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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2014 20:13:11 GMT
I was going to say how do you infest furniture with bedbugs? I would've done that before taking it over there. Maybe your sister in law will sit on it and it'll break on her. You should've sawed the legs about 1/2 way through up near the seat where it wouldn't be detectable!
When do they leave to head back to where they live? When they leave, go over to SIL and see if the chair is still there. If it is, take it back.
I'm sorry. I feel bad for you. I usually don't wish bad karma on people, but in this case I do.
Edited cuz I don't know how to spell.
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Post by peanuttle on Dec 31, 2014 20:30:01 GMT
Thank you all for your support. Reading your comments has actually added a lot of humor to this whole situation. I really wanted to do something horrible to the chair before it left, but I am really trying to be the bigger person and not stoop to her level. That and DH took it when I wasn't home (he probably knew better).  I use to wonder why MIL and SIL's didn't like me and think it must be me. I have not problem with people or other friendships and am very easy going. It took me years to realize MIL is crazy and doesn't like anyone and SIL's will go along with anything MIL says. It's been a long road, but I've gotten to the point were I go, smile, make small talk and leave feeling good, knowing I am a good person. The rotten side of me wants to litter her yard with old, shi&&y chairs and huge piles of dog crap! I will say, if DH does not get the money from her, all hell will break loose. |
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Dec 31, 2014 20:45:28 GMT
It is a shame that your MIL would do something so petty that changes the way her son and DIL will feel about her - forever.
Put it behind you and find a fabulous chair in the new year!
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Post by scrappysurfer on Dec 31, 2014 20:57:07 GMT
Worst update ever. Lol.
I understand your DH feels he's being the bigger person but we all know that fact is totally overlooked by his family. All they see is, they say jump and he asks how high. They'll never do anything but treat him and your family like second class.
And you realize you'll never see the $$ for the chair right?
I'm sad and angry for you.
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Post by freecharlie on Dec 31, 2014 20:59:59 GMT
I hope there is nothing else that they left from before and if there is and it is crap that you mail it all to her or leave it all on SIL's front step
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Post by freecharlie on Dec 31, 2014 21:00:46 GMT
Yeah, the money is gone. There is no way in hell someone that brazen will pay up after already recreceiving the chair
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Post by conchita on Dec 31, 2014 21:51:00 GMT
Damn. That really sucks. I hope you find an even more awesomely beautiful chic chair for your home and that none of your in laws ever sit their stank asses on it. I also hope you and your husband can move past this with an approved plan of attack for the next time this woman wiggles her little finger. Because with bullies like this, they don't stop unless you make them stop.
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Post by amom23 on Dec 31, 2014 22:25:35 GMT
OP I feel sad for you. Your DH let a bully win.  |
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Post by Scrapper100 on Dec 31, 2014 22:42:40 GMT
Sorry to see this outcome but I would bet it still isn't over. You and DH stole her chair and it took years to get it back lol. I hope you find something else to replace it soon and that it doesn't cause any more problems for you and your DH. I wouldn't count on seeing any money from it either.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2014 22:54:00 GMT
You all did the right thing. You will find a better chair and mil will pay for it.
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Post by 950nancy on Dec 31, 2014 22:57:25 GMT
I am hoping MIL hears how expensive it was to fix and gives it back. Even the Grinch had a tiny heart.
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Post by PaperAngel on Dec 31, 2014 23:02:50 GMT
I hope there is nothing else that they left from before and if there is and it is crap that you mail it all to her or leave it all on SIL's front step I encourage you to urge your husband to deliver any- & everything he still has from the original home, regardless its condition, to his sister tomorrow. He should assure his parents & siblings that he has & wants nothing that belonged to the family. This way your husband has no family heirlooms for your MIL to covet during her annual visit next year! Best wishes with your furniture search; hope you find a beautiful piece that your family will cherish for generations... |
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Post by marimoose on Dec 31, 2014 23:18:00 GMT
You two are better people than me. I know it is just a chair but you also put much work and dollars into it. I doubt that you will ever see a penny and I can't even imagine how all relationships in that side lf the family won't be negatively impacted because of the outcome. Totally sucks that MIL is crazy and a bully. She clearly did not learn how to deal with living with regrets. *Sigh* family drama stinks and often can't be avoided no matter how hard you try. I do hope that you and your dh find a chair that is even better than could dream the chair you gave up was quite lovely and inviting.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2014 23:26:14 GMT
Oh yes, they'd definitely be getting a bill. Even if they have no intention of paying, I'd be sure to let them know how much you spent refurbishing that chair. Who knows, maybe your FIL will do the right thing and reimburse you.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Dec 31, 2014 23:31:27 GMT
awww, worst update ever is right. You guys are more considerate and tolerant of her than I ever could be of someone like that.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Dec 31, 2014 23:52:21 GMT
You didn't hide some limberger cheese or dead fish in the chair?
You took the high ROAD well done staying classy!
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Post by Nanner on Jan 1, 2015 0:25:59 GMT
That really sucks. I don't think you'll see a cent of that money.
I would be so pissed.
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Post by 1lear on Jan 1, 2015 0:37:15 GMT
You are so nice-I hope you have a great 2015!
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Post by purplebee on Jan 1, 2015 0:41:52 GMT
Congrats on taking the high road. Not sure I could have.....
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Post by metaldancer on Jan 1, 2015 13:55:30 GMT
Carrie, I live in NC and have a dog and two cats who produce big piles of crap on a daily basis. I deliver, just sayin'!  I'm pissed for you, but I understand why your DH just sucked in up and gave her the chair. And you'd better get reimbursed for it!! |
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Post by Really Red on Jan 1, 2015 14:06:53 GMT
I'm sorry. I appreciate the update. I would have done the same thing as your DH and would have been as mad as you about it. Sometimes it's not worth it, but maybe this is the turning point? The Great Chair Return is when your DH finally realized that he needed to take a few steps back.
I'm really sorry.
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Post by pelirroja on Jan 1, 2015 14:12:08 GMT
Your DH sounds like a wonderful guy. Just stand by him the best you can even if you are furious with your MIL. She must have a very small world (and heart) if an inanimate object is more valuable to her than family relationships.
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Jan 1, 2015 14:22:17 GMT
Having met the 10 page minimum requirement, this thread is the official "Chair-gate" thread.
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Post by michellegb on Jan 1, 2015 14:39:04 GMT
Having met the 10 page minimum requirement, this thread is the official "Chair-gate" thread.  |
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Post by gloryjoy on Jan 1, 2015 16:10:31 GMT
I'm so sorry you had to let go of the chair. I admire your class in all of this.
Now go out and get yourself the best chair ever!!!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 1, 2015 16:26:59 GMT
Your DH sounds like a wonderful guy. Just stand by him the best you can even if you are furious with your MIL. She must have a very small world (and heart) if an inanimate object is more valuable to her than family relationships. Yes, yes, yes and yes! |
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Post by vi on Jan 1, 2015 16:39:42 GMT
I'd go out and buy a chair that is better than the one that was given away. That way you can look at it with love and not have to look at the other chair and think of your mil.
Kudos to you for putting up with your husband's family. You got a great guy in spite of them!
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Post by amandad74 on Jan 1, 2015 16:47:23 GMT
It is a shame that your MIL would do something so petty that changes the way her son and DIL will feel about her - forever. Put it behind you and find a fabulous chair in the new year! I agree! |
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Post by janesays on Jan 1, 2015 17:10:49 GMT
I'm so sorry to hear this update too. Like everyone else said, you and DH are very classy indeed.
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Post by scrappinghappy on Jan 1, 2015 17:20:19 GMT
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I'm pissed for you, but I understand why your DH just sucked in up and gave her the chair. And you'd better get reimbursed for it!!
