scrappinspidey2
Pearl Clutcher
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Location: In the Parlor with the Fly
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Post by scrappinspidey2 on Jul 25, 2022 5:46:06 GMT
On Tuesday it will have been 10 years since the accident that took my husband. I’m sitting on the beach at 10:30 feeling absolutely lost. I was fine till I broke my glasses and spent the whole day trying to get new ones. I don’t know that I should post here. I have let several peas down lately as I disappeared when they needed me. I’m struggling with things but it seems I’m always struggling despite therapy and moving and etc etc. I am in charge of my daughters trust fund for another 18 months. I’m terrified of what happens then. Over the years I’ve been called to be deposed at different law suits regarding the truck defect that played a part in the whole nightmare. I haven’t been able to share details due to his mom being on my Facebook. It turns out my memory doesn’t line up with the accident reconstruction. We flipped three times not once. I have added photos below. That tiny triangle is there my daughter and I were sitting. You can see the drivers side was completely pancaked. They are hard to look at but it’s not as bad as the first time I saw them at a deposition. The attorney didn’t know I had never seen them before. I was well shielded. I’m not sure there is a point here. I’m just trying to clear my head. I have too many responsibilities to just curl up into a ball this week. Maybe just posting this will release the building pressure. Some years are better but some are not. Sometime the day before is the worst of it due to anticipation and not knowing what will happen I’m hoping that’s what is going on. One of the things that I do remember clearly from those days are you guys. I remember all the kind words and the support you guys have provided over the years. I’m very lucky to have you guys here.    |
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Post by fiddlesticks on Jul 25, 2022 5:58:26 GMT
10 years. Wow. I’m sure it feels like yesterday and another lifetime all at the same time. ❤️
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Post by Zee on Jul 25, 2022 6:05:02 GMT
❤️❤️❤️
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Post by compeateropeator on Jul 25, 2022 6:07:53 GMT
Sending ❤️❤️
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valincal
Drama Llama
Southern Alberta
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Post by valincal on Jul 25, 2022 6:08:29 GMT
Sending hugs. Take care.
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Post by leannec on Jul 25, 2022 6:12:13 GMT
I am in charge of my daughters trust fund for another 18 months. I’m terrified of what happens then. What are you terrified of? Have you taught her how to manage it? Sending big hugs to you! I'm glad that you know you can always come here  |
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Post by Lexica on Jul 25, 2022 6:25:09 GMT
It doesn’t seem like 10 years have gone by. Seeing that truck is shocking. I can’t believe you and your daughter were in that little triangular space. I wish I had some magic words that would ease your pain. All I can do is say that I care.
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Post by auntiepeas on Jul 25, 2022 6:32:39 GMT
I’m sorry things are so difficult for you, especially around this anniversary. Sending you much love and gentle hugs.💚
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 25, 2022 6:33:29 GMT
OMG. Those photos are horrifying. I can't imagine what it must have been like for you, seeing them for the first time. I'm so sorry for all that you've been through.
Like others have already mentioned, I can't believe it's been 10 years. I remember clear as day you telling us about the accident when it happened. I'm really sorry that you're struggling.
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scrappinspidey2
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 2,511
Location: In the Parlor with the Fly
Mar 18, 2015 19:19:37 GMT
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Post by scrappinspidey2 on Jul 25, 2022 6:33:30 GMT
I am in charge of my daughters trust fund for another 18 months. I’m terrified of what happens then. What are you terrified of? Have you taught her how to manage it? Sending big hugs to you! I'm glad that you know you can always come here Oh it’s a long story. She’s no longer speaking to me at this point. She is still very angry over the events of the last 10 years. I don’t say much because I don’t feel like her info is something that is mine to share. |
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scrappinspidey2
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 2,511
Location: In the Parlor with the Fly
Mar 18, 2015 19:19:37 GMT
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Post by scrappinspidey2 on Jul 25, 2022 6:35:35 GMT
10 years. Wow. I’m sure it feels like yesterday and another lifetime all at the same time. ❤️ That is probably the most accurate description I have heard in a long time. Very true |
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Post by SAHM wannabe on Jul 25, 2022 6:53:26 GMT
Hugs to you. Please share as much or as little as you want, when you want, and if you want. The peas are here for you.
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wellway
Prolific Pea
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Post by wellway on Jul 25, 2022 7:07:11 GMT
Sending hugs, you have dealt with a lot over the last decade. The pictures are very sobering.
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Post by stargazer on Jul 25, 2022 7:29:03 GMT
I’m another who remembers and can’t believe it has been ten years but I know that’s just a number. Will be thinking of you this week. Wishing you peace.
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Post by gillyp on Jul 25, 2022 7:59:32 GMT
What a very long, trying 10 years for you. Do you have a bereavement group locally where you can talk to others and get some support?
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Post by piebaker on Jul 25, 2022 8:18:25 GMT
The photos are striking. Sending thoughts of support as you face difficulties of legal cases and family issues. ❤️
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Post by gar on Jul 25, 2022 8:18:33 GMT
Gentle (((hugs)))
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lesley
Drama Llama
My best friend Turriff, desperately missed.
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Location: Scotland, Scotland, Scotland
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Post by lesley on Jul 25, 2022 8:49:51 GMT
The photos are shocking, and I imagine are etched in your brain. Sometimes ten years feels like a long time but it doesn’t take much to make it seem just like yesterday. Be gentle with yourself, life has been so hard on you. Sending transatlantic hugs.
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Post by lucyg on Jul 25, 2022 9:14:31 GMT
It can feel as fresh at 10 years as it does at 10 days. Hugs to you, and peace to get you through this difficult time. Those truck photos!!  |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2022 9:16:30 GMT
I remember the accident and know how difficult it’s been for you. When I see you posting, I often stop and pray for you. You’ve experienced awful beyond measure.
those photos are simply chilling.
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joelise
Drama Llama
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Post by joelise on Jul 25, 2022 9:32:52 GMT
Thinking of you.
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Post by littlemama on Jul 25, 2022 10:26:58 GMT
Thinking about you. Can you find a grief group or a therapist to help you through the next few days? If not, we are here for you.
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Post by christine58 on Jul 25, 2022 10:31:19 GMT
What are you terrified of? Have you taught her how to manage it? Sending big hugs to you! I'm glad that you know you can always come here Oh it’s a long story. She’s no longer speaking to me at this point. She is still very angry over the events of the last 10 years. I don’t say much because I don’t feel like her info is something that is mine to share. I’m so sorry she’s not speaking to you. I know that the two of you had struggles along the way. She’s probably filled with as much grief as you are and sometimes that clouds our vision of life. I remember when this happened because your sister was a member of a RAK group that I was part of. I remember praying for you and your family. Come here and vent whenever you need to with as little information as you can give. This place can be a great source of comfort. |
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Post by Restless Spirit on Jul 25, 2022 10:37:03 GMT
Ten years. I remember when you first posted about it. The photos are just devastating and heartbreaking. There are no adequate words to express my sincere and heartfelt condolences for your loss and for what you were and are still going through. I’m so sorry. I have found that grief and the resulting pain in not something you ever ‘get over’. Instead you just move through it, at your own pace and speed. Sometimes, you even get stuck in it. But as time goes by, it becomes the road less traveled. There will always be triggers, There will always be sadness. But there also be peace. A different kind of peace, along with sadness and acceptance.
Wishing you peacefulness and calm, now and in the future.
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Post by monklady123 on Jul 25, 2022 10:45:38 GMT
at those photos!  to you.
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momto4kiddos
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Jun 26, 2014 11:45:15 GMT
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Post by momto4kiddos on Jul 25, 2022 10:51:01 GMT
I hope that you can get through the day/week and find some easier days ahead. I can't imagine all you have gone through. Will be thinking of you. ((HUGS))
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peabay
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Jun 25, 2014 19:50:41 GMT
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Post by peabay on Jul 25, 2022 11:02:26 GMT
Sending love and peace.
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Post by peasapie on Jul 25, 2022 11:09:55 GMT
It must be so very hard for you to have lost your husband to this horror, and now to be feeling isolated from your daughter. Im glad you’re sharing with us and that we’re able to surround you with a circle of strength.
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Post by lisae on Jul 25, 2022 11:38:50 GMT
{{hugs}} and thinking of you, wishing you peace.
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Post by cakediva on Jul 25, 2022 11:49:10 GMT
I sometimes forget I've been a pea going on almost 20 years now. I so remember you posting about it all. Sending hugs to you....
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