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Post by tinafb on Jul 5, 2014 14:30:26 GMT
There have been 2 times on 2Peas when my feelings have truly been hurt in a conversation. One of them was when you and I tussled about my experience of being on welfare while pregnant. You were very harsh about my circumstances. I normally let things go easily, but I have to admit that you wounded me.
But your situation now doesn't make me feel better or somehow vindicated. What's happening to you now is not karma, honey. Shit happens. That's all part of the cycle of life. We all get knocked down a few times in our long years. It's the picking ourselves back up part that is the most important. The dusting ourselves off and getting back in there. I think that you're doing that very well. You're staying positive and still trying to move forward. And your learning, which is the most important part of our hard times, the lessons. So I'm proud of you for seeing the lessons and embracing them, because humility is one of the hardest things in life, but one of the most teachable states we can be in. I wish you only the best in this journey.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Jul 5, 2014 14:56:36 GMT
Jonda, when you know better, you do better. ~Ms. Maya Angelou Thank you for your post. I hope that things are looking up for you soon. Good to "see" you. This^^^^ a thousand times over!
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Post by leftturnonly on Jul 6, 2014 4:00:51 GMT
There have been 2 times on 2Peas when my feelings have truly been hurt in a conversation. One of them was when you and I tussled about my experience of being on welfare while pregnant. You were very harsh about my circumstances. I normally let things go easily, but I have to admit that you wounded me. But your situation now doesn't make me feel better or somehow vindicated. What's happening to you now is not karma, honey. Shit happens. That's all part of the cycle of life. We all get knocked down a few times in our long years. It's the picking ourselves back up part that is the most important. The dusting ourselves off and getting back in there. I think that you're doing that very well. You're staying positive and still trying to move forward. And your learning, which is the most important part of our hard times, the lessons. So I'm proud of you for seeing the lessons and embracing them, because humility is one of the hardest things in life, but one of the most teachable states we can be in. I wish you only the best in this journey. Love this post! Glad to see you here, tinafb.
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Post by jonda1974 on Jul 6, 2014 4:31:36 GMT
There have been 2 times on 2Peas when my feelings have truly been hurt in a conversation. One of them was when you and I tussled about my experience of being on welfare while pregnant. You were very harsh about my circumstances. I normally let things go easily, but I have to admit that you wounded me. But your situation now doesn't make me feel better or somehow vindicated. What's happening to you now is not karma, honey. Shit happens. That's all part of the cycle of life. We all get knocked down a few times in our long years. It's the picking ourselves back up part that is the most important. The dusting ourselves off and getting back in there. I think that you're doing that very well. You're staying positive and still trying to move forward. And your learning, which is the most important part of our hard times, the lessons. So I'm proud of you for seeing the lessons and embracing them, because humility is one of the hardest things in life, but one of the most teachable states we can be in. I wish you only the best in this journey. Tina - let me first say how deeply sorry I am for that. I recognize now how blinded I had been to others reality, and how adamant I held to my philosophy, and it is because of moments like this that I felt it important to make the apology so public. And now personal,specifically to you. Thank you for your kind words, it really means a lot, and I sincerely appreciate your understanding and apologize again that I did not offer the same to you during that conversation.
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Post by Meri-Lyn on Jul 29, 2014 12:13:46 GMT
Ah, Jonda, I just saw this. I hope things are looking up. I agree with JBeans, there is no "karma," just bad things happening to good people. And yes, I think you are a good person. We may have butted heads a time or two, but I always had mad respect for you. You were well read, and intelligent, and I appreciated that.
If you think about coming to Florida, let me know, I'll see if I can get some contacts for you. Best of luck and check in with us and let us know how it's going.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 12:17:59 GMT
Jonda dare I ask you about your SO? Were you able to find a way to bring him to the US or is he history? I know it's a personal question but I care about you and your life. It is interesting how your opinion had to change when it came to time of need. That makes me like you all the more. You are what's called an interesting person and you added a lot to Two Peas and will add a lot to Refu Peas.
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Post by julieb on Jul 29, 2014 13:38:35 GMT
Hang in there - I hope you find a new job soon!
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Post by purplebee on Jul 29, 2014 14:13:03 GMT
Jonda, I was a long time lurker on 2 Peas, but I remember your posts. Hope life is looking up for you since last time you posted.
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Post by jmurray on Jul 29, 2014 15:52:12 GMT
Jonda you won't know me as I lurked almost 100% at the Peas. However I read almost every political thread on there, as I've always been interested in seeing everyone's take on both sides of the fence. I am the polar opposite of you politically speaking but I do recall your views well, and as others have said they were never delivered in an antagonistic fashion. I am very sorry you've found yourself in this situation. My DH was out of work for 14 months. The only thing that kept us afloat was the fact that I was lucky enough to avoid being laid off in the same timeframe. And I chose the term lucky deliberately, as these days skills, hard work and loyalty seem to count for nothing in keeping your job. And for sure losing yours had zero to do with your politics. I'm now a freelance contractor after being made redundant from a long term role, which means I usually have to look for a new gig every 6 - 12 months. So for what it's worth here is how I approach it... It sounds like you're looking at all the agencies and other traditional channels, but keep in mind a large number of people who land management / professional jobs didn't apply for them through an agency, or for that matter an advertisement. There are a lot of jobs not advertised (some studies suggest the majority are not), and most of these get filled by word of mouth and networking. Every time someone resigns their manager almost always asks "does anyone know someone who is looking and can do that job?" Management prefer to take on someone who comes recommended by someone they know. It saves them time, money and reduces the risk of hiring a dud. So your network is gold, and should be nurtured constantly. You will be amazed at who people know - it's the whole six degrees of separation thing. I'm sure you've kick-started your network already, but look at expanding it to people you first thought wouldn't be able to help. You're not asking them for a job - you're simply putting it out there in case they know someone who is looking. And make sure you let them know it works vice versa - you will pass on info re any roles you see that you aren't interested in (the best networks are based on give & take). The last 4 jobs I've had have been found that way. Not always quickly, but sure enough at some point someone will call me and ask if I'm still looking because they know someone who is hiring. And for sure you need more than one resume. You need at least three: One to get you the job you REALLY want, one for the 'backup plan' / lesser job to tide you over while you continue looking for the perfect job, and one for something in between. I don't mean misrepresenting yourself in them or lying about your abilities, it's more about emphasising certain things and playing down / not mentioning others. I've found the easiest way is to write the in-between resume first, then amp it up for the perfect job resume and play it down for the other. Then you have 3 'foundation' resumes to pick from, which you can quickly tailor specifically for each role you apply for. This is easier to do when applying direct to companies. For submitting to an angency you need to go with the version for a role that you think that agency is more likely to find for you. Keep a track of which version you sent where (it can get messy very quickly when applying for a lot of jobs!) And above all, try to stay optimistic and keep busy. Even if it's just taking care of small home projects, planting some veges or whatever. Yes, looking for work is a full time job in itself. But even with full time jobs we have our down time to refuel and reinvigorate ourselves. It's important you still do things that make you feel happy and productive, because your spirit needs nurturing more than ever during this time. Don't underestimate that
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Post by katiekaty on Jul 29, 2014 16:17:40 GMT
Good luck and good wishes.
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Post by Barbie on Jul 29, 2014 16:44:22 GMT
Jonda, you and I often agreed on political topics, but like you, I find myself changing my mind about a lot of things lately. I'm sorry for what you are experiencing right now, and I hope you find a good position soon. In my case, it was a matter of divorcing that white collar, IT professional climbing the corporate ladder, and now I am not only looking for a job myself after 12 years of staying home, but I am involved with a man who has a completely different perspective than most people I've had in my life. He's opened my eyes to a lot of things, and I find myself trying to be more compassionate now about the circumstances others might find themselves in.
Growing and changing and expanding our points of view are good things, right?
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Post by Ellie on Jul 29, 2014 16:51:22 GMT
Just want to wish you the best, Jonda. I've been where you are (basically) and I know how difficult it can be. I wish you well. , Ellie
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Post by pattipea on Jul 31, 2014 13:58:16 GMT
jonda1974 - I don't know you. I never had a conversation with you on the old board. I don't even remember reading any of your 'heated' posts over there (I did my best to stay away from drama and out of any disputes). I just know that what you just shared here in this thread, had to have taken a lot of strength, soul searching, pride swallowing. And for that, I have commend and respect you. I wish you the best in whatever life has in store for you next. Good luck and come back with an update when you care to share more.
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Post by River on Jul 31, 2014 14:12:25 GMT
I just know that what you just shared here in this thread, had to have taken a lot of strength, soul searching, pride swallowing. And for that, I have commend and respect you. I wish you the best in whatever life has in store for you next. Good luck and come back with an update when you care to share more. ^^^This bears repeating! I did read most of your threads as I love reading the different political sides. Lots of hugs and prayers from me.
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Post by alibama on Jul 31, 2014 15:12:29 GMT
I stay away from the political threads most of the time so I am not familiar with that you are posting about. I just wanted to wish you the best of the luck and I hope you stick with us on the new board.
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Post by meowgal on Jul 31, 2014 19:23:39 GMT
You know, it's not karma. You didn't "deserve" this for your attitude. It's just the real world. And sometimes, bad things happen to people, even people who try to do everything right. You can plan and plan and plan and plan and still... sometimes the shit hits the fan. I'm sorry it was your fan this time.
I hope things turn around for you soon, jonda. And I really respect what you said here. absolutely. Sending prayers, or good thoughts, for your future. Nobody DESERVES this...so stop beating yourself up! It can happen to any of us at any time. Even people with tons of money can lose it in a short time (I worry about the stock market all the time! Most of us have our entire retirement tied up in that!). Best of luck to you and thanks for this eye opening post.
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Post by jonda1974 on Aug 2, 2014 5:01:42 GMT
I posted this on the other thread, but wanted to say thank you to all of you here, and provide an update as well
Hi everyone. Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers. I apologize I have not been able to get on recently to give an update on my situation. I have still not found a full time job yet, but there have been some recent changes that have helped. I am grateful for all of the changes regardless. I was able to get a couple weeks of contract work, which has allowed me the ability to cover my rent for one more month. I also finally qualified for assistance, which will help me in getting my tooth fixed thankfully, as well as putting some food into the cupboards again. Things are still tight but I am working on selling some things to make additional ends meet, and I was able to get my student loans deferred through the end of the year which is going to save me a significant amount over the next couple months.
I have had several interviews in the last couple of weeks. One is a part time retail position that doesn't start til September, but it looks like I will be able to get some hours through that which is huge if nothing else. I have a call back interview next week for a full time position. I am preparing a training presentation to showcase my skills in that area. I'm hoping it will go well, and I will get the position. So fingers crossed.
All of these came at the right time, and were a welcome birthday gift. Thanks again for all of your kind words. I will update as much as possible. Hopefully soon life will return to normal and I will have more time to participate with the refugees.
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Post by jonda1974 on Aug 2, 2014 5:13:14 GMT
Jonda dare I ask you about your SO? Were you able to find a way to bring him to the US or is he history? I know it's a personal question but I care about you and your life. It is interesting how your opinion had to change when it came to time of need. That makes me like you all the more. You are what's called an interesting person and you added a lot to Two Peas and will add a lot to Refu Peas. Thanks Elannah - no problem asking. That's a chapter that closed a most 2.5 years ago. It didn't end very well, and I learned a lot about myself and people through the course of that relationship. I have dated a few guys since then, and most recently dated a wonderful man officially for about 6 months, and unofficially for about 6 more. We met about a year and a half ago. There are outside influences that have kept us from staying together, but he has become one of my best friends, and we are together every day. Time will tell what the outcome will be there. I haven't really been focusing much in that area lately, but stay open to whatever life brings my way.
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Post by mely on Aug 2, 2014 5:32:33 GMT
No apologies needed - I just hope for the best. Good luck getting back on your feet and I hope things pick up soon. I started at the other end - with absolutely nothing - and have worked my way up to where I am now. This is just a setback and things will start looking up.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 2, 2014 5:49:53 GMT
Jonda dare I ask you about your SO? Were you able to find a way to bring him to the US or is he history? I know it's a personal question but I care about you and your life. It is interesting how your opinion had to change when it came to time of need. That makes me like you all the more. You are what's called an interesting person and you added a lot to Two Peas and will add a lot to Refu Peas. Thanks Elannah - no problem asking. That's a chapter that closed a most 2.5 years ago. It didn't end very well, and I learned a lot about myself and people through the course of that relationship. I have dated a few guys since then, and most recently dated a wonderful man officially for about 6 months, and unofficially for about 6 more. We met about a year and a half ago. There are outside influences that have kept us from staying together, but he has become one of my best friends, and we are together every day. Time will tell what the outcome will be there. I haven't really been focusing much in that area lately, but stay open to whatever life brings my way. Jonda, I am sorry things didn't end well. I was hopeful but very tentatively. I tried to bring a guy to Canada many years ago (we were married and he had a job to come to) but didn't want to leave his native country of Japan. Shit happens unfortunately. I am truly sorry though. I was hopeful. I hope you and your "friend" stay close for a long time. If it develops into more again then cool. It's ok to have a BFF too. Men need them as much as women do. Please make yourself welcome here. It's fun in here! Elannah
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Post by doesitmatter on Aug 2, 2014 5:56:00 GMT
Jonda, when you know better, you do better. ~Ms. Maya Angelou I totally agree^…
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Post by nantini on Aug 2, 2014 6:02:30 GMT
Jonda, I've always enjoyed reading your posts even though our views are slightly different. It always helps me to balance things out and see the other side.
I don't necessarily think it's karma biting you in the ass, it just the uncertainly most of us live with now. It I agree sometimes wiping the slate clean helps us start a new path. I hope you find something soon.
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