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Post by missfrenchjessica on Aug 19, 2019 1:50:27 GMT
May I join? I think I missed the original "join" post. I'm 47--I'll be 48 in October. I feel like I'm in my 30s though. I would have told you I felt like I was 60 in my 30s. I had so many health issues dragging me down and making me feel awful. Somehow, once I entered my 40s, I started getting better and feeling better and now I feel younger. I am, however, getting "forgetful"...the whole walking into a room and not remembering what I came in for. That is a bit annoying and reminds me I'm not as young as I feel.
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AllieC
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Post by AllieC on Aug 19, 2019 1:54:57 GMT
I'm 53 and feel about 40. Some days my body is tired and sore but I am happier in my own skin in my 50's than I have even been in my life. I am active every day which I've never been really. I have osteoarthritis in my knees and know that it is important to keep moving. I had a knee injury last year which I recovered from by also resulted in the arthritis dx. I do a combination of walking, online HIIT and toning type workouts and Pilates and my knees are very good by doing this. Being active and eating pretty healthy most of the time (no strict diet cutting out everything just mostly fresh food and not much processed stuff) and my menopausal symptoms have pretty much gone. I know that it is related as I've had times where I've relaxed everything when away for a couple of weeks and the hot flushes etc come back.
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Post by mom on Aug 19, 2019 2:03:56 GMT
I'm 48 but feel like 40, I think. I really like the wisdom that I feel being this age. More sure of myself, if that makes sense. Question - who knows anything about the FSH blood test? Just got my results and want someone to help me interpret. It said my value was 94.5. Does that mean I'm officially in menopause? I assume my Dr will call me, as I just saw the results online, but is this a reliable indicator?? Read this link.
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Post by 2marbles on Aug 19, 2019 2:06:28 GMT
I turned 53 in April, and I feel maybe 40...hard to tell, I was exhausted then, which I feel was not normal. I was very overweight. I had an 8, 6 and 4 year old then...life was one constant minivan ride. I was probably pre-diabetic and didn't know. Definitely anemic. I am still overweight, but 53 lbs lighter....I feel more like me. Kept it off for the past six years and I have changed my diet significantly and added intermittent fasting. SO MUCH BETTER! Life is slowing down a little with just one kiddo left at home, it's her senior year. I'm now gearing up for weddings and grandbabies (ok, maybe 8 years out or so...who knows!) I had an ablation in my 40's and that super helped too. Don't miss you, Flo! Made me giggle about that "fat old bat" LisaDV cuz my face is an entirely different shape now. I was always round-faced...now I see who I would have been if I had taken better care of myself. I'm liking it. For once it's about ME! I'm getting a cyst taken off next month that I've been putting off for braces and broken arms...SO EXCITED!
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 19, 2019 3:01:48 GMT
I'm 53 and feel about 40. Some days my body is tired and sore but I am happier in my own skin in my 50's than I have even been in my life. I am active every day which I've never been really. I have osteoarthritis in my knees and know that it is important to keep moving. I had a knee injury last year which I recovered from by also resulted in the arthritis dx. I do a combination of walking, online HIIT and toning type workouts and Pilates and my knees are very good by doing this. Being active and eating pretty healthy most of the time (no strict diet cutting out everything just mostly fresh food and not much processed stuff) and my menopausal symptoms have pretty much gone. I know that it is related as I've had times where I've relaxed everything when away for a couple of weeks and the hot flushes etc come back. What is online HITT?
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Post by georgie on Aug 19, 2019 4:22:13 GMT
Today I turned 65 I don’t feel it on the inside, but do on the outside. Had a wonderful day with family. Last fall we built a house on a very active family farm. Veggies, fruit, orchard and cider mill and a playground. Kids had a blast so did adults but the 92 degree weather did me in. My mom and watched from the air condition car. I was so happy to share this life with my family. They had not been here since we built the house. But I have fibro and with the weather and lots of great nieces and nephews to pick up I’m feeling it. I really wanted to be a fun nana. But sometimes my health slows me down.
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Post by pivibird on Aug 19, 2019 4:38:14 GMT
Happy Birthday Georgie!
I’m 59 and physically I feel every bit of that some days. I’m a nurse and I work 12 hour shifts in a Pediatric Cardiac ICU and I’m exhausted and aching after a shift. But mentally I feel 40ish.
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Post by ametallichick on Aug 19, 2019 7:52:06 GMT
I’ll be 55 in October and lately, I feel like shit. I have a cracked heel on my left foot that’s killing me when I walk. I used my little cheese grater thingy but nothing is getting rid of it permanently. I also did some work at my computer today and sat for a little too long and now my back is killing me. I need to lose a 100 pounds but right now, I just don’t give a shit. 😞
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Post by gar on Aug 19, 2019 11:25:56 GMT
in my 50's noticed that my eyebrows really lightened and thinned. Ha. Me, too. Such a weird aging thing. My mama is 94 and although she's lost a lot of strength and stamina, she's still in pretty darn good health. Hopefully, I got all her genes! Loss of muscle strength is something I’ve recently noticed too. I belly dance and do a stretch/yoga class but I need to start more walking I think. It’s quite disconcerting 🥴
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Post by gar on Aug 19, 2019 11:27:25 GMT
I'm 53 and feel about 40. Some days my body is tired and sore but I am happier in my own skin in my 50's than I have even been in my life. I am active every day which I've never been really. I have osteoarthritis in my knees and know that it is important to keep moving. I had a knee injury last year which I recovered from by also resulted in the arthritis dx. I do a combination of walking, online HIIT and toning type workouts and Pilates and my knees are very good by doing this. Being active and eating pretty healthy most of the time (no strict diet cutting out everything just mostly fresh food and not much processed stuff) and my menopausal symptoms have pretty much gone. I know that it is related as I've had times where I've relaxed everything when away for a couple of weeks and the hot flushes etc come back. What is online HITT? High intensity interval training - maybe Allie is finding them on you tube?
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Post by tracyarts on Aug 19, 2019 12:43:10 GMT
I'm 49, mentally I feel the same as I always have. How old do I feel? Ageless, because I have never "felt" any different at various stages of my life. I'm just me, and I feel like me. Age doesn't mean anything to me in that context.
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AllieC
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Post by AllieC on Aug 19, 2019 13:03:51 GMT
I'm 53 and feel about 40. Some days my body is tired and sore but I am happier in my own skin in my 50's than I have even been in my life. I am active every day which I've never been really. I have osteoarthritis in my knees and know that it is important to keep moving. I had a knee injury last year which I recovered from by also resulted in the arthritis dx. I do a combination of walking, online HIIT and toning type workouts and Pilates and my knees are very good by doing this. Being active and eating pretty healthy most of the time (no strict diet cutting out everything just mostly fresh food and not much processed stuff) and my menopausal symptoms have pretty much gone. I know that it is related as I've had times where I've relaxed everything when away for a couple of weeks and the hot flushes etc come back. What is online HITT? It’s HIIT (High intensity interval training) so an exercise program. @gar it’s a paid subscription but plenty of similar in YouTube to access.
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Post by farmgirl on Aug 19, 2019 13:12:31 GMT
I turned 55 this month and most of the time I feel 38-40ish. It all depends on my diet and exercise tho. I always said i didn't want to be one of those ol' ladies that said, "Oh I LOVE (insert favorite food here), but it HURTS me." Guess what? I've had to drastically cut down some food groups, cause, "they hurt me." Ugh. But i feel so much better when I'm taking care of myself, it's worth it.
I just try not to SAY that.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Aug 19, 2019 13:17:39 GMT
Turned 51 yesterday and while 50 didn't phase me much, yesterday I was like omg i'm headed for 60 now! A bit overreactive, but it's weird to think that's the next big birthday!
Have had a few health problems this past year that are now resolved and I have been feeling great and grateful! Only things making me feel 50 has been the rapid decline in eyesight (i'm late to this needing readers thing...but have arrived in a big way this summer.) Have noticed some joint aches over the summer, not sure if that is age related, menopause related (ovaries removed w/hysterectomy few months back) or something else altogether.
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Post by tmarschall on Aug 19, 2019 13:35:36 GMT
Invisibility...That's in interesting subject also. I totally get that, now that someone has mentioned it. I never really had a name for it, but now that you say it, I get it. It's not like you're the young thing anymore. You're just like someone's mom. Not attractive to men or women, per'se. Just a middle aged women blending in. Which yes, can be good and bad. This is a really interesting topic. I have definitely experienced in once in a while. U am usually put together...hair, clothing, a bit of makeup (I do this for me...I feel more prepared for the world when I am put together and feeling attractive). But when I am not and I run to the store or the laundromat with a ponytail, I do sometimes feel invisible. Add in that I am chubby, and I do feel it. But honestly, I feel it more when I am depressed or exhausted and in my own world, not making eye contact or smiling at people, just focused on paying for groceries or whatever. Not sure if that makes sense, but for me I think the invisibility comes more with what I am doing or not doing, how I am feeling or what I am projecting, more than my age. I do remember the point where my college students started talking about how their dads were such and such age and I realized the dads were younger than me. And that when I started teaching 8n my late 20's I was older sister material, and now I am straight up Mom material, with cultural references (Friends, Dirty Dancing, Brady Bunch) that are rapidly becoming IU bg obsolete with 18-22's. That has been a weird transition. Again, not having kids if my own puts me at a different life stage than my same age friends who have college kids or are beginning empty nesters.
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Post by garcia5050 on Aug 19, 2019 13:35:36 GMT
59 here. Physically I'm in pretty good shape. I've still got migraines but I've had those for the past 39 years so to me now they are just part of my life-I've gotten used to them, how to deal with them, etc. This makes me sad. I’ve had migraines since I was 11. I read that for a majority of people, migraines stop in the mid-fifties. This is the one thing that made me look forward to aging! I asked my dad a few years ago about his migraines (he’s 87), and he said he hadn’t had one in about 20 years.
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Post by Katie on Aug 19, 2019 13:44:32 GMT
I am 48, but mentally feel early 30’s. Physically though I am definitely feeling 40-something. I swear, the month I turned 40, it was as if a switch was flipped and the physical ailments came on HARD, lol!
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Post by kitkath on Aug 19, 2019 14:01:04 GMT
57, feel about 40. I don’t remember my age unless I look closely in the mirror or notice how wrinkly my knees are now! I have no health problems, menopause was a breeze, and honestly have a lot of energy. I took up running about 5 years ago and am decently fast for my age group. DH and I have been working on house and building projects together ever since we became empty nesters and that seems to keep up in shape too.
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Post by peano on Aug 19, 2019 14:14:24 GMT
I'm 60 chronologically, but my felt age is fluid depending on what's going on in my life. I've got a chronic pain issue and have had a recurrence of a medical condition this year requiring surgery, but I purposely try not to dwell upon this kind of stuff because that in my mind is a characteristic of an old person. I walk daily and have started weight training 2x/week to regain strength from the muscle wasting caused by the illness I had/have? I listen to my body as far as food goes and try to give it what it wants and makes it feel good, so I eat a pretty healthy diet 85-90% of the time. I've lost about 35 pounds this year resulting from the surgery, and intermittent fasting, and while my face has thinned out, I think it looks fairly unwrinkled when I compare it to my friends' (most of whom are 10 or so years younger than I am). Ten years ago, after the first incidence of the medical condition I had surgery for this year, when I started feeling better, I took a good look at the way I dressed, because I had been essentially wearing black yoga pants and trapeze tees daily to accommodate the large belly that came with my illness. I started following fashion blogs for women over 40 and reassessed my style. It became kind of a fun hobby for me, because I wanted to avoid the nondescript way of dressing that I see is common to women over 40. I did not want to "go gentle" when it came to the image I projected into the world; I wanted to resist that type of invisibility. I wanted to remain relevant and current with my image, while not lapsing into "mutton dressed as lamb" territory. I have a love/hate relationship with the invisibility thing that come with middle age. In fact, I thought I was totally invisible, but something happened recently that made me feel not invisible and it's sort of rocked my world. I cut off my hair a few months ago and it's a modern pixie buzz cut/long bangs kind of thing. I feel like it's very "me" and I feel very comfortable and good in my skin for the first time in a long time. I think I may be projecting this "good in my skin" feeling out into the world, but I have been unsettled by the attention I've gotten, that I thought was in the past. Because this issue has been on my mind a lot recently, this past weekend was really interesting. We went to two concerts: Mark Knopfler on Friday and Beck/Cage The Elephant/Spoon on Saturday. The crowds could not have been more different, of course. Mark Knopfler's was of my generation, and Beck et al were more my son's. At Mark Knopfler, I had the same feeling I have a lot when I'm with people around my own age, which is "wow, look at all these old people still hobbling out to go to concerts, LOL". But I didn't really feel out of place at Beck either. I still have a lot of processing to do. Thanks for starting this group. I think it's a great idea.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 19, 2019 14:14:24 GMT
It’s HIIT (High intensity interval training) so an exercise program. @gar it’s a paid subscription but plenty of similar in YouTube to access. Where do you get the subscription from? I struggle in the winter to find things to do. I like to walk when its nice out
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 19, 2019 14:15:29 GMT
I turned 55 this month and most of the time I feel 38-40ish. It all depends on my diet and exercise tho. I always said i didn't want to be one of those ol' ladies that said, "Oh I LOVE (insert favorite food here), but it HURTS me." Guess what? I've had to drastically cut down some food groups, cause, "they hurt me." Ugh. But i feel so much better when I'm taking care of myself, it's worth it. I just try not to SAY that Yes. The last 5 yrs I developed acid reflux. It sucks. I esp find it hard to eat pork.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 19, 2019 14:30:44 GMT
This is a really interesting topic. I have definitely experienced in once in a while. U am usually put together...hair, clothing, a bit of makeup (I do this for me...I feel more prepared for the world when I am put together and feeling attractive). But when I am not and I run to the store or the laundromat with a ponytail, I do sometimes feel invisible. Add in that I am chubby, and I do feel it. But honestly, I feel it more when I am depressed or exhausted and in my own world, not making eye contact or smiling at people, just focused on paying for groceries or whatever. Not sure if that makes sense, but for me I think the invisibility comes more with what I am doing or not doing, how I am feeling or what I am projecting, more than my age. I do remember the point where my college students started talking about how their dads were such and such age and I realized the dads were younger than me. And that when I started teaching 8n my late 20's I was older sister material, and now I am straight up Mom material, with cultural references (Friends, Dirty Dancing, Brady Bunch) that are rapidly becoming IU bg obsolete with 18-22's. That has been a weird transition. Again, not having kids if my own puts me at a different life stage than my same age friends who have college kids or are beginning empty nesters Oh, I totally get that, and know what you are saying. When I 1st started my job..35 yrs ago. I was the youngest. NOW I am the oldest. YIKES.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 19, 2019 14:40:42 GMT
Because this issue has been on my mind a lot recently, this past weekend was really interesting. We went to two concerts: Mark Knopfler on Friday and Beck/Cage The Elephant/Spoon on Saturday. The crowds could not have been more different, of course. Mark Knopfler's was of my generation, and Beck et al were more my son's. At Mark Knopfler, I had the same feeling I have a lot when I'm with people around my own age, which is "wow, look at all these old people still hobbling out to go to concerts, LOL". But I didn't really feel out of place at Beck either. I still have a lot of processing to do. My dh and I will occasionally go out to eat, and stop at a local bar for a drink before we head home. We used to say..oooh! we are the youngest ones in here. Now we are... We ARE the oldest. Sometimes we feel like we fit right in depending on the crowd, and sometimes it's like. ahh, HELL no!! ha
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Post by Judy26 on Aug 19, 2019 14:43:02 GMT
I’m 61. My fifties were a wake up call. While I felt young, things were starting to slip. I used to worry about physical appearance... small things like eyebrows and nails and gray hair. I lowered my give a shit factor for those types of worries and now tend to focus on the long haul. Mental health, mobility and general healthy living are my priorities now. What I look like - not so much.
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Aug 19, 2019 16:16:25 GMT
I'm 50 and feel 35 when I get enough sleep and rest and I feel 45 on a normal week. I have an amazing amount of energy when I can sleep on a natural cycle and not have to get up so early for work. When I get 5 or more days off of work (rarely) and I'm able to stay home without a vacation or anything else to do I can not believe how good I feel and all.of.the.energy I have!
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Post by stittsygirl on Aug 19, 2019 16:35:28 GMT
I’m 50. I mentally feel like I’m in my 30s, and I think still having two young-ish teenagers in the house helps with that. Health-wise I’m probably healthier overall now than I’ve been since my early 20s. I was able to lose 70lbs. three years ago and have kept it off so I know that’s a big part of it. I’ve learned to moderate my eating better and know which foods help that and which foods can trigger the desire to overeat in me.
With the weight loss though came a lot more overall body pain, especially in my joints. I don’t know why yet but sometimes my back, legs, knees and hips make me feel very old. Constant movement is the best thing to help alleviate that, so I try to stay as active as I can.
With the weight loss also came the desire to want to dress better and work more on my skin and hair. It’s been fun. I’m pretty much all gray now but I have an excellent colorist who keeps my blond close to what I was born with. I love having my eyebrows and eyelash extensions done too, and I’m using much better products on my skin. I see the difference and I feel good about my appearance.
My husband and I have been going through a transition period in our marriage (nearly 25 years now) and it’s been a roller coaster, but things are level right now. I’ve battled depression my whole adult life, and while I haven’t been on medication for a few years I’m starting to have some dark thoughts creep back in. I’m going to seek out some therapy for that. Otherwise I’m fairly content where I’m at in life and really want to focus on supporting my children more, the teens and the young adults.
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Post by Fidget on Aug 19, 2019 16:40:08 GMT
I'm 61 and feel 45 most days.
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 19, 2019 17:06:32 GMT
I'm 51 and I would say most days I feel 40ish.. in my mind though I can feel 20ish... lol... especially when I am with my BFF since high school. So people tell me ALL the time I look 29. I honestly don't know how they come to that conclusion. If they don't know the ages of my kids that is where the guess goes. Then I add I have a 24, 23 and 11 year old they are shocked and I don't think they are just being nice. It happens a lot. BUT my mom was the same way.. she never ever looked her age. She is 80 and could pass for late 60s. I would say just recently I am noticing that she 'is' looking closer to her real age.. but she still looks awesome. I just say all my fat hides the wrinkles! Things I have noticed in the last few years. Eyesight drives me nuts. I have 2 different prescriptions.. One pair is just for computer, the other pair are the progressive ones.. up close, far away and reading. I tend to see floaties more often and had that checked.. I thought my eyesight was getting worse. Nope, you get older you see floaties. Oh okay, never heard that before. Getting up and down off the ground all of a sudden sucks. Hurts my knees like hell. I was cleaning the bathtub yesterday and dang, my knees were killing me. I was helping DD move furniture, well now I am the one carrying the light items, not the big heavy stuff. (I don't mind that at all...lol) I don't have to take any medications and basically everything is good inside. I do need to start watching my sugar intake, that is getting away from me.. (damn love for sweet tea!!) but hopefully with trying to lose some pounds that will help that out. I had (or really still have) that planters thing in my foot.. it's doing good but for about a year it was so HARD to walk, I am so glad that is on the back burner.. hopefully for years.
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Aug 19, 2019 17:31:02 GMT
I will be closing in on 55 in a couple months...yikes!! I feel like I am still 40ish. Besides needing to wear readers to see anything up close and sciatic issues that come and go, I feel pretty good. Our last kid <------ is in college and we have the empty nest thing. It's a bout 50/50 for me..sometimes I love it, sometimes I am lonely.
Some people are shocked to know I have a 30 year old son. Sometimes they mistake us for husband and wife. That does NOT make him happy!! "That's my mom, dude!"
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Post by JoP on Aug 19, 2019 17:40:28 GMT
I’ll be 57 in a couple of months. I feel like I’m in my 40’s. I’ve never liked exercising but I’ve recently started walking between 4 and 6 miles three times per week. I know I need to watch my diet as I gain weight quite easily. Thanks for starting the thread cindyupnorth
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