A little update NEW update 7/19

Sending good thoughts for the best possible outcome.  Hugs!

I feel like this other lady does know about you and is helping him hide the money. Maybe she didn't know about you at first, but she does now.

Who knows. I cannot wait until this is over for you and you are able to move forward with your life.

I continue to pray for peace and resolution for you. You are one strong woman!!

Praying the judge rules fully in your favor.

It's really sad that we have two different Peas putting up with these shenanigans from their STBXH. I was a bit confused when you said that the other woman probably doesn't know about you, I'm thinking "Hang on, she was sending you abusive texts?" But that was Freecharlie's story. It's truly mind boggling what these idiot men think they can get away with.

Thank you for the update. I am always thinking about you and Freecharlie, and hoping that this nightmare will soon be over for both of you. I will keep everything crossed for you, that the accountant has the report ready soon, and the judge allows the other woman to be brought into the case.

Big hugs to you. xx

I’m so sorry 😞
Hopefully everything will go well in your favor

I've been pulling for you. Hope you are on the downward slide

Sending the best vibes I have your way.

If he's lying to you, he's lying to her. It might be about different things, but clearly lying is no big deal to him.

Crossing all my fingers and toes karma shows up for you big time on Friday. You've certainly earned it.

Sending positive thoughts for your meeting on Friday. You definitely have been through the ringer.

I keep reading your story and I don't think I've commented.

The only dude I've ever known that was such a blatant liar, and truly didn't think people were on the same intelligence plain as him, was my ex. A narcissistic, lying, controlling b*****d who I'm so thankful to be rid of, but even after 15 years I'm petrified that I will fall for some of that crap again. The funny thing is, I'm actually pretty dang smart, capable and independent. He chipped away at all that, and left sooo much baggage behind. I worry about you, but I'm also hopeful and excited for you, because you are likely coming out of that same cocoon.

I left literally everything on the table to simply get out of my marriage, I just couldn't take it, and wanted to be far far away as fast as I could. I am so proud of you (sounds silly I know) and love that you aren't letting him get away with robbing you, and even more, feeling the sense of superiority of successfully "pulling the wool over your eyes." My guess is there have been soo many lies over the years that you just let go to keep the peace. At least, that's what I did.

FWIW- My ex told his current wife (back then a girl that his best friends wife - who knew me---------- introduced him to) that I was DEAD when he met her. We have 3 kids that all know that I'm very much alive lol. I don't think at the time he figured she'd ever meet the kids. I'm sure when she did, and found out I am very much alive, he convinced her he never said that. He also married that same idiot, and neglected to tell her about his 3rd kid (second baby mama) that he was paying child support for. When that baby mama insisted he actually take the kid (15ish) at that time- he told his current (idiot) wife that that really wasn't his son, that it was his brothers (alive) son, and he was just helping to support him. The kid literally was coming to live with them and he told the wife it wasn't his kid!! That he'd been paying child support on for the previous 15 years, and called him Papa. Also, the kid was conceived and born in a foreign country (not Canada!) and the brother has never left New England hahahahha

The (idiot) had never actually spoken to me- in fact, she very intentionally acted like I didn't exist. My guess is that my existence is a hell of a reminder that her husband is a liar.... To the level of I traveled to the SW to be at my daughter's graduation, and we all went to dinner, around the same round table. I literally tried to include her in the conversation and she acted as if she couldn't hear my voice. THEN after the whopper of "I'm a greedy miser and that ain't my kid but I'm the wonderful man helping to support him for a decade and a half." She actually called me to ask the truth about the kid. She's called me 3 other times over the years to fact check. Kind of a shame when you can't believe your husband or your gut and have to call the ex wife to get the truth.

Yet.. still she stays............. She's truly not stupid, but man, she's stupid. Now she has 4 kids by him, and they live in the middle of nowhere homeschooling their kids who never see civilization. My kids call those kids feral. My kids also see the double "public" life he leads and how he isn't himself around the people that worship him (that's another whole long ass story.)

So, whether your STBX knows or not, she has to know SOMETHING. These liars that lie don't stop, and clearly, it eventually catches up with them. But they just make up more lies and try to convince people that everyone else misunderstood. When the court is involved, it's all on paper and hinges on documentation. That trips these liars up. I hope your STBX is left standing in the courtroom with the ashes of his bank statements, his marriage, and his "lady friend" walks out the door too. He deserves that. And the best part is, no part of him thinks that's gonna happen, because he's too smart for that.

I was just thinking, if he has given a ton of money to his "friend" wouldn't the FA follow the trail to see where the money went - even if it was cash? 

I have a good friend who is going through something very similar after being married 40+ years. We used to love being with them and spending weekends with them.