband to cancer about the time of her brother's accident, so when her husband died, she moved here to care for him. They have lived together without issue for years.
In this morning's call, she told me that he has developed an embolism that is apparently non operable. She said the doctor told her she could lose her brother within the month. He has been through so many surgeries over the years, and it is terribly sad that this could be what finally takes his life. I am so saddened for her. I've met her brother a couple of times when he attended company functions with my friend and he has such a great outlook and sense of humor.
Her phone call this morning was a quick one because she was running out for medication for her brother, but she wondered if I had a room I could let her move into if/when her brother passes. I know she has had some financial problems since she lost her job, and she said that she will probably file for bankruptcy to be able to survive. Even then, she won't have much money for rent. She said her last choice is moving back east to where she lived with family, and where her daughter is, but she doesn't want to do that. She hates the area. She asked me if I was amenable to her moving in. I told her I was packing up to move, but would be here for a few more months. I told her of course she could come here to stay during that time. I would really enjoy the company, and it would give her time to grieve and make some plans.
She did ask about the possibility of moving with me to Oregon as well. Years ago, she and I and a few of my longtime friends discussed all getting a big place together so that we didn't have to live alone in our golden years. My closest friend said she is totally into the idea after her husband dies. He is a smoker and has had health problems because of it, and yet refuses to quit smoking, so she had gotten to the point of accepting that he will die before she will.
I am totally fine with letting my friend move in here if her brother does indeed die next month. I know she won't be able to afford their apartment alone, and she couldn't qualify for it on her own anyway because it was subsidized due to his disability.
Tell me that I am not going to be going crazy like I was with my male renter! Nothing about my friend gives me that fear. I just know that I said I would never rent out a room again so I'm trying to think this through. She thinks that even if he passes next month, it would be 3 months before she needed to move out of her place. That would give me plenty of time to get the house back into a more normal shape. Right now, it is still all messed up from the moving boxes everywhere, the furniture still piled into the living room, and boxes to be unpacked from the downstairs rooms that they tore up. I get one more day from the repair people to finish up what needs to be done.
I figure that I would love the company now, and since I am selling, if we don't get along at all, I will just tell her that I can't take her with me when I move. If it all goes well, then she said she would be willing to relocate to Oregon since her brother is the last of her family locally now.
Am I nuts? I am not seeing a down side here, but with that last hassle with the renter, I'm hesitant to have another one, even for a short time.
So I am in a great place with the money now here and no more pressure from anyone. This morning, I received a call from a lovely woman that I worked with a bit through my last company. She is very nice and we got along well, but never worked in the same office, just interacted at times on the phone for various things. We have kept in contact these past 10 years since she was laid off and I quit due to my fall. She has been living with her little brother taking care of him for the last 20 years at least. They were very close as kids, and he moved to California, had a nice sporty little car, and was in some horrible accident to where they didn't expect him to survive. He has horrible burns over the bulk of his body, his face was badly damaged, as were his arms and legs. He cannot live alone. My friend had just lost her husband to cancer about the time of her brother's accident, so when her husband died, she moved here to care for him. They have lived together without issue for years.
In this morning's call, she told me that he has developed an embolism that is apparently non operable. She said the doctor told her she could lose her brother within the month. He has been through so many surgeries over the years, and it is terribly sad that this could be what finally takes his life. I am so saddened for her. I've met her brother a couple of times when he attended company functions with my friend and he has such a great outlook and sense of humor.
Her phone call this morning was a quick one because she was running out for medication for her brother, but she wondered if I had a room I could let her move into if/when her brother passes. I know she has had some financial problems since she lost her job, and she said that she will probably file for bankruptcy to be able to survive. Even then, she won't have much money for rent. She said her last choice is moving back east to where she lived with family, and where her daughter is, but she doesn't want to do that. She hates the area. She asked me if I was amenable to her moving in. I told her I was packing up to move, but would be here for a few more months. I told her of course she could come here to stay during that time. I would really enjoy the company, and it would give her time to grieve and make some plans.
She did ask about the possibility of moving with me to Oregon as well. Years ago, she and I and a few of my longtime friends discussed all getting a big place together so that we didn't have to live alone in our golden years. My closest friend said she is totally into the idea after her husband dies. He is a smoker and has had health problems because of it, and yet refuses to quit smoking, so she had gotten to the point of accepting that he will die before she will.
I am totally fine with letting my friend move in here if her brother does indeed die next month. I know she won't be able to afford their apartment alone, and she couldn't qualify for it on her own anyway because it was subsidized due to his disability.
Tell me that I am not going to be going crazy like I was with my male renter! Nothing about my friend gives me that fear. I just know that I said I would never rent out a room again so I'm trying to think this through. She thinks that even if he passes next month, it would be 3 months before she needed to move out of her place. That would give me plenty of time to get the house back into a more normal shape. Right now, it is still all messed up from the moving boxes everywhere, the furniture still piled into the living room, and boxes to be unpacked from the downstairs rooms that they tore up. I get one more day from the repair people to finish up what needs to be done.
I figure that I would love the company now, and since I am selling, if we don't get along at all, I will just tell her that I can't take her with me when I move. If it all goes well, then she said she would be willing to relocate to Oregon since her brother is the last of her family locally now.
Am I nuts? I am not seeing a down side here, but with that last hassle with the renter, I'm hesitant to have another one, even for a short time.