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Post by dewryce on Dec 22, 2022 16:05:44 GMT
Come sit next to me. DH lost his wallet last night…again. This is probably the 3rd time this year he will have to replace everything. That’s not counting the half a dozen times he will search high and low for days and I walk out and find it in his vehicle within 30 seconds, exactly where I already told him to check. I so feel your pain. He needs one of those tracker things! Oh yeah, he finally put one in there, thanks for the reminder!
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Post by christine58 on Dec 22, 2022 16:08:33 GMT
He needs one of those tracker things! Oh yeah, he finally put one in there, thanks for the reminder! Oh good hopefully he can find the wallet before you have to replace everything
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Post by Rhondito on Dec 22, 2022 16:15:07 GMT
I only have to be accountable to me, and it's hard to tell myself no sometimes, but whew! I guess it's not so bad after all!
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Post by scrapngranny on Dec 22, 2022 16:43:44 GMT
My DH pulled that last week. I’m hosting Christmas this year, semi against my will. My DH had emergency back surgery in September and was in the hospital almost a month. Along with all of the after appointments, and the care he needed I was pretty much exhausted. I hosted Thanksgiving for his comfort, giving him the ability to go lay down when he needed to.
Christmas was supposed to be at my DD’s. She flipped it back at my house saying she would do all the food, but Dad would be more comfortable at home. One evening I was frazzled from all the other running around I had to do and has we were sitting down to dinner I made the comment “That is is why I didn’t want to host Christmas”. He blew up and said, “I was miserable and wanted to make everyone else miserable.” After a minute. He said he wasn’t hungry, and rolled his wheelchair to the bedroom and didn’t come out again, leaving dinner sitting on the table.
Thankfully, I kept my cool and did not respond at all. Cleaned up the kitchen and went on with my plans. We didn’t say another word until the next afternoon. His handicap placard finally came in the mail and I made the comment that he hadn’t mentioned he had finally gotten it. His comment was, well we weren’t communicating to well yesterday. All I could do was laugh.
The Holidays don’t always bring out the best in us. I still don’t want to host Christmas, but I’m accepting the things I cannot change. He just doesn’t realize how much work it takes behind the scenes. I have booked the 26th and 27th to do nothing !!!
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Post by Just T on Dec 22, 2022 16:45:18 GMT
Oh, you gals know I can always vent about my stbx! LOL Yesterday, he texted me early in the morning and asked what I was getting the kids for Christmas. I said nothing, that I have zero extra money, neither do the kids, and we all agreed a couple of months ago that we wouldn't exchange gifts and just get together to do fun things throughout the season. And that we had been doing that. He said he would send them something. Whatever. I responded that we've been having a good time, but it feels weird to not buy them gifts. He said, "They are adults!" UGH I said yeah, they are, so what??? Grrrr...the more I think about it the madder it makes me. Here he has taken numerous fun vacations this year, and I can't even afford to buy our kids Christmas gifts. They really seem like they are okay with it, but who knows how they will feel when Christmas comes and there are no gifts for them.
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Post by bethany102399 on Dec 22, 2022 16:50:47 GMT
Sorry, you bought things you thought all women liked, but they are not me. YES! I don't care for jewelry and will get angry if you get me an appliance for the house. If we need it, then fine, if that's where the Christmas budget has to go then I get that. But don't "get" me pots and pans and expect me to be happy about it. We've known each other 30 years, you know what I like and don't like it's not that hard.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2022 16:54:11 GMT
Yep, we went shopping together and he as always was unhappy and shocked at the price of things. We are rural so we went to a bigger city, but in our small town food prices are often double what I can get in the city. We are lucky with eggs, though. A sweet friend has generously been picking us up farm fresh eggs (10 dozen every 9 weeks) - all extra jumbo and at least double yolked - and won't let us pay her for them. <3. Right now I have 15 dozen in my garage fridge. I know how blessed I am to have those.
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Post by hop2 on Dec 22, 2022 16:59:58 GMT
I have to replace the water pump in my car, I could have waited a ‘little bit’ according to the guy but with weather that cold coming it’s probably not the best idea.
So merry Christmas to me I’m getting a new water pump.
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Post by hop2 on Dec 22, 2022 17:06:49 GMT
My dh lost his wallet this morning... he was at work n sent a txt asking if it was at home.. i looked around... nope cant find it... he says look in my jeans.. nope not in dirty clothes... check under bed.. i did.. not there... He starts griping at me.. like im not looking hard enough... im like dude i didnt lose it.. i ask did u check ur truck... he is like duhh of course i did.. well then i don't know... lol So he gets home mad mad big mad... so im like let me look in the truck and you look in the bedroom... you guys... it was LITERALLY IN THE CONSOLE!!!! i called him outside and was like open ur console... he says i never put it in there.. i say open the console... so tah dah!!! He says i planted it in there... like what??? Are you serious??? He says he never puts it in there... i don't either so i don't know what to tell you but eff you... it wasnt me!!! He has apologized... he was mad and scared and worried... blahh blahhh i dont care... dont be a jackass!!! Come sit next to me. DH lost his wallet last night…again. This is probably the 3rd time this year he will have to replace everything. That’s not counting the half a dozen times he will search high and low for days and I walk out and find it in his vehicle within 30 seconds, exactly where I already told him to check. I so feel your pain. My DS lost his keys THREE separate times this year. He has it on email now from one of those kiosks. I fell over laughing when his Christmas lust included & air tag & a key chain to hold it. He is definitely getting both between ex & I
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Post by Merge on Dec 22, 2022 17:07:42 GMT
Mine doesn't have any idea of the mental bandwidth it takes to be responsible for what everyone eats all the time This! I dread when DH works from home and walks in my home office around 11:30 asking what's for lunch. I also dread 5:30 or so when the same questions comes up. He is sometimes aware...and will ask "What am I making YOU for dinner?" Some days I wake up and say I am taking the day off-fend for yourself or go get us takeout. What I really love is when I go to the time and trouble to plan and start dinner, only to have him say around 5 PM, oh, we're meeting clients for happy hour and I'll grab a bite with business partner after that. And then the next night he wonders why there isn't dinner ready for him at 6 PM.
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Post by CardBoxer on Dec 22, 2022 17:07:51 GMT
Along with not having a husband vent in a while, we haven’t had a male poster join us. Welcome! How did you happen to end up here? Don is a scrapbooker. He's over on the GS board with us. And stamping cardmaking board!
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Post by Delta Dawn on Dec 22, 2022 17:18:19 GMT
My father who is usually really intelligent is being a dumb ass and cannot think for himself. Seriously I told him to buy gift bags last week but no he knew better and now we have nothing and it’s my fault. I had his girlfriend for dinner last night and he didn’t wash the pot and pan. I am ready to throat punch him.
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Post by femalebusiness on Dec 22, 2022 17:18:28 GMT
Oh, you gals know I can always vent about my stbx! LOL Yesterday, he texted me early in the morning and asked what I was getting the kids for Christmas. I said nothing, that I have zero extra money, neither do the kids, and we all agreed a couple of months ago that we wouldn't exchange gifts and just get together to do fun things throughout the season. And that we had been doing that. He said he would send them something. Whatever. I responded that we've been having a good time, but it feels weird to not buy them gifts. He said, "They are adults!" UGH I said yeah, they are, so what??? Grrrr...the more I think about it the madder it makes me. Here he has taken numerous fun vacations this year, and I can't even afford to buy our kids Christmas gifts. They really seem like they are okay with it, but who knows how they will feel when Christmas comes and there are no gifts for them. I don't “like” your post but sympathize with you. The one certain thing in life is that Assholes never change.
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Post by Bridget in MD on Dec 22, 2022 17:34:43 GMT
I have to replace the water pump in my car, I could have waited a ‘little bit’ according to the guy but with weather that cold coming it’s probably not the best idea. So merry Christmas to me I’m getting a new water pump. Everything in our house seemed to shit the bed this month, and we had a revolving door of repair guys this week. *Saturday - my computer ran an update and something got corrupted and I couldn't connect to wifi. After screwing around iwth it for 2 days, I finally cried uncle and gave it to a friend and he was able to fix it and is installing a new single state harddrive for me. *Sunday - I took the car for low pressure - there was a screw in it. A rather new car with 13K miles on it now has 2 patched tires. Neat. *Monday - new microwave installed, our 15 yr old one was not working. *Tuesday - the blower in our pellet stove was replaced. Was supposed to last 10 yrs but it only made it 5yrs. ugh *Wednesday - repair guy came to repair our dryer. Made horrible screeching noise. It is also 15 yrs old. I had a dentist appt at the same time, so DH was handling it. I get a text "its not making any noise when he turned it on!" Me: we pay $90 for the service call. Tell him to fix f*cking SOMETHING. So the guy takes the back off and some pulley thing is replaced, it was so warn, it was shearing itself. I had a $10 off coupon for a call. I sent it to DH since I didn't know if I'd be back in time. He was like "you come back and deal with it." I was like just show him the freaking coupon!!!!!!!!!!!! He did but good lord you would have thought I asked him to produce a birth certificate or something UGH. I'm exhausted and haven't even gotten to the Xmas prep. LOL
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Post by Just T on Dec 22, 2022 18:19:43 GMT
Oh, you gals know I can always vent about my stbx! LOL Yesterday, he texted me early in the morning and asked what I was getting the kids for Christmas. I said nothing, that I have zero extra money, neither do the kids, and we all agreed a couple of months ago that we wouldn't exchange gifts and just get together to do fun things throughout the season. And that we had been doing that. He said he would send them something. Whatever. I responded that we've been having a good time, but it feels weird to not buy them gifts. He said, "They are adults!" UGH I said yeah, they are, so what??? Grrrr...the more I think about it the madder it makes me. Here he has taken numerous fun vacations this year, and I can't even afford to buy our kids Christmas gifts. They really seem like they are okay with it, but who knows how they will feel when Christmas comes and there are no gifts for them. I don't “like” your post but sympathize with you. The one certain thing in life is that Assholes never change. And just to make things worse for me anyway, I found out this morning from one of my daughters that the a$$hole is venmoing each of the kids $200. I'm glad for them that he is doing something for them, but it makes me feel even worse about not getting them anything.
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Dec 22, 2022 18:28:26 GMT
I don't “like” your post but sympathize with you. The one certain thing in life is that Assholes never change. And just to make things worse for me anyway, I found out this morning from one of my daughters that the a$$hole is venmoing each of the kids $200. I'm glad for them that he is doing something for them, but it makes me feel even worse about not getting them anything. Your time with them will mean so much more than the money. Even if they need a little extra cash, knowing someone is present for you will always be remembered and treasured.
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Post by hopechest on Dec 22, 2022 18:41:07 GMT
I'll validate all of you. My DH hasn't done anything to piss me off this week ... yet. We joke about the growth mindset here. I haven't whacked him in the head with a frying pan ... yet. Still time to get there, though! Hahaha. After 26 years of marriage, it's the little things. Mine doesn't have any idea of the mental bandwidth it takes to be responsible for what everyone eats all the time. Most men don't have any idea. It's exhausting. Even with both kids out of the house, it's a lot, and at the holidays when everyone comes back it's like a slap in the face. Our grocery bill was enormous this week and took a lot of time and effort to plan - and will take even more time and effort to get all cooked -so I don't want to hear about what it cost! OMG, yes! I have two adult daughters and one boyfriend to feed this week and it is draining. Add on top of that the fact that my youngest is vegetarian and I am beyond my limit! But I soldier on...and am grateful that while she IS vegetarian, she loves turkey and makes an exception for the bird to be served once a year. We will also eat out quite a bit since they both have their favorite restaurants that they must hit while home; esp. the one who lives in France...she misses our great Mexican food and must eat it ALL while home. My hubby complaint: why must he buy brand new sheets for the kids' beds EVERY BLOODY TIME THEY COME HOME?!? I made him return them this time by showing him the linen closet where the existing ones reside...there is not room to put in another set. He is a good Dad; he wants their visit to be special....I get that. But new sheets are NOT the key to that; they're really not. OMG. Meal planning. I love to cook. I enjoy it. When I'm not underwater, I don't mind menu planning and shopping. But, it is a BIG chore!! WAY underestimated. I'm buried at work right now. Buried. To the hilt. My DH is not working right now. Our kiddo is 6 and he's home on break, so there is some extra responsibility with that. I told my DH he was responsible for Christmas Dinner - we are having family over. Plan, shop, cook. whole shebang. Also, for the next month or so planning, shopping and dinner is moving over to his side to take care of. He started asking, what do you want, what should I make, where should I go questions. I let him know I am not available for any decisions. I expect to walk in the door and sit down to a hot meal. Kidding of course, but you get the gist. LOL. Wish me luck!!
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Post by scrappinmama on Dec 22, 2022 18:42:48 GMT
I validate your feelings. You don't control the prices and it's a staple that you need for Christmas meals. The spouse that does the shopping should take their partner with them at least a couple times a year. It's good for them to get that reality check. That's what I do.
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Post by epeanymous on Dec 22, 2022 19:03:11 GMT
My dh lost his wallet this morning... he was at work n sent a txt asking if it was at home.. i looked around... nope cant find it... he says look in my jeans.. nope not in dirty clothes... check under bed.. i did.. not there... He starts griping at me.. like im not looking hard enough... im like dude i didnt lose it.. i ask did u check ur truck... he is like duhh of course i did.. well then i don't know... lol So he gets home mad mad big mad... so im like let me look in the truck and you look in the bedroom... you guys... it was LITERALLY IN THE CONSOLE!!!! i called him outside and was like open ur console... he says i never put it in there.. i say open the console... so tah dah!!! He says i planted it in there... like what??? Are you serious??? He says he never puts it in there... i don't either so i don't know what to tell you but eff you... it wasnt me!!! He has apologized... he was mad and scared and worried... blahh blahhh i dont care... dont be a jackass!!! I joke that I direct the Ministry of Lost Objects in our house. My husband likes to act sometimes like he is just Too Smart to be bothered with things like "where did I leave my keys," but that whole absent-minded professor act is unavailing when your wife, also, is a professor.
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Post by craftedbys on Dec 22, 2022 19:22:03 GMT
This! I dread when DH works from home and walks in my home office around 11:30 asking what's for lunch. I also dread 5:30 or so when the same questions comes up. He is sometimes aware...and will ask "What am I making YOU for dinner?" Some days I wake up and say I am taking the day off-fend for yourself or go get us takeout. What I really love is when I go to the time and trouble to plan and start dinner, only to have him say around 5 PM, oh, we're meeting clients for happy hour and I'll grab a bite with business partner after that. And then the next night he wonders why there isn't dinner ready for him at 6 PM. Merge, if DH pulled that with me, the next night he would be getting the meal he ran out on reheated. My DH and I have really been bickering the last few days over small things. I think it is just the stress of everything. Several years ago (about a decade I would say) everything, and I mean everything for Christmas was falling on me and I was just over-stressed and over it. This mama had a world class come apart. I was at my breaking point and ready to cancel Christmas. It was a wake up call for DH and the kids and they stepped up and Christmas was saved. Since then I have occasionally had a pre-Christmas come apart, albeit on a smaller scale. They know that I can't do everything and do more each year. My DH vent is that he didn't give me any input on what to buy the kids for Christmas, (but I stayed within budget and got them quite a few gifts thanks to shopping all year and catching great sales) and I have wrapped and tagged all of the gifts as well. He also kept reminding me that money was tight this year, as it is for everyone. Then he and the kids went out this morning and bought several things and spent more $$ than they should have, but they are spoiling me, so I am ok with it, lol. I also decided I was not going to kill myself making all of the Christmas goodies and have delegated things to the kids to do. Now if DH and I could stop snarking at each other.
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Post by hop2 on Dec 22, 2022 19:22:07 GMT
And just to make things worse for me anyway, I found out this morning from one of my daughters that the a$$hole is venmoing each of the kids $200. I'm glad for them that he is doing something for them, but it makes me feel even worse about not getting them anything. Your time with them will mean so much more than the money. Even if they need a little extra cash, knowing someone is present for you will always be remembered and treasured. exactly! You spend time with them you’re there for them that means a lot. You STBX is on his way to being a bank machine if he keeps it up
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Post by zztop11 on Dec 22, 2022 19:46:59 GMT
I couldn't think of anything for the first 10 seconds and then it hit me. He did it again. I made a cake in a 9 x 12 pan. It's now time to move the rest of it to a much smaller plate. It's a pyrex pan, stuck on crumbs come off in no time. But not according to him. It MUST BE SOAKED. Translation: "I don't feel like washing out the f*cking pan". And here's another one. Just got back from the doctor. Been ill for weeks and finally got meds for my sinus infection. Now keep in mind that it feels like -50 or -75 here in Minneapolis. And what do I walk into? He has several windows in the house cracked open. Why you ask??? Because he believes everything you read from Google University, it has to do with the condensation and will keep the windows from forming ice on the inside. While that might be true in theory, we don't need 3 or more windows open when it's minus 1000 degrees outside!
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Post by zztop11 on Dec 22, 2022 19:48:36 GMT
We haven’t had a good husband vent here in a while. Well done! Bonus points for making me laugh with the title That's right! I need to remind him of more bad things he does! My birthday is in a week!!!
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Post by casii on Dec 22, 2022 19:56:58 GMT
First, wow, the holidays can be grand or they can be an emotional minefield. I'm sorry for any and all who are truly going through a tough time this year. In comparison, my complaints are small. But...
If anyone wants to run away from home with me next December, let's start making plans!
Since my mom passed away, my dad has devolved into giving gifts that are political or hyper religious in nature. He does it to my adult children as well. He's literally wasting his money, but I'm sure he feels he's teaching us a lesson. I've started making a donation to a veterans group he supports in his name, but with his behavior, I feel like an orphan.
My 2 DDs are now married, one with children. The one without children has a DH whose family tradition is to either go on a ski trip ON Christmas or to do gifts and dinner ON Christmas, no variations can happen. The DD with children, has decided with her DH that they will always stay at their home for Christmas and no variations can happen. Her DH's parents are divorced, so it wouldn't be fair to ever come to our place on Christmas because his parents need their time too.
I understand all that, but when I was younger, I feel like we took turns different holidays? Am I wrong? You might spend Thanksgiving with Grandmother and head to Nana's at Christmas, then the next year or even spring break, alternate?
But my DDs have informed DH and I that Christmas with our family will be on Christmas Eve at my house forevermore. I don't care to be told when I'm allowed to celebrate and that's the end of it. DH will go along with whatever because he is allergic to being uncomfortable or conflict, but not before he'll throw me under the bus saying "It's your Mother who would really like to spend time on Christmas together." This made DD with children write a long text about how she can't stop crying and really wants Christmas eve to be our family tradition and how we can't communicate openly.
So apparently, I'm the asshole. I need a TSwift shirt that affirms I am the problem. Yes, they're coming here for Christmas Eve which is not what I want, most especially when I'm being told that's the way it's going to be. I told DH he can cook then and for each question he asks, I'm going to take a tablespoon of powdered sugar and fling it up in the air. We don't have any decorations up because we went on a trip in the middle of the month and it's certainly not happening now.
Signed, The Grinch
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Post by tanya2 on Dec 22, 2022 20:08:31 GMT
Yep, you are married to a man. Mine went to the grocery store this morning and I got a frantic phone call. He locked his keys in the car. I threw on some clothes and drove to the store. I was expecting to see his groceries still in the shopping cart as he didn't have his keys. Nope, he had put his groceries into the back end of the car and shut it on the keys which were laying with the groceries. I asked him why he didn't just open it back up as you have to actually lock it with a key. It was unlocked and all he had to do was open it and get his keys. So all day I have been randomly saying you really fucked up today didn't you and then laughing like a loon.
I will validate you on being super annoyed that you had to go out when he made a boneheaded mistake. Stuff like that burns my butt too, although it's usually my mom doing it not my husband or kids. But I do know that if my husband rubbed my face in a mistake I made all day long I would be a lot more upset about that Although the truck console thing would seriously piss me off, especially being blamed for planting it there My dh, never ever ever goes shopping. I do constantly remind him that they do allow men in the stores, but no luck. So for some reason he is convinced that I can do ALL of christmas - all the gift, all the food, everything - for around $1000. BAHAHAHA!!!! As if! wouldn't that be nice, but ya not happening.
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Post by femalebusiness on Dec 22, 2022 20:25:34 GMT
Yep, you are married to a man. Mine went to the grocery store this morning and I got a frantic phone call. He locked his keys in the car. I threw on some clothes and drove to the store. I was expecting to see his groceries still in the shopping cart as he didn't have his keys. Nope, he had put his groceries into the back end of the car and shut it on the keys which were laying with the groceries. I asked him why he didn't just open it back up as you have to actually lock it with a key. It was unlocked and all he had to do was open it and get his keys. So all day I have been randomly saying you really fucked up today didn't you and then laughing like a loon.
I will validate you on being super annoyed that you had to go out when he made a boneheaded mistake. Stuff like that burns my butt too, although it's usually my mom doing it not my husband or kids. But I do know that if my husband rubbed my face in a mistake I made all day long I would be a lot more upset about that Although the truck console thing would seriously piss me off, especially being blamed for planting it there My dh, never ever ever goes shopping. I do constantly remind him that they do allow men in the stores, but no luck. So for some reason he is convinced that I can do ALL of christmas - all the gift, all the food, everything - for around $1000. BAHAHAHA!!!! As if! wouldn't that be nice, but ya not happening. I adore my husband and I didn't mind in the least taking him the keys. He would do that and a lot more for me if I needed anything. I just thought it was funny. He did too. Every time I reminded him we'd both crack up. Probably the wrong thread because honestly I am crazy in love with my husband. He does very little that irritates me.
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Post by Blind Squirrel on Dec 22, 2022 20:29:18 GMT
I have to replace the water pump in my car, I could have waited a ‘little bit’ according to the guy but with weather that cold coming it’s probably not the best idea. So merry Christmas to me I’m getting a new water pump. I feel your pain. I got myself a new clutch and flywheel (whatever the heck that is).
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Post by tanya2 on Dec 22, 2022 20:31:55 GMT
And now here I am, I do everything. house cleaning, laundry, bed changing, picking her up when she falls, grocery shopping (extra large eggs $2.69 at the grocery store), I cook (sauce pan and/or microwave), take her out to dinner (although that may end as she is becoming an embarrassment). She doesn't wash, or change her clothing, and she gets very surly in the evenings. She just has me, and I just have her. Life goes on and things change, but I'm here forever and ever amen. Thank you Don for putting this into perspective for me. For all the small stupid crap that drives me crazy about dh, I wouldn't trade him for the world. My next door neighbours are a couple in their 80s, and for the last 5 years or so she has had increasingly worse demensia. I've watched how difficult it is for him, and how much work he's had to go through since she's declined. It's heartbreaking to watch, and yet so sweet how they are together. I hope you have family that is able to help you out, and please remember to look after your own health as well.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Dec 22, 2022 20:34:19 GMT
I understand all that, but when I was younger, I feel like we took turns different holidays? Am I wrong? You might spend Thanksgiving with Grandmother and head to Nana's at Christmas, then the next year or even spring break, alternate? Once we had DD, Christmas was always at our house and 35 years later we have no regrets about doing it that way. We did swap for Thanksgiving but never Christmas. There was always an invitation to both sets of parents to come and spend Christmas with her here. DH's parents refused because the 2 grands that lived by them had birthdays that month (16th and 21st). After they moved closer, my parents would come Christmas afternoon and bring my niece. Since the 25th is her birthday, the evening meal was a birthday party as well for her. Those are fun memories.
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Post by padresfan619 on Dec 22, 2022 20:37:58 GMT
My husband is not on my shit list at all this year, he’s handled his side of the family gifts and even got some stuff for our son without me asking or suggesting. Very impressed!
My dad on the other hand? Totally on my shit list. He’s had some health issues over the last six months that have led to him being temporarily unable to drive himself in his car. In November I offered to either help him order stuff online to be sent to the house, or take his credit card and get my mom gifts and stocking stuffers. It is very important to me that my mom have a very full stocking and it is the *only* thing my dad has to handle each year with lots of nudging from me.
He puts off my offers to help and I go about my own busy holiday season. Got everything bought and shipped/received well in advance. This past Sunday while over at my parents for a visit my dad pulls me aside and gives me his credit card to buy my mom stocking stuffers. The week of Christmas. Gee thanks dad! Not even enough time to chance it on Amazon so I schlep myself and my toddler son to Target to get her some stuff. But wait! The night before at 9:30 pm my dad texts me “can you please pick up some pajamas for your mom for Christmas?” I already bought her pajamas so I ask him if he wants me to get more or get her something else. “Oh, in that case, something else is fine. THX!” No offers or ideas of what else to get. THX INDEED DAD!
I ended up getting her some cute stuff and I even wrapped it all for him. I would not be bending over backwards if this were for anyone else but it’s gifts for my mom and she does so much for me all year, she deserves to be treated well. And I know she will know it was all me since she’s my dad’s chauffeur. I just wish he had given me more time. Like when I offered to help him…in November…
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