jayfab
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Post by jayfab on Mar 29, 2024 20:12:13 GMT
I think you made the right decision.
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MDscrapaholic
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Mar 29, 2024 20:16:52 GMT
I have not commented on this thread, but I've read it through. You're in a tough position, and I know you're doing the right thing. I hope it all works out for you, in the way you want.
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Post by Bridget in MD on Mar 29, 2024 20:38:44 GMT
I know this was something that you weighed carefully, and I think you have given it plenty of time and consideration to feel good about when filing it.
Not that it matters, but I think you did the right thing and I would have had filed the damn thing on day 1! I am so angry for you!
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Post by mom on Mar 29, 2024 21:35:19 GMT
And in those time frame, have there been any improvements? Not really and there won't be any in the future. It's like one thing improves and then one thing falls apart. That's what's been happening. Like just enough to keep me hanging on, then crash again. When I was married to my first husband, a friend asked why I stayed and didn't just leave. The only answer I could give was when I know it's time, it'll be time and I know I wont look back with regrets. I woke up one day and was just done. The boys and I left and never looked back. I think you've come to the point (atleast, it seems like you have) that you are ready and wont have any regrets moving forward. We support you!
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Post by littlemama on Mar 29, 2024 21:47:09 GMT
Im glad you filed the complaint. It was time!
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pantsonfire
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Post by pantsonfire on Mar 29, 2024 22:32:45 GMT
Here is to the complaint moving top persons butts under the fire and making positive, overall work environment changes that will benefit all and YOUR mental health and well being.
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Post by AussieMeg on Mar 29, 2024 23:01:59 GMT
I hope you decision frees your mind for a peaceful weekend. Perfectly stated! Like everyone else has said or is going to say, you're definitely doing the right thing.
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seaexplore
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Post by seaexplore on Mar 29, 2024 23:30:13 GMT
It's scary but I know you are doing the right thing. What they've put you through is more than enough for the average person to have to put up with. I hope you get that other position and are truly valued at your new job. Fingers crossed for you!! I just have to. It's just one more thing. It's always just one more thing. If I don't I'll be just going one more thing six months from now. Yes Yes Yes. I know you don't WANT to but it seriously has been more than time to do it.
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Post by mikklynn on Mar 29, 2024 23:42:29 GMT
Like mom said, you knew it was time. I really, really hope you find a wonderful new position with people that deserve you!
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Post by gillyp on Mar 30, 2024 0:52:58 GMT
You've done what needed to be done and it's up to others to deal with the process from now on. You've tried and tried and now you should be able to step back and let the correct procedures take their course. Onward and upward!
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RosieKat
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Jun 25, 2014 19:28:04 GMT
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Post by RosieKat on Mar 30, 2024 2:04:22 GMT
Agreeing with mom here. You had to get to the place where it was right in your head. You're there, and we fully support you!
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Post by scrapmaven on Mar 30, 2024 15:20:50 GMT
It's way past time. I hope that your seriously heard and that change for the best finally happens. Though, I'm rooting for your upcoming interview to be great.
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Post by gillyp on Apr 2, 2024 11:55:28 GMT
The very best of good wishes for today jeremysgirl! Everything crossed for you.
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Post by quietgirl on Apr 2, 2024 13:06:31 GMT
Me too! Wishing you the best!
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Post by Mel on Apr 2, 2024 13:09:12 GMT
Good for you!! And best of luck for your interview!
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 2, 2024 13:49:08 GMT
I think it went super well. I really do believe I did my best. We shall see what happens.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 2, 2024 13:58:53 GMT
Fingers crossed for you, jeremysgirl! You’ve got this! 😎
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Post by hop2 on Apr 2, 2024 13:59:51 GMT
Yes, fingers crossed for you.
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Post by scrapmaven on Apr 2, 2024 14:12:52 GMT
Let's all send jeremysgirl, our strongest get the job thoughts. So happy to hear that your interview went well. I'm crossing all fingers and toes.
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RosieKat
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Post by RosieKat on Apr 2, 2024 14:32:44 GMT
Sending (more) good vibes that it all works out the way you want (need!)!
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Apr 2, 2024 14:41:43 GMT
Fingers crossed for you!
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Post by gillyp on Apr 2, 2024 15:24:15 GMT
Did they give an indication of when you might hear the outcome?
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 2, 2024 19:33:29 GMT
Did they give an indication of when you might hear the outcome? No, they did not. What I do know is that they had three candidates including me to interview. However, the posting is ongoing so they will hold it open until they find the right candidate. I am currently waiting because I was told that they would be sending out some kind of exercise that is due by end of day tomorrow. Hopefully they will decide yay or nay quickly. I don't really expect them to string me out for a long time like some of these other positions have been.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 2, 2024 20:01:07 GMT
As of 3:30, my coworker hadn't logged in at all today. She missed three meetings she had scheduled with me. I poked my boss when she missed the first one. He said he'd contact her. And I just got off a meeting with him where he said he got no answer from her.
He gave us a big project to do. It came straight down from the CEO. This was the Thursday before last. I had scheduled a meeting with her last Monday to discuss exceptions we would need to make for certain offices. We agreed to put together working spreadsheets for our offices and regroup later in the week. I suggested Wednesday. She said not enough time so I scheduled for 10 am Thursday. Fifteen minutes before that meeting was to start, she sent a new time proposal for 2:30 that afternoon and she said she needed more time. At 2:30, I pulled up my working spreadsheet and ran her through the whole thing explaining how I came to the figures I did. And then I said, so show me what you've put together. And she had nothing. She did no work. I must have looked dumbfounded because she said, I'm not feeling well and I need to reschedule for tomorrow. She sent a meeting notice for 2pm Friday. And I sent an email to the bosses telling them what had happened.
On Friday at 1pm, she cancelled the meeting and rescheduled for today at noon. I hadn't heard anything from the issues in regard to my prior day email so I sent another. And I got my hand slapped by my boss telling me that my coworker is having a medical complication and that I needed to just be patient and give her time to do the work and if she couldn't get it done by the end of this week, he would do it. I was pissed. Because I felt so very much like he was accusing me of not having any compassion for her. I do have compassion fatigue. It's true. I mean it's one thing after another and no one is actually stepping up to help me. I was so upset about it, I called in sick yesterday. I wasn't really sick, I was just so pissed.
She was out today and no one knew where she was. She was off yesterday for a doctor appointment. But she missed that project meeting at noon. And then the unit staff meeting 2 I had with my boss. Neither her nor the assistant director was there. He told me that he had a talk with his boss and they have decided that it is time to have serious discussions with my coworker about her ability to do the job. I just sat there not commenting. He has never said anything like that before. Like I said, I didn't comment. I just asked him to let me know if she responds that she's ok and turned the discussion to something else. I don't trust him. I don't believe him.
I do feel terrible for her. That's why I was hesitant for a long while to do anything. I just didn't like the fact that I was letting them know what was going on with the project and I felt like he hand slapped me.
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pantsonfire
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Post by pantsonfire on Apr 2, 2024 20:07:36 GMT
As of 3:30, my coworker hadn't logged in at all today. She missed three meetings she had scheduled with me. I poked my boss when she missed the first one. He said he'd contact her. And I just got off a meeting with him where he said he got no answer from her. He gave us a big project to do. It came straight down from the CEO. This was the Thursday before last. I had scheduled a meeting with her last Monday to discuss exceptions we would need to make for certain offices. We agreed to put together working spreadsheets for our offices and regroup later in the week. I suggested Wednesday. She said not enough time so I scheduled for 10 am Thursday. Fifteen minutes before that meeting was to start, she sent a new time proposal for 2:30 that afternoon and she said she needed more time. At 2:30, I pulled up my working spreadsheet and ran her through the whole thing explaining how I came to the figures I did. And then I said, so show me what you've put together. And she had nothing. She did no work. I must have looked dumbfounded because she said, I'm not feeling well and I need to reschedule for tomorrow. She sent a meeting notice for 2pm Friday. And I sent an email to the bosses telling them what had happened. On Friday at 1pm, she cancelled the meeting and rescheduled for today at noon. I hadn't heard anything from the issues in regard to my prior day email so I sent another. And I got my hand slapped by my boss telling me that my coworker is having a medical complication and that I needed to just be patient and give her time to do the work and if she couldn't get it done by the end of this week, he would do it. I was pissed. Because I felt so very much like he was accusing me of not having any compassion for her. I do have compassion fatigue. It's true. I mean it's one thing after another and no one is actually stepping up to help me. I was so upset about it, I called in sick yesterday. I wasn't really sick, I was just so pissed. She was out today and no one knew where she was. She was off yesterday for a doctor appointment. But she missed that project meeting at noon. And then the unit staff meeting 2 I had with my boss. Neither her nor the assistant director was there. He told me that he had a talk with his boss and they have decided that it is time to have serious discussions with my coworker about her ability to do the job. I just sat there not commenting. He has never said anything like that before. Like I said, I didn't comment. I just asked him to let me know if she responds that she's ok and turned the discussion to something else. I don't trust him. I don't believe him.
I do feel terrible for her. That's why I was hesitant for a long while to do anything. I just didn't like the fact that I was letting them know what was going on with the project and I felt like he hand slapped me. Holy crap. Now is this the person brought in to "fix" things? He is an a$$hole. And I am sorry he made you feel that way. I am sensing out all the good vibes I can that you get the new job so you can leave the toxic work space. BTW she is a big girl and should have said I am away due to medical reasons because then you as a functioning adult wouldn't have sent the emails. Jesus.
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pantsonfire
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Post by pantsonfire on Apr 2, 2024 20:07:50 GMT
That is the definition of dysfunctional work place.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 2, 2024 20:22:41 GMT
pantsonfire the request for temporary help he told me he was advancing on two months ago never got any traction. No one was ever brought in. Honestly I'll tell you that at that time, I believed it to be a bluff to see if she would pick up the pace and actually work.
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Post by gillyp on Apr 2, 2024 20:26:46 GMT
I am so angry on your behalf, I am speechless.
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pantsonfire
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Post by pantsonfire on Apr 2, 2024 22:22:25 GMT
pantsonfire the request for temporary help he told me he was advancing on two months ago never got any traction. No one was ever brought in. Honestly I'll tell you that at that time, I believed it to be a bluff to see if she would pick up the pace and actually work. Good gosh.
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bklyngal62
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Post by bklyngal62 on Apr 2, 2024 22:47:03 GMT
Fingers crossed and sending all good vibes your way.
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