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Post by Deleted on Sept 24, 2019 3:15:05 GMT
Do you always attend both the ceremony and reception? We received an invite, but wedding is at 2pm and reception doors don’t open until 4pm with dinner likely not starting until after 5-5:30 if that.
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Post by ~summer~ on Sept 24, 2019 3:21:35 GMT
I've never attended only the ceremony. It is usually seamless between the two. What are you specifically concerned about?
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Post by cindyupnorth on Sept 24, 2019 3:30:15 GMT
That sounds about right? What’s the problem? Wedding most likely an hour. Puts you at 3. Greeting line, travel, puts you at 4.
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Post by freecharlie on Sept 24, 2019 3:34:37 GMT
Almost always.
We did once go to ceremony only due to scheduling conflict and we went to reception only of friends who were LDS and we weren't allowed in the ceremony
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Post by hop2 on Sept 24, 2019 3:35:20 GMT
That sounds about right? What’s the problem? Wedding most likely an hour. Puts you at 3. Greeting line, travel, puts you at 4. plus photos |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Sept 24, 2019 3:35:49 GMT
We’ve gone to weddings like that before and it’s a hassle, especially if you have kids attending with you that you need to keep clean or entertained.
Wedding at 2:00 wouldn’t end until 2:30-3:00, they’re likely doing photos in between but that leaves all the other non-family guests with nothing to do for a hour to an hour and a half. If you don’t want to go to one part or the other, then just don’t. It’s really likely no one will even notice.
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Post by myshelly on Sept 24, 2019 3:40:27 GMT
I would be SO ANNOYED with an invite like this. Ridiculous.
Reception should be immediately following wedding. It is the obligation of the hosts to feed and entertain the guests while the wedding party is doing photos and whatever else needs to be done.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Sept 24, 2019 4:30:29 GMT
I would be SO ANNOYED with an invite like this. Ridiculous. Reception should be immediately following wedding. It is the obligation of the hosts to feed and entertain the guests while the wedding party is doing photos and whatever else needs to be done. The only time I've ever gone to a wedding where the reception immediately followed the wedding was if the wedding and the reception are at the same place. I've always had at least a thirty minute travel time to any reception venue. |
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Post by ~summer~ on Sept 24, 2019 4:36:05 GMT
I agree though that usually weddings don't make you 'wait' in between. It is usually seamless. Like you arrive at the reception and they serve you Champaign and appetizers while the wedding party does their photos etc. The only time we had a big gap in between was one of my best friends from college, her wedding was on Long Island and the wedding was at noon but the reception wasn't until the evening. We had quite a while to kill. But that is the only time, out of like a dozen weddings I have been to that they do it like that. But all her peers on Long Island did it how she did it. You even change clothes between the wedding and reception!
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Post by jemali on Sept 24, 2019 4:40:04 GMT
My DD is getting married in 3 weeks. It is being held at the arboretum. The wedding is st 4:15. Seating for the dinner is at 6:00 and being served st 6:30. In between the wedding and dinner, the couple will mingle with guests and take photos with them. There are flower gardens between the place the wedding is and the building the dinner is in. There will be golf carts to transport anyone who is not able to walk between them, but it’s not that far for most people. Now we just have to hope for good weather!
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Post by AllieC on Sept 24, 2019 5:01:10 GMT
I've never gone to a ceremony and not the reception (or vice versa). That time frame is very common here - wedding and about 2 hours before reception opens. Most people will choose a pub and go and have a drink or two. There isn't enough time for anyone to get drunk and often it is nice to be able to catch up with family/friends because sometimes you don't get the chance if you are sitting separately. In hot weather I have been known to go home/hotel and take my wedding clothes off then re-dress later LOL.
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Post by valincal on Sept 24, 2019 5:31:31 GMT
We skipped a wedding ceremony for the first time this past July. We are casual friends of the parents and don’t know their son and his bride at all. There were several other people that we knew at the reception so we attended that and had a good time.
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Post by cycworker on Sept 24, 2019 5:53:03 GMT
Timing sounds pretty standard to me. That said - I live in a town where everything is like 15 minutes away, it seems. My parents, when I was a kid, would sometimes have one of them go to the ceremony, then come back & pick me & the other parent up for the reception.
I like being able to pop home or back to the hotel room between the ceremony & the reception.
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Post by lucyg on Sept 24, 2019 6:24:52 GMT
I’ve never actually attended a wedding that had a big time gap between ceremony and reception. I’ve only heard about them here.
I guess I might skip one or the other if that were the case. Would not want to have to kill several hours in between.
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Post by hannahruth on Sept 24, 2019 9:00:33 GMT
I've never gone to a ceremony and not the reception (or vice versa). That time frame is very common here - wedding and about 2 hours before reception opens. Most people will choose a pub and go and have a drink or two. There isn't enough time for anyone to get drunk and often it is nice to be able to catch up with family/friends because sometimes you don't get the chance if you are sitting separately. In hot weather I have been known to go home/hotel and take my wedding clothes off then re-dress later LOL. This ^^^^^ |
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Sept 24, 2019 9:25:28 GMT
That sounds about right? What’s the problem? Wedding most likely an hour. Puts you at 3. Greeting line, travel, puts you at 4. Yes, I agree with this. Plus, once you arrive at the venue, there is usually cocktail & appetizers. |
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Post by cakediva on Sept 24, 2019 10:01:30 GMT
I would be SO ANNOYED with an invite like this. Ridiculous. Reception should be immediately following wedding. It is the obligation of the hosts to feed and entertain the guests while the wedding party is doing photos and whatever else needs to be done. And yet here that is the standard. Ceremony in the early afternoon and dinner at 5-6ish. Usually when it is a church wedding. I’ve hardly ever not been to a wedding done this way. But with the current trend with our circle of family and friends moving away from church ceremonies the ceremony and reception are at the same site. Still a gap between ceremony and dinner though while the couple has photos done. But the bar is usually open and apps are circulating. |
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Post by christine58 on Sept 24, 2019 11:04:21 GMT
We received an invite, but wedding is at 2pm and reception doors don’t open until 4pm with dinner likely not starting until after 5-5:30 if that. That's not a huge time gap at all. If you don't want to go to the ceremony..don't. |
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Post by pierkiss on Sept 24, 2019 11:05:09 GMT
That timeline sounds right to me. I think our wedding was at 2, and the reception was at 5? We needed time for photos. My out of town relatives either went to my parents house to visit, or went back to their hotel for a rest. Some checked out our downtown area/hit the beach. Same with my husband’s out of town guests.
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Post by pierkiss on Sept 24, 2019 11:06:52 GMT
I would be SO ANNOYED with an invite like this. Ridiculous. Reception should be immediately following wedding. It is the obligation of the hosts to feed and entertain the guests while the wedding party is doing photos and whatever else needs to be done. 😂😂😂 |
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Post by eastcoastpea on Sept 24, 2019 11:42:30 GMT
My DD is getting married in 3 weeks. It is being held at the arboretum. The wedding is st 4:15. Seating for the dinner is at 6:00 and being served st 6:30. In between the wedding and dinner, the couple will mingle with guests and take photos with them. There are flower gardens between the place the wedding is and the building the dinner is in. There will be golf carts to transport anyone who is not able to walk between them, but it’s not that far for most people. Now we just have to hope for good weather! It sounds lovely. We're going to want to see pictures! |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Sept 24, 2019 11:52:15 GMT
I'd attend both.
My boss's daughter is getting married next May and there will be no choice there. They are marrying on a mountaintop in NC on Friday with just immediate family. The reception is Saturday back in our town and will be a very casual barbecue affair. So we are, of course, only attending the reception for that one.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 24, 2019 11:59:34 GMT
I have been to weddings where the gap between ceremony and reception was way too long, one we had to literally just stand around for two hours with nothing to do. There was no food or drink brought round not even a bar to buy your own, it was quite honestly awful and badly planned.
I think we'd only do the reception in future, I'm not a fan of wedding ceremonies anyway and if I thought one was going to last an hour I'd be staying at home.
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Post by disneypal on Sept 24, 2019 12:00:07 GMT
I always attend both - it is often a long time between the ceremony and reception due to the photos that are taken after the wedding of the wedding party.
I love how my niece did it when she got married - she did all of her photos a week or so before the wedding. She said it didn't matter to her if the groom saw her in her dress before the wedding and she didn't want to hold her guest up for the reception. So right after the ceremony, the reception started.
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Post by summer on Sept 24, 2019 12:05:57 GMT
I always attend both. That timeline sounds like every wedding I've attended. I'm failing to see the issue.
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Post by iowgirl on Sept 24, 2019 12:24:25 GMT
We almost never attend the ceremony.
Farm life factors into that one. Cattle have to be fed twice a day, and going to an afternoon wedding, followed by reception and supper doesn't work time-wise for us, so we just go to the reception/supper.
But I am always overjoyed when they actually state a time when those start!
But most have always flowed seamlessly from wedding to reception to ceremony, with open doors and drinks and apps ready for early birds.
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Post by MorningPerson on Sept 24, 2019 12:29:14 GMT
This general timeline is very common in my experience, and I have no problem with it. Weddings tend to bring together people who aren't often together, whether extended family or old friends, and it's nice to be able to spend extra time with them. It's a very rare wedding (again, in my experience) where they don't provide drinks and hors d'oeuvres for that in-between time.
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Post by kelly8875 on Sept 24, 2019 12:33:21 GMT
The timing between the two events seems about right to me. But I’ve gone to one or the other and not both before. It depends if something else was also the same day. It’s not. Big deal if you can’t go to both, as long as you rsvp that way.
And it’s not the bridal party’s obligation to keep you entertained between events. We’ve gone to have a drink between events if there’s a little too much time. No biggie.
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Post by tyra on Sept 24, 2019 12:56:40 GMT
If I go to the reception, I go to the ceremony. Think it is only right. The only time we skipped any part of a wedding we were invited to was when we had a trip planned and were leaving at 8pm at night to drive through the night to get to PA. Good friends were getting married the same day, and their reception was no kids. So we went to the actual wedding, then came home, loaded the car and left for PA. When I got married, there were some that didn't come to the actual wedding, just the cocktail hour and reception. That left kind of a bad taste in my mouth. Don't know why. Kinda felt like they didn't want to be a part of such a huge moment in mine and DH's life, but totally willing to come drink and eat.  |
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Post by just PEAchy on Sept 24, 2019 13:03:37 GMT
I would go to both, the timeline sounds fine to me. I know that when I got married, the latest I could have the ceremony at my church was 2:00. There was no way I would have then had dinner at 3:00 or 4:00. Mine was similar to the OP, doors at reception opened at 4:00 with drinks & appetizers.
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