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Post by 950nancy on Oct 17, 2018 16:23:31 GMT
The staff likes having it change each year. The problem isn't finding a place. It was that the husband and wife disagreed on whether asking guests to take off their shoes was acceptable. I am a shoe person, but I have tons of friends who are shoes off people. Just wondered if there was a solution. And there is no way you can ask these teachers to shell out extra money to rent a place when restaurants and people volunteer the space for free.
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scrapngranny
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Post by scrapngranny on Oct 17, 2018 16:32:26 GMT
I would never ask someone to remove their shoes under any circumstances. I would not remove my shoes at a social occasion with a mixed bag group of 80 adults. If she is that up tight about her house, she should not host functions at her house.
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 17, 2018 17:26:08 GMT
We host parties and fundraisers all the time, upwards of 60 people attend regularly. My foyer is large enough for two chairs, a rolling coat rack, and a place to put shoes/boots. I would never force anyone to take their shoes off, especially if it is a dressy event. Shoes are part of the outfit. If you are a host, you have to get pretty comfortable with your house getting dirty. The person the OP is describing doesn't sound very welcoming, honestly. She is the kindest person. She is just reallllly neat and clean. I know they moved last summer, but I don't think it was a brand new house. I was more interested in what the Peas do for parties. I knew everyone would not agree. I was actually hoping to see if there was a solution to the disagreement she is having with her husband. Someone mentioned that they wear slippers. I think that could work as a contest. Not surprised that the thread came up with a possible solution.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Oct 17, 2018 18:40:17 GMT
It wasn't clear in the OP. We have a finished basement and have hosted many parties, it's pretty rare for people to wander downstairs without an invitation. If they don't want people to eat or drink downstairs, they shouldn't spread out into those areas. My guess is that with 80 people they would need that space. OP said the hosts house was about 3000sq ft. that is what our house is without the basement. My main floor is Large, but 80 people would be a tight fit! My house is 3600 SF and it would be crowded with that many people. I wouldn’t want anyone going up to my second floor which is where all the bedrooms are. My entire basement is my studio so I wouldn’t want people rummaging around in my stuff down there either. Even if it was set up as an entertaining area like the former owners had it, it would still only maybe accommodate another 15-20 people. Also, Basket1lady mentioned putting everyone’s coats on the master bedroom bed, but honestly I wouldn’t want to do that because I wouldn’t want anyone going upstairs at all. LOL, I guess it’s a good thing that I don’t have that many friends because the very idea of having that many people in my house at once makes me cringe!
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 17, 2018 19:16:43 GMT
I'm a bit confused on the "downstairs living areas" will the party primarily be held on a different floor? Is she hoping to keep them in the kitchen/dining room and away from the living room on the same floor? I haven't been in her new house, but the upstairs has the kitchen and living room and the downstairs has the big family room (as I understand it). I think the downstairs has nice carpet. She doesn't care where people go but worries about food being spilled downstairs. I had one of these parties at my house and we all fit and everyone just hangs out in different areas and mingles. Aside from the White elephant gift exchange (maybe 30 people) they don't ever stay in one space for long.
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 17, 2018 19:18:51 GMT
I don't care if people wear shoes or not in my house. It's a floor -- we're not eating off it. Besides, DH has neuropathies in his legs and has to wear shoes all the time. I'd hate to think he was unwelcome or considered dirty because of that. If the host really insisted, we'd go home. But we've been to plenty of peoples' houses that ask you to take off your shoes and the hosts were perfectly lovely about accommodating him. I could fit 80 people for a party. It would be squished, and I don't have 80 chairs, but we could do it. I've done 50 teenagers before (the German Exchange program when DD was in HS) and it was tons of fun. I've managed 25 for a sit down Thanksgiving, which I think would be a lot harder. We'd take over the kitchen, dining room, family room, and living room. They bring the chairs from the school. Since over half of them will be teachers, sitting on the floor is no big deal.
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georgiapea
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Post by georgiapea on Oct 17, 2018 22:06:51 GMT
My solution was that I wouldn't attend if expected to remove my shoes. I've never lived where that was customary and I'd feel really awkward doing so. It would take all the fun out of an event to be walking around unlocks or whatever. Have the party then shampoo the carpet.
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Post by darkangel090260 on Oct 18, 2018 5:54:14 GMT
Why don't someone just pick her up a pack of shoe covers? I mean they are cheap and would make he hostages job a little less stress. Shoe covers
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Post by gar on Oct 18, 2018 6:49:36 GMT
Why don't someone just pick her up a pack of shoe covers? I mean they are cheap and would make he hostages job a little less stress. Shoe coversBecause that'd look and feel even more weird!
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Post by anniefb on Oct 18, 2018 7:00:45 GMT
Shoes off is also quite common in New Zealand but I certainly wouldn't ask a large group of people to do it for a party. If there was an area I didn't want food taken I'd just close it off but with entertaining there's always some mess!
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Post by darkangel090260 on Oct 18, 2018 7:18:13 GMT
Shoes off is also quite common in New Zealand but I certainly wouldn't ask a large group of people to do it for a party. If there was an area I didn't want food taken I'd just close it off but with entertaining there's always some mess! how do you feel something over your shoes? I have some and never had a problem with using them. Some family and friend have the no shoe rule. I can't go without shoes anymore. So Keep a pair in our bag for each of us.
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