|
Post by freecharlie on Oct 31, 2021 15:32:57 GMT
The gift giving threads made me wonder.
I didn't put zero because if you don't have any, you wouldn't be buying gifts.
I have 3
|
|
janeliz
Drama Llama
I'm the Wiz and nobody beats me.
Posts: 5,641
Jun 26, 2014 14:35:07 GMT
|
Post by janeliz on Oct 31, 2021 15:47:44 GMT
5 nephews and 2 nieces. All are adults now.
Two of the nephews are on my husband’s side and he usually hands them some cash if we see them on Christmas day. My side of the family typically draws names for a gift exchange. So sometimes we’re buying for a nephew and niece, and sometimes not.
|
|
|
Post by myshelly on Oct 31, 2021 15:51:52 GMT
7 kids and 2 adults
|
|
|
Post by ntsf on Oct 31, 2021 15:57:13 GMT
4 adults. at this point, none of them will have kids, and my own kids won't have kids.. so the family will not continued. there is a slight chance that could change. but not my kids.
|
|
QueenoftheSloths
Drama Llama
Member Since January 2004, 2,698 forum posts PeaNut Number: 122614 PeaBoard Title: StuckOnPeas
Posts: 5,955
Jun 26, 2014 0:29:24 GMT
|
Post by QueenoftheSloths on Oct 31, 2021 15:58:32 GMT
I have 6 and have never bought any of them a gift.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Oct 7, 2024 19:28:18 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2021 15:59:18 GMT
8 - 5 on DH's side and 3 on my side. They range in age from 23 to 10 years. The 23 year old ( on DH's side) has now moved in with her fiance) I will be buying the 23 year old a joint present with her fiance. The other seven I will be buying individual gifts for.
|
|
Kerri W
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,790
Location: Kentucky
Jun 25, 2014 20:31:44 GMT
|
Post by Kerri W on Oct 31, 2021 16:08:41 GMT
Ha!
On my side, I have 21 nieces and nephews and 32 great nieces and nephews.
On DH's side, we have 9 nieces and nephews and 18 great nieces and nephews.
Not counting any spouses. I am one of 8 children and DH is one of 4.
**Family get togethers on my dad's side, if we all attend, are easily 100 people once we include my siblings, their children and grandchildren, and my dad's sister and a couple cousins that regularly attend. We're a big group.
|
|
RosieKat
Drama Llama
PeaJect #12
Posts: 5,538
Jun 25, 2014 19:28:04 GMT
|
Post by RosieKat on Oct 31, 2021 16:09:40 GMT
2 nieces, and that's all we're likely to ever have. I have no siblings and DH has one who is divorced and unlikely to have more kids. The girls are still very young, so we buy for them and the sibling does buy for my kids. I'm not sure what we'd do in a large family, though.
|
|
|
Post by malibou on Oct 31, 2021 16:10:03 GMT
7 nieces, 7 nephews, 5 great nephews, 3 great nieces
ETA I don't buy Christmas or birthday gifts for any of them, but I do send random gifts to the greats.
|
|
|
Post by craftedbys on Oct 31, 2021 16:19:15 GMT
I have 7, all adults and all married but 1. I also have 12 great neices/nephews.
My two kids are the youngest grandchildren and eight years younger than their next closest cousin. For years and years I bought birthday, Christmas, graduation, and wedding (including 2 or 3 second marriages) gifts. Until I had had enough of them being happy to get the gifts but couldn't even acknowledge that they received it, much less a verbal thank you.
My kids stopped being acknowledged by my bothers/SILs after they were christened at a few weeks old. My sister acknowledged my kids until she died ten years ago.
Both of my children have graduated high school and 1 college without so much as a freaking card from my siblings.
I had started making quilts and blankets for the greats but even those went unacknowledged even when I gave them in person. If your child is old enough to speak, they are old enough to say thank you when prompted and the fact that you couldn't even be botherd to tell your child to say thank you showed me it really didn't mean anything.
BTW the one exception to that was my great nephew that when he got his quilt he got so excited and was like thankyouthankyouthankyou over and over again.
|
|
peabay
Prolific Pea
Posts: 9,891
Jun 25, 2014 19:50:41 GMT
|
Post by peabay on Oct 31, 2021 16:21:15 GMT
9, but 8 are adults. I still buy Christmas presents for the 10 year old.
|
|
|
Post by ~summer~ on Oct 31, 2021 16:24:05 GMT
I have 3 ages 21,19 and 13. Last year was the first year we did not buy gifts and did not get together. I don’t think we are getting together this year either - and I think I am done buying gifts.
|
|
|
Post by workingclassdog on Oct 31, 2021 16:47:12 GMT
Six 3 on my side and 3 on DH side.
We don’t exchange gifts on my sister’s side. It’s mutual. No biggie. We do with DH side.
|
|
|
Post by alsomsknit on Oct 31, 2021 16:47:17 GMT
DH’s side: 2 F, 1 M. All adult. We have no relationship with them due to their mother.
My side: Also, 2 F, 1 M. The adult F shuns us, as does her mother and my mom. It breaks my heart, as she spent so much time at our home when she was younger. The other 2 are under 5. Thankfully, this sister is following in my footsteps regarding the cult we grew up in. It’s wonderful to have little ones in the family again.
|
|
|
Post by natscraps on Oct 31, 2021 16:47:40 GMT
Niece and nephew on DH’s side are close in age to DS who’s 6 and grateful children so we’ll be buying for them for awhile.
Our 4 godchildren (my bff’s kids) are older. They range in age from 14-21. We stopped gifting them except for really big occasions because they are unfortunately some of the most ungrateful children you’ve ever met. And DS is rarely acknowledged by their family.
|
|
|
Post by padresfan619 on Oct 31, 2021 16:49:08 GMT
2 nieces and 2 nephews all under 12. We buy them each one gift for Christmas.
|
|
|
Post by stampnscrap1128 on Oct 31, 2021 16:49:15 GMT
1 adult niece. 2 adult nephews (one of whom passed away a few years ago in a motorcycle accident).
|
|
sueg
Prolific Pea
Posts: 8,420
Location: Munich
Apr 12, 2016 12:51:01 GMT
|
Post by sueg on Oct 31, 2021 16:55:16 GMT
My side of the family - 10 nieces and nephews ranging in age from 42 down to 8, and 4 great nieces aged from 21 down to 4 months. DH’s family - 4 nephews and a 2 month old great nephew. We no longer buy presents for birthdays or Christmas, party due to age and party due to the cost of sending things half way around the world - and that was pre-pandemic, which has just made the logistics near impossible.
|
|
peasquared
Drama Llama
Posts: 5,683
Jul 6, 2014 23:59:59 GMT
|
Post by peasquared on Oct 31, 2021 16:59:22 GMT
We have 17 nieces and nephews that we buy a Christmas gift for. Once you get married, you no longer get a gift. If you have a child, they get added to the list. One reciprocates with a gift to our three GKs. But, that's not why we do it. We just want to give the kids a few minutes of fun, competing with each other to see who can get it open first.
Have to say, its hard coming up with new ideas, so if anyone has any, I'd be beyond grateful!
|
|
|
Post by iamkristinl16 on Oct 31, 2021 17:11:08 GMT
That's a complicated question. My parents were divorced. Here is our family dynamic:
I have two full siblings (they are twins). One has two children, one has two biological, one adopted, and two foster kids.
I have four half siblings. Only one has kids so far (2 kids).
My mom remarried and I have two step-siblings. They each have two kids.
My dad died and my stepmom remarried. Her husband has three kids (I consider them stepsiblings?). Two of them have three kids, one two so far.
So, in total there are 21 nieces/nephews (not counting my four kids, but also counting the two foster kids).
Each side does something slightly different with gift giving. On my mom and stepdads's side, we usually have the kids draw names. At my stepmom's side we don't draw names and we don't buy for nieces/nephews. However, the year before last I noticed that the stepsiblings gave each others kids gifts. I was a little put off by that. When I was growing up we would go to my stepmom's extended family for Christmas (they have been together since I was 5 or 6 and my brothers were 2 or 3). All of the other kids would have a lot of gifts to open from their aunts and uncles and grandparents. My brothers and I usually got one small gift from the grandparent. It was really awkward and uncomfortable when others were unwrapping presents for a long time and we just sat and watched.
I understand that we live farther away and are not as close to the stepsiblings but I think it would be more sensitive to others for them to exchange their gifts separately rather than at the family gathering if not everyone is included in that.
|
|
|
Post by originalvanillabean on Oct 31, 2021 17:15:14 GMT
16
|
|
SabrinaP
Pearl Clutcher
Busy Teacher Pea
Posts: 4,408
Location: Dallas Texas
Jun 26, 2014 12:16:22 GMT
|
Post by SabrinaP on Oct 31, 2021 17:16:23 GMT
I have 9 all 16 and under. I grew up in a big family though. My mom is one of 10 and dad is 1 of 9, so it was never a thing growing up. We have done different things like drawing names, but we don’t currently buy for the nieces and nephews.
|
|
|
Post by 5peanutsnana on Oct 31, 2021 17:22:32 GMT
All on my side. (DH is an only.) 23 nieces and nephews, 39 greats and 2 great greats...and counting.
|
|
johnnysmom
Drama Llama
Posts: 5,684
Jun 25, 2014 21:16:33 GMT
|
Post by johnnysmom on Oct 31, 2021 17:22:34 GMT
16. I’m one of 4, my one sister has 8 kids (the oldest is married), brother has 4 and other sister and I each have 2. Then dh’s brother has 2. We no longer do cousin/niece-nephew gifts on my side. We do on dh’s.
|
|
Gennifer
Drama Llama
Posts: 5,171
Jun 26, 2014 8:22:26 GMT
|
Post by Gennifer on Oct 31, 2021 17:30:42 GMT
I counted for that thread last night… I have 40. 8 of them are partnered, and there are 6 great-nieces and -nephews from those partnerships.
(I have 7 siblings, DH has 5. Neither of our parents are divorced; those are all full siblings.)
|
|
paget
Drama Llama
Posts: 7,039
Jun 25, 2014 21:16:39 GMT
|
Post by paget on Oct 31, 2021 17:43:31 GMT
I have four- one on my side. My brother married a woman with a child - he was around 7 when they married. And my sister has no kids by choice.
Dh has four sisters and there are 3 (2 nieces/1 nephew) on that side.
|
|
|
Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Oct 31, 2021 17:45:46 GMT
I'm an only child as is my husband. But he has two stepsisters, so we have a nephew from each and we buy for both.
We also buy for our two godchildren.
My first husband had two siblings and five nieces/nephews. We bought for the ones who were still young, but eventually stopped as the family didn't gather for the holiday anymore once we moved out of state and stopped hosting the gathering (nobody wanted to travel 'that far.')
|
|
|
Post by lisae on Oct 31, 2021 17:58:14 GMT
I'll still answer zero. That's the only thing I don't like about being an only is there was no chance to have a niece or nephew. I have a lot of cousins but I don't do regular gifts - just graduations, weddings, births and an occasional surprise.
|
|
|
Post by arielsmom on Oct 31, 2021 18:07:07 GMT
I thought I had 12, now all adults, all on Dh side of the family, since I am an only. Imagine my surprise, at a baby shower, when during introductions, I said I was an aunt to the mom to be, when dh's oldest sister announced to the group that I was not an aunt but was married to the uncle. You could have heard a pin drop. Cut me to the core, still hurts 10 years later.
|
|
|
Post by anniefb on Oct 31, 2021 18:22:13 GMT
Only 1 niece aged 8 who I definitely buy for. Close family is very small - it's only me my brother, sister-in-law and niece and one aunt (two aunts passed). I buy everyone gifts.
|
|