Do you get gifts for Mother's Day?

I understand. You're a mama and that's hard work. You want to feel special and appreciated and your dh dropped the ball and that hurts. Sounds like he grew up in a home where this holiday was not important. Approaching him w/anger will only make you feel worse, cause he won't be able to listen w/reason. Can you calmly ask him for what you want and need? He missed the boat this year, but maybe he'll learn for future occasions.

Despite the fact that he will answer you w/"we buy whatever we want, anyway", buy yourself something that you truly want. I'm sorry that you're hurting today. My dh didn't have a chance to think up anything, due to some abrupt home stuff that had to be handled, but I just decided to take my own advice, order something that I want and make the best out of the day. I have one gift from one of my sons and I'll open that during our family Zoom call. My other ds was going to take us out for breakfast, but caught a cold and we'll go another time.   I'm not upset, because I am reminded that Hallmark can't tell me how to live my life.

Spend today doing what you want to do. Make it all about you, even if your dh did not do so.

My DH doesn’t get me anything. When the boys were little, he bought something for them to give me, but now they are adults with jobs, they buy something for me.
Sometimes, they ask him to do the actual buying, as we live in different countries, but this year we were back for Easter and younger DS managed to give him something without me knowing to bring back.

I did get flowers when we went grocery shopping yesterday, because the store had a nicer than usual selection, but that’s just something he will do for a random reason every so often.
We are also at the ‘we buy what we want when we want/need it’ stage of life and I don’t really need anything and I don’t want things to clutter our life any more, so I’m fine with flowers and maybe a nice dinner out.

Nope. I dont need gifts to feel appreciated. (Note- I am not criticicizng those that do. There is nothing wrong with that!)

Ds made breakfast and dh and I are making dinner (smoked ribs, mac and cheese and baked beans). We are also trying to get the garden finished before we leave for vacation in a couple weeks.

I get a small gift from my son and my daughter. My husband is taking us out to dinner. I’m perfectly happy with that . Why are you getting him a gift for Father’s Day?  I don’t see why you are unhappy with the celebration.

Mother’s day comes before father’s day. Some years, my husband organizes activities and gets gifts. Some years, he doesn’t. I match his energy. Period.

Usually just flowers and a card.

Usually I get a card and a gift from each kid. For the past few Mother's Days, I haven't seen my kids because I tell them to celebrate the other side of the family. I am so lucky that I get to see my kids often and putting pressure on them to try to do 2 celebrations isn't fun. My birthday is also within a week or so of MD as well as my son's bday. It is what it is.

I did get a text from my youngest saying happy MD and thanks for being a great mom. Then he texted back that I need to watch the YT video of bear number 399 to see another good mom. Ha.

A long time ago I realized that I need to take care of myself and my happiness, so I do that. It wasn't that others weren't putting in any effort, but I try to make others happy. So now I do the same for myself.

I don’t expect anything from my husband on Mother’s Day because I am not his mother. He helped the kids when they were little, but now they do their own things, or sometimes, not. Some years a phone call, some years a card, some years a dinner, etc.

However, I am not big on “days” to show people we appreciate them and I come from a family of low-key holiday celebrations. I may be the one that goes the furtherest. It’s the little things that really communicate appreciation and my family does that throughout the year.

That said, if I want something, I say something. My husband and family aren’t mind readers. I know others have different expectations for holidays and their loved ones, but this is how I roll.

I'm sorry that your Mother's Day isn't shaping up as you'd hoped it would. This is obviously important to you, yet your DH hasn't gotten that message. Well before Mother's Day next year a sit down with him to discuss your feelings and expectations is in order. He is doing what he knows and is going to need to know that it isn't working for you. Communication is key.  Has he always been this way, or is it a a recent development?   With your second post, it sounds as though there is something else going on besides just no gift for MD. 

Mother's Day is always a big deal here, as it was in my home growing up.  At the minimum it is dinner out and flowers.  Some years there is a gift from DH as well as DD.  Today (at my request) dinner is crab cakes at home but DH & DD will do all the cooking and cleanup while I play in my sewing room.  I suspect there will be a gift from DD once she arrives as well.  

I’m getting a pup in a few weeks so my daughter got me these for Mother’s Day. Very practical —900 of them!

My daughters each get me a gift. My husband scrambles. He wants to go out to eat tonight. I’m fine with that.

My daughter who recently moved away sent me a huge box full of gifts, my oldest grandson who lives with his dad but I get him off the bus every day got me a card and gift card.
My husband bought a bunch of flowers for outside for our yard, plus he got me a card and a Barnes and Noble gift card.
All of my Aunt's, friends, niece's and cousins text me today and my Uncle's on my mom's side also text me today.
We bought new flowers, solar lights and hummingbird stakes to decorate my mom and mother in laws grave today to honor them.

Yes, from my pups. 😉
Today, I got a silicone ring, and a Lego flower bouquet . 😊

If I had children, I would not expect anything from my DH, but would at least want the kids to acknowledge the day.

Almost never. Meaning when my kids were small DH never bought anything to be from them, and he nothing from him, either.

When my kids were in school they might bring home some Mother's Day craft or gift they made there.

Now that they are older, it's been nothing for years.

This year was incredibly unusual in that when I asked DH & one of my kids to go purchase flowers for the grandmothers, my DH came home with a potted tulip for me as well. I was really surprised.

Coincidently I did receive one other gift this year, that being from the current significant other of one of my kids. And, again, by coincidence, my eldest made me a card this year. So, for me, this has pretty much been an embarrassment of the riches in comparison to my last 2 decades of almost nothing.

To be clear, I really don't mind. I'd rather they do a bit more for me or with me than give me gifts. And yesterday my kids did get together to do yard work for me, which I very much appreciated as it was real grunt work that they were doing.