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Post by OntarioScrapper on Oct 3, 2021 14:36:42 GMT
Update #2: On Friday afternoon I got a call from the vets office. DD had been there yelling and screaming that her dog was dying and that I had poisoned him. They examined the dog and could find nothing wrong with him. Then she began yelling and screaming that they were poisoning the dog with his seizure medicine. They escorted her out and called me. I explained to them that she is mentally ill and if she came back to call the police. Friday night she sent me some ugly messages about how me and my family are all part of a cult. That's angels were telling her that we were all going to hell. Yesterday morning I called the police nonemergency line and talked to a very unfriendly female police officer requesting a well check from them. The officer would not even listen to my story. She cut me off and was very rude. If that's not an advertisement for how we need more social workers and medical personnel to work cooperatively with police I don't know what is. Her boyfriend called me late last night. The police did come by to check on her but she wasn't there. Well apparently she didn't drink all day and she had a seizure. He called 911 and they came to check her out. Her vitals were good and she refused to go into the hospital. But late evening she had completely unraveled and she accused the boyfriend of being a demon and involved in the same cult as the rest of the family. She told him he was trying to poison her with the seasonings he put in her dinner food. He immediately called the police. When the police got there she told the police all if this. And they asked her how to spell her last name and she couldn't. They asked her her birthday and she didn't know what it is was. They took her into the hospital. She went willingly. The boyfriend told her he was going to call me and she didn't protest. He called me around midnight last night and I rushed up to the hospital ER but they wouldn't let me see her. She was incapable of communicating whether she wanted me there or not. So I came home and went to bed. I am grateful that she had a meltdown and is finally in the hospital. I am hoping that they keep her on a psychiatric hold. I am sure (having been through this before myself) they will drug test her and give her a CT scan to make sure she doesn't have something going on with her brain. Anyway, I just wanted to say right now I'm relieved that she is there and will finally get a proper evaluation and hopefully some kind of treatment. I'm so sorry your daughter has to go through this and the family. My Mom is bi-polar. When I was a kid I didn't know what was going on when she'd go off her meds and have to be put in the psychiatric ward until they got her meds in control again. The most you can do is be there for her and help out when you can. I know that feeling of just wanting things to be alright with my mom. My 17 year old has anxiety and depression. Currently on some meds. Isn't a fix it all kind of thing. Will probably have to deal with this his whole life. And I've told him we will always be there for him no matter what happens. It can be exhausting but you are a great parent! |
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Post by tincin on Oct 3, 2021 14:39:34 GMT
I’m so sorry that you’re having to go through all of this. I agree with you, hopefully your DD will get the help she needs now.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 3, 2021 14:43:18 GMT
OntarioScrapper you're right, meds aren't a fix all for mental illness. There are many days for me that I have to employ a whole arsenal of tools to get me through the day. And that is actually doable when meds are working properly. I send my best wishes to your child and you, who parents that child.
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Post by flanz on Oct 3, 2021 14:49:53 GMT
Oh JG, I'm hoping and sending oodles of positive thoughts that this hospitalization will truly be the beginning of a turnaround for you DD - and for you and your entire family. I can't imagine the heartache of watching her become more and more sick and being helpless to "fix it." (((( HUGS )))) I'm hoping that you can truly enjoy today, knowing that your dd is safe and that she won't be coming around to cause grief. Much love to you, dear friend.  |
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Post by OntarioScrapper on Oct 3, 2021 14:54:24 GMT
OntarioScrapper you're right, meds aren't a fix all for mental illness. There are many days for me that I have to employ a whole arsenal of tools to get me through the day. And that is actually doable when meds are working properly. I send my best wishes to your child and you, who parents that child. Sending you HUGS.  His one medication was increased recently. There is an improvement but the doctor doesn't want to give him too high of a dose because of his age. He actually got his anxiety under control then the pandemic hit. The school is great working with us though. He has a success teacher who is awesome. Normally this would be his graduation year. Won't be happening. And that's okay. We will help him get there, just will take longer. |
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Post by seaexplore on Oct 3, 2021 14:56:06 GMT
While I dislike this update because I know your mom heart is hurting, I’m very thankful your DD is in a hospital at the moment. Hopefully they will hold her and get her back on the road to recovery.
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Post by sean&marysmommy on Oct 3, 2021 15:01:40 GMT
Oh my goodness, I'm just now reading this and wanted to send you hugs. I know the fear and worry has to be overwhelming. Huge hugs. I'm glad your daughter is safe for now!
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Post by kenziekeeper on Oct 3, 2021 15:04:45 GMT
Thinking of you and I’m so glad your daughter is getting the help you know she needs. Hugs!
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Oct 3, 2021 15:05:57 GMT
Here's hoping this is the moment that changes some things for your daughter... and for you all. Sending a big hug.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 3, 2021 15:10:47 GMT
flanz I do feel a sense of relief right now. I'm hoping I get an update today. Either from her, the hospital, or the boyfriend. Hopefully she reaches out to somebody. For now, I've had my coffee. And I'm just planning to crochet today.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Oct 3, 2021 15:22:56 GMT
Just wanted to say that I’m sending vibes/thoughts of love, positivity, and healing your way.
I’m so sorry that you’re struggling 😭😭😭
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Post by flanz on Oct 3, 2021 15:25:48 GMT
flanz I do feel a sense of relief right now. I'm hoping I get an update today. Either from her, the hospital, or the boyfriend. Hopefully she reaches out to somebody. For now, I've had my coffee. And I'm just planning to crochet today.  What are you crocheting? I always love to see your projects, you're so talented. I'm glad you have a hobby that soothes you. Bonus - you create lovely items to be enjoyed by yourself and others! <3 |
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Post by malibou on Oct 3, 2021 15:27:06 GMT
My mama heart hurts for you.
I hope that they can hold her for a few days and get her stabilized. And certainly wish for her to get meds that work and a plan to help keep her safe when things get rough.
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Post by scrapmaven on Oct 3, 2021 15:33:25 GMT
Your dd is in the best place possible. I truly hope that they will they will be able to send her to a treatment hospital where she can really get the right meds and therapy. This is such an ordeal for you and my mama heart goes out to you, as does my friendship heart.
Can you try and contact her attending and give them some info, asking for a longer term inpatient stay?
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Post by JustKim on Oct 3, 2021 15:33:45 GMT
You have a lot of posts here and I will say I have not read them. First off hugs! My dh and I have gone through a lot with our drug addicted son. Year 3 we started al anon. Best thing we could have done. Gave us the strength to set our boundaries. After 2 more years of trying to help and the last escalated behaviors we got a restraining order. We learned it’s not our fault!! We can’t fix, save, help,or change anyone. But our boundaries give us peace as we released all of the responsibilities to the person who owns them which is not us! It is the hardest thing we have done as parents. We so wanted to fix things because that’s what we do from day one. But it’s not for us to fix. Again hugs to you!
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 3, 2021 15:33:46 GMT
flanz I do feel a sense of relief right now. I'm hoping I get an update today. Either from her, the hospital, or the boyfriend. Hopefully she reaches out to somebody. For now, I've had my coffee. And I'm just planning to crochet today. What are you crocheting? I always love to see your projects, you're so talented. I'm glad you have a hobby that soothes you. Bonus - you create lovely items to be enjoyed by yourself and others! <3 I've been working on my skull blanket this weekend. I should be done with this section shortly and I will add a pic to the craft thread. |
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Post by TXMary on Oct 3, 2021 15:34:12 GMT
I am so, so sorry. I just want to give you a big hug. I hope that she can finally get some help. Prayers for all.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 3, 2021 15:35:00 GMT
Your dd is in the best place possible. I truly hope that they will they will be able to send her to a treatment hospital where she can really get the right meds and therapy. This is such an ordeal for you and my mama heart goes out to you, as does my friendship heart. Can you try and contact her attending and give them some info, asking for a longer term inpatient stay? I'm unsure. Right now I have no details. I am hoping she reaches out to me. Or the hospital does. I think I'm her emergency contact. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 3, 2021 15:38:23 GMT
You have a lot of posts here and I will say I have not read them. First off hugs! My dh and I have gone through a lot with our drug addicted son. Year 3 we started al anon. Best thing we could have done. Gave us the strength to set our boundaries. After 2 more years of trying to help and the last escalated behaviors we got a restraining order. We learned it’s not our fault!! We can’t fix, save, help,or change anyone. But our boundaries give us peace as we released all of the responsibilities to the person who owns them which is not us! It is the hardest thing we have done as parents. We so wanted to fix things because that’s what we do from day one. But it’s not for us to fix. Again hugs to you! I'm so sorry about your son. Addiction is a terrible thing. |
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Post by quinlove on Oct 3, 2021 15:41:38 GMT
You may not feel it ~ But, you are our hero.
Sending love to you ❤️
eta - I can only speak for myself here. When I say hero - I admire the wise and thoughtful way that you conduct your life. A lot gets thrown at you and you do persevere, you handle it well, with everyone’s best interests at heart. I see this in you all the time. You’re a super mom and woman. That’s a hero in my book.
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Post by mom on Oct 3, 2021 16:06:53 GMT
Sending you love, my friend. Try and take this time to rest and relax- she is getting the help she needs and is safe. ❤️
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Post by KelleeM on Oct 3, 2021 16:16:06 GMT
I’m glad she’s in the hospital. Sending love and prayers. And a giant hug.
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Post by newfcathy on Oct 3, 2021 16:22:11 GMT
Sending you love & hugs. What a horrible day for you. Thank heavens that she got admitted. It must have been so difficult holding strong against her abuse but it is necessary for your mental well-being.
We are here to support you through these tough days.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 3, 2021 16:22:42 GMT
How incredibly stressful. Hoping the hospital will keep her for a while so you can get a slight break from worrying about her/your safety.
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Post by tanya2 on Oct 3, 2021 17:00:04 GMT
 I hope that they can help her at the hospital. I'm so sorry |
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Post by desertgirl on Oct 3, 2021 17:34:26 GMT
All of the arrows and some new ones, too, girlfriend. I so wish I lived in your city. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 3, 2021 17:48:04 GMT
All of the arrows and some new ones, too, girlfriend. I so wish I lived in your city. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I can only imagine the kind of trouble we'd get into.  |
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Oct 3, 2021 18:23:56 GMT
I'm thankful she's being cared for. It needed you not being there for her, for that to happen. You did the right thing, heart-breaking as it was. Well done. Lots of hugs to you all.
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Post by flanz on Oct 3, 2021 18:46:21 GMT
You may not feel it ~ But, you are our hero. Sending love to you ❤️ eta - I can only speak for myself here. When I say hero - I admire the wise and thoughtful way that you conduct your life. A lot gets thrown at you and you do persevere, you handle it well, with everyone’s best interests at heart. I see this in you all the time. You’re a super mom and woman. That’s a hero in my book. Amen! Sitting on that bench with you quinlove! |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 3, 2021 18:48:07 GMT
You may not feel it ~ But, you are our hero. Sending love to you ❤️ eta - I can only speak for myself here. When I say hero - I admire the wise and thoughtful way that you conduct your life. A lot gets thrown at you and you do persevere, you handle it well, with everyone’s best interests at heart. I see this in you all the time. You’re a super mom and woman. That’s a hero in my book. You are too kind. I assure you I'm having just as much trouble with this as anyone else would. |
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What are you crocheting? I always love to see your projects, you're so talented. I'm glad you have a hobby that soothes you. Bonus - you create lovely items to be enjoyed by yourself and others! <3
