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Post by coaliesquirrel on Jul 25, 2022 11:55:40 GMT
I remember when it happened. Comforting soft hugs and wishes for peace to you.
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Post by MissBianca on Jul 25, 2022 12:25:02 GMT
I don’t have any wise word to share to take the pain away so I’m sending you virtual hugs and lots of love and light your way. I too can not fathom it’s been 10 years, I can see your post clearly in my head to this day. I’m sorry things have not gone well with your daughter. Hopefully some day she will understand that the decisions you have made in the past 10 years have been the best you could do in a difficult situation.
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Post by Skellinton on Jul 25, 2022 12:37:01 GMT
I am so sorry for what the past 10 years has put you through. I am glad you posted though and hope you feel the love and support from all of us. Gentle hugs to you.
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Post by MZF on Jul 25, 2022 12:40:23 GMT
10 years. Wow. I’m sure it feels like yesterday and another lifetime all at the same time. ❤️ So true. (hugs) to you
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Post by lavawalker1 on Jul 25, 2022 12:53:03 GMT
I’m not very good with words, but I’m praying for you and your daughter.
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Post by malibou on Jul 25, 2022 12:58:57 GMT
Wishing you and your daughter peace. It was most definitely a life altering event. I truly hope you and your daughter find a path forward that brings you together.
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Post by stormsts on Jul 25, 2022 13:04:41 GMT
Those photos are heartbreaking. I am sorry you and your daughter are not in a good place.
I am hoping coming here will help you.
Hugs.
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Post by bbkeef on Jul 25, 2022 13:05:03 GMT
Just know I am thinking of you and your daughter. My DH and I were in a wreck in 1998 and sometimes the anger over how it's changed our health still comes up.
Hugs and prayers sent to you.
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Post by dawnnikol on Jul 25, 2022 13:09:47 GMT
<3
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Post by auntkelly on Jul 25, 2022 13:10:50 GMT
I’m so sorry for all you’ve been through.
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Post by KikiPea on Jul 25, 2022 13:16:18 GMT
I can’t believe it’s been 10 years. Those photos are shocking!
I have never experienced such a horrific situation myself, so all I can offer are my thoughts and prayers for peace, comfort and healing for both you and your daughter.
Big hugs to you.
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Post by danor98 on Jul 25, 2022 13:17:27 GMT
Thinking of you and your daughter at this time. Praying for strength and comfort for you. You always have a place to talk. We will be here for you❤️
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Post by quinlove on Jul 25, 2022 13:19:26 GMT
I truly hope that you are comforted by all the love being sent to you. ❤️
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Post by cannmom on Jul 25, 2022 13:20:41 GMT
I’m so sorry you are struggling. Sending you good thoughts and hoping you can find some peace.
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Post by epeanymous on Jul 25, 2022 13:22:57 GMT
Those photos are terrifying. I am so glad you are still here, and so sorry for what you have been through.
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Post by cat2007 on Jul 25, 2022 13:23:16 GMT
Wow. 10 years. It seems like you were just letting us know about it.
Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.
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Post by twistedscissors on Jul 25, 2022 13:34:30 GMT
Prayers for you and your daughter. 💗
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Post by maurchclt on Jul 25, 2022 13:38:20 GMT
Hugs, sending strength and peace.
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Post by kate on Jul 25, 2022 13:45:16 GMT
Ten years - that's a big anniversary. I, too, remember when it happened. Such a terrible, terrible shock and loss of everything "normal".
I got goosebumps seeing those photos. God bless you. I also pray for healing between you and DD.
You are entitled to any and all the feelings that bubble up, especially today. I hope that in the midst of those feelings you can also feel so many of us lifting you up.
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Post by scrappert on Jul 25, 2022 14:15:46 GMT
It is hard to believe it has been 10 years. I think of you often and wonder how you are many times.
Sending warm hugs to you.
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Post by koontz on Jul 25, 2022 14:20:26 GMT
Those photos are horrible. I am so very sorry. Sending you peace on this difficult day and I hope you and your daughter find a way through the pain towards each other.
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Post by katybee on Jul 25, 2022 14:25:54 GMT
Hugs to you. It’s OK to let people down sometimes. Focus on yourself and your own mental health right now. They will understand. ❤️
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Post by Basket1lady on Jul 25, 2022 14:29:04 GMT
I don’t have any wise word to share to take the pain away so I’m sending you virtual hugs and lots of love and light your way. I too can not fathom it’s been 10 years, I can see your post clearly in my head to this day. I’m sorry things have not gone well with your daughter. Hopefully some day she will understand that the decisions you have made in the past 10 years have been the best you could do in a difficult situation. I tell myself this a lot with my father. He did the best that he could at the time. But it took a lot of years for me to get to that point. I'm sorry for the pain that you have gone through. What a difficult anniversary to remember. Please be kind to yourself.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jul 25, 2022 14:35:49 GMT
I don’t know that I should post here. I have let several peas down lately as I disappeared when they needed me. Of course, you should post. In all relationships there are times when you give more and times when you receive more. You need us now. That's all that matters. My mother died here at my home on July 5th after us caring for her for five months with support from hospice. There were threads by peas that I care deeply about before and during that time that I simply couldn't wrap my head around enough to respond to. One pea in particular that I regret I didn't offer more to when something horrific happened to her. But I trust that as 'family' we show each other a little grace. We are glad you are reaching out even if you don't know quite what you are needing. We'll be here. And we sincerely hope it helps.
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Post by hop2 on Jul 25, 2022 14:53:46 GMT
Wow, 10 years, it does & doesn’t seem that long at the same time.
Hugs.
No matter how long it’s been it will always be difficult for you. Or at least in my experience time doesn’t help totally with things like this. Things can still affect you and come at you. The only thing time did for me was allow it to catch me off guard. Which is sometimes worse.
Many hugs to you while you navigate thru your feelings.
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Post by hop2 on Jul 25, 2022 14:55:58 GMT
I don’t know that I should post here. I have let several peas down lately as I disappeared when they needed me. Of course, you should post. In all relationships there are times when you give more and times when you receive more. You need us now. That's all that matters. My mother died here at my home on July 5th after us caring for her for five months with support from hospice. There were threads by peas that I care deeply about before and during that time that I simply couldn't wrap my head around enough to respond to. One pea in particular that I regret I didn't offer more to when something horrific happened to her. But I trust that as 'family' we show each other a little grace. We are glad you are reaching out even if you don't know quite what you are needing. We'll be here. And we sincerely hope it helps. I am so sorry about your mom. Hugs
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 25, 2022 15:00:43 GMT
Those photos. ![:crying:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/t4lmEAqHtTO6q6ksSmvP.jpg) Damn. Of course milestone anniversaries like this are especially hard. Sending you and your family wishes for peace, comfort and strength. ![](http://i1168.photobucket.com/albums/r481/2peasrefugees/Smilies/hug.gif)
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Post by mnmloveli on Jul 25, 2022 15:02:01 GMT
Sending ((Hugs)) and comforting thoughts.
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Post by scrappinspidey2 on Jul 25, 2022 15:06:44 GMT
waking up this morning to everyones responses was so heartwarming. A lot of my struggles come from not being able to talk about it within the family. I had posted on facebook and asked for some memories of him. his mother responded with how much it hurts her to talk about dad and my husband, which is completely valid, but I feel as if everyone is not responding now because they don't want to hurt her. I could be completely wrong but there is no way to know. I just feel that this is the reason nobody wants to say anything now. One of his sisters has completely stopped communicating all together. She and I talked daily before the accident and now its like Im a ghost.
Ive done the counseling, I've done the grief groups. I had a young widows forum I used a lot but it went the way of the original pea board. One day it was there, the next gone. I heard last week that they were able to revive it but i haven't gone to check out cause I have just been so busy. Most of the time I just ride the wave till it's over. They aren't as bad any more. Every now and then like last night a rouge one will hit. There is a lot going on in regular life too that doesn't make this any easier. The last few years I traveled to see my mom and other places. This year that isn't an option so Im forced to deal with it all without additional distractions.
I did try to get back into counseling but currently wait times are 6+ months and my insurance doesn't cover it. Im also on therapy burn out, as I feel there is only so much talking you can do. I am way better than I was in the early days. Some anniversaries are just hard. This is one. In 8 more years he will have been gone longer than we were married. That one I hear from other widowed folk is a hard one as well. If 10 years went by this fast, I imagine 8 will be just as quick .
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2022 15:08:18 GMT
I’m sorry. I can only imagine having to sit through depositions and appearing in court is a trigger and extremely difficult. Hoping your daughter will come around eventually.
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