I'm really sorry to see leowife gone.

Is being called a twat across the pond as ugly as it is here?

That was the beginning of the end for her. I feel she hung in for the card swap but finally got tired of the ugliness of so many and the hate directed at her. 

Before we get all up in arms over the "mean liberals" chasing leowife away from the board, let me ask this: in all the threads in which someone tried to get her to see the other side, did she ever REALLY accept that her view was not the only possible way to see something?

I remember a conversation about police brutality (one of many, unfortunately) when "liberals" were complaining about the overreaction of police. She chimed in with her usual "my husband is the perfect officer who would never do that and neither does anyone else in is unit and everyone just needs to do a ride-along to see how bad it really is for the officers." Never mind that she was given multiple examples (with video) of police overreacting, including the George Floyd case, and yet she still could not bring herself to admit that police could ever be wrong.

I suppose there might be few cases where she empathized with the victims of police brutality, but she would have followed up with "it's only a few who do this and my husband would never." I never met her husband, but given that the psychology of "white privilege" includes the inability to recognize your unconscious bias, I seriously doubt he is as pristine and pure as she thinks he is when it comes to race relations.

I don't think she has the capacity for self-reflection to see how her attitude (and possibly her husband's) might be part of the problem.

100% this. Many peas tried to get her to see the real problems. But she continually came back with her white lensed LEO views.

And she herself said hurtful things about BLM and police brutality.

It is not going to go well when you have a racist view point on POC topics. 🤷‍♀️

YES to both of these comments.  I'll add that it is not longer OK to sit idly by and ignore when people spew their racist bullshit.  It needs to be called out.  If you don't, then you are just as guilty of it.

There is no reasoning with racists.  I'm not going to play nice with them.  EVER.  If that makes me a "pitchfork pea", I will wear that badge proudly.

Based on her posts in the past few months, I think she probably should have taken a break much sooner than this.

I've "only" been around for about 8 years so really can't say what things were like 15+ years ago. I will say that I agree with gmcwife1 that a huge difference was the size and activity of the board - even in the last 8 years. My mom was an ancient pea - although never made the leap to the new board. She used to talk about some nasty, nasty peas but had very little trouble avoiding them as there were lots of places to "play" on the board. Now it's harder and harder to avoid the annoying peas. It's not just that the political discussions are heated - it's that the vast majority of threads are either completely inactive or devolve into the same ugliness. It's at the point where I will not be at all surprised when there's a post about illness/death and people will wade in to be ugly and we'll lose the last vestige of our supportive community.

But we are frequently called "mean" - or have passive aggressive posts like this one (the OP) directed at us - for calling out bullshit. 

I don't think your more reasonable view is shared by many of the right-leaning peas, who seem to feel that they should get to say anything they want unchallenged here.

I did not agree with Leowife at all on one of her original threads.  My husband was a victim of police aggressiveness  and I posted my position on it.  But she is allowed to have her opinion as well.  That is what annoys me about this board.  People are mocked and called names and cussed at if they dare to have a different opinion. We should be able to disagree and have a conversation without tearing each other down.  I know I am probably wasting my breath posting this, but so be it.  

Or threaten to take my kids away.

Because that’s a thing nice, normal, reasonable people say all the time/sarcasm.

But I didn't do that. I do still think that you're the biggest danger to your kids that there is right now.

I don't know...I saw somebody yesterday (wasn't paying attention to who it was, but I know others agreed with them) that said they didn't care if there were any conservatives on this board or something to that effect. It made me sad overall to see where we are as a country as somebody who is pretty much in the middle. I used to be pretty conservative. Now I'd identify as more fiscally conservative but socially liberal. I think A LOT of people identify that way, but there's not a candidate for us. That said, I'm open to hearing from either side of the main party and as somebody in that position, I feel confident in saying that BOTH sides are too extreme these days. It's really awful. I wish more people could be on the outside looking in and see how awful they are treating each other and be willing to listen and learn from each other. 

She is certainly entitled to her opinion. But we are also entitled to express our opinions that she is tone deaf and doubles-down when she is clearly wrong. This thread includes multiple examples of how she never engages in self-reflection but instead doubles-down on her "victimization" as the wife of an LEO and the "discrimination/persecution" they face, even when peas who disagree with her position are expressing empathy for her DH and her situation. It is especially telling on page 8 where she absolutely defends an awful traffic stop (which is recorded on time-stamped video proving the person being pulled over acted quite reasonably) with a "but what if policy requires ...." when even if policy required what she said it did, it was still a horrible way to approach the stop. She never ONCE acknowledged the aggressiveness of the officer in this police stop and just kept defending it.

That pretty much describes her interaction on most LEO threads.

I’m really put off by the continuing insistence that Trumpism is just another political belief and these are just political differences. Pretty much the whole world, except for American Trump supporters, agrees that he and his views are dangerous and disgusting.

Please stop equating Trumpism with legitimate political beliefs. This is not an “only my way is right situation.” This is evil vs. not evil, plain and simple.

One big difference, the liberals didn't run off like big fucking babies.