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Post by Really Red on Jan 14, 2023 16:04:50 GMT
Thanks for updating. FWIW, I think you did the smart thing.
I've been to great weddings and I've been to bad weddings. To tell you the truth, if either of my girls decided to marry, I would hope that they would not choose a wedding. I'd love to be there with them, but a justice of the peace is enough.
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pilcas
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Post by pilcas on Jan 14, 2023 16:29:06 GMT
Thanks for the update. Sometimes people need reality checks. How do they expect people to drop hundreds of dollars to pay for airfare, hotel, food, gifts and on top of that make them pay for their own food at the “reception”. One of my nephews got married in a $500 a night all inclusive. Great deal for the bride and groom price wise. The amount they paid per plate was very low, after all the guests were already paying the all inclusive rate. We sent them a gift because he was a nephew but we did not go.
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peaname
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Post by peaname on Jan 14, 2023 16:57:42 GMT
I’ve heard this song and dance. Instead of realizing that she has asked too much of her friends and family the bride will be pissed at them.
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Post by kimpossible on Jan 16, 2023 23:32:06 GMT
I’ve heard this song and dance. Instead of realizing that she has asked too much of her friends and family the bride will be pissed at them. Boy did you hit the nail on the head. This is exactly what is happening now. Her mom was over at our house this past weekend and was telling us the fall out. So glad we did not attend, just to avoid the immaturity and drama.
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twinsmomfla99
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Post by twinsmomfla99 on Jan 17, 2023 2:58:45 GMT
Sounds like you made the right decision.
Personally, I don't care to spend my vacation time/money on a destination wedding, even if it is someplace I would like to go. I want to go on my own preferred timeline and not be tied to wedding events while I'm there. I don't get to go on a real vacation often enough to waste it on a distant relative's wedding. Now if it were one of my DDs, I'd do my best to talk her out of a destination wedding, but I would attend. I would also prepare her for the inevitable "no" she would get from most of my family members LOL.
If she is on board with a very small turnout, so be it.
I would probably attend a destination wedding for one of my siblings as well, although the youngest is now 60, and I'm pretty sure most of us who want to be married already are LOL.
I have 3 nephews, and I would not want to go to a destination wedding for any of them.
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 17, 2023 3:07:03 GMT
Not sure I'd want to ruin a good vacation with a wedding. . Glad you made a good choice for your family. It sounds like a lot of people did.
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Post by guzismom on Jan 17, 2023 14:51:30 GMT
My sister is planning her third rodeo in October...a themed wedding, complete with all things Wizard the Oz. I've already decided I won't be going. Thankfully, I have an excuse ready: preplanned trip to Paris for my hubby's work and to see our daughter who lives in France.
I PERSONALLY do not like weddings that require anything of the guests other than to show up. Wear something decided by YOU? Pay for my own MEAL? Travel to some exotic LOCATION? In my mind, these things ALL make it easy to decline.
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Post by Mel on Jan 17, 2023 15:53:29 GMT
My first wedding was thrown together but it turned out ok. When I get married this time, there might be a handful of people there, I'll just mention where to be and when, if they come, ok, if not, ok too. LOL My girls insist that I "need" a big wedding to make up for the first dud but I'd be ok with blue jeans and a JOP. LOL
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Post by malibou on Jan 17, 2023 17:09:13 GMT
My first wedding was thrown together but it turned out ok. When I get married this time, there might be a handful of people there, I'll just mention where to be and when, if they come, ok, if not, ok too. LOL My girls insist that I "need" a big wedding to make up for the first dud but I'd be ok with blue jeans and a JOP. LOL Are you getting married? Congratulations!
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Post by kimpossible on Jan 17, 2023 23:25:11 GMT
My first wedding was thrown together but it turned out ok. When I get married this time, there might be a handful of people there, I'll just mention where to be and when, if they come, ok, if not, ok too. LOL My girls insist that I "need" a big wedding to make up for the first dud but I'd be ok with blue jeans and a JOP. LOL Congrats!
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