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Post by dewryce on Dec 22, 2022 20:43:42 GMT
It’s a Christmas miracle! He found his own wallet, in the car under the seat, all by himself without me even have to say “did you check _____?” He didn’t even have to use the finder thingy. Though I’m remembering now, the one time he tried to find it it said it was at the house behind his work when it was at work. That’s great…if you left it at a restaurant and will give you a clue of the general area. But not when it’s in his trashed out vehicle. And it is almost always in his vehicle. casii Our families live several hours away from each other and us. Fortunately, his family has always done the big get together Christmas Eve and mine on Christmas Day. It’s a lot of driving, but worth it. But for Thanksgiving, we do the every other year thing. It just seems more fair. I understand with children wanting to have Christmas morning at home. But it’s a whole long day and it seems a compromise could be in order. I’m sorry you’re dealing with it. Bah humbug!
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tanya2
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Post by tanya2 on Dec 22, 2022 21:10:53 GMT
femalebusiness - ok I love that you guys turned it into a joke. That is totally something we would do too!!! I did have to remind my dh last night that the list I made him of ideas for my stocking - that he asked for - was STILL sitting on the island counter and there are only 3 more shopping days left. I may have reminded him that i start working in November to make sure everyone else has a nice christmas, but it's so nice that he waits until last minute. LOL He went out shopping after dinner after that LOL
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Post by J u l e e on Dec 22, 2022 21:18:46 GMT
I will validate you on being super annoyed that you had to go out when he made a boneheaded mistake. Stuff like that burns my butt too, although it's usually my mom doing it not my husband or kids. But I do know that if my husband rubbed my face in a mistake I made all day long I would be a lot more upset about that Although the truck console thing would seriously piss me off, especially being blamed for planting it there My dh, never ever ever goes shopping. I do constantly remind him that they do allow men in the stores, but no luck. So for some reason he is convinced that I can do ALL of christmas - all the gift, all the food, everything - for around $1000. BAHAHAHA!!!! As if! wouldn't that be nice, but ya not happening. I adore my husband and I didn't mind in the least taking him the keys. He would do that and a lot more for me if I needed anything. I just thought it was funny. He did too. Every time I reminded him we'd both crack up. Probably the wrong thread because honestly I am crazy in love with my husband. He does very little that irritates me. Not the wrong thread at all! I am sure everyone on this thread loves their spouse. Your story was cute!
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Dec 22, 2022 22:11:44 GMT
My story is about someone else's husband.
Last night I was in the frozen aisle of the store, picking up a couple chicken pot pies.
A man has his wife on speaker phone, I keep hearing her say "breaded chicken", he's like.... nope not finding it, they don't have any, all I see is burgers. He is wandering back and forth looking into various freezer cases. She says ask someone. I am standing a few feet over, He said "let me ask this lady, that's shopping too". Ma'am do you know where breaded chicken is?". I open the door to freezer case directly in front of him, where there are dozen or so varieties. I say to the speaker phone "do you want breaded chicken tenders or bread chicken breasts?, she said "three bags of tenders, please... and thank you for helping my husband". He says "oh I was looking for a chicken version of white castle burger sliders, you know chicken and bread...breaded chicken". Men!!
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Post by chlerbie on Dec 22, 2022 22:21:20 GMT
For me, DH is always super helpful and is helping me shampoo some of the small area rugs tonight and told me he'll take care of all of the mopping. He'll take care of most of the cooking as well.
That being said, he's a pretty horrible gift giver and went out last minute today. I'm not super hopeful that he was successful. It makes me more sad on my birthday when it's just about me. At Christmas, I'm happy to be giving the gifts that I really thought out, but will admit that it does hurt my feelings a bit that he can't be a little more thoughtful. But gifts really just aren't his thing and he'll bend over backwards in every other way to help me and make life easier.
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Post by jemmls4 on Dec 22, 2022 22:34:23 GMT
Mine texted me to tell me the weather is bad and maybe I should come home…four times. AND last text said my adult son was worried so that’s why he was asking. 🧐 Yes, it’s bad. Wind chill is awful. BUT I have remote start and I work 1/2 mile from home. Even with the terrible wind and driving at 20 MPH it took me 3 minutes to get home.
Son’s work was canceled and husband got off early but has anyone done dishes or laundry or tidied up? And first question after I walked in the door, “what do you think we should do for dinner?”
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Post by Linda on Dec 22, 2022 22:41:55 GMT
I understand all that, but when I was younger, I feel like we took turns different holidays? Am I wrong? You might spend Thanksgiving with Grandmother and head to Nana's at Christmas, then the next year or even spring break, alternate? Once we had DD, Christmas was always at our house and 35 years later we have no regrets about doing it that way. We did swap for Thanksgiving but never Christmas. There was always an invitation to both sets of parents to come and spend Christmas with her here. DH's parents refused because the 2 grands that lived by them had birthdays that month (16th and 21st). After they moved closer, my parents would come Christmas afternoon and bring my niece. Since the 25th is her birthday, the evening meal was a birthday party as well for her. Those are fun memories. That seems to be how it was portrayed but certainly wasn't how it worked for me or DH growing up or for my kids. I lived overseas as a child - I think the closest I came to holidays with extended family was Halloween when I was 3 (w/ US grandparents) and seeing my UK family around Christmas (because we were actually near them for a change) when I was 9. DH grew up with a single mum who was a nurse and worked either C'Eve or C'Day every year -no travelling for them. We've done Christmas at home since my oldest (31) was 3 (we did go to my mum's the previous 2 years and the first year I was living at home) but we were living close by and as a student, I had a decently long break. After that, Christmas Eve (overnight) and Christmas Day were at home - just the immediate family. Extended family had standing invitations to visit - my mum did once and swore she would never travel at the holidays again; my MIL was local and often stopped by. ILs big gathering was usually on Christmas Eve or Boxing Day or even New Years Day so we went - but occasionally it was on Christmas Day and we would just go over the day before or after and exchange gifts and spend time together. Now...I'm almost an empty nester and my older kids have been coming home for Christmas -this year it'll be just after Christmas - but I think we've decided that we might alternate years going forward. It'll be easier to drive 12 hours without small kids and without having to drag 'santa' along
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Post by Just T on Dec 22, 2022 22:57:19 GMT
And just to make things worse for me anyway, I found out this morning from one of my daughters that the a$$hole is venmoing each of the kids $200. I'm glad for them that he is doing something for them, but it makes me feel even worse about not getting them anything. Your time with them will mean so much more than the money. Even if they need a little extra cash, knowing someone is present for you will always be remembered and treasured. I know. And I keep telling myself this. I'm just feeling down about it today. Last year, I hadn't yet opened my own checking account, and he was being very stingy with money. I barely had any to buy gifts last year, but I managed to do so. He said the same thing then, that they are adults, what do they need??? Then about a month or so after Christmas, while I was snooping in his email, I found a receipt for a $150 Dallas Cowboys jersey that he sent to his lady friend. While telling me I didn't need $$ to buy our kids Christmas gifts. I'm trying to not be bitter. I know my girls and I will have a fun Christmas, while the a$$hole is supposedly stuck in NC for work. HAHA Not that I believe that for a minute.
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Post by elaine on Dec 22, 2022 23:29:11 GMT
Your time with them will mean so much more than the money. Even if they need a little extra cash, knowing someone is present for you will always be remembered and treasured. I know. And I keep telling myself this. I'm just feeling down about it today. Last year, I hadn't yet opened my own checking account, and he was being very stingy with money. I barely had any to buy gifts last year, but I managed to do so. He said the same thing then, that they are adults, what do they need??? Then about a month or so after Christmas, while I was snooping in his email, I found a receipt for a $150 Dallas Cowboys jersey that he sent to his lady friend. While telling me I didn't need $$ to buy our kids Christmas gifts. I'm trying to not be bitter. I know my girls and I will have a fun Christmas, while the a$$hole is supposedly stuck in NC for work. HAHA Not that I believe that for a minute. Check your private messages. 😀
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Post by femalebusiness on Dec 22, 2022 23:36:37 GMT
My story is about someone else's husband. Last night I was in the frozen aisle of the store, picking up a couple chicken pot pies. A man has his wife on speaker phone, I keep hearing her say "breaded chicken", he's like.... nope not finding it, they don't have any, all I see is burgers. He is wandering back and forth looking into various freezer cases. She says ask someone. I am standing a few feet over, He said "let me ask this lady, that's shopping too". Ma'am do you know where breaded chicken is?". I open the door to freezer case directly in front of him, where there are dozen or so varieties. I say to the speaker phone "do you want breaded chicken tenders or bread chicken breasts?, she said "three bags of tenders, please... and thank you for helping my husband". He says "oh I was looking for a chicken version of white castle burger sliders, you know chicken and bread...breaded chicken". Men!! I just read that to my husband and we are both cracking up. Too funny!
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Post by edie3 on Dec 22, 2022 23:44:29 GMT
Now he is bitching that there is no room in the refrigerator. Duh! Its the holidays. And he said last week it was the same way. Could it have been from the progressive dinner you signed us up for?
I finally told him no room in the refrigerator was a good problem to have.
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Post by peabay on Dec 22, 2022 23:48:10 GMT
Mine texted me to tell me the weather is bad and maybe I should come home…four times. AND last text said my adult son was worried so that’s why he was asking. 🧐 Yes, it’s bad. Wind chill is awful. BUT I have remote start and I work 1/2 mile from home. Even with the terrible wind and driving at 20 MPH it took me 3 minutes to get home. Son’s work was canceled and husband got off early but has anyone done dishes or laundry or tidied up? And first question after I walked in the door, “what do you think we should do for dinner?”That is my biggest pet peeve. Makes me absolutely insane.
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Post by calgaryscrapper on Dec 23, 2022 0:40:15 GMT
Just T, you are giving your children the best gift. The gift of time.,Going for walks, playing games etc
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Post by Just T on Dec 23, 2022 0:42:15 GMT
Just T, you are giving your children the best gift. The gift of time.,Going for walks, playing games etc Thank you. My heart knows this, but my mind...well, that is a different story. LOL
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Post by anaterra on Dec 23, 2022 1:03:17 GMT
My story is about someone else's husband. Last night I was in the frozen aisle of the store, picking up a couple chicken pot pies. A man has his wife on speaker phone, I keep hearing her say "breaded chicken", he's like.... nope not finding it, they don't have any, all I see is burgers. He is wandering back and forth looking into various freezer cases. She says ask someone. I am standing a few feet over, He said "let me ask this lady, that's shopping too". Ma'am do you know where breaded chicken is?". I open the door to freezer case directly in front of him, where there are dozen or so varieties. I say to the speaker phone "do you want breaded chicken tenders or bread chicken breasts?, she said "three bags of tenders, please... and thank you for helping my husband". He says "oh I was looking for a chicken version of white castle burger sliders, you know chicken and bread...breaded chicken". Men!! Thats awesome!!!
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Post by anaterra on Dec 23, 2022 1:09:05 GMT
(((((@just T)))))
Wishing you all the best
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Post by AussieMeg on Dec 23, 2022 1:14:10 GMT
He says "oh I was looking for a chicken version of white castle burger sliders, you know chicken and bread...breaded chicken". Men!! I would probably be the same as that poor misguided man! But only because we say "crumbed chicken" here, not "breaded chicken."
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 23, 2022 2:56:31 GMT
I could vent as well.... My whole family has been begging for a dog for years and I have been the holdout. They have always insisted that they would help with the dog and everything that goes with it. Well, I had a moment of weakness/insanity/impulsivity on Monday when I saw a Facebook ad from a friend saying that her friend had puppies for sale at a much discounted price. Anyway, we ended up getting the puppy. We were totally not prepared. House isn't puppy proofed, no supplies, etc. So the last two days I have been trying to finish Christmas stuff as well as potty train this dog, wiping up pee, running to stores to get different dog items, etc. DH said he thought she needed a bath and guess who ended up giving her the bath while DH showered? I kind of got snippy with him. I'm just tired of the mess and that nobody else seems to care or do simple things that would help make things easier. It's also super cold (-13 without the wind chill) and snowing so running errands and going in and out of work appts has been really annoying. Most of the time I am still cold when I get to the next place. It also isn't that conducive to potty training a puppy. I’ve felt that pain! They year we got the poodle, my friend was fostering her the week before Christmas. I brought the dog home on Dec. 23rd. It was really, really cold that year just like it is now, and this poor dog was barely housebroken in spite of being almost a year and a half old. It was miserable trying to get this little 5 lb dog to figure out that she was supposed to go potty outside when it was so horribly cold. She would just stand there looking at me, hopping from foot to foot, thinking, “IT’S FREAKING COLD!!! WHY CAN’T WE GO BACK IN?!?” 🥺🥺🥺 Good luck! At least yours is a puppy and they tend to learn a little quicker when someone else hasn’t screwed them up first.
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Post by Merge on Dec 23, 2022 3:14:48 GMT
He says "oh I was looking for a chicken version of white castle burger sliders, you know chicken and bread...breaded chicken". Men!! I would probably be the same as that poor misguided man! But only because we say "crumbed chicken" here, not "breaded chicken." But what if it’s batter-coated? Still crumbed chicken?
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Post by wordyphotogbabe on Dec 23, 2022 3:27:50 GMT
My partner (unintentionally) bought us a blue stainless steel dishwasher! He is normally very detail-oriented and noticing he is buying blue instead of plain stainless steel is usually something he would notice... except not this time?! Ugh. I hate it so much. I know this is so first-world but I spent 20+ years of my adult live living in rental houses with old ugly mismatched appliances and I now finally have a house with new(er) matching appliances... and he buys a blue one. I was planning on having the lower kitchen cabinets painted apple green. Can you imagine apple green cabinets with a blue dishwasher?! I'm currently researching if it's possible to paint/refinish/change blue stainless steel into regular stainless steel...
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Post by twinks on Dec 23, 2022 3:33:41 GMT
My vent is about judgmental people. I realize that I am being judgmental about people being judgmental. There is a cute 6 year old boy in our Church congregation who has wrapped himself around my heart. I love this boy. He is his own person and doesn’t let things stop him. He is on the spectrum and is a little wiggly-always in motion. W wears glasses and has done his whole life. He wears the kind with the strap on the back and his mom is forever pulling the strap up so his glasses fit correctly. His mom and dad try to keep him quiet and engaged, sometimes to no avail. Last Sunday the family sat in the pew in front of me. Dad wasn’t there yet as he had their new baby. The mom kept trying to signal W to push his glasses up. W wasn’t paying attention to mom. I leaned forward and said, “W, I am going to fix your glasses.” I pushed them up and pulled the strap in the back up so they wouldn’t fall down. Mom said “Thank you.” Pretty soon the glasses were down again. I just leaned forward to take them and W said, “They need to be tighter” and handed them to me. Dad was there and tried to stop W but he wasn’t quick enough. I took the glasses and tightened the strap and then took my glasses cleaner out of my purse and cleaned them and put the glasses back on W. Dad looked and the glasses and signaled to mom about how clean they were. Not a big deal and I am happy to help out when I can.
Well another member of my Church congregation made some comment about “how nice I was to the hyper boy of so and so.” I said, “W is on the spectrum and he and his parents try really hard.” I then said, “W holds a special place in my heart.” She said to me, “Well, W needs someone to like him. He certainly is a handful.” I felt like saying, “Well you have become a crotchety old lady lately” but I didn’t. It bothers me that this person is so judgmental of others. She doesn’t understand my daughter and had completely turned her off on a number of occasions. It just makes me feel like she judges others that aren’t just cookie cutter like her and her children.
Vent over.
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Post by Scrapper100 on Dec 23, 2022 3:34:15 GMT
My story is about someone else's husband. Last night I was in the frozen aisle of the store, picking up a couple chicken pot pies. A man has his wife on speaker phone, I keep hearing her say "breaded chicken", he's like.... nope not finding it, they don't have any, all I see is burgers. He is wandering back and forth looking into various freezer cases. She says ask someone. I am standing a few feet over, He said "let me ask this lady, that's shopping too". Ma'am do you know where breaded chicken is?". I open the door to freezer case directly in front of him, where there are dozen or so varieties. I say to the speaker phone "do you want breaded chicken tenders or bread chicken breasts?, she said "three bags of tenders, please... and thank you for helping my husband". He says "oh I was looking for a chicken version of white castle burger sliders, you know chicken and bread...breaded chicken". Men!! Lol. My husband will FaceTime me and show me the case which makes it easier I suppose but man that gave me a good chuckle. Chicken and bread lol.
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Post by elaine on Dec 23, 2022 3:42:25 GMT
My partner (unintentionally) bought us a blue stainless steel dishwasher! He is normally very detail-oriented and noticing he is buying blue instead of plain stainless steel is usually something he would notice... except not this time?! Ugh. I hate it so much. I know this is so first-world but I spent 20+ years of my adult live living in rental houses with old ugly mismatched appliances and I now finally have a house with new(er) matching appliances... and he buys a blue one. I was planning on having the lower kitchen cabinets painted apple green. Can you imagine apple green cabinets with a blue dishwasher?! I'm currently researching if it's possible to paint/refinish/change blue stainless steel into regular stainless steel... You can usually replace the front panel with a new one in one of the other standard finishes. They are easy to replace - usually a few screws that you remove and then the panel may come out immediately or it may also be held in place with snap in place clips. Snap in new panel and replace the screws. A 10-15 minute job. 😀
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Post by wordyphotogbabe on Dec 23, 2022 3:50:37 GMT
My partner (unintentionally) bought us a blue stainless steel dishwasher! He is normally very detail-oriented and noticing he is buying blue instead of plain stainless steel is usually something he would notice... except not this time?! Ugh. I hate it so much. I know this is so first-world but I spent 20+ years of my adult live living in rental houses with old ugly mismatched appliances and I now finally have a house with new(er) matching appliances... and he buys a blue one. I was planning on having the lower kitchen cabinets painted apple green. Can you imagine apple green cabinets with a blue dishwasher?! I'm currently researching if it's possible to paint/refinish/change blue stainless steel into regular stainless steel... You can usually replace the front panel with a new one in one of the other standard finishes. They are easy to replace - usually a few screws that you remove and then the panel may come out immediately or it may also be held in place with snap in place clips. Snap in new panel and replace the screws. A 10-15 minute job. 😀 Oh, gosh, you have made my day!
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Post by hop2 on Dec 23, 2022 4:34:17 GMT
My partner (unintentionally) bought us a blue stainless steel dishwasher! He is normally very detail-oriented and noticing he is buying blue instead of plain stainless steel is usually something he would notice... except not this time?! Ugh. I hate it so much. I know this is so first-world but I spent 20+ years of my adult live living in rental houses with old ugly mismatched appliances and I now finally have a house with new(er) matching appliances... and he buys a blue one. I was planning on having the lower kitchen cabinets painted apple green. Can you imagine apple green cabinets with a blue dishwasher?! I'm currently researching if it's possible to paint/refinish/change blue stainless steel into regular stainless steel... I’m sorry I think I’d like a blue stainless steel dishwasher though. But no it won’t go well with apple green.
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Post by AussieMeg on Dec 23, 2022 5:50:40 GMT
I would probably be the same as that poor misguided man! But only because we say "crumbed chicken" here, not "breaded chicken." But what if it’s batter-coated? Still crumbed chicken? That would be plain old battered chicken. I guess. I don't actually make battered chicken. What do you call chicken that has been batter-coated? I just assumed "breaded chicken" was chicken that had bread crumbs on it. Bread crumbs = breaded or crumbed.
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Dec 23, 2022 15:49:02 GMT
My dh lost his wallet this morning... he was at work n sent a txt asking if it was at home.. i looked around... nope cant find it... he says look in my jeans.. nope not in dirty clothes... check under bed.. i did.. not there... He starts griping at me.. like im not looking hard enough... im like dude i didnt lose it.. i ask did u check ur truck... he is like duhh of course i did.. well then i don't know... lol So he gets home mad mad big mad... so im like let me look in the truck and you look in the bedroom... you guys... it was LITERALLY IN THE CONSOLE!!!! i called him outside and was like open ur console... he says i never put it in there.. i say open the console... so tah dah!!! He says i planted it in there... like what??? Are you serious??? He says he never puts it in there... i don't either so i don't know what to tell you but eff you... it wasnt me!!! He has apologized... he was mad and scared and worried... blahh blahhh i dont care... dont be a jackass!!! Come sit next to me. DH lost his wallet last night…again. This is probably the 3rd time this year he will have to replace everything. That’s not counting the half a dozen times he will search high and low for days and I walk out and find it in his vehicle within 30 seconds, exactly where I already told him to check. I so feel your pain. Those with men that lose wallets need to get him a tile so he can locate it ! Cheaper than buying multiple new wallets. link
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Post by Merge on Dec 23, 2022 21:18:09 GMT
But what if it’s batter-coated? Still crumbed chicken? That would be plain old battered chicken. I guess. I don't actually make battered chicken. What do you call chicken that has been batter-coated? I just assumed "breaded chicken" was chicken that had bread crumbs on it. Bread crumbs = breaded or crumbed. Breaded here usually refers to a batter coating. The only time I’ve seen something coated with crumbs in the freezer section it’s been panko crumbs, and it says panko-coated. Coating with regular bread crumbs is more something you do at home.
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Post by don on Dec 23, 2022 21:42:59 GMT
Back when The Queen of everything was ruling the world as I knew it, I would be given a list and sent to the grocery store. Special K. How many kinds of Special k are there. My life wsa spent driving all over the greater Seattle area, I knew where every 7 Eleven store was located and how to get what I needed. Grocery stores were a foreign area, too big, and too busy for me.
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Post by GiantsFan on Dec 25, 2022 20:31:56 GMT
Our Family gathering is tonight. My DH asked this morning if I needed him to do anything or should he just stay out of my way. LOL! Stay out of my way!!!
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