AllieC
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Post by AllieC on Oct 17, 2018 7:40:09 GMT
I think I’ve only ever known one person who had a no shoes house! In Australia it isn’t common at all. Tradespeople will usually offer to take them off at the door but otherwise everyone wears shoes. There are doormats to wipe shoes and if someone had muddy shoes they would take them off.
Reading these posts about dirt and filth being brought in - what the heck are people walking in while they are outside? I clean my floors with a good steam cleaner at least once a week and the pads aren’t even very dirty.
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Post by gar on Oct 17, 2018 8:25:44 GMT
All I can think is what if someone breaks a glass? 160 bare or socked/stockinged feet with glass shards underfoot.... If someone breaks a glass everyone stands still until it's vacuumed up by the host who can go grab a pair of indoor shoes. Shattered glass doesn't fly that far that everyone will be in the danger zone.
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Post by dewryce on Oct 17, 2018 8:39:06 GMT
No one would dream of wearing their shoes to a party here. You bring indoor shoes with you, problem solved. Walking around someone's house with dirty shoes, would be considered extremely rude. I've been wondering about the logistics of this. Are there shoe bags or do y'all just carry them in any old bag? DH would have to carry both of ours sometimes. I work too hard to get cute and pick the right little purse for the evening, a bag of shoes would throw off my whole look
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Post by dewryce on Oct 17, 2018 8:40:51 GMT
All I can think is what if someone breaks a glass? 160 bare or socked/stockinged feet with glass shards underfoot.... If someone breaks a glass everyone stands still until it's vacuumed up by the host who can go grab a pair of indoor shoes. Shattered glass doesn't fly that far that everyone will be in the danger zone. Oh gosh it does on our ceramic tile! We have a large kitchen and shards will cover the distance, and they make it all the way through the dining room if the glass breaks close to the walkway there.
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Post by mlynn on Oct 17, 2018 8:55:58 GMT
As a diabetic, I would have to miss the "no shoes" party. It is very important to protect my feet from any kind of injury. That could be a life or limb threatening event.
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Post by prettyprettypaper on Oct 17, 2018 9:11:46 GMT
I live in Hawai'i and it is customary for people to take off their shoes before entering a home. Homes here are on the smaller side, so I cannot imagine 80 people being indoors for a party. Typically, a party of that size would be held outdoors. It could be a combination where some people sit outside in the yard or garage while some are inside. All of the guests would remove their shoes when going inside the home, though. Trust me, it has happened where people walk off with the wrong footwear because a lot of people here wear flip-flops, and it can get to be confusing when many people show up wearing very basic, black flip-flops (we call them "slippers").
That being said, I would not have an issue at all with removing my shoes. I would have more of an issue wearing my shoes INSIDE someone's home because I'd feel bad about dirtying their floors.
Also, I would not have an issue with not bringing food to a certain part of the house. We do not allow food in any of our bedrooms, and I can understand and respect that others might want to contain any possible messes to just one part of the house.
If I had a problem with any of the above, I would just not attend the event.
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Post by miominmio on Oct 17, 2018 9:27:39 GMT
No one would dream of wearing their shoes to a party here. You bring indoor shoes with you, problem solved. Walking around someone's house with dirty shoes, would be considered extremely rude. I've been wondering about the logistics of this. Are there shoe bags or do y'all just carry them in any old bag? DH would have to carry both of ours sometimes. I work too hard to get cute and pick the right little purse for the evening, a bag of shoes would throw off my whole look You carry them in your hand or in a bag of course. Then you hang your bag and your coat in the hallway and carry your tiny purse with you. No one will bat an eye if you show up with your shoes in a plastic bag. Walk indoors with your dirty winter boots, otoh, would cause a lot of snickering behind your back since people would assume you are completely lacking social skills. Remember, if we're lucky, we might get a month or two of summer, the rest of the year it is cold and wet (unless it is so cold that we get snow instead), and I think a pair of wellies look worse with that little, black dress than a bag you're only carrying when you arrive.
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Post by dewryce on Oct 17, 2018 9:43:11 GMT
I've been wondering about the logistics of this. Are there shoe bags or do y'all just carry them in any old bag? DH would have to carry both of ours sometimes. I work too hard to get cute and pick the right little purse for the evening, a bag of shoes would throw off my whole look You carry them in your hand or in a bag of course. Then you hang your bag and your coat in the hallway and carry your tiny purse with you. No one will bat an eye if you show up with your shoes in a plastic bag. Walk indoors with your dirty winter boots, otoh, would cause a lot of snickering behind your back since people would assume you are completely lacking social skills. Remember, if we're lucky, we might get a month or two of summer, the rest of the year it is cold and wet (unless it is so cold that we get snow instead), and I think a pair of wellies look worse with that little, black dress than a bag you're only carrying when you arrive. Thanks for all of the info, as you can tell I'm curious about the different customs Just about the only time I've run into someone that didn't want shoes worn in their house was my sister when she had a new baby and germs were a big deal for her for a while. I was happy to take off my shoes, but had just had Achilles surgery. There was a step up into the house, she didn't have a place to sit to take our shoes off, she didn't want us to even step into the entry way with them on, annnnd she didn't want our feet to touch down outside once our shoes were off because we would still track germs in that way. It was...difficult. We tried a no shoes indoor approach for a while, just us not our guests, and it just didn't work out. Between forgetting things and having to come back into the house, or just running in for a moment between events, bringing in groceries, and having to wear specific (expensive) shoes for various physical ailments it just wasn't meant to be. I'm in South Central Texas. We get "cold" about as much as you get summer. And cold is relative. I might wear a jacket a handful of times a year. We don't even own a coat rack or large coat closet. I've been thinking about this more, and I think if I lived in your region I would have a permanent bag with indoor shoes that I keep in my car for those times I unexpectedly drop by friends. Is that how it is handled or do y'all tend to keep extra slippers for your day to day guests, close friends and family? We keep our house super cold so I have a drawer with special warm socks, sweaters, and hand warmers for our friends and family.
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momto4kiddos
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Post by momto4kiddos on Oct 17, 2018 10:12:19 GMT
And where the heck would you store 80+ pairs of shoes while their owners were in your home I think if you host a party, you expect things may happen....a little dirt, maybe a couple spills. It's just part of having that many guests over.
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Post by mustlovecats on Oct 17, 2018 11:48:37 GMT
I have always thought the no shoes thing is bizarre. The floor is meant to be walked on. It’s not like people are walking on the ceiling where foot prints would show. It’s the floor, for god’s sake. So, no I would never ask anyone to take their shoes off. To me it’s like telling someone to take their pants off before they sit on my sofa. Bizarre. Why is it bizzare not wanting people to walk around your house with dirty shoes? Comparing it to asking people to removing their pants, is comparing apples to oranges. Unless a guest arrives with soiled pants, then I would definitely not let them sit anywhere. You bring nice shoes to wear indoors, and put the outdoor ones where you hang your coat. I think it’s just a cultural difference to be honest. I didn’t grow up in a shoes off house or a shoes off region. I take mine off at home but not because of cleanliness, just because it feels like a part of transitioning into being at home and relaxing. I do wear shoes for when I’m on my feet a lot at home (going barefoot can trigger my plantar fasciitis). But those aren’t just house shoes only. I have kids, my floors get dirty, I clean them, everything is fine. I think “dirty shoes” just doesn’t bother me the way it bothers some people. It’s just dirt. That’s why I clean my house.
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Oct 17, 2018 12:18:45 GMT
The only home I ever go into that it is expected you take off your shoes is my parent's. I don't usually have shoes on in my own house, only because I really don't like having shoes on at all. LOL My husband on the other hand, putting on shoes is part of getting dressed. He never doesn't have shoes on in the house.
If I am casually at a friend's house hanging out, I usually will take off my shoes, just because I am more comfortable that way. But, if I am at a party, I leave them on.
This past weekend, I went to my co-workers house for her baby's first birthday party. I took my shoes off because just before I went there, I went to a memorial service at a cemetery, and it was muddy. I had on socks, so my feet weren't bare. I was the only person there, out of about 30 or so, who had my shoes off. I felt weird not having my shoes on, and I could tell a few people were looking at me strangely. Even my coworkers who were there were teasing me about not having shoes on. LOL
I am always so fascinated by different customs.
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julie5
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Post by julie5 on Oct 17, 2018 12:26:09 GMT
No I would not ask people to remove their shoes. I don’t ask people to remove their shoes, but we don’t get many visitors.
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Post by lbp on Oct 17, 2018 12:30:17 GMT
No way would I expect people to take off their shoes! We are having a Halloween Open House this weekend and expect around 50 people. They will be in the house, outside on the patio and maybe even in the pool house. For one night, I am fine with it.
I however take my shoes off whenever I come in my house. If I am at someone else's house I ask if I need to remove my shoes.
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mvavw
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Post by mvavw on Oct 17, 2018 12:50:02 GMT
I understand that some people, culturally, don't wear shoes in the house. I even get that done people don't want germs in the house so don't want people to wear shoes. But for the "regional" no shoes group- is it a city/suburb/rural thing? I live in the suburbs and other than snow boots (and cultural/germ people), shoes are worn in the house. Most people have paved walkways and driveways. I have a mat by the front door that catches the worst of everything, and wash the floors as needed.
As far as the party, I can't imagine finding an area to keep 80 pairs of shoes.
As far as keeping the food out of certain areas, I would set it up in a way that encourages it to be eaten upstairs and hope for the best. We have a no food in the bedrooms policy, but I would just be extra careful about clean-up after a party.
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Post by maryannscraps on Oct 17, 2018 12:58:18 GMT
I don't care if people wear shoes or not in my house. It's a floor -- we're not eating off it. Besides, DH has neuropathies in his legs and has to wear shoes all the time. I'd hate to think he was unwelcome or considered dirty because of that. If the host really insisted, we'd go home. But we've been to plenty of peoples' houses that ask you to take off your shoes and the hosts were perfectly lovely about accommodating him.
I could fit 80 people for a party. It would be squished, and I don't have 80 chairs, but we could do it. I've done 50 teenagers before (the German Exchange program when DD was in HS) and it was tons of fun. I've managed 25 for a sit down Thanksgiving, which I think would be a lot harder. We'd take over the kitchen, dining room, family room, and living room.
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NoWomanNoCry
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Oct 17, 2018 12:59:54 GMT
If someone breaks a glass everyone stands still until it's vacuumed up by the host who can go grab a pair of indoor shoes. Shattered glass doesn't fly that far that everyone will be in the danger zone. Oh gosh it does on our ceramic tile! We have a large kitchen and shards will cover the distance, and they make it all the way through the dining room if the glass breaks close to the walkway there. I agree, I actually had to top of my foot sliced open when glass hit a tile floor.
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Post by kibblesandbits on Oct 17, 2018 13:17:40 GMT
We host parties and fundraisers all the time, upwards of 60 people attend regularly. My foyer is large enough for two chairs, a rolling coat rack, and a place to put shoes/boots. I would never force anyone to take their shoes off, especially if it is a dressy event. Shoes are part of the outfit.
If you are a host, you have to get pretty comfortable with your house getting dirty. The person the OP is describing doesn't sound very welcoming, honestly.
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Post by maryland on Oct 17, 2018 13:46:50 GMT
Shoes off is very common in my area and we have friends that host a large holiday party with a no shoe rule. I wouldn’t have an issue with that. You can put in the invite for folks to bring socks. No food downstairs seems harder as folks will wander and depending on how much space there is, might not have room upstairs for everyone. I keep a pair of small slippers in my car so I can wear the slippers at someone's house.
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Post by workingclassdog on Oct 17, 2018 13:52:00 GMT
I'm not the type to worry about shoes or food. I would say the majority of people would take their shoes off due to weather but we do have hardwood floors on the main 'party' floor. But even if it was carpeted I wouldn't care... it's just something I would deal with after the party. Come in and have a good time.. that's my motto.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2018 14:16:48 GMT
I always have shoes on, even at home. I would be bringing another pair of shoes to wear. No barefoot from me. I am physically unable to do that. I would never expect 80 people to remove their shoes, or not go downstairs. I'd be having that carpet cleaned a week later. Part of hosting a big party...
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Post by bwife on Oct 17, 2018 14:30:08 GMT
We host a christmas party every yr. We usually have about 30 to 40 people here and stay on the 1st level of our home. We have all wood floors now, but in general, I have found that over the years there have not been many spills at all. Usually those happen in the kitchen while people are pouring a drink. I have also found that most people will take off their shoes when they enter if they see others have also done it at the door. We usually put our shoes in our entry and a towel on the floor if it is wet out and usually people come right in and take their shoes off. The ONLY disadvantage to people not having their shoes on is someone clipped their toenails last yr and left them all under my kitchen table. GROSS!!! Hubs and I usually clean up a bit and sweep if needed before we head to bed. I was pretty grossed out when I saw what I thought was crumbs, were actually toenails! Ummm, you can NOT possibly be serious (though I'm sure you are). That may be one of the most bizarre (and disgusting) things I've ever read on 2Peas. Yep. This one takes the cake. Oh, I am TOTALLY serious! I was gagging while sweeping them up. I was so grossed out. Someone told me its a nervous habit. Umm, No. A nervous habit is biting your nails or your lip, not cutting your toenails in someones kitchen!
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Post by Darcy Collins on Oct 17, 2018 14:33:22 GMT
We had a Nutcracker cast party one year - the cast is 80 people - with families there must have been 200 people here. I never asked anyone to take off their shoes, but there also happened to be during a blizzard and people just assumed that I wouldn't want them tromping through the house in their snowy shoes/boots. I'll have to dig up a picture of the piles of shoes in entry - it was epic. You'd be surprised how many people you can fit in a house when they're standing up - or in the case of the kids all sitting on the floor in the basement around a tv showing previous years' Nutcrackers.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Oct 17, 2018 14:35:17 GMT
I'm a bit confused on the "downstairs living areas" will the party primarily be held on a different floor? Is she hoping to keep them in the kitchen/dining room and away from the living room on the same floor?
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Post by bwife on Oct 17, 2018 14:37:10 GMT
We host a christmas party every yr. We usually have about 30 to 40 people here and stay on the 1st level of our home. We have all wood floors now, but in general, I have found that over the years there have not been many spills at all. Usually those happen in the kitchen while people are pouring a drink. I have also found that most people will take off their shoes when they enter if they see others have also done it at the door. We usually put our shoes in our entry and a towel on the floor if it is wet out and usually people come right in and take their shoes off. The ONLY disadvantage to people not having their shoes on is someone clipped their toenails last yr and left them all under my kitchen table. GROSS!!! Hubs and I usually clean up a bit and sweep if needed before we head to bed. I was pretty grossed out when I saw what I thought was crumbs, were actually toenails! Wait! What? Someone clipped their toenails in your kitchen during a party? I can't decide whether to laugh or cry. And questions. I have OH SO MANY questions. YES! they either clipped them or peeled them off. What questions do you have? lol. Someone told me its a nervous habit. its something I have never heard of. I know people who bite their finger nails or their lip as a nervous habit, but leaving toenails behind is something I have never heard of. it was so gross. As soon as I discovered it was toenails, I was gagging. its so gross to even think about. ugh. When I 1st saw somethings under the table, I thought it was parts of peanut shells, so I got the broom out because I didnt want the dogs to eat them. Then when I pulled the chairs out to start sweeping I noticed it was NOT Peanut shells! Ewwww... I started yelling at my hubby, " You figure out who was sitting here and they are uninvited next yr!"
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Post by bwife on Oct 17, 2018 14:39:45 GMT
I'm a bit confused on the "downstairs living areas" will the party primarily be held on a different floor? Is she hoping to keep them in the kitchen/dining room and away from the living room on the same floor? I am guessing they have a finished basement that they can use for seating space and to spread the party out a bit. We have some friends that use to do the same at their home for their large christmas parties. People who weren't staying long would stay upstairs and people who were in for the long haul all hung out in the lower level.
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Post by miominmio on Oct 17, 2018 14:44:50 GMT
You carry them in your hand or in a bag of course. Then you hang your bag and your coat in the hallway and carry your tiny purse with you. No one will bat an eye if you show up with your shoes in a plastic bag. Walk indoors with your dirty winter boots, otoh, would cause a lot of snickering behind your back since people would assume you are completely lacking social skills. Remember, if we're lucky, we might get a month or two of summer, the rest of the year it is cold and wet (unless it is so cold that we get snow instead), and I think a pair of wellies look worse with that little, black dress than a bag you're only carrying when you arrive. Thanks for all of the info, as you can tell I'm curious about the different customs Just about the only time I've run into someone that didn't want shoes worn in their house was my sister when she had a new baby and germs were a big deal for her for a while. I was happy to take off my shoes, but had just had Achilles surgery. There was a step up into the house, she didn't have a place to sit to take our shoes off, she didn't want us to even step into the entry way with them on, annnnd she didn't want our feet to touch down outside once our shoes were off because we would still track germs in that way. It was...difficult. We tried a no shoes indoor approach for a while, just us not our guests, and it just didn't work out. Between forgetting things and having to come back into the house, or just running in for a moment between events, bringing in groceries, and having to wear specific (expensive) shoes for various physical ailments it just wasn't meant to be. I'm in South Central Texas. We get "cold" about as much as you get summer. And cold is relative. I might wear a jacket a handful of times a year. We don't even own a coat rack or large coat closet. I've been thinking about this more, and I think if I lived in your region I would have a permanent bag with indoor shoes that I keep in my car for those times I unexpectedly drop by friends. Is that how it is handled or do y'all tend to keep extra slippers for your day to day guests, close friends and family? We keep our house super cold so I have a drawer with special warm socks, sweaters, and hand warmers for our friends and family. Unless there's a party, people just walk around in their socks indoors. My sister bought a basket filled with wool slippers one year (their house is more than a 100 years old, and the floors are cold unless there's 30C outside), but other than that, I have never seen anyone having slippers for their guests. DH usually brings his own, but that's because the man is an ice cube with legs and is complaining about the cold even in summer (the few days when we have summer and not just "summer").
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Post by Darcy Collins on Oct 17, 2018 14:49:12 GMT
I'm a bit confused on the "downstairs living areas" will the party primarily be held on a different floor? Is she hoping to keep them in the kitchen/dining room and away from the living room on the same floor? I am guessing they have a finished basement that they can use for seating space and to spread the party out a bit. We have some friends that use to do the same at their home for their large christmas parties. People who weren't staying long would stay upstairs and people who were in for the long haul all hung out in the lower level. It wasn't clear in the OP. We have a finished basement and have hosted many parties, it's pretty rare for people to wander downstairs without an invitation. If they don't want people to eat or drink downstairs, they shouldn't spread out into those areas.
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Post by miominmio on Oct 17, 2018 14:51:40 GMT
I understand that some people, culturally, don't wear shoes in the house. I even get that done people don't want germs in the house so don't want people to wear shoes. But for the "regional" no shoes group- is it a city/suburb/rural thing? I live in the suburbs and other than snow boots (and cultural/germ people), shoes are worn in the house. Most people have paved walkways and driveways. I have a mat by the front door that catches the worst of everything, and wash the floors as needed. As far as the party, I can't imagine finding an area to keep 80 pairs of shoes. As far as keeping the food out of certain areas, I would set it up in a way that encourages it to be eaten upstairs and hope for the best. We have a no food in the bedrooms policy, but I would just be extra careful about clean-up after a party. I'm in "no shoe" country, and there is no difference between rural/suburb/city. Outdoor shoes are not worn indoors, period. If you want/need to wear shoes indoors, you bring shoes and change when you get there. It's the cultural norm, maybe based on the fact that up until recently, a large percentage of the population lived on farms, and you do not want manure on your floors. Kids are drilled in this from their first day in daycare and until they finish junior high; they all have to change shoes. (In high school, for some weird reason, they don't have to, but many keep indoor shoes in their locker so they can change footwear).
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Post by bwife on Oct 17, 2018 14:53:38 GMT
I am guessing they have a finished basement that they can use for seating space and to spread the party out a bit. We have some friends that use to do the same at their home for their large christmas parties. People who weren't staying long would stay upstairs and people who were in for the long haul all hung out in the lower level. It wasn't clear in the OP. We have a finished basement and have hosted many parties, it's pretty rare for people to wander downstairs without an invitation. If they don't want people to eat or drink downstairs, they shouldn't spread out into those areas. My guess is that with 80 people they would need that space. OP said the hosts house was about 3000sq ft. that is what our house is without the basement. My main floor is Large, but 80 people would be a tight fit!
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Post by miominmio on Oct 17, 2018 14:57:53 GMT
Why is it bizzare not wanting people to walk around your house with dirty shoes? Comparing it to asking people to removing their pants, is comparing apples to oranges. Unless a guest arrives with soiled pants, then I would definitely not let them sit anywhere. You bring nice shoes to wear indoors, and put the outdoor ones where you hang your coat. I think it’s just a cultural difference to be honest. I didn’t grow up in a shoes off house or a shoes off region. I take mine off at home but not because of cleanliness, just because it feels like a part of transitioning into being at home and relaxing. I do wear shoes for when I’m on my feet a lot at home (going barefoot can trigger my plantar fasciitis). But those aren’t just house shoes only. I have kids, my floors get dirty, I clean them, everything is fine. I think “dirty shoes” just doesn’t bother me the way it bothers some people. It’s just dirt. That’s why I clean my house. We still clean our floors , but if shoes were worn indoors, I would have to clean the floors at least twice each day, and there is no way in Helheim I'm doing that. I remember the first time I saw a US movie growing up: I can't for the life of me remember which movie, but the shock of seeing people walking into a house without removing their outdoor shoes, scarred me for life! Definitely a cultural thing, but I wonder what's the norm in the states that has weather as we do?
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