Do you sometimes feel bringing children into this world....

No. Not at all. How else will there continue to be good people in the world if we're not willing to raise them?

I have been so proud of the words my DD has posted on FB the past couple of days. (DS doesn't do social media)

I definitely feel like I've contributed to making the world better by putting those two young people in it.

I think every generation ponders that and yet life goes on.

Yes. For me personally though, not in judgement of others. Personal family circumstances plus the world and I am filled with regret for the lives I’m responsible for.

If not the next generation, then who? Who can make this world a better place? I feel that with each generation we have seen progress and changes that the world needs. My kids are wonderfully woke, compassionate, kind, loving kids who are making changes in my community. They are doing things that I just was either not aware of, or couldn't do it myself. I have hope for the future of this world because of my kids.

Children are always a gift ... they are resilient ... they can change the world      

I’ve felt that way a lot in the past 5-6 years and it just happened to coincide with the timeframe I really needed to make family planning decisions. I’m 35 now and dating the most suitable co-parent I’ve ever loved so it’s a real sore spot nowadays. Just this weekend we were outside laying on a blanket and I starting crying. My angry/sad cries are silent hot fast flowing tears so when we got up he complained that the oil in my hair ruined another of his shirts LMAO. I didn’t have the heart to tell him it would dry. Glad it wasn’t apparent because we haven’t seriously discussed children yet though I have ruined all of his shirts with my castor oil drenched locs.

May I share a relevant bible verse?


“Cast thy bread upon the waters; for thou shalt find it after many days. Give a portion to seven, yea, even unto eight; for thou knowest not what evil shall be upon the earth. If the clouds be full of rain, they empty themselves upon the earth; and if a tree fall toward the south, or toward the north, in the place where the tree falleth, there shall it be. He that observeth the wind shall not sow; and he that regardeth the clouds shall not reap. As thou knowest not what is the way of the wind, nor how the bones do grow in the womb of her that is with child; even so thou knowest not the work of God who doeth all. In the morning sow thy seed, and in the evening withhold not thy hand; for thou knowest not which shall prosper, whether this or that, or whether they both shall be alike good.

Yea, if a man live many years, let him rejoice in them all; but let him remember the days of darkness, for they shall be many. All that cometh is vanity.”
Ecclesiastes 11:1-6, 8 ASV

My two oldest kids are biological. When they were teenagers my husband and I decided we wanted more. At the time I was still able to have kids but there’s so many other kids that needed a home. We adopted three from foster care. I want to say everyone has to do what’s right for them and their family.

With global ecosystem collapse and global warming I’m scared for my kids’ kids. I always have been.

I regret everything. I would never have kids now. I regret having the ones I did, although I love them with my whole soul. I am too broken to give them the life they deserved. The world is too broken to be a safe home for them.

My parents were born in 1937 and both had younger siblings. I wonder if my grandparents felt the same way when they were young, and WW11 unfolded. My grandparents were born in the 1900s - their parents had to face WW1 and then the Spanish flu outbreak with little ones.
Our world has always had tragedies and dark times and we have come through the other side. I am now grandparent age, and do not regret having children at all. I have a 14 month old grandchild, who took a lot of medical assistance to even be conceived, and I am so glad her parents didn't think the world was too hard to bring a child into - she is a light of love and hope and a reason to act for change in these difficult times.

I expect this question has been asked throughout the centuries. There has always been horrors, bloodshed, plagues etc. and we endure. We cope with what we are given and we still endure. Children are hope.


Lol gar I hadn't read your post and I see we are thinking alike. 

I joined a new moms group, and we were having a similar discussion. The consensus is that we hope our kids will be leaders who affect change and grow up with more awareness than any of us have had.

Besides, there’s no doubt that there will continue to be people who raise their kids to have racist views. There need to be more who don’t.

Never.  And that one child could be the one person that might do some real good for the world.