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Post by cahwoo on Jul 9, 2014 16:52:21 GMT
What is wrong with these so called adults that forget their babies or just leave kids in cars in the summer. It happened here in my nice quiet town Monday and a 15 month old died. Police won't release any information though. These parents should be locked in a car and see how it feels. It just makes me so sad.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 9, 2014 16:57:10 GMT
OMG..you must be in Connecticut also then....there were two more yesterday...one at Target in North Haven...and one outside a place of business in New London...thankfully they were found before anyone died...
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Post by Deleted on Jul 9, 2014 17:01:23 GMT
To be honest, I have wondered why the incidents have gotten more and more frequent. Are the parents distracted by thoughts/talking on cell phones? I also have to wonder how many of these poor babies were in backfacing carseats? I know it is safer while driving, but have to wonder if it is a contributing factor?
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Post by kimpossible on Jul 9, 2014 17:01:33 GMT
I don't get it myself - I have very little tolerance for those that do. Some stories claim that the person that left them in the car was overly stressed and running a mile a minute - but still, not to remember your baby/kid?
That being said, we had another sad story a year or so ago here in Arizona where a police officer that has a K-9 with him, left the police dog in the car and he died. The officer had been very stressed, no doubt over tired and was devastated. They considered charges being filed against him as well.
All of these stories are tragic and I cannot imagine being able to get past this if you were the one that left them in the car.
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Post by donna on Jul 9, 2014 17:01:49 GMT
We had one here in SC this last week except in this case the 3 year old had wandered out of the house while his Mom was taking a nap and got in the car and was trapped in there.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 9, 2014 17:04:20 GMT
I don't know if it's happening more often, or if it's just making national news more often. Either way, it's just tragic and sad. You'd think with all the attention that it's getting on the news, people would be more careful. But it doesn't seem like they are.
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Post by donna on Jul 9, 2014 17:04:28 GMT
They have been really covering this issue a lot here on our local news stations. Apparently the number of incidents of this happened increases greatly when people started putting the carseats in the back seat due to the dangers of airbags in the front seat.
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Post by SunnySmile on Jul 9, 2014 17:04:36 GMT
I was flipping through channels yesterday and Nancy Grace (why does she talk like she's yelling?)was talking about one that the dad is being suspected of murder, not just forgetting the baby in the car. I can't remember where it happened. Can you believe that? It's so disgusting.
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Post by marianne on Jul 9, 2014 17:06:27 GMT
I swear, I just don't understand how people can forget their kids! It absolutely blows me away. I was stressed too, I got distracted too, yada yada yada, but I still can't comprehend anything taking precedence over the well-being of my child, I just can't.
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Post by bluepoprocks on Jul 9, 2014 17:08:14 GMT
I think sometimes if people do something different then usual like a different parent drops the child off at daycare and maybe the kid falls asleep and isn't making noise they could forget they have them. I really think it could happen.
However, I think the guy who is in the national news lately left his son in the car on purpose to collect his life insurance which is really awful, heartless, and sick. I also think his wife knew he was going to do it.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 9, 2014 17:09:24 GMT
I remember a car with a sleeping toddler in it bursting into flames outside the school where my children went. The mother was dropping her children off and thought it would be perfectly OK. There were people about that she knew etc so she assumed he would be safe. She didn't factor the unexpected into the equation, and someone's Dad had to smash the window with a rock from a nearby garden to get the child out. It isn't just heat issues that make leaving a child in a car not a good idea.
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Post by traceys on Jul 9, 2014 17:10:03 GMT
I did lose track at work once and not realize it was time to pick my son up at school, but I can't imagine leaving my kids in the car. I was always talking to them while we were driving along (of course, I'm one who likes conversation....I talk to the dog when dd is away at college!) So I don't know how you would forget they were there?
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Post by workingclassdog on Jul 9, 2014 17:13:34 GMT
I don't understand it either... MAYBE I get that if you don't normally drop your kid off at daycare maybe you forget, a one in a million chance of that happening.. but you keep hearing story after story about the same thing happening. Just blows my mind. I would hope to God I would have enough sense not to do something like that!! Seems like someone could invent something simple to put in your car to remind you to get your kid out, right? (How sad it that?)
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Post by craftykitten on Jul 9, 2014 17:14:09 GMT
I was flipping through channels yesterday and Nancy Grace (why does she talk like she's yelling?)was talking about one that the dad is being suspected of murder, not just forgetting the baby in the car. I can't remember where it happened. Can you believe that? It's so disgusting. I guess we'll never know how someone can forget their child - I have read a few stories from people who it has happened to, and it is so heartbreaking that I just can't imagine the horror. My nightmares are always about losing things or forgetting that I had them - usually pets that I've forgotten to look after. I can't even begin to think of the anxiety that being a parent must bring. But that guy, on the other hand. That is a whole new level of evil.
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Post by padresfan619 on Jul 9, 2014 17:15:08 GMT
There are sensors in my front seats to alert me when I/my passenger don't have a seatbelt on, they should develop something similar when there is weight in the back seat but the key isn't in the ignition. A little beep could save so many lives.
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Post by craftykitten on Jul 9, 2014 17:15:41 GMT
I don't understand it either... MAYBE I get that if you don't normally drop your kid off at daycare maybe you forget, a one in a million chance of that happening.. but you keep hearing story after story about the same thing happening. Just blows my mind. I would hope to God I would have enough sense not to do something like that!! Seems like someone could invent something simple to put in your car to remind you to get your kid out, right? (How sad it that?) Isn't the advice supposed to be to put your bag on the seat next to the baby so you don't forget?
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Jul 9, 2014 17:17:42 GMT
If you haven't read this award winning article: link, I think you should. Obviously each case is different (there are true neglect cases or in this new case, murder), but for most of these cases, I just feel sadness for everyone involved. I can't imagine the guilt, pain and devastation these people must deal with daily. I'm not not a religious person, but "there but by the grace of God go I" pops in my mind every time I hear one of these stories.
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Post by kimpossible on Jul 9, 2014 17:18:46 GMT
I don't understand it either... MAYBE I get that if you don't normally drop your kid off at daycare maybe you forget, a one in a million chance of that happening.. but you keep hearing story after story about the same thing happening. Just blows my mind. I would hope to God I would have enough sense not to do something like that!! Seems like someone could invent something simple to put in your car to remind you to get your kid out, right? (How sad it that?) Isn't the advice supposed to be to put your bag on the seat next to the baby so you don't forget? That would be the smart thing to do - if you have a lot on your mind, you have to put those types of things in place to remind you.
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Post by Miss Lerins Momma on Jul 9, 2014 17:19:34 GMT
I can't even imagine, those poor children. I know how hot it is when you just get into a locked up car, I can't imagine dying in one.
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Post by Regina Phalange on Jul 9, 2014 17:20:46 GMT
I don't understand it either... MAYBE I get that if you don't normally drop your kid off at daycare maybe you forget, a one in a million chance of that happening.. but you keep hearing story after story about the same thing happening. Just blows my mind. I would hope to God I would have enough sense not to do something like that!! Seems like someone could invent something simple to put in your car to remind you to get your kid out, right? (How sad it that?) There was a little kid that invented what looked like a bungee type cord that you attach to your car door from the car seat that doesn't let you out until you unhook it. Genius kid!
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Jul 9, 2014 17:29:16 GMT
I don't think it's just cars either.
When I was 18 I was driving on the main st of my town I lived it. I was in the right hand lane and it was dark. I seen this kid fall/crawl off this curb. I didnt see the kid before that because it was so dark and he was so small. I slammed hard on my brakes and turned wheel (thank God there wasn't another car in that lane!) I got out and picked the baby up...to this day I still have no clue how old he was but he was still wearing diapers (that's all he had on) and you could tell he was just learning how to walk....so whatever stage that is is how old he was (I have no kids so I'm clueless) this all happened right in front of the laundromat so just left my car on the road with flashers on and took the kid to the laundromat. My aunt was working there and said the kid looked like one of customers washing there so we walked over and there was the mother (and I use that term lightly) smoking a cigarette talking to some guy and she looked and me holding her kid and said "oh I totally forgot I brought him with me (laughed while saying this)" I flipped out on her telling her how her kid almost got hit and was found in the road. She had nothing to say but "well he needs to learn to stay put" My Aunt did call the cops. I don't think anything happened from it because she came back other times to wash my aunt said with her kid.
My husband is a police officer and he was patrolling and found a baby hanging out by the side of the busy road. The mother was in the house and didn't know the kid got away. Crazy thing is the mother was the local town doctor! If I recall the kid was 2.
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Post by peabay on Jul 9, 2014 17:29:17 GMT
I absolutely understand how it could happen. I had 4 kids in 10 years and had kids in different day cares and day camps etc.... I could see asking my dh to drop a kid off and it being out of his routine and either of us just forgetting. I get it. In a situation like this, when we can choose judgement or grace? I choose grace. These parents will have to live with this for the rest of their lives. This article in the Washington Post spoke volumes to me: www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/magazine/fatal-distraction-forgetting-a-child-in-thebackseat-of-a-car-is-a-horrifying-mistake-is-it-a-crime/2014/06/16/8ae0fe3a-f580-11e3-a3a5-42be35962a52_story.html We're humans. We make mistakes. And sometimes they are tragic. And awful. And I don't know how people go on after something like this. ETA: I didn't realize the article was already linked above. PLEASE read it. It's eye opening about how this can happen - because that's the question I keep hearing: how can this happen? Well, I bet you the parents this happens to asked the same question the day before it happened to them.
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Post by krc11 on Jul 9, 2014 17:45:51 GMT
I saw something on FB about taking off your shoe and putting in the carseat with the child. You are not going to go off to work or in the store without your shoe. You can leave without your bag or your purse, but not likely w/o your shoe. But you have to do this everytime and that, I doubt, people will be bothered to do.
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Post by giatocj on Jul 9, 2014 17:49:49 GMT
There was a Pea several years ago who lost a child this way...it was horrible to read the thread. I, personally, cannot comprehend how it happens, but it is not a rare occurrence by any stretch I think Dr. Drew said the other night that there are 20 hot car deaths, on average, a YEAR!! That doesn't sound like a lot, but it says a lot about the level of stress that people are under these days. And those are just the deaths...God knows how many are saved before it's too late, bless their little hearts. I had to turn off the TV last night when they were discussing the case in GA and some of the details that came out at autopsy. THAT case was not an accident and I believe it will come out that both parents are complicit in it. The whole thing just gets more diabolical by the day.
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Post by lucyg on Jul 9, 2014 17:51:38 GMT
I too am not prepared to be vindictive when loving parents make a horrible mistake. There are plenty of accidents we don't hold people criminally responsible for.
The guy in Georgia is a whole other story. He is (appears to be) a murderer.
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Post by paget on Jul 9, 2014 17:56:08 GMT
If you haven't read this award winning article: link, I think you should. Obviously each case is different (there are true neglect cases or in this new case, murder), but for most of these cases, I just feel sadness for everyone involved. I can't imagine the guilt, pain and devastation these people must deal with daily. I'm not not a religious person, but "there but by the grace of God go I" pops in my mind every time I hear one of these stories. I agree. I'm sure the people this has happened to never thought they would ever forget their child, either. That's what makes it an accident, totally tragic, but still an accident. I could see dh - who can be very absent minded- having this type of accident. Our kids are all grown, so he never did, but I am just saying I could understand.
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Post by marianne on Jul 9, 2014 17:58:45 GMT
If you haven't read this award winning article: link, I think you should. Obviously each case is different (there are true neglect cases or in this new case, murder), but for most of these cases, I just feel sadness for everyone involved. I can't imagine the guilt, pain and devastation these people must deal with daily. I'm not not a religious person, but "there but by the grace of God go I" pops in my mind every time I hear one of these stories. Agreed, an excellent article, thank you for the link. I have a bit more understanding, but I guess my basic feeling is when you make a decision to have a child, anything and everything else becomes secondary to the responsibility of that child's well-being - physically, emotionally, etc. I dunno, maybe I just think differently. My heart does go out to the parents in these situations, though and there too, I can't even begin to understand or imagine the devastating pain and guilt they must live with. It's just tragic all around.
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Post by peabay on Jul 9, 2014 18:01:51 GMT
If you haven't read this award winning article: link, I think you should. Obviously each case is different (there are true neglect cases or in this new case, murder), but for most of these cases, I just feel sadness for everyone involved. I can't imagine the guilt, pain and devastation these people must deal with daily. I'm not not a religious person, but "there but by the grace of God go I" pops in my mind every time I hear one of these stories. Agreed, an excellent article, thank you for the link. I have a bit more understanding, but I guess my basic feeling is when you make a decision to have a child, anything and everything else becomes secondary to the responsibility of that child's well-being - physically, emotionally, etc. I dunno, maybe I just think differently. My heart does go out to the parents in these situations, though and there too, I can't even begin to understand or imagine the devastating pain and guilt they must live with. It's just tragic all around. Of course that's true. But sometimes there's just a lapse. My dh and I left our then 9 year old on a softball field. I thought he had her; he thought I had her. Blessedly, she was 9, could advocate for herself (went to a friend's parents - she had been off playing with this friend on another field) and it was 7 minutes from home. Longest 7 minutes of my life as we drove back to get her. It's now become a part of our family folklore, but I always have this dark shadow when I think of that story. How badly it could have ended.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Jul 9, 2014 18:02:28 GMT
I can absolutely see how it can happen accidentally. The guy that did it on purpose should rot in hell.
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Post by tiggerpooh2380 on Jul 9, 2014 18:13:38 GMT
I am not a parent, but I have been watching children for over 20 years, and I am always so scared I will forget I have one of them with me, since it is not a normal routine. I always put my purse and things in the back so I have to go there first.
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