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Post by 950nancy on Oct 16, 2018 23:15:15 GMT
I was volunteering today and heard a conversation in the teachers' lounge. One of the teachers is hosting the Christmas party at her house this year. They do one year at a restaurant and the next year at a staff member's house so that they can make everyone happy. The teacher who is hosting the party has a no shoe rule in her house. Her husband said that no way would he ask people at a party (80+ people) to take off their shoes for a Christmas party. He thinks that for that one party, shoes should be fine. Teacher is also a little worried about food in the downstairs living areas. Teacher is a very sweet, neat, orderly person. Husband is the one who wants to host the party because he loves the staff (he works elsewhere). There will be singles/couples there and no children. Would you host a large party at your place and ask/tell people to take off their shoes? Would you tell people specifically not to bring food downstairs? I don't have a dog in the fight, but I am curious as to what the Peas think.
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Post by moodyblue on Oct 16, 2018 23:19:22 GMT
I would not ask people to take off their shoes, but then we are not hosts with a lot of rules for our guests. And the only issue I have with food or drinks is small children are encouraged to drink their chocolate milk in non-carpet areas of the house.
I find many people will take their shoes off, especially if the weather is wet or sloppy, but we don't require that of anyone.
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Post by johnnysmom on Oct 16, 2018 23:19:38 GMT
No way would I expect party guests to remove their shoes. As for the food, if I were worried about the carpet I would either close off the whole room or not serve anything that could stain.
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Post by Kerri W on Oct 16, 2018 23:21:24 GMT
I would not ask people to take their shoes off or worry about food in the downstairs. I would schedule carpet cleaning for the week after the party. IMO it's unwelcoming to treat people like children and that's what *I* equate this to.
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Post by cmpeter on Oct 16, 2018 23:22:34 GMT
Shoes off is very common in my area and we have friends that host a large holiday party with a no shoe rule. I wouldn’t have an issue with that. You can put in the invite for folks to bring socks.
No food downstairs seems harder as folks will wander and depending on how much space there is, might not have room upstairs for everyone.
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Post by amom23 on Oct 16, 2018 23:25:13 GMT
I don't think people should be expected to remove their shoes. In most cases the shoes make the outfit right? LOL You gotta be a more relaxed person if you agree to host 80 people in your home.
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Post by leannec on Oct 16, 2018 23:25:54 GMT
I'm Canadian and most people take off their shoes here ... mainly because our shoes are usually dirty from the crappy weather As a host to a party of that size I would not expect people to take off their shoes but chances are they will I also would not expect people to keep food and drink out of the public areas ... it's a risk you, as the host, have to take
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Post by myshelly on Oct 16, 2018 23:26:31 GMT
I don’t even understand people who walk into a house and don’t immediately take their shoes off. There is absolutely no way I could handle that many people in my house with shoes on. So gross and so unnecessary.
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Post by emelle64 on Oct 16, 2018 23:30:55 GMT
I'm Canadian so it seems to be an unwritten rule that people take their shoes off at the door. If I went to a party at Christmas time I would probably wear boots and take shoes to wear. Although I am a bit uptight when I'm entertaining if I were having that many people at my house I would not police the shoes or ask them to eat in a certain area. But I mostly have hardwood and where there's carpet there's always carpet cleaner!!
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Post by gar on Oct 16, 2018 23:32:26 GMT
Shoes off is very common in my area and we have friends that host a large holiday party with a no shoe rule. I wouldn’t have an issue with that. You can put in the invite for folks to bring socks. Socks? To wear with a Christmas party outfit?? That’ll look really weird 😀 Arrange to have your carpet cleaned the following day if it’s that big a deal but don’t make a huge party of guests feel awkward and look weird imo 🙂
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Post by myshelly on Oct 16, 2018 23:35:49 GMT
Shoes off is very common in my area and we have friends that host a large holiday party with a no shoe rule. I wouldn’t have an issue with that. You can put in the invite for folks to bring socks. Socks? To wear with a Christmas party outfit?? That’ll look really weird 😀 Arrange to have your carpet cleaned the following day if it’s that big a deal but don’t make a huge party of guests feel awkward and look weird imo 🙂 It’s teachers. They’re gonna be wearing jeans and Christmas sweaters, lol.
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Post by MichyM on Oct 16, 2018 23:36:35 GMT
At a large party? No and no. If it was a smaller gathering of personal friends and/or family my answer wuld be different. I have hosted holiday parties at my home (in rainy, mucky Seattle) of this size and I just cannot imagine having those expectations.
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Post by ntsf on Oct 16, 2018 23:37:22 GMT
everyone takes their shoes off and is is super common here. I would have no problem with that. food--don't serve anything that will super stain.
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Post by katlaw on Oct 16, 2018 23:38:42 GMT
I'm Canadian and most people take off their shoes here ... mainly because our shoes are usually dirty from the crappy weather This Canadian girl wears "outdoor" shoes to a party like this and carries dress shoes in a bag. And then changes into them when we get there. That is what everyone I know has always done. Even a party at a hall or banquet centre lots of ladies change into the pretty shoes that match their outfit when they get there. Not a public event, just for a private party where you would leave shoes / boots at the door. I agree with the pea who suggested a carpet cleaner the week after the party. That is a lot of people to have in one's home.
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Post by rickmer on Oct 16, 2018 23:44:01 GMT
another canadian here. we usually take our shoes off at the front door, but sometimes my family may not if we are running in and back out or have handfuls of bags or something. BUT, i would *never* walk into someone else's home and NOT take my shoes off. when we have our 7 family new years or easter event (40 people-ish), it is literally an obstacle course at the door to get past all the shoes or boots. my asian friends have little baskets with slippers at the front door for guests. just listened to a podcast by "stuff you should know" discussing the 5 second rule. the one host is married to a woman of japanese descent and said they always take their shoes off. the other host kinda thought that was a bit funny. i am *not* a germaphobe but after listening to that podcast.... i am more careful and take my shoes off now. : : as for the food, i would serve it upstairs but not specifically make a point to say "don't take food downstairs" if there are no kids (i would have *no qualms* telling kids food stays upstairs at our house).
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Post by moodyblue on Oct 16, 2018 23:45:08 GMT
I'm trying to imagine the space you'd need to use to have 80 pairs of shoes left by the door.
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Post by myshelly on Oct 16, 2018 23:48:38 GMT
I'm trying to imagine the space you'd need to use to have 80 pairs of shoes left by the door. If you own a house where you can host a party for 80, then I feel like you have it.
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Post by psiluvu on Oct 16, 2018 23:48:53 GMT
If I was hosting a Christmas party everyone would automatically take off their shoes/boots because if it is December there is probably snow on the ground. IME most people take off their shoes anyways no matter the weather. It doesn't matter to me either way If I am having a bunch of people over I just assume they are going to wander through the living areas of my house with food and drink. If there were little kids I may be a bit more militant about eating upstairs but otherwise "Welcome to my house, Enjoy and be comfortable" ETA - should have just agreed with the rest of the Canadians
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Post by tincin on Oct 16, 2018 23:51:46 GMT
I understand the whole dirty shoes issue but many people need to wear their shoes to avoid foot pain. I am one of those people. If it’s messy out, I bring a different pair of shoes inside but I seldom go without shoes anywhere.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Oct 16, 2018 23:51:59 GMT
It's a general rule here also to take off shoes when you go inside someone's home. BUT, where in the heck are you going to put 80 pairs of shoes??! That's 160 shoes...where? I went to a large surprise party one time, at someone's house, and we put all the shoes in the entry way, and let me tell ya. It was a PITA trying to find your shoes when you left.
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Post by bc2ca on Oct 16, 2018 23:52:55 GMT
I was raised in a no shoes in the house family, have a no shoes in the house rule for our house and NEVER have considered enforcing it when hosting a party, large or small.
The logistics and sight of dealing with 80 pairs of shoes hanging around my front door makes my head spin.
If people are free to move into the downstairs area, they should feel comfortable taking food and drinks with them.
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Post by walkerdill on Oct 16, 2018 23:55:37 GMT
Around here it is not common to ask people to take of their shoes. There is no way I would ask party goers to do it. Maybe if it were a region where it's common then it wouldn't be so awkward.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2018 23:59:10 GMT
Most people I know have a no shoe rule in their house. If I were this person hosting, I'd have people remove their shoes and a basket full of fun socks for them to wear and keep as party favors. The no food downstairs will be difficult to enforce unfortunately.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Oct 17, 2018 0:07:50 GMT
I’m imagining the stink of 80 pairs of shoes in the entry.
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Post by stampnscrap1128 on Oct 17, 2018 0:22:40 GMT
I'm another one who has to wear shoes indoors, especially if I have to stand for any length of time. My husband wears shoes indoors because he is diabetic and needs to protect his feet. I don't think I could fit 80 people in my whole house. LOL
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Post by pjaye on Oct 17, 2018 0:23:37 GMT
This Canadian girl wears "outdoor" shoes to a party like this and carries dress shoes in a bag. And then changes into them when we get there. That is what everyone I know has always done Exactly what I would do! Before I got your response I was reading the others Canadian ones and thinking to myself..."why wouldn't you just bring another pair of shoes to change into for the party?" I would feel very odd walking around someone's house with no shoes on...especially a stranger's. I also think that if a person is that uptight about carpet/shoes/stains, then they definitely should not host a party. Parties should be fun and should not induce stress in the guests about their footwear and where they can and can't eat, also if the hostess is going to have a near breakdown about those things it's going to be obvious and make it even more uncomfortable for the guests.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Oct 17, 2018 0:26:10 GMT
I would not ask people to remove their shoes...80 people with bare feet in my home grosses me out even more than the shoes in the home. The food thing wouldn’t bother me either. If the shoe thing bothers the host that much she can easily buy hospital booties that you slip on over shoes and toss out when you’re done with them.
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Post by hop2 on Oct 17, 2018 0:27:02 GMT
I do not ask people to take off shoes in my home during a party. I'm having trouble picturing 80+ people in a regular size private home. i had a reasonable sized home (2200 SF) and I max out at 40ish and that was tough. I had more than that but only in the summer when we could use outside and have a tent. Geez 80 people in my house would literally be wall to wall standing room only. And i can't imagine where i'd put the 160 shoes because that would take a whole room and we were already wall to wall standing room only. No extra room for the shoes to be separated from the people.
She is a brave woman
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Post by moodyblue on Oct 17, 2018 0:30:08 GMT
I would not ask people to remove their shoes...80 people with bare feet in my home grosses me out even more than the shoes in the home. The food thing wouldn’t bother me either. If the shoe thing bothers the host that much she can easily buy hospital booties that you slip on over shoes and toss out when you’re done with them. We have a friend who prefers people to keep their shoes on because he doesn't want the oil from bare feet to come in contact with his carpet. So there are people who definitely don't have a 'no shoes' policy.
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Post by basketdiva on Oct 17, 2018 0:30:24 GMT
I can’t even image the log jam at the front door when people are arriving and leaving the party.
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