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Keep reaching out to connect with us and with other people.  When my first husband left, I was working crazy hours on a work project - the whole department was. At Thanksgiving that year, I planned nothing.  I looked forward to having 4 days with nothing to do.  I was miserable because I had 4 days to dwell on everything. So when Christmas rolled around, I had things planned and it was better even when he called and asked to pick up his furniture the day before he knew I had company coming.  He had had 4 months to get that furniture but no, he waited until right before Christmas.  Sorry, I digress. 

It's hard this year with the virus still with us but whatever you can plan even if it is a Zoom call with a friend rather than in person, it helps.

I haven't read all the posts yet, but as a special needs mom, I need to give you a big huge thank you. Besides your shitty home stuff, I'm sure there are hard days with behaviors and medically fragile kids.

It's been a rough few months and just today, my son's teacher texted me and asked if he pooped. From a woman with a newborn who may or may not have epilepsy. Yesterday, she said I hope you have a crappy weekend, literally. 😆

I'm really going to miss his teacher and aides when break starts on Thursday.

((Hug)) I'm sorry.

I haven’t read all of the post yet. I’ve been busy with my thoughts and feelings as I’ve found out I am needing to have surgery again. I went in to see my gyn. He said that he was pretty sure the only fix was surgery and he was not the one and told me I needed to find a urologist and he could recommend one or I could find one but whichever, he would send over the referral. I barely made it out of the office before crying. I sat in the parking lot for what seems like forever. I’m struggling with this and no one knows how much.

If no one knows, that’s what we - a fine bunch of no ones - specialize in. I’m sorry for your news and hope the referral works out. Keep us posted.

I'm one episode in and it's intriguing! Guess I'll stick with it based on your post!

Yay!!! He signed... 1 more step forward... i know it doesn't feel like it but progress baby!! Hell yeah!!!

You just gotta put 1 foot in front of the other to get thru this weekend... its gonna suck!!! Hard!! But you got this... you are strong enough to handle it

Just sending a hug to @mrsdepp

freecharlie, do not let him get under your skin. "His lawyer says", is just a mind game. You have a full time career and your dh and his lawyer are trying to intimidate you. Remember, that's their job. If I was your dh I would want to play w/your mind, make you scared and do all that I could to get you out of the house w/o my money. Whenver he tells you something, document it and remember to tell your lawyer at your next meeting. Your dh is really a rotten egg isn't he? Believe absolutely nothing he tells you. Nothing. He's a lying, scumbucket and he's worried that you'll take him to the cleaners. GOOD! Make sure he gets stuck in the spin cycle.

As for Bunco, when I was going to my first Bunco night, years ago my sister told me that it would be Yahtzee for winos. She was right. I don't drink, but it was a chance for moms to get out of the house for the evening enjoy some nice wine and appetizers and play an easy game. I miss Bunco night.

His lawyer is trying to scare you. Ignore him and only listen to your lawyer. Is STBX the one telling you all this? I would not be discussing the weather with him.

Youve done the right thing by offering your kids choices as to what to do. It’s hard but you’re doing the right thing. 

Are you exercising? Getting outdoors everyday? They both will help calm you. ❤️

EXCELLENT! Everything you pay down is less to deal with later. You got this!