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Post by kimpossible on Aug 11, 2022 21:39:07 GMT
UPDATE ON PAGE 3
Wedding invite from a family member...
Las Vegas - Jan 7th (yes, the Saturday following New Years and 2 weeks following Christmas)
No one (friends or family lives there) so it will require everyone to fly, get a hotel, with the exception of a few that live in California or AZ - maybe will drive.
Outside venue at 2pm - must wear cocktail attire. (January weather, yes it's Vegas, but it will be chilly)
Following the 15 minute ceremony, they will do a champagne toast (no food). Then at 5pm - halfway down the Las Vegas Strip we are to meet at the Caesars buffet for dinner at 5pm. No, the bride and groom will not be paying for the buffet, the guests will have to pay. $79.00 per person. Transportation is not being offered.
Would you go?
P.S. Forgot to mention said bride & groom have already been married (supposed to be a secret) by a Justice of the Peace - this is just for the trip and gifts. (a quote from the bride)
ETA: Bride is DH's only niece - no nephews. We visit Vegas a few times a year, we are within driving distance. She feels very entitled - in general, which is an attribute of her that both DH and do not like.
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Post by Jili on Aug 11, 2022 21:42:00 GMT
Unless I wanted to make a weekend trip to LV where I could incorporate one or more of these events as part of it and then otherwise do my own thing, my answer is a big NO.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Aug 11, 2022 21:42:02 GMT
how close a family member? maaaaybe depending on the relationship (if I wanted an excuse to go to Vegas for a few days either before or after), but probably not. I take it back, nope- way too close to the holidays. Unless it's one of your siblings or your children.
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Post by scrapmaven on Aug 11, 2022 21:45:26 GMT
If the bride made it clear that it was just for the trip and the gifts I would not go unless I wanted to see Vegas and spend time w/family like that. Also, I wouldn't give a dime to the married couple. If you ask me for a gift you get nada! Though you could donate to a good cause in their honor. That outta piss off the bride, but it's a nice thing to do for someone else. So, basically, the bride and groom want to be celebrated and adored and given tons of gifts w/o paying for any of it. I'm thinking NO!
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Post by ~summer~ on Aug 11, 2022 21:45:39 GMT
Well I would go because I look for an excuse to go anywhere fun. I’d probably wrap in a winter hiking trip at Grand Canyon or red rocks etc. But if it sounds like a pain to you, I wouldn’t go.
Eta - based on that you barely know her, and wedding sounds like no fun…no I wouldn’t go.
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Post by kimpossible on Aug 11, 2022 21:46:01 GMT
how close a family member? maaaaybe depending on the relationship (if I wanted an excuse to go to Vegas for a few days either before or after), but probably not. I take it back, nope- way too close to the holidays. Unless it's one of your siblings or your children. Its a niece that rarely stays in contact.
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Post by christine58 on Aug 11, 2022 21:51:19 GMT
how close a family member? maaaaybe depending on the relationship (if I wanted an excuse to go to Vegas for a few days either before or after), but probably not. I take it back, nope- way too close to the holidays. Unless it's one of your siblings or your children. Its a niece that rarely stays in contact. Big fat no. Asking guests to pay for their dinner? Nope
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Post by dawnnikol on Aug 11, 2022 21:53:16 GMT
Hard pass.
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Post by brynn on Aug 11, 2022 21:55:38 GMT
Definitely no!!
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Post by Merge on Aug 11, 2022 21:57:12 GMT
Nope.
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Post by hop2 on Aug 11, 2022 21:57:23 GMT
Do they have reservations to ‘meet at the buffet’ or are they just winging it and hoping everyone can be somewhat together?
I might go since I’ve never been to Vegas. I’m a maybe.
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Post by hopemax on Aug 11, 2022 21:58:32 GMT
If you want an excuse to go to Vegas, go. If not, send a card with whatever you would do (if you haven’t acknowledged the wedding already). Buffet at Caesars indicates to me, that they don’t really expect a lot of people to come. That’s fine, they can have a party for themselves and a few friends if they want. One of DH’s cousins had a destination wedding, because it’s how they wanted their day to be. We watched a video and slideshow, the next time the family got together. No one made an issue.
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Post by lucyg on Aug 11, 2022 21:59:00 GMT
In my family, I would be disowned if I didn’t show up for a niece or nephew’s wedding. But we wouldn’t be expected to pay our own way for the dinner, either.
So, going on the assumption that you do have some choice in the matter … no way would I travel a long distance for this, to a place I didn’t want to go anyway, for the privilege of NOT being hosted. I would still send a gift, though.
Send a congratulatory card along with a check, and put it out of your head.
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Post by bc2ca on Aug 11, 2022 21:59:22 GMT
It completely depends on how close I am to the bridal couple and/or their parents.
For a couple niblings I would be there in a heartbeat and look forward to the weekend. For others, we'd send along a congratulations note and RSVP that we can't join them.
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Post by kimpossible on Aug 11, 2022 22:02:52 GMT
Do they have reservations to ‘meet at the buffet’ or are they just winging it and hoping everyone can be somewhat together? I might go since I’ve never been to Vegas. I’m a maybe. Invitation says "Join us at the Caesars buffet for dinner at 5:00pm" followed by, "dinner will not be hosted by bride and groom".
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Post by katlady on Aug 11, 2022 22:06:52 GMT
It would depend for me on who the couple is. Usually after the holidays (and before the Super Bowl), Vegas is slower and cheaper. I do think the No-host dinner is a bit tacky. Skip that and have a nice hosted snack type reception instead.
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Post by librarylady on Aug 11, 2022 22:08:52 GMT
Since I have been to Vegas and have no interest in returning, and am insulted when an event is just a gift grab, I'd decline the invitation. ...especially based upon the comment from the bride.
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Post by disneypal on Aug 11, 2022 22:09:48 GMT
Honestly, it would totally depend on how close I was to the family member and if I could afford the flight/hotel/food.
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Post by monklady123 on Aug 11, 2022 22:15:07 GMT
No. Especially because you said it wasn't even a family member who you're close with. Nope. Besides the fact that Las Vegas sounds like the kind of place I plan to avoid for the rest of my life (I've successfully NOT been there ever), I'd hate everything you described.
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Post by hop2 on Aug 11, 2022 22:15:18 GMT
Do they have reservations to ‘meet at the buffet’ or are they just winging it and hoping everyone can be somewhat together? I might go since I’ve never been to Vegas. I’m a maybe. Invitation says "Join us at the Caesars buffet for dinner at 5:00pm" followed by, "dinner will not be hosted by bride and groom". Well then I’d definitely be skipping that part it’ll just be eating a buffet with strangers if they have no arrangements to sit together. What’s the point. ( besides I can probably never eat from a buffet again due to dietary issues & cross contact )
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Post by voltagain on Aug 11, 2022 22:19:13 GMT
Wedding invite from a family member... Las Vegas - Jan 6th (yes, the Saturday following New Years and 2 weeks following Christmas) No one (friends or family lives there) so it will require everyone to fly, get a hotel, with the exception of a few that live in California or AZ - maybe will drive. Outside venue at 2pm - must wear cocktail attire. (January weather, yes it's Vegas, but it will be chilly) Following the 15 minute ceremony, they will do a champagne toast (no food). Then at 5pm - halfway down the Las Vegas Strip we are to meet at the Caesars buffet for dinner at 5pm. No, the bride and groom will not be paying for the buffet, the guests will have to pay. $79.00 per person. Transportation is not being offered. Would you go? P.S. Forgot to mention said bride & groom have already been married (supposed to be a secret) by a Justice of the Peace - this is just for the trip and gifts. (a quote from the bride) ETA: Bride is DH's only niece - no nephews. We visit Vegas a few times a year, we are within driving distance. She feels very entitled - in general, which is an attribute of her that both DH and do not like. For me that is a hard No without any regret what so ever.
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Post by SockMonkey on Aug 11, 2022 22:20:48 GMT
Send a gift!
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Post by epeanymous on Aug 11, 2022 22:24:03 GMT
Ha ha no.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Aug 11, 2022 22:25:29 GMT
Card and if you choose $50 ...
Think of what you and YOUR family could do to have fun with the saved dollars...
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Post by littlemama on Aug 11, 2022 22:25:56 GMT
Heavens no!
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Post by deekaye on Aug 11, 2022 22:27:09 GMT
So you'd be paying for airfare, hotel, cocktail attire, expensive dinner AND a wedding gift? For a niece that you aren't that close to? Hard, hard pass....
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Post by lisae on Aug 11, 2022 22:30:52 GMT
Since you would have to pay me to go to Vegas, I'd be out. However, if you like the city and want to go, then go. It sounds tacky to me to make guests pay for their own meal on top of being out travel expenses and to expect a gift. The good thing is you are within driving distance so you don't have to book an airline ticket.
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Aug 11, 2022 22:32:28 GMT
I love Vegas, and the non-hosted dinner I could probably get past if they didn’t have a lot of money but still wanted to celebrate. But the comment about the gifts and that she’s entitled would turn it to a no from me.
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Post by gar on Aug 11, 2022 22:33:57 GMT
🤣🤣🤣 Nope! I’d love to know how many people are invited and how many go 😊
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Post by peabay on Aug 11, 2022 22:33:58 GMT
No.
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