|
Post by laureljean on Jul 4, 2014 12:00:34 GMT
It's good to see you, Jonda. I'm glad you found us.
Nothing that's happened to you is your fault, or "karma", or whatever. Just your situation right now. I am wishing you the best in finding a job and for your health. It's tough right now, but you will get through this. I know this because you have a wonderful attitude and are willing to do what it takes to get it done. Never stop believing in yourself.
|
|
limapea2
Shy Member
Posts: 43
Jul 2, 2014 14:50:48 GMT
|
Post by limapea2 on Jul 4, 2014 12:10:15 GMT
I applaud your honesty and bravery. For those who say it isn't karma, I think the problem is in the definition. It's not a matter of someone misbehaving and getting smacked; more like action and natural consequence. However, outside rational calculation, there does seem to be a benevolent force that continually moved us into situations that appear to be contractual or punishing. But if you can just set ego aside and look at it honestly, almost always it is obvious that if you truly allow yourself to be vulnerable and consider other ways of acting and thinking, it always resolves in the end with you being a better person. Your initial response at compassion is for the suffering you have gone through, the challenge is broadening that compassion to others and overhauling existing viewpoints, especially when things get better. Sometimes "karma" kicks us in the mass a few times before we get the hint. You are already leaps and bounds above most people, who get stuck in self pity and anger. If you keep going, karma will reward you as inevitably as the sun rises.
|
|
|
Post by mikklynn on Jul 4, 2014 12:27:27 GMT
Sending good thoughts your way for a job with a living wage.
|
|
|
Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jul 4, 2014 12:33:30 GMT
I completely concur with BusyPea. Stuff just happens in life. I believe in "random," not "karma."
I'm sorry it's your random this time. I avoid the political threads for the most part, but I still "know" you from the pod. I wish you many good things coming your way very soon.
|
|
Nanner
Drama Llama
Posts: 5,987
Jun 25, 2014 23:13:23 GMT
|
Post by Nanner on Jul 4, 2014 12:34:59 GMT
All the best to you, Jonda. I hope you find a job and get back on your feet quickly.
|
|
|
Post by momofkandn on Jul 4, 2014 12:40:06 GMT
Another lurker here to say I always enjoyed reading your posts! Your words always made me think. Made me question. Showed me another way to look at things. And you were always respectful. I admired that.
I'm so very sorry for your situation. Karma has nothing to do with it. I've seen some extremely talented people struggle to find jobs. I don't know what industry you are in, but my company is looking and has offices across the country as well as work from home possibilities. The company is Aon. Look them up online and let me know if anything sparks your interest.
And definitely look into dental schools for your tooth.
Wishing all the best for you.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Oct 7, 2024 4:24:58 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 4, 2014 12:42:53 GMT
You know, it's not karma. You didn't "deserve" this for your attitude. It's just the real world. And sometimes, bad things happen to people, even people who try to do everything right. You can plan and plan and plan and plan and still... sometimes the shit hits the fan. I'm sorry it was your fan this time.
I hope things turn around for you soon, jonda. And I really respect what you said here. I second this. I've missed you around the pod, jonda.
|
|
|
Post by lovetodigi on Jul 4, 2014 12:44:10 GMT
I am glad that you have shared this with us Jonda and I am so sorry for what you have been going through. What has happened to you could so easily happen to any of us, no matter how prepared we are. Have you thought about job searching in an area other than where you are currently living? If you find something elsewhere, maybe you could take that job until the economy improves where you are now, and then move back home. I am sure that you are already familiar with indeed.com, but if not, I know many people that have had luck using them to find a job. DH put in a resume on their and received an email two hours later and had a corporate management job with them two weeks later. Although we both posted a lot on the political threads, when I see your name, I associate it with the "conversation" that we had about our grandmothers. No matter how different we (as in everyone) think and feel about things, there is always something that we have in common, that connects us with one another. There is always so much more to a person that just their political beliefs. I don't believe that what happened to you is karma. Sometimes bad things happen to good people and we just have to use those experiences to learn and grow. We all go through a hard time at some point in our life, sometimes more than once. Please, keep posting here. You are among friends that will support you and encourage you. I will be adding you to my prayer list. Please check out some of the recommendations that were given earlier, for help getting your tooth fixed. Their is absolutely nothing wrong with seeking help when you are going through a hard time. You have worked hard, put in your dues, paid your taxes, some of which has gone to help others that have fallen on hard times. It is your turn. (((HUG))) and prayers for you.
|
|
|
Post by Merge on Jul 4, 2014 12:51:34 GMT
Another political opposite chiming in to say that I've always thought you discussed things reasonably, and I hope your situation improves soon. I'm not a believer in Karma, but I do wish that more people would walk in others' shoes. I agree. Glad to see you here, Jonda, and hope things turn around for you soon. My husband, whose political beliefs are similar to yours, had this kind of experience when he was unemployed for 15 months in 2010-11. He (we) bounced back and so will you.
|
|
gsquaredmom
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 4,092
Jun 26, 2014 17:43:22 GMT
|
Post by gsquaredmom on Jul 4, 2014 12:58:57 GMT
Not sure what you do, but have you looked at non- profits like American Heart Association?
|
|
Kath
Full Member
Posts: 446
Jun 26, 2014 12:15:31 GMT
|
Post by Kath on Jul 4, 2014 13:07:37 GMT
Jonda, happy to see you here on the board. ((hugs)) You've been through so much and you don't deserve any of it. I'm so sorry.
|
|
SweetieBsMom
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 4,741
Jun 25, 2014 19:55:12 GMT
|
Post by SweetieBsMom on Jul 4, 2014 13:19:36 GMT
Sending you prayers and positive thoughts that things will turn around for you.
|
|
|
Post by momstime on Jul 4, 2014 13:24:52 GMT
I sent you a message. Hang in there
|
|
purplebee
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,792
Jun 27, 2014 20:37:34 GMT
|
Post by purplebee on Jul 4, 2014 13:30:23 GMT
Jonda, I'm a lurker who is also trying to participate more. I've read many of your posts on the political threads, and also don't recall any animosity, just a difference of opinion, which makes for a spirited discussion. Keep your chin up, sending prayers and positive thoughts for a good outcome for you in your job search.
|
|
|
Post by cropduster on Jul 4, 2014 13:32:14 GMT
So glad to see you on this board. You are one of the Peas that I think of as funny, kind, considerate and thoughtful. So sorry you are going through a rough patch. As others have said and which I have reminded my DS from time to time since he was a tween, life is not fair. It is what it is. Sending up prayers that you find a job quickly and that you are able to get that tooth fixed ASAP. (((Hugs))) Please keep us posted and keep your chin up!
|
|
YooHoot
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,432
Jun 26, 2014 3:11:50 GMT
|
Post by YooHoot on Jul 4, 2014 13:33:28 GMT
Shit happens dude, it's life changes that make us who we are. Hope things get better in the job market soon!
|
|
|
Post by AR Scrapper on Jul 4, 2014 13:37:39 GMT
This thread is exactly why the peas are so great! We can all put our differences aside (no matter how heated threads got in the past) and rally around our fellow peas for encouragement and support!
|
|
|
Post by Really Red on Jul 4, 2014 13:48:15 GMT
I stay out of the political threads because they make me angry and I don't like to be angry I think we all should have to walk a mile in someone else's shoes before we comment on their lifestyles. I am sorry that you have to, but I am impressed that this has helped you be a more understanding person. I hope your life is turned around. I will tell you that one thing I did when I was looking for a job was take a technical temporary position. I have had several of these in my life and they have always paid off. I have gotten offers of permanent jobs from every one I took. Good luck to you!
|
|
|
Post by pb on Jul 4, 2014 13:57:34 GMT
Jonda, you are one of the reasons I stuck with NSBR. I wondered into a religious thread and really liked how you presented your arguments. Then found you on the political treads and even though we have very different perspectives, you always made me think a little harder.
I am sorry times are tough and hopefully there will be an upswing soon.
PB
|
|
|
Post by melanell on Jul 4, 2014 14:08:28 GMT
I hope things improve for you, soon!
|
|
msliz
Drama Llama
The Procrastinator
Posts: 6,419
Jun 26, 2014 21:32:34 GMT
|
Post by msliz on Jul 4, 2014 14:11:24 GMT
Just sending you some good vibes. I hope good things come your way soon.
|
|
AmeliaBloomer
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,842
Location: USA
Jun 26, 2014 5:01:45 GMT
|
Post by AmeliaBloomer on Jul 4, 2014 14:14:42 GMT
...you and I are poles apart politically. However, I can't remember reading any threads where you were rude or dismissive. As far as I remember you were pretty much always respectful even while disagreeing vehemently with others. I remember people who are more liberal than you appreciating your point of view and enjoying your posts. Please count me among those Meg mentions. In fact, I recently mentioned you by name on the Hobby Lobby thread (along with some other names), as a conservative I enjoyed reading. Perhaps your color spectrum didn't include a lot of grey, but I don't remember you being dismissive or condescending. Like you, so many people are learning that "pulling yourself up by the bootstraps" is fraught. For some, the strap breaks; for others, nobody will even sell them a pair of boots with straps. Here's hoping there's a spiffy new pair of straps in your near future - easy to tug on, and of course, fashion forward
|
|
|
Post by lovemybabes on Jul 4, 2014 14:37:05 GMT
I am not a political pea reader, so I don't know you in that sense, but I am so sorry for what you are going through. ((hugs)) Life can sometimes just really throw you for a loop.
|
|
|
Post by M~ on Jul 4, 2014 14:46:30 GMT
Wow. I'm so sorry. Having said that, I'm glad you have gained new perspectives or questioned old ones as a result of this. I've been very, very poor and I'm now MUCH, much better off. I'll never forget how much poverty humbled me. What's the quote, "there but for the Grace of God go I?" You'll pick yourself up! Good luck.
|
|
|
Post by heckofagal on Jul 4, 2014 15:15:34 GMT
I normally avoid the political debates but I appreciate you coming here to post this humble thread, and I sincerely hope things turn around for you very soon. And I really hope it is not truly "karma" as it is about to happen to me for the 3rd time, and I've always tried to be a good, open minded person. It just SUCKS.
|
|
mimima
Drama Llama
Stay Gold, Ponyboy
Posts: 5,074
Jun 25, 2014 19:25:50 GMT
|
Post by mimima on Jul 4, 2014 15:17:05 GMT
I am glad to see you. I'm sorry for the trials that you have endured. "Life is what happens when we are busy making other plans" - John Lennon. I think that reevaluating our thoughts and beliefs is what makes us human and allows us to grow.
|
|
|
Post by mnmloveli on Jul 4, 2014 15:31:18 GMT
Very courageous post. It takes a big person to admit their failings or misconceptions. GREAT POST ! Hope you enjoy your 4th of July weekend and the country's fireworks tonight bring some light into your life.
|
|
valincal
Drama Llama
Southern Alberta
Posts: 5,768
Jun 27, 2014 2:21:22 GMT
|
Post by valincal on Jul 4, 2014 15:33:53 GMT
Sorry you are going through a difficult time. I hope things turn around for you very soon. Take care.
|
|
huskergal
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,262
Jun 25, 2014 20:22:13 GMT
|
Post by huskergal on Jul 4, 2014 15:36:56 GMT
Jonda: Have faith in the power of the RefuPeas.
|
|
|
Post by SunnySmile on Jul 4, 2014 15:38:37 GMT
I don't read the political threads too much, so I don't know "how you were before." I just wanted to say that I think it probably took a lot of guts to come forward and apologize. I commend you for that and look forward to getting to know you. I hope your situation gets better soon.
|
|