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Post by Skypea on Jul 14, 2014 1:41:35 GMT
'I say they should put the dog down and go.'
I agree. And you know I'm a VERY doG person!!!! they are like my kids these days. Even more so than when the kids were home. Kids always said I loved the doGs more - lol! now it's worse. When my doGs were older and sickly my schedule worked around them. I am one who doesn't take vacations or go much of anywhere, but still if my doG was that sick I wouldn't want to drag it out for the doGs sake!! I watched my last girl very closely for signs of pain or inability to walk etc. She was 16, blind and deaf by then - but she could walk and loved to go on a walk every few hrs (even thruout the night!) so I walked her. But if she'd been in pain I'd have put her down as quickly as my heart would let me.
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The Great Carpezio
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Jul 14, 2014 19:30:12 GMT
Updated in op.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jul 14, 2014 20:31:31 GMT
Unfortunately terminal illnesses can often go downhill rapidly. I've seen too many family members racked with guilt because they thought they had more time to not say something. It wouldn't be to judge him, or a berate his decision. It would just be to say that you know the situation sucks and that the reality is there's no good outcome. The dog and the father are going to die. He needs to make whatever decision he feels best about - but please consider how he'll feel if this is the last opportunity for the family to get together while your father is still healthy enough to travel and interact with his grandchildren.
I hope it's not Carey Ayn. I hope your father has many more years of good health. Watching a loved one go through terminal illness is horrible. Hugs to you!
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Post by cycworker on Jul 15, 2014 0:21:43 GMT
Thanks for updating! While I'm sorry your brother isn't going, I am glad at least part of his family will be represented.
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Post by linda~lou on Jul 15, 2014 0:28:34 GMT
I think that is a good solution all the way around. You just concentrate on spending quality time with your dad, have a wonderful time!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 1:05:27 GMT
I was going to say it's too bad your brother is going to miss out on this trip. But then I thought, maybe that's exactly what he wanted. Maybe he can't handle the fact that your Dad is dying and this might be their last good time together.
I do hope you guys have a good trip!
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Post by BeckyTech on Jul 15, 2014 1:15:22 GMT
So how do you feel about the update (said in my best Dr. Phil voice)?
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Post by jadie on Jul 15, 2014 1:22:30 GMT
I think this has to be a personal decision. The thing is, in your adult life, most people do not see their parents every day. Some may see them only once a week, once a month, or once a year. You are with your dog pretty much all the time when you are home. Especially someone like me, who has no kids living at home anymore.
My dogs are my constant companions. They sleep with me, I go to sleep rubbing their fur. They are with me in my craft room, they are on my lap or by my feet while I am on the computer. When I take a nap, they take a nap. I talk to them all the time.
My parents are gone, as are my husband's. I am not trying to say you should put a dog before a person, but sometimes the relationship between a human and a dog is so very strong.
I really do think in some instances it is harder to lose a dog than a parent. I am not trying to offend anyone. It is just the fact that you are losing that constant companion that was always there for you and at your side. Again, sorry if this is offensive, I do not mean for it to be.
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Post by smokey2471 on Jul 15, 2014 2:38:10 GMT
I'm glad your dad will get to spend a week with granddaughter and vice versa
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Post by maryland on Jul 15, 2014 2:58:28 GMT
That's a nice update. Sorry that your brother isn't going, but what a great sil you have! I always love to hear about dil's doing things for their inlaws. I bet it means a lot to your parents that she comes, especially since your brother isn't going. That's nice that he offered to watch your dog.
I hope your family has a wonderful vacation and makes great memories! Sorry about your brother's dog! I hope your brother can spend some time with your dad at another time.
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Post by Skypea on Jul 15, 2014 4:58:17 GMT
----Update 7/14/14---- They don't feel their dog is going to die in the next couple of weeks. My brother is staying home, and my sil and niece are coming. This was decided last night. I kept my mouth shut. My sil does want to go. My brother doesn't care for travel anyway, so he gets to stay home for a week with his dog, work on his basement and not have to go on a trip he didn't really want to go on in the first place. We will miss him, but he is doing what's best for his sanity. Oh, oh, and he is gong to watch our dog too (they offered). So there is a bright side for me. lol.
it sounds like it will work out best for all then. and you didn't have to get into the middle of a family mess either! plus you gained a doG sitter!
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