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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Oct 31, 2021 18:29:55 GMT
Only 4, two on each side as we are both from small families. I have two sisters and all of us had an only child, while DH has one sister and she has two children. The age range is from 40 down to 23. On my side there is just one great grand nephew, while DH has two great grand nieces.
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MDscrapaholic
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Oct 31, 2021 18:49:49 GMT
I thought I had 12, now all adults, all on Dh side of the family, since I am an only. Imagine my surprise, at a baby shower, when during introductions, I said I was an aunt to the mom to be, when dh's oldest sister announced to the group that I was not an aunt but was married to the uncle. You could have heard a pin drop. Cut me to the core, still hurts 10 years later. I am sorry, that was cruel!
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Post by sean&marysmommy on Oct 31, 2021 18:53:15 GMT
Just 2 for me! I'm an only child, and my husband only has one sibling. My BIL and SIL have 2 kids, my niece and my nephew.
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Oct 31, 2021 18:59:17 GMT
That's a complicated question. My parents were divorced. Here is our family dynamic: I have two full siblings (they are twins). One has two children, one has two biological, one adopted, and two foster kids. I have four half siblings. Only one has kids so far (2 kids). My mom remarried and I have two step-siblings. They each have two kids. My dad died and my stepmom remarried. Her husband has three kids (I consider them stepsiblings?). Two of them have three kids, one two so far. So, in total there are 21 nieces/nephews (not counting my four kids, but also counting the two foster kids). Each side does something slightly different with gift giving. On my mom and stepdads's side, we usually have the kids draw names. At my stepmom's side we don't draw names and we don't buy for nieces/nephews. However, the year before last I noticed that the stepsiblings gave each others kids gifts. I was a little put off by that. When I was growing up we would go to my stepmom's extended family for Christmas (they have been together since I was 5 or 6 and my brothers were 2 or 3). All of the other kids would have a lot of gifts to open from their aunts and uncles and grandparents. My brothers and I usually got one small gift from the grandparent. It was really awkward and uncomfortable when others were unwrapping presents for a long time and we just sat and watched. I understand that we live farther away and are not as close to the stepsiblings but I think it would be more sensitive to others for them to exchange their gifts separately rather than at the family gathering if not everyone is included in that. x 1,000! That is such a thoughtless thing for adults to do to children!
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Oct 31, 2021 19:05:00 GMT
I have one step-niece. My brother (no bio children) married her mother when she was 18, and she was very rebellious and not interested in having any relationship with my parents or me and my family. Now she's an adult in her 30's and is a very nice adult, but we don't get together with them for Christmas. I send a food gift (Harry & David or similar) to my brother, his wife, daughter and son-in-law. (they live across the street from each other). The niece and her DH have chosen not to have children - if they had little ones, I'd probably send a gift for the child.
I wish I had a larger family/.
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Peal
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Post by Peal on Oct 31, 2021 19:12:52 GMT
22 on DH's side (and a bunch of greats) and 6 on mine. We no longer buy gifts for extended family. My family does a Christmas activity together in lieu of gifts.
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iluvpink
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Post by iluvpink on Oct 31, 2021 20:11:41 GMT
Five.
However for various reasons I'm only close to one of them. I do send my one half sister gift cards for her children.
My other niece (dh's brother's dd) we rarely see. Long, messed up story. I have bought her presents in the past, but not always depending on relations. Some years I didn't even know where she was living, especially when with her mother. Thing seems more stable now, so we'll see this year.
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Post by Linda on Oct 31, 2021 20:27:36 GMT
my side - 4 adults, 2 teens - roughly 15-44
DH's side - 9 adults - all 30s and 40s
We also have grand niblings
my side - 3 small children I've never met (they live overseas)
DH's side - I think we're at 28 now ranging from toddler to nearly 30
And Great Grand niblings
none yet on my side
three, I think, on DH's side - newborn to about 5 I think(there might be more)
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Post by epeanymous on Oct 31, 2021 20:29:24 GMT
I am an only child. DH’s brother has two kids.
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Post by Linda on Oct 31, 2021 20:33:21 GMT
I understand that we live farther away and are not as close to the stepsiblings but I think it would be more sensitive to others for them to exchange their gifts separately rather than at the family gathering if not everyone is included in that. when my MIL and SILs were still alive and MIL hosted the big family gathering, my kids were mixed in age-wise with MIL's great grandchildren and of course, that meant my SILs were all grandmas...so there were always loads of gifts from the SILs to their grandchildren and often those kids were also opening gifts from their parents and Santa as well. MIL was no longer gifting at that point so my kids didn't have anything to unwrap. I always made a point of reminding them before we went that their presents were under our tree at home and they would open them there but their cousins would be opening their presents at Grammy's. They handled it fairly well but it was never my favourite part of the gathering.
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Gennifer
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Post by Gennifer on Oct 31, 2021 21:16:02 GMT
I thought I had 12, now all adults, all on Dh side of the family, since I am an only. Imagine my surprise, at a baby shower, when during introductions, I said I was an aunt to the mom to be, when dh's oldest sister announced to the group that I was not an aunt but was married to the uncle. You could have heard a pin drop. Cut me to the core, still hurts 10 years later. Yikes. I do sometimes refer to some of them as “my niece/nephew” or “DH’s niece/nephew” but it’s only when I’m speaking to someone who knows some of them… more as a “my niece/nephew but not someone you know so don’t bother asking” thing.
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Post by chaosisapony on Oct 31, 2021 21:33:23 GMT
0 nieces and nephews by definition but I often think of my cousin's kids in that way.
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Post by shamrock on Oct 31, 2021 21:53:50 GMT
I now have 5. BIL has 2. My brother just had a baby and also gained 2 steps daughters. It’s been fun because they are the only nieces/girls on both sides of my family.
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Post by freecharlie on Oct 31, 2021 22:12:28 GMT
I thought I had 12, now all adults, all on Dh side of the family, since I am an only. Imagine my surprise, at a baby shower, when during introductions, I said I was an aunt to the mom to be, when dh's oldest sister announced to the group that I was not an aunt but was married to the uncle. You could have heard a pin drop. Cut me to the core, still hurts 10 years later. that would irritate me,, but I know there were/are peas that think the same way. I'm a family is family person. Cousin's kids call me and introduce me as aunt all the time. We vacationed this summer and met up with dh's brother's first wife and her significantother. They had split, but not divorced when I started dating dh. We still think of each other as SILs as she had my niece. Anyway, she said she started just saying that she was meeting up with niece's uncle as explaining our dynamic was complicated.
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Post by freecharlie on Oct 31, 2021 22:13:22 GMT
0 nieces and nephews by definition but I often think of my cousin's kids in that way. Me too
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ModChick
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Post by ModChick on Oct 31, 2021 22:18:33 GMT
0 me and dh are both only children.
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Post by gillyp on Oct 31, 2021 22:35:43 GMT
I thought I had 12, now all adults, all on Dh side of the family, since I am an only. Imagine my surprise, at a baby shower, when during introductions, I said I was an aunt to the mom to be, when dh's oldest sister announced to the group that I was not an aunt but was married to the uncle. You could have heard a pin drop. Cut me to the core, still hurts 10 years later. Wow, that was unkind. I would be hurt too, and I wouldn’t forget. I have 4 nieces, 5 great nieces and 3 great nephews ranging from 55 to 5. I was an auntie at 10.
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Post by littlemama on Oct 31, 2021 22:51:29 GMT
On my side, none. I also have no first cousins.
On dh's side. Full brother- 3 adult Half brother #1 - 2 adult, 3 kids Half sister- 2 adult Half brother #2 - 4 kids Step sister- 2 adult. 1 kid
We only bought Christmas gifts for the kids of the one full brother because that is the only one we spent holidays with. That is also the one who is an asshole and whose wife is am asshole, and their kids are assholes. Lol
Dh's cousin's 3 girls also call us aunt and uncle and they are the nieces of our hearts.
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Post by Neisey on Oct 31, 2021 23:08:12 GMT
1 niece who is 5. She is 15 and 17 years younger than my girls. I buy birthday, Christmas and just because gifts for her because I enjoy doing it and I’m able to. My brother (her father) cannot reciprocate to the same level due to finances but he ALWAYS calls on birthdays and gives cards and small GC for Christmas which are both much appreciated. .
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Post by 950nancy on Nov 1, 2021 1:01:23 GMT
Nine on my husband's side. Zero on mine. Our kids were younger and before we had them we bought for all nine for birthdays and Christmas for 7 years. Then my two came along and it was too many to buy gifts. While my kids were never lacking in gifts, it also so happened that no one was around to help babysit after we took 6 of those nieces and nephews for weeks during the summer and holidays so their parents could have a break or we could be responsible for taking them to sports camps. Then they all became too busy to watch ours. Clearly I am not bitter. We got one 10 hour night off in return.
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Mystie
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Post by Mystie on Nov 1, 2021 1:21:37 GMT
Two nephews, six nieces. Oldest is 24, youngest is 16.
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Post by huskermom98 on Nov 1, 2021 1:54:16 GMT
I have 14 via my full siblings, 12 via step-siblings (one has passed), and 5 on DH's side. I call my step-siblings' kids niece/nephew even though I still refer to my step-siblings as steps--mostly to differentiate between them and my 5 full siblings. The kids on both sides of my family are all aged from 4-22. DH's are older than our boys; 2 are married and one of them has twin girls (but we haven't seen the mom in years).
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Post by worldwanderer75 on Nov 1, 2021 2:10:46 GMT
8 on my side, plus 3 great nieces/nephews 30 on DH side We do not buy everyone gifts. We do a family gift for Christmas (something like a board game or movie tickets). Nothing for birthday unless we are with the kid on their bday (like we live near 5 of those nieces/nephews and usually get together for cake and will bring a gift then).
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Nov 1, 2021 2:14:19 GMT
We have 23 nieces and nephews, 11 great nieces and nephews, and 7 God children.
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Post by cmpeter on Nov 1, 2021 2:54:50 GMT
6 - 3 nieces and 3 nephews. 26, 21, 13, 11, 10 and 7.
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Post by janamke on Nov 1, 2021 3:31:28 GMT
3 of my own (only one brother). I have 5 more from step siblings. My husbands side there are 5 plus 5 adult step nieces/newphews in law. So 18 in total.
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Post by used2scrap on Nov 1, 2021 5:30:17 GMT
1. How come this poll doesn’t allow for a zero response though?
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Post by katiejane on Nov 1, 2021 7:51:24 GMT
12. Ranging in age from 4 to 26. We buy couple gifts for those who are married or living with partners and individual gifts for the others. We spend boxing day together to not buying a gift would be weird.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2021 8:23:34 GMT
1. How come this poll doesn’t allow for a zero response though? It's a spin off of the gift buying thread. From the OP
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Post by momto4kiddos on Nov 1, 2021 11:52:32 GMT
I have 5 - the 2 on my side we buy for; the 3 on dh's side we don't. The family is not close, rarely see each other and never have bought gifts for each other (they never bought for our kids when they were young either.)
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