eleezybeth
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Post by eleezybeth on Oct 17, 2018 0:32:47 GMT
**gasp** there are people who don't take their shoes off in other people's houses? Do you even ask or just trod on through with your shoes on? It is very common that you either take your shoes off or you ask and if you must have shoes you bring your house shoes. I live within a pretty transient community (military) with people from every neck of the woods and have never even had to provide direction.
Now - dealing with 80 pairs of shoes by the door?? That would make me a bit crazy and I might have to think of a way to have you come through the garage. I'd stage it all pretty, put out a bench, racks for the shoes, basket full of socks and or shoe booties (yes - those are pretty common in my circle too).
I don't have a clue about the food. My kids are little policemen though so if they saw a kid with a drink upstairs on the carpet they would probably start screaming and make the kid take it downstairs. And I sure as hell wouldn't be serving anything red/colorful.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Oct 17, 2018 0:33:14 GMT
I would not ask people to remove their shoes...80 people with bare feet in my home grosses me out even more than the shoes in the home. The food thing wouldn’t bother me either. If the shoe thing bothers the host that much she can easily buy hospital booties that you slip on over shoes and toss out when you’re done with them. We have a friend who prefers people to keep their shoes on because he doesn't want the oil from bare feet to come in contact with his carpet. So there are people who definitely don't have a 'no shoes' policy. I just keep thinking about the smell lol |
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Post by snyder on Oct 17, 2018 0:51:40 GMT
What I would like to know, are the people that are complaining about the party not being in a person's home, hosting the party at any time? I can not for the life of me understand how one could expect someone to host a party with 80+ people in their modest home. Unless you live in a mansion, this request is absolutely unfair to the host. I think I would call foul, shoes or not.
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Post by kernriver on Oct 17, 2018 0:55:33 GMT
I have always thought the no shoes thing is bizarre. The floor is meant to be walked on. It’s not like people are walking on the ceiling where foot prints would show. It’s the floor, for god’s sake. So, no I would never ask anyone to take their shoes off. To me it’s like telling someone to take their pants off before they sit on my sofa. Bizarre.
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Post by wezee on Oct 17, 2018 0:57:24 GMT
Shoes on eat wherever you want! It's a party!!
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 17, 2018 0:58:27 GMT
What I would like to know, are the people that are complaining about the party not being in a person's home, hosting the party at any time? I can not for the life of me understand how one could expect someone to host a party with 80+ people in their modest home. Unless you live in a mansion, this request is absolutely unfair to the host. I think I would call foul, shoes or not. People generally line up to host the party. This particular spouse has been asking his wife for years to host it. They have a 3,000 foot house and space isn't that much of an issue for a four hour party. Some of the homes at these parties have been smaller, but the staff is really close and generally enjoys a get together. They were also talking about having an ugly sweater or Christmas sock contest. I'll suggest to the hostess to maybe have a well publicized slipper contest. If it is a contest, people might be more likely to bring slippers. |
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 17, 2018 0:59:17 GMT
I have always thought the no shoes thing is bizarre. The floor is meant to be walked on. It’s not like people are walking on the ceiling where foot prints would show. It’s the floor, for god’s sake. So, no I would never ask anyone to take their shoes off. To me it’s like telling someone to take their pants off before they sit on my sofa. Bizarre. I'm not saying that couldn't happen! |
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Post by snyder on Oct 17, 2018 1:02:22 GMT
What I would like to know, are the people that are complaining about the party not being in a person's home, hosting the party at any time? I can not for the life of me understand how one could expect someone to host a party with 80+ people in their modest home. Unless you live in a mansion, this request is absolutely unfair to the host. I think I would call foul, shoes or not. People generally line up to host the party. This particular spouse has been asking his wife for years to host it. They have a 3,000 foot house and space isn't that much of an issue for a four hour party. Some of the homes at these parties have been smaller, but the staff is really close and generally enjoys a get together. They were also talking about having an ugly sweater or Christmas sock contest. I'll suggest to the hostess to maybe have a well publicized slipper contest. If it is a contest, people might be more likely to bring slippers. More power to them. lol My house is only half that size and I couldn't even imagine 40 in here. I've had 19 and that felt wall to wall. I like the sock/slipper contest! Is it like an open house where they come and go? |
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Post by lisae on Oct 17, 2018 1:04:42 GMT
No, I would not ask people to remove their shoes. We've hosted parties with 30 people and seldom found more than a couple of spots of food I had to clean up beyond basic vacuuming and mopping. We attend a holiday party in another couples home every year with about 50 people eating a full buffet and I've never seen any major issues.
These people either need to relax and host a party where people can have a good time or back out of the party altogether.
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Post by basketdiva on Oct 17, 2018 1:06:11 GMT
I grew up on the west coast, lived in a Texas and the Gulf Coast and never once was asked to take my shoes off. Some people do when they come into my hoyse but most don’t. One friend did have a no shoe sign but also knew I had a brace on my ankle/foot that would have caused more damage to her floor than my shoe. I no longer wear the brace but still need a shoe for proper balance.
I do wear flip-flops in Hawaii in the condo but that’s because my feet get hot.
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Post by misadventurous on Oct 17, 2018 1:08:33 GMT
We have a no-shoes house but I would never have a large party and ask/expect people to take off their shoes, especially if they have never been to my house before. Likewise with the food. Unless it's a bunch of frat boys, I would hope that a guest who spilled something likely to stain would alert me so it could be taken care of quickly. Does this post remind anyone else of the Sex and the City episode where Carrie was asked to take off her Manolos and someone stole them? We have a friend who prefers people to keep their shoes on because he doesn't want the oil from bare feet to come in contact with his carpet. So there are people who definitely don't have a 'no shoes' policy. The... what?? LOL!! Yeah, I'd much rather have shoes, which have probably have traces of dirt, food, dog poo, gum, etc. on the bottoms, touching my pristine carpet. |
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 17, 2018 1:14:51 GMT
People generally line up to host the party. This particular spouse has been asking his wife for years to host it. They have a 3,000 foot house and space isn't that much of an issue for a four hour party. Some of the homes at these parties have been smaller, but the staff is really close and generally enjoys a get together. They were also talking about having an ugly sweater or Christmas sock contest. I'll suggest to the hostess to maybe have a well publicized slipper contest. If it is a contest, people might be more likely to bring slippers. More power to them. lol My house is only half that size and I couldn't even imagine 40 in here. I've had 19 and that felt wall to wall. I like the sock/slipper contest! Is it like an open house where they come and go? To be fair, they are used to 30 people in a classroom, so 2,000 feet will seem huge. People do arrive late if they have a prior commitment, but most people are there at the beginning because they usually have part of it catered and many bring appetizers and desserts. |
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Post by kate on Oct 17, 2018 1:28:55 GMT
The sock/slipper contest is a great idea, especially if it's a casual thing (jeans and christmas sweaters) and not elegant (LBDs and stilettos).
We wear shoes in the house, but I am sensitive when visiting - if I notice my host is shoeless, I'll ask. Still, I'd feel weird going barefoot with "work friends."
I think if the host wants to keep food & beverages out of a certain area of the house, she needs to close off that area and not use it for the party.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Oct 17, 2018 1:36:54 GMT
They were also talking about having an ugly sweater or Christmas sock contest. I'll suggest to the hostess to maybe have a well publicized slipper contest. If it is a contest, people might be more likely to bring slippers. The sock or slipper comp would solve everything!! great idea! |
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Post by bwife on Oct 17, 2018 2:03:51 GMT
We host a christmas party every yr. We usually have about 30 to 40 people here and stay on the 1st level of our home. We have all wood floors now, but in general, I have found that over the years there have not been many spills at all. Usually those happen in the kitchen while people are pouring a drink.
I have also found that most people will take off their shoes when they enter if they see others have also done it at the door. We usually put our shoes in our entry and a towel on the floor if it is wet out and usually people come right in and take their shoes off. The ONLY disadvantage to people not having their shoes on is someone clipped their toenails last yr and left them all under my kitchen table. GROSS!!! Hubs and I usually clean up a bit and sweep if needed before we head to bed. I was pretty grossed out when I saw what I thought was crumbs, were actually toenails!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2018 2:08:31 GMT
They need to rent a hall
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Post by lisacharlotte on Oct 17, 2018 2:09:45 GMT
Yes, I do wear my shoes indoors. I have lived in 8 states and 3 countries and visited many more than that and the default has been shoes on almost everywhere I have been.
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Post by Nanner on Oct 17, 2018 2:19:09 GMT
I'm Canadian and most people take off their shoes here ... mainly because our shoes are usually dirty from the crappy weather  As a host to a party of that size I would not expect people to take off their shoes but chances are they will  I also would not expect people to keep food and drink out of the public areas ... it's a risk you, as the host, have to take  That.
For the most part, people automatically take their shoes off here.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2018 2:20:19 GMT
Shoe booties? Or everyone leaves on their shoes.
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Post by cmpeter on Oct 17, 2018 2:31:58 GMT
At my friends large holiday party everyone leaves their shoes on the porch. People come and go in smaller groups, so there’s never been a log jam. I had a bad pf flair up one year and just brought a pair of supportive slippers. No problem. It’s rainy, messy and yucky here in the PNW. I personally never ask folks to take off their shoes when they come to my house, but everyone does.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Oct 17, 2018 3:18:03 GMT
I was raised in a no shoes in the house family, have a no shoes in the house rule for our house and NEVER have considered enforcing it when hosting a party, large or small. The logistics and sight of dealing with 80 pairs of shoes hanging around my front door makes my head spin. If people are free to move into the downstairs area, they should feel comfortable taking food and drinks with them. Yea, these rules don’t seem like the making of a fun party!! |
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Post by ntsf on Oct 17, 2018 3:26:03 GMT
its common here to see stacks of shoes on porches..
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Post by crazy4scraps on Oct 17, 2018 4:12:10 GMT
I would never tell guests in my home to take off their shoes, although many people automatically do. I prefer to keep my shoes on even in my own house, and did even before I had foot problems. I prefer for visitors to leave their shoes on. I can mop the tile and we own a Rug Doctor that we use several times a year, so whatever. We have a very hairy, shedding dog. I do my best to keep after the dog hair but it’s a never ending task. Go ahead and leave your shoes on or take them off at your own risk. If you have on shoes or boots that are obviously covered with snow or poop, then sure, please take them off, but otherwise I would rather you just leave them on. I also wouldn’t want 80 pairs of shoes piled up by my door. And if it’s winter, what do you do with all of the coats and other outerwear for that many people?
I can’t think of a single occasion where I would want to host a party that large in my home, and my house is a decent size. For that many people I’d definitely be renting a venue somewhere just so I wouldn’t have to have them in my house!
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Post by piebaker on Oct 17, 2018 4:17:39 GMT
All I can think is what if someone breaks a glass? 160 bare or socked/stockinged feet with glass shards underfoot....
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Post by peano on Oct 17, 2018 4:31:26 GMT
We host a christmas party every yr. We usually have about 30 to 40 people here and stay on the 1st level of our home. We have all wood floors now, but in general, I have found that over the years there have not been many spills at all. Usually those happen in the kitchen while people are pouring a drink. I have also found that most people will take off their shoes when they enter if they see others have also done it at the door. We usually put our shoes in our entry and a towel on the floor if it is wet out and usually people come right in and take their shoes off. The ONLY disadvantage to people not having their shoes on is someone clipped their toenails last yr and left them all under my kitchen table. GROSS!!! Hubs and I usually clean up a bit and sweep if needed before we head to bed. I was pretty grossed out when I saw what I thought was crumbs, were actually toenails! Wait! What? Someone clipped their toenails in your kitchen during a party? I can't decide whether to laugh or cry. And questions. I have OH SO MANY questions. |
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Post by Jili on Oct 17, 2018 4:36:00 GMT
I would never host a party for 80 people. My house is far too small for that. The idea just makes my skin crawl with anxiety.
Now that that's out of the way, I would never ask my guests to take off their shoes. I rarely wear shoes around the house, but there are times that I do (sometimes I feel more productive with shoes on- I know, it's weird). I don't like to take my shoes off in other people's homes. I've been to a few parties where most people did, but sometimes the cleanliness of the floor makes me not want to even think about that!
If I ever were to have that many people over at once, I'd just arrange to have the carpets cleaned very shortly after the party.
I would also not tell people where not to eat. Especially if it's an adults-only party.
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Post by Basket1lady on Oct 17, 2018 4:38:00 GMT
I would never tell guests in my home to take off their shoes, although many people automatically do. I prefer to keep my shoes on even in my own house, and did even before I had foot problems. I prefer for visitors to leave their shoes on. I can mop the tile and we own a Rug Doctor that we use several times a year, so whatever. We have a very hairy, shedding dog. I do my best to keep after the dog hair but it’s a never ending task. Go ahead and leave your shoes on or take them off at your own risk. If you have on shoes or boots that are obviously covered with snow or poop, then sure, please take them off, but otherwise I would rather you just leave them on. I also wouldn’t want 80 pairs of shoes piled up by my door. And if it’s winter, what do you do with all of the coats and other outerwear for that many people? I can’t think of a single occasion where I would want to host a party that large in my home, and my house is a decent size. For that many people I’d definitely be renting a venue somewhere just so I wouldn’t have to have them in my house! That’s what the master bedroom bed is for! I can remember my grandma’s bed piled high with coats at Christmas. As for the shoes, I’m a leave them on kind of girl. Foot fug or shoe fug—neither are good. But I personally think it’s rude to ask your guests to remove their shoes. My SIL requires that and it’s a PITA. The dog steals shoes and I always step in a puddle putting them back on. Plus, my feet are cold from the tile floors. As for food, good luck. It’s Christmas. People are going to bring red food. But I would tell kids that food stays upstairs. I’m personally a fan of having the carpets cleaned AFTER the party. At our last Christmas gathering for all the cousins, No Shoe SIL had the carpets cleaned before the party. Little kids and a spilled glass of red wine on the (white) carpet means she no longer hosts parties at their house. Why have a nice house if you can’t have family over? If you’re going to host a party, just let people be and schedule the carpet cleaners for the next day. Everyone will be much happier. |
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Post by Legacy Girl on Oct 17, 2018 5:58:04 GMT
We host a christmas party every yr. We usually have about 30 to 40 people here and stay on the 1st level of our home. We have all wood floors now, but in general, I have found that over the years there have not been many spills at all. Usually those happen in the kitchen while people are pouring a drink. I have also found that most people will take off their shoes when they enter if they see others have also done it at the door. We usually put our shoes in our entry and a towel on the floor if it is wet out and usually people come right in and take their shoes off. The ONLY disadvantage to people not having their shoes on is someone clipped their toenails last yr and left them all under my kitchen table. GROSS!!! Hubs and I usually clean up a bit and sweep if needed before we head to bed. I was pretty grossed out when I saw what I thought was crumbs, were actually toenails! Ummm, you can NOT possibly be serious (though I'm sure you are). That may be one of the most bizarre (and disgusting) things I've ever read on 2Peas. Yep. This one takes the cake.  |
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Post by miominmio on Oct 17, 2018 6:07:17 GMT
No one would dream of wearing their shoes to a party here. You bring indoor shoes with you, problem solved. Walking around someone's house with dirty shoes, would be considered extremely rude.
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Post by miominmio on Oct 17, 2018 6:11:37 GMT
I have always thought the no shoes thing is bizarre. The floor is meant to be walked on. It’s not like people are walking on the ceiling where foot prints would show. It’s the floor, for god’s sake. So, no I would never ask anyone to take their shoes off. To me it’s like telling someone to take their pants off before they sit on my sofa. Bizarre. Why is it bizzare not wanting people to walk around your house with dirty shoes? Comparing it to asking people to removing their pants, is comparing apples to oranges. Unless a guest arrives with soiled pants, then I would definitely not let them sit anywhere. You bring nice shoes to wear indoors, and put the outdoor ones where you hang your coat. |
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