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Post by don on Dec 22, 2022 4:23:08 GMT
And now here I am, I do everything. house cleaning, laundry, bed changing, picking her up when she falls, grocery shopping (extra large eggs $2.69 at the grocery store), I cook (sauce pan and/or microwave), take her out to dinner (although that may end as she is becoming an embarrassment). She doesn't wash, or change her clothing, and she gets very surly in the evenings. She just has me, and I just have her. Life goes on and things change, but I'm here forever and ever amen.
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tincin
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Post by tincin on Dec 22, 2022 4:25:00 GMT
Can I just say I’m happily single?
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Post by ntsf on Dec 22, 2022 4:29:35 GMT
well I have a solution for you all.. send your husband to the hospital for a few days and they come home with great appreciation for all you do and no complaining!!!
(I don't actually recommend this... I will have to do all household work, dog walking, christmas prep, etc...while dh must for his health lay on the couch all day)..--he had orthopedic surgery on his leg.
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styxgirl
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Post by styxgirl on Dec 22, 2022 4:33:31 GMT
My vent is that it is literally minus 30 degrees Celsius here in Calgary ... not fun! YIKES! That is just CRAZY-COLD! And to think, I'm freaking because we're supposed to get to -6F! (-21C) LOL! That's warm compared to you all! LOL!
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scrappyesq
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Post by scrappyesq on Dec 22, 2022 4:37:05 GMT
Yep, you are married to a man. Mine went to the grocery store this morning and I got a frantic phone call. He locked his keys in the car. I threw on some clothes and drove to the store. I was expecting to see his groceries still in the shopping cart as he didn't have his keys. Nope, he had put his groceries into the back end of the car and shut it on the keys which were laying with the groceries. I asked him why he didn't just open it back up as you have to actually lock it with a key. It was unlocked and all he had to do was open it and get his keys. So all day I have been randomly saying you really fucked up today didn't you and then laughing like a loon. Literally the funniest thing I've read in a minute.
I don't have one thing to vent about but many, so I'll save all of your ears (or eyes as it were). I'm just aggravated with life right now.
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Post by ~summer~ on Dec 22, 2022 4:54:46 GMT
I’m sorry, if my husband complained about me spending $10 I’d open up a can of whoop ass on him.
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Post by dewryce on Dec 22, 2022 7:34:18 GMT
My dh lost his wallet this morning... he was at work n sent a txt asking if it was at home.. i looked around... nope cant find it... he says look in my jeans.. nope not in dirty clothes... check under bed.. i did.. not there... He starts griping at me.. like im not looking hard enough... im like dude i didnt lose it.. i ask did u check ur truck... he is like duhh of course i did.. well then i don't know... lol So he gets home mad mad big mad... so im like let me look in the truck and you look in the bedroom... you guys... it was LITERALLY IN THE CONSOLE!!!! i called him outside and was like open ur console... he says i never put it in there.. i say open the console... so tah dah!!! He says i planted it in there... like what??? Are you serious??? He says he never puts it in there... i don't either so i don't know what to tell you but eff you... it wasnt me!!! He has apologized... he was mad and scared and worried... blahh blahhh i dont care... dont be a jackass!!! Come sit next to me. DH lost his wallet last night…again. This is probably the 3rd time this year he will have to replace everything. That’s not counting the half a dozen times he will search high and low for days and I walk out and find it in his vehicle within 30 seconds, exactly where I already told him to check. I so feel your pain.
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Post by gar on Dec 22, 2022 9:13:24 GMT
My husband is a busy man, my life is much quieter than his so I happily do all the planning, buying etc for Christmas (and almost all the time) but it does miff me when he'll pass through and randomly say something like "Have you thought about getting potatoes?" I mean, I've planned a week of meals inc breakfasts, thought of every possible condiment, every type of wine/fizz/spirit anyone might want, a selection of desserts for the week, treats, presents (thought of, purchased and wrapped) for everyone including on behalf of his mother and my father so they've got things to give their great grandchildren because they don't know what to get, games are organised, rooms are decorated but he thinks I might have forgotten potatoes
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Post by putabuttononit on Dec 22, 2022 10:31:37 GMT
Vent away! My dh has been sooo grumpy. I called him a Grinch today. He’s not very jolly 😬😝
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Post by christine58 on Dec 22, 2022 11:16:00 GMT
My dh lost his wallet this morning... he was at work n sent a txt asking if it was at home.. i looked around... nope cant find it... he says look in my jeans.. nope not in dirty clothes... check under bed.. i did.. not there... He starts griping at me.. like im not looking hard enough... im like dude i didnt lose it.. i ask did u check ur truck... he is like duhh of course i did.. well then i don't know... lol So he gets home mad mad big mad... so im like let me look in the truck and you look in the bedroom... you guys... it was LITERALLY IN THE CONSOLE!!!! i called him outside and was like open ur console... he says i never put it in there.. i say open the console... so tah dah!!! He says i planted it in there... like what??? Are you serious??? He says he never puts it in there... i don't either so i don't know what to tell you but eff you... it wasnt me!!! He has apologized... he was mad and scared and worried... blahh blahhh i dont care... dont be a jackass!!! Come sit next to me. DH lost his wallet last night…again. This is probably the 3rd time this year he will have to replace everything. That’s not counting the half a dozen times he will search high and low for days and I walk out and find it in his vehicle within 30 seconds, exactly where I already told him to check. I so feel your pain. He needs one of those tracker things!
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J u l e e
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Post by J u l e e on Dec 22, 2022 12:20:09 GMT
And now here I am, I do everything. house cleaning, laundry, bed changing, picking her up when she falls, grocery shopping (extra large eggs $2.69 at the grocery store), I cook (sauce pan and/or microwave), take her out to dinner (although that may end as she is becoming an embarrassment). She doesn't wash, or change her clothing, and she gets very surly in the evenings. She just has me, and I just have her. Life goes on and things change, but I'm here forever and ever amen. Along with not having a husband vent in a while, we haven’t had a male poster join us. Welcome! How did you happen to end up here?
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Post by peasapie on Dec 22, 2022 12:23:58 GMT
Yep, you are married to a man. Mine went to the grocery store this morning and I got a frantic phone call. He locked his keys in the car. I threw on some clothes and drove to the store. I was expecting to see his groceries still in the shopping cart as he didn't have his keys. Nope, he had put his groceries into the back end of the car and shut it on the keys which were laying with the groceries. I asked him why he didn't just open it back up as you have to actually lock it with a key. It was unlocked and all he had to do was open it and get his keys. So all day I have been randomly saying you really fucked up today didn't you and then laughing like a loon. This sounds like something one would do. I continually have to remind him before he leaves the house: keys, wallet, phone, driving glasses. Smart man, but he doesn’t think things through!
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Post by jeremysgirl on Dec 22, 2022 12:48:10 GMT
And now here I am, I do everything. house cleaning, laundry, bed changing, picking her up when she falls, grocery shopping (extra large eggs $2.69 at the grocery store), I cook (sauce pan and/or microwave), take her out to dinner (although that may end as she is becoming an embarrassment). She doesn't wash, or change her clothing, and she gets very surly in the evenings. She just has me, and I just have her. Life goes on and things change, but I'm here forever and ever amen. Along with not having a husband vent in a while, we haven’t had a male poster join us. Welcome! How did you happen to end up here? Don is a scrapbooker. He's over on the GS board with us.
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anaterra
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Post by anaterra on Dec 22, 2022 12:51:39 GMT
((((( don))))) big hugs... i will vent about dh to yall and my bff... but not to any of our friends.. and if down the road of life we get to where you are.... then i will take care of him with love and try to have a lot more patience... it has to be hard for you...
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Post by J u l e e on Dec 22, 2022 12:51:39 GMT
Along with not having a husband vent in a while, we haven’t had a male poster join us. Welcome! How did you happen to end up here? Don is a scrapbooker. He's over on the GS board with us. Thank you! Now I’ve outed myself for never having been to the GS board.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Dec 22, 2022 12:56:06 GMT
I sat down on the couch the other day and I put a video on my phone. I never watch videos. I never watch TV. I never make any kind of noise at all except talking to Jeremy. Meanwhile, if he is home, the TV is on. He watches videos on his phone all day long *while* watching TV. And he got so shitty with me about the video interrupting his program. I was like, dude, you could have asked me to put in earbuds or you could have put your noise cancelling TV headset on. But instead you yelled at me!
He rarely ever yells at anything so I was quite taken aback. I put my earbuds in and proceeded with my video. I did not say anything for a couple of days and then yesterday I was like, you know you didn't have to get so nasty with me. Especially for something you do all the damn time. Am I not allowed to make noise? And I used the opportunity to complain about all the noise his damn birds make. I hate the birds. He finally fessed up he was mad at me for the amount of Christmas shopping I did on his credit card. Apparently right before I put on that video, he had checked the balance. And I was like, you totally said, go ahead and use my credit card weeks ago so we could keep all our expenses together and then just make one payment. Well, he didn't like how much I spent.
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Post by guzismom on Dec 22, 2022 13:41:59 GMT
I'll validate all of you. My DH hasn't done anything to piss me off this week ... yet. We joke about the growth mindset here. I haven't whacked him in the head with a frying pan ... yet. Still time to get there, though! Hahaha. After 26 years of marriage, it's the little things. Mine doesn't have any idea of the mental bandwidth it takes to be responsible for what everyone eats all the time. Most men don't have any idea. It's exhausting. Even with both kids out of the house, it's a lot, and at the holidays when everyone comes back it's like a slap in the face. Our grocery bill was enormous this week and took a lot of time and effort to plan - and will take even more time and effort to get all cooked -so I don't want to hear about what it cost! OMG, yes! I have two adult daughters and one boyfriend to feed this week and it is draining. Add on top of that the fact that my youngest is vegetarian and I am beyond my limit! But I soldier on...and am grateful that while she IS vegetarian, she loves turkey and makes an exception for the bird to be served once a year. We will also eat out quite a bit since they both have their favorite restaurants that they must hit while home; esp. the one who lives in France...she misses our great Mexican food and must eat it ALL while home. My hubby complaint: why must he buy brand new sheets for the kids' beds EVERY BLOODY TIME THEY COME HOME?!? I made him return them this time by showing him the linen closet where the existing ones reside...there is not room to put in another set. He is a good Dad; he wants their visit to be special....I get that. But new sheets are NOT the key to that; they're really not.
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Post by Merge on Dec 22, 2022 13:55:29 GMT
Oh, I just hadn't waited long enough. Mine is surly and short-tempered this morning because ... wait for it ... I'm on Christmas break and he has to work. From home, in his pajamas, but there is still work to be done. He resents the hell out of my vacation times and makes sure I know it.
Mind you, I'll be up to my ears in cooking and other preparations for the next two days. And never mind the fact that the reason I initially stuck with teaching rather than looking for a more lucrative career was because of all the money it saved us on after school and summer care for our kids, and it's really too late for me to develop some new, year-round, higher-paying career. He resents my breaks and he just can't seem to stop.
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 22, 2022 14:07:53 GMT
Costco was completely out of eggs last night so I bought an 18 pack at the supermarket for $6.99. if DH even dares open his mouth, he will be cooking all of Christmas dinner. Mine was last week! I couldn't believe it. I paid the same price for 12 as I normally would pay for 18. I did NOT bitch and moan, LOL.
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 22, 2022 14:17:27 GMT
He finally fessed up he was mad at me for the amount of Christmas shopping I did on his credit card. Apparently right before I put on that video, he had checked the balance. And I was like, you totally said, go ahead and use my credit card weeks ago so we could keep all our expenses together and then just make one payment. Well, he didn't like how much I spent. Oh, my DH complained one year about what I was spending. That got ugly fast. I told him if he wanted to help me plan, shop, wrap, and ship gifts, then he could have input. If not, STFU, because you get no say. We rarely ever fought, but damn. I set a budget and stuck to it. It was well within what we can afford. I told him we only have 2 grandchildren and if I want to spoil them a little, I will. But seriously, I do not spend that much! He never said a word about it again. We all know, most men think Christmas just happens.
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Dec 22, 2022 15:06:13 GMT
Mine is petty, petty, petty. My gift will be arriving on December 27th. Apparently putting items on an Amazon wish list, sending to DH and DS a month ago, was not enough time to actually do any shopping. He finally ordered something on Monday and told me yesterday it will most likely not be here for Christmas. The blizzard we are expecting may impact delivery a little bit. Now, I am not upset about a gift coming late, but for 2 weeks DH kept saying he did not know what to get me. Each time I said look at the wish list on Amazon, I put ideas in there. Not sure of DS is getting me anything either, he is in his own little world right now also.
I know many of you can relate. I kind of feel like an after thought right now, the "I guess I better get you something to open on Christmas morning" Sorry I am so much work for you.
So, Christmas morning I may be sitting there with my coffee just watching them open their gifts, figuring out when I need to start cooking everything for lunch with his family. Not very excited about the holiday this year.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Dec 22, 2022 15:07:56 GMT
Grumpiness seems to be a permanent state with DH lately. This week he's complaining about the seats at the Ballet on Tuesday and the seats for tonight at the theater. These are tickets he bought online all by himself...without any input from his wife who knows a lot more about both venues than he does (it's been 30 years since he attended the ballet!). Never mind that it wasn't really in our holiday budget, or that I had a prior commitment for Tuesday I had to cancel. Then last night he decided to start complaining about the housekeeper - again. He is upset that I won't hire a second housekeeper to work a second day and that I don't have this one doing more. She works 4 hrs once a week. Not sure what he thinks she should be able to accomplish? He prides himself on thinking outside the box, but sometimes he's just not reasonable, or even realistic. There's that pesky budget thing, not to mention me having to deal with a second person in the house. Oh, and his dog is very unfriendly and prone to bite. So there is the added stress to me of trying to keep it away from anyone new in the house. Then last night I discover that he didn't bother to buy the 2 gifts for DD's Christmas that I sent him the links for - after we had a discussion about it. Apparently he was too busy 'thinking outside of the box'. So add one more errand to my list of things to do this morning. And now he's decided to act concerned about the budget. Thank goodness I talked DD into going to the theater with him tonight. I need a break from the perpetual grumpiness!
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Post by bbkeef on Dec 22, 2022 15:28:52 GMT
Mine doesn't have any idea of the mental bandwidth it takes to be responsible for what everyone eats all the time This! I dread when DH works from home and walks in my home office around 11:30 asking what's for lunch. I also dread 5:30 or so when the same questions comes up. He is sometimes aware...and will ask "What am I making YOU for dinner?" Some days I wake up and say I am taking the day off-fend for yourself or go get us takeout.
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J u l e e
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Post by J u l e e on Dec 22, 2022 15:41:53 GMT
I'll validate all of you. My DH hasn't done anything to piss me off this week ... yet. We joke about the growth mindset here. I haven't whacked him in the head with a frying pan ... yet. Still time to get there, though! Hahaha. After 26 years of marriage, it's the little things. Mine doesn't have any idea of the mental bandwidth it takes to be responsible for what everyone eats all the time. Most men don't have any idea. It's exhausting. Even with both kids out of the house, it's a lot, and at the holidays when everyone comes back it's like a slap in the face. Our grocery bill was enormous this week and took a lot of time and effort to plan - and will take even more time and effort to get all cooked -so I don't want to hear about what it cost! No truer words have ever been spoken. Add - the planning and effort it takes for how Christmas “gets done”.
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Post by huskermom98 on Dec 22, 2022 15:43:54 GMT
I would love to pay $5 for an 18 pack of eggs--they went over $8 this week at the HyVee stores in town! I'm kicking myself for not just picking up a box of 90 eggs at Sam's a couple of weeks ago for the "low" price of $24. My husband vent is he's been wrapping some presents and when I went to wrap some, half of the rolls had chunks cut out...for the love of Pete, just cut off the entire strip of paper!!! Christmas rolls last for years at our house because I like to have 4-5 rolls to wrap with--it's ok to throw out a piece that is not even 12x12 inches. Or you can save it, I don't care. Just don't make me have to cut it off before I can wrap YOUR present...
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bethany102399
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Post by bethany102399 on Dec 22, 2022 15:45:36 GMT
I know many of you can relate. I kind of feel like an after thought right now, the "I guess I better get you something to open on Christmas morning" Sorry I am so much work for you. So, Christmas morning I may be sitting there with my coffee just watching them open their gifts, figuring out when I need to start cooking everything for lunch with his family. Not very excited about the holiday this year. This is me pretty much every year. Sometimes he does ok and gets it here on time, other times he doesn't. I continually remind myself he's a good man who loves me and just sucks at gifting. I've also learned to buy myself what I really want ahead of time. A co-worker was complaining yesterday about how her dh was complaining about all the "gifts and Christmas plans he was stressing about" She's over here going I'm sorry did you make Christmas plans I'm unaware of? and what gifts are you buying? then she did 5 minutes on the elf. (they've got a 4 year old so the magic of Christmas is up and running at their house). I just sat there and nodded, I know.
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bethany102399
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Post by bethany102399 on Dec 22, 2022 15:46:33 GMT
I would love to pay $5 for an 18 pack of eggs--they went over $8 this week at the HyVee stores in town! I'm kicking myself for not just picking up a box of 90 eggs at Sam's a couple of weeks ago for the "low" price of $24. YES! I was at price chopper last night to get something specific and had to grab eggs. I about died in the dairy isle.
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Post by 950nancy on Dec 22, 2022 15:57:02 GMT
My husband does the grocery shopping and I go once in a while if I need something I forgot to put on the list. I have had sticker shock myself.
We raised three pups in winter conditions over the years. While it really 100% sucks, my dogs have all been all-weather dogs. They love the snow, the wind, the rain (light, not pelting) and happily go out in most weather. Yesterday we were in the 50's. Twelve hours later we were -8. That 60* change was pretty shocking to everyone this morning. We live in an area with lots of things that will eat your pups and we don't have a roof on our dog run area yet, so we go outside with the pups every day multiple times a day. We've done it for 14 months. Not fun.
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Dec 22, 2022 16:02:16 GMT
I know many of you can relate. I kind of feel like an after thought right now, the "I guess I better get you something to open on Christmas morning" Sorry I am so much work for you. So, Christmas morning I may be sitting there with my coffee just watching them open their gifts, figuring out when I need to start cooking everything for lunch with his family. Not very excited about the holiday this year. This is me pretty much every year. Sometimes he does ok and gets it here on time, other times he doesn't. I continually remind myself he's a good man who loves me and just sucks at gifting. I've also learned to buy myself what I really want ahead of time. A co-worker was complaining yesterday about how her dh was complaining about all the "gifts and Christmas plans he was stressing about" She's over here going I'm sorry did you make Christmas plans I'm unaware of? and what gifts are you buying? then she did 5 minutes on the elf. (they've got a 4 year old so the magic of Christmas is up and running at their house). I just sat there and nodded, I know. Part of it he complains because I am "hard to shop for". My dad told him a story when we first started dating where my dad bought me a coat I said I liked. A week later I found the exact coat I wanted at the same store so I asked if I could exchange it. Dad joked all the time that I change my mind with gifts. I swear DH has lived by this. Also, DH bought me some knick knack type gifts early in our relationship and I am just not a knick knack person. I appreciate them, but they don't thrill me. Sorry, you bought things you thought all women liked, but they are not me. So early history reinforced his belief I was hard to shop for. No, you just did not know me well enough to know what I would like. And my dad, well, I told him I liked the coat, but it was not exactly what I wanted.
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Post by Judie in Oz on Dec 22, 2022 16:02:58 GMT
My dh lost his wallet this morning... he was at work n sent a txt asking if it was at home.. i looked around... nope cant find it... he says look in my jeans.. nope not in dirty clothes... check under bed.. i did.. not there... He starts griping at me.. like im not looking hard enough... im like dude i didnt lose it.. i ask did u check ur truck... he is like duhh of course i did.. well then i don't know... lol So he gets home mad mad big mad... so im like let me look in the truck and you look in the bedroom... you guys... it was LITERALLY IN THE CONSOLE!!!! i called him outside and was like open ur console... he says i never put it in there.. i say open the console... so tah dah!!! He says i planted it in there... like what??? Are you serious??? He says he never puts it in there... i don't either so i don't know what to tell you but eff you... it wasnt me!!! He has apologized... he was mad and scared and worried... blahh blahhh i dont care... dont be a jackass!!! Come sit next to me. DH lost his wallet last night…again. This is probably the 3rd time this year he will have to replace everything. That’s not counting the half a dozen times he will search high and low for days and I walk out and find it in his vehicle within 30 seconds, exactly where I already told him to check. I so feel your pain. This is, unfortunately, a regular occurrence in our house. Thankfully we haven't had to replace stuff in the last few years, but he often "misplaces" his wallet and/or phone. Usually I suggest to him where it might be, but he often tells me that he "never puts it there". More often than not it's where he "never puts it". After forty years of it it's wearing pretty thin!
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