Just T
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Post by Just T on Aug 26, 2024 20:39:51 GMT
The hearing about making his gf a third party was today, and the judge ruled in my favor!
I'm not going to say too much yet, but my attorney is going to come up with a settlement offer for him because he is super pissed about it, and has been saying for months that he absolutely does NOT want her brought into or even for his attorney to talk to her.
OMG, for the first time in three years, I can breathe and feel some real hope.
Cross your fingers that this will be over for me soon!!
Oh, she was so worried about how upset he was, that she drove me to my car when it was over. And told me to not go home. I already had plans to stay with a friend for a couple of days and took things with me when I left for work this morning.
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Post by naby64 on Aug 26, 2024 20:41:55 GMT
Oh my goodness, I hope this is the light near the end of the tunnel for you. It is good to hear that she was worried for you. However, can't that worry work in your favor somehow to get him out of the house? Maybe this has been addressed before and I missed it.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Aug 26, 2024 20:50:23 GMT
I'm glad that went in your favor.
Please be very careful, don't go anywhere alone. Make sure you are not being followed.
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Post by mom on Aug 26, 2024 21:11:11 GMT
Heck yeah! It's about time things are going the way it should! I am dying to know what the girlfriend is feeling!
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Post by peasquared on Aug 26, 2024 21:25:02 GMT
Yay, some good news for you finally. I hope the judge has it out for him.
But, please, please be safe!
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Post by Darcy Collins on Aug 26, 2024 21:31:30 GMT
Be careful - people who believe they are invincible do not take kindly to setbacks. And make sure you have enough information from the forensic accountant before making a settlement offer.
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Post by Tearisci on Aug 26, 2024 21:32:11 GMT
I'm so happy for you! Hold these small victories close and hope they continue to happen!
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 26, 2024 22:54:21 GMT
The hearing about making his gf a third party was today, and the judge ruled in my favor! I'm not going to say too much yet, but my attorney is going to come up with a settlement offer for him because he is super pissed about it, and has been saying for months that he absolutely does NOT want her brought into or even for his attorney to talk to her. OMG, for the first time in three years, I can breathe and feel some real hope. Cross your fingers that this will be over for me soon!! Oh, she was so worried about how upset he was, that she drove me to my car when it was over. And told me to not go home. I already had plans to stay with a friend for a couple of days and took things with me when I left for work this morning. I am happy for you for that!! And sad that you have to hide out for awhile.. smart move but sad. |
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Post by dmopal on Aug 26, 2024 23:03:01 GMT
That is a very hopeful update! But please as the others have said please stay safe!
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Aug 26, 2024 23:12:57 GMT
Yes! I literally yelled yes with your first sentence!!
Make sure the number is enough to pay your lawyer. It is doubtful he would honor an order from the court to pay her directly above your settlement!.
Please, please stay safe.
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Post by MorellisCupcake on Aug 26, 2024 23:35:38 GMT
I’ll say it - fuck him. I hope things are coming in your favor. (I’m biased. My sister is divorcing a total narcissist after 23 years so I’m very scorched earth about it).
I’ve read your updates and I always have hope that he’ll get found out. Get your settlement and be happy and once again - fuck him
I’m also a STL pea, we should organize a meetup.
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Post by silverlining on Aug 26, 2024 23:44:07 GMT
Be careful - people who believe they are invincible do not take kindly to setbacks. And make sure you have enough information from the forensic accountant before making a settlement offer. Great news that the judge ruled in your favor! Have you seen the full report from the forensic accountant, and has your attorney gone over it with you? Have you seen the settlement offer and had all your questions answered? Remember, your stbx might want to hurry things along so the girlfriend doesn't have to be involved, but your attorney needs to depose her. You need to take your time now to make sure that your attorney has all the financial information necessary for you to get all that you deserve. Stay strong and stay safe. |
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Aug 27, 2024 0:25:35 GMT
Be careful - people who believe they are invincible do not take kindly to setbacks. And make sure you have enough information from the forensic accountant before making a settlement offer. Great news that the judge ruled in your favor! Have you seen the full report from the forensic accountant, and has your attorney gone over it with you? Have you seen the settlement offer and had all your questions answered? Remember, your stbx might want to hurry things along so the girlfriend doesn't have to be involved, but your attorney needs to depose her. You need to take your time now to make sure that your attorney has all the financial information necessary for you to get all that you deserve. Stay strong and stay safe. Yes, this!! Just T |
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Post by MichyM on Aug 27, 2024 0:28:22 GMT
It makes me nervous for you that he essentially has access to you whenever he wants. PLEASE be careful.
And a HUGE congratulations about today’s ruling!
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Post by FurryP on Aug 27, 2024 1:25:19 GMT
Yay for the judge! Of all thie things, I hope safety for you the most. Ok, and that this is finally over soon.
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Post by bc2ca on Aug 27, 2024 1:31:50 GMT
Another one hating that you need to essentially hide for a few days.
I am thrilled the ruling went in your favor. I bet your STBX is going to try settle before his running partner gets pulled into the mess because I 100% doubt she knows you exist and he is currently married. Hoping it is a very generous offer.
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The Birdhouse Lady
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Aug 27, 2024 1:33:41 GMT
I’m so happy to hear your update but I am worried about your safety.
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Post by janeinbama on Aug 27, 2024 1:39:00 GMT
Ditto to all the above. I’m glad your attorney is taking your safety serious. ((Hugs))
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Post by quietgirl on Aug 27, 2024 1:59:36 GMT
Oh,I'm so happy the judge ruled in your favor! Woohoo!!! I also worry, and hope you are safe. Good thoughts your way.
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Post by Lexica on Aug 27, 2024 3:05:43 GMT
Another one hating that you need to essentially hide for a few days. I am thrilled the ruling went in your favor. I bet your STBX is going to try settle before his running partner gets pulled into the mess because I 100% doubt she knows you exist and he is currently married. Hoping it is a very generous offer. This is what I have thought as well. She may have no idea that he has a wife and children and I wonder if he has tried to play himself off as a nice guy and a real catch instead of cheating scum. Please be extra, extra cautious. I am so happy that the judge ruled in your favor. I am surprised at the level of anger I can feel for someone I have never met. I just hate injustice. |
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Post by Bridget in MD on Aug 27, 2024 11:42:26 GMT
The hearing about making his gf a third party was today, and the judge ruled in my favor! I'm not going to say too much yet, but my attorney is going to come up with a settlement offer for him because he is super pissed about it, and has been saying for months that he absolutely does NOT want her brought into or even for his attorney to talk to her. OMG, for the first time in three years, I can breathe and feel some real hope. Cross your fingers that this will be over for me soon!! Oh, she was so worried about how upset he was, that she drove me to my car when it was over. And told me to not go home. I already had plans to stay with a friend for a couple of days and took things with me when I left for work this morning.  Your lawyer drove you and told you this? That is so scary!!!!! I am so pleased to read that the judge ruled in your favor!!!! WOOT!!!!!! Play the long game!!!!! |
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Post by Bridget in MD on Aug 27, 2024 11:45:39 GMT
Another one hating that you need to essentially hide for a few days. I am thrilled the ruling went in your favor. I bet your STBX is going to try settle before his running partner gets pulled into the mess because I 100% doubt she knows you exist and he is currently married. Hoping it is a very generous offer. I think he says he is a widow, so the GF would think she is passed. |
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Post by blue tulip on Aug 27, 2024 11:56:00 GMT
Another one hating that you need to essentially hide for a few days. I am thrilled the ruling went in your favor. I bet your STBX is going to try settle before his running partner gets pulled into the mess because I 100% doubt she knows you exist and he is currently married. Hoping it is a very generous offer. I think he says he is a widow, so the GF would think she is passed. wowwww, that's scary. :/ |
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Post by hop2 on Aug 27, 2024 12:05:55 GMT
I hope your attorney makes the settlement offer HUGE and as much money up front as possible so he can’t take it back later or fail to pay later.
You need to be done with him and him having things to hold over your head.
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Post by heckofagal on Aug 27, 2024 13:32:01 GMT
YAY! I hope the settlement is astronomically high and that this is all way behind you very soon!
I'm another STL pea so let me know if there is a meet up.
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 27, 2024 13:41:46 GMT
Please be safe. I hope you have security at work and have notified people he is not to be allowed in.
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Post by anaterra on Aug 27, 2024 13:41:59 GMT
I worry about you...
I get scott peterson amber frey vibes.... maybe because we are talking about them in another thread....
Hopefully he realizes he cant run a marathon in prison and so he doesn't get that extreme..... but the fact that he is a new gun owner.... its enough to fear for you...
Please be safe
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Post by scrappyesq on Aug 27, 2024 14:09:57 GMT
I'm really happy for you. As everyone else has said please be safe.
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Aug 27, 2024 14:26:45 GMT
Please be safe. I hope you have security at work and have notified people he is not to be allowed in. There are only two of us here today. We are in a building of lots of offices, but ours has an outside entrance that we are keeping locked. You need to be done with him and him having things to hold over your head. I definitely want a one time payment settlement. I do not want to have to rely on him to actually give me anything once the divorce is final. I would constantly be calling my attorney, dragging him to court, etc.  I think he says he is a widow, so the GF would think she is passed. Yep. That's it exactly. That is what started the ball rolling on this whole thing...I accidentally discovered he had unfriended me on FB, and when I went to his FB page, I noticed that his relationship status says "widowed." It still does. His attorney knows this, too. I wonder if he has tried to play himself off as a nice guy and a real catch instead of cheating scum. He has definitely done just that!! About 2 years ago, I was snooping in his texts when he was in the shower one morning, and he said something about one day, she will hopefully decide she wants a real man. Gag me with a spoon. In my boss's sleuthing, she found some information on the internet about the GF, that she was divorced years ago and had a restraining order against her husband because of domestic violence. Be careful - people who believe they are invincible do not take kindly to setbacks. And make sure you have enough information from the forensic accountant before making a settlement offer. I am being careful. My attorney has been telling me for over a year that he is slowly being backed into a corner. I've rarely been home most of this summer because after his deposition, she told me she was worried. I have stayed a lot with a friend who he doesn't even know, so has no idea how to even find me. Plus, he is out of town a lot. I am dying to know what the girlfriend is feeling! I am pretty sure she doesn't know. And won't until she is served a subpoena from my attorney. Unless there is a settlement, which is what I am hoping for. However, can't that worry work in your favor somehow to get him out of the house? I asked my attorney that back in May, and she said the judge won't issue an order of protection based on her feeling that he might do something. He has never been physical with me, not ever, never threatened anything. Thank you all so much!! I am feeling nervous and excited today. Nervous because even though he has never threatened me in any way, as my attorney said yesterday, his house of cards is crumbling around him. I am pretty sure the GF knows nothing about me and likely thinks he really is a widow. They have been together for at least 5 years that I can see, and he is adamantly opposed to her being brought in or even talked to by his attorney. There has to be reasons for that. But yes, I am safe. My friend is awesome, and I already had a weekend trip planned with another friend from this Friday until Tuesday. After that, I will probably go back to where I am staying now. I also have another friend who will take me in if need be. |
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Aug 27, 2024 14:27:48 GMT
YAY! I hope the settlement is astronomically high and that this is all way behind you very soon! I'm another STL pea so let me know if there is a meet up. I would love a pea get together! I actually organized one years ago, then something came up in my family, and I couldn't make it. Let's plan one!! |
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Your lawyer drove you and told you this? That is so scary!!!!!
