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Post by mom on Jul 3, 2015 6:13:01 GMT
I pack my clothes but I will ask what he is taking then give him my opinion! lol
Usually before I zip up the suitcase I will ask him if he packed 'xyz' but otherwise, its all on him.
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MaryMary
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Post by MaryMary on Jul 3, 2015 6:32:37 GMT
Not a chance. I married an adult.
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Post by gar on Jul 3, 2015 6:34:10 GMT
Yes I do, or at least I pack the basics then put out the shirts/trousers/shorts I think he'll want and he makes the final decisions.
It's purely a time thing for us - he works VERY long hours, gets home very late (especially if it's prior to a trip and he has to pretty much get ahead of himself) and it's just much easier for me to do it and helpful to him because otherwise he'd have to do it when he's shattered at midnight or something ridiculous and I have much more time available during the day.
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Post by amom23 on Jul 3, 2015 6:42:13 GMT
Everyone packs their own bag in this house.
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Post by brina on Jul 3, 2015 10:24:40 GMT
no - never. I don't pack for my kids either. When they go to camp for a month I usually help them, but this summer my son told me I didn't need to.
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Post by carhoch on Jul 3, 2015 10:51:38 GMT
no I do not
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Post by eversograceful1 on Jul 3, 2015 10:57:59 GMT
My friend and I have discussed this many times. She always packs for her DH but I never pack for mine. He's a grown man, and if I were to forget something, all hell would break loose. We help DD pack but she pick out all of her stuff.
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Post by KelleeM on Jul 3, 2015 11:02:16 GMT
I never have but given his track record I probably should.
We went to Vegas in 2012 and he didn't pack any underwear.
We went to Punta Cana in 2014 and he didn't pack his dress pants (knowing they were required for dinner every evening).
It's stressful enough travelling but having to find places to buy replacements while on vacation is awful. In the future I will definitely supervise (or at least ask a lot of "did you pack XYZ?" questions).
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Post by grinningcat on Jul 3, 2015 11:25:10 GMT
The closest I come to packing for FH is to pull the stuff out of the load of laundry we do before a trip. I'm pulling my own stuff out of that load and throwing it in the direction of the suitcase, it takes little additional effort to do the same for his stuff. Beyond that, he's a big boy and handles it himself.
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Jul 3, 2015 11:32:04 GMT
When we are getting ready for a trip, I ask DH to pull out anything that needs to be laundered or go to the dry cleaners, and I do most of the packing. It does make getting ready to go on a trip more stressful for me.
But it there are things he takes care of that I am not involved in so I guess it all works out.
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Post by tallgirl on Jul 3, 2015 11:44:59 GMT
Absolutely not, because I am too damn busy packing up me and the kids. I never packed for DH even before we had our kid. He's a big boy and can do it himself! Same here!
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Post by monklady123 on Jul 3, 2015 11:48:36 GMT
Never. And I'd never agree to let dh pack for me either. Now, when I say "pack" I mean "pick out everything to take and put it in the suitcase". I suppose I might agree to let him put stuff *in* the suitcase if I'd picked it out. That would only work though if we were totally unpacking at the other end of the trip. Otherwise if not I'd be constantly asking "which pocket are the socks in?" etc. Really so much easier just to have each person do their own.
I'm not sure when I stopped packing for the kids, although I know it's been a long time. The first international trip we went on was to Denmark when they were about 8 (dd) and 12 (ds). I know I packed for dd and probably gave ds a lot of help because they had no idea how to pack efficiently in one suitcase. They were used to our yearly trips to the beach where basically we just tossed stuff in bins and put it in the back of the van. Anything that might have been forgotten was easily found and local stores. But going to Denmark was different because of airline bag rules, plus I didn't want to spend any vacation money on underwear or socks. lol
My dh travels a lot for work so he knows all about packing efficiently, probably more than I do.
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Post by cyndijane on Jul 3, 2015 11:50:29 GMT
Depends on what's going on. Actually, what happens most often is I'll lay out my stuff, and HE packs the suitcase while I'm running about getting everything else done.
But, whoever actually packs the suitcase only packs what the other person laid out.
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Post by anonrefugee on Jul 3, 2015 11:54:32 GMT
DH would think I'd lost my mind if I packed for him.. Probably unpack to see if he had everything.
The kids have packed their own since about second grade. I had to remind them to take shoes or toothbrush. Learned that the hard way...
FWIW I grew up in a home where my mother packed for my father for business and family trips.
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Post by pridemom on Jul 3, 2015 12:08:37 GMT
I only pack my stuff... I've never packed for dh and I quit packing for my kids when they were around 10 or so. Same here.
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Post by Miss Ang on Jul 3, 2015 12:25:52 GMT
No. I ask him to get his things together and set them on the bed. If I know he needs something specific (like dress pants) I will remind him not to forget xxx.
Once he has his things together, I pack the suitcase so I can make sure my things are not wrinkled or squished into places and make sure the toiletries are in the appropriate bags so things don't leak/get spilled onto other things. I know he would just dump it all in together and shut the suitcase.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Jul 3, 2015 12:28:58 GMT
I only pack my stuff... I've never packed for dh and I quit packing for my kids when they were around 10 or so. This^^^
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Post by eleezybeth on Jul 3, 2015 12:31:33 GMT
He picks out what he wants to take and puts it near the suitcase. I put it all in because I like the way I arrange/fold etc. This is us. He simple can't pack. It's a disorganized mess that takes up way too much space. I can get myself and 3 kids into 1 suitcase but somehow he can't fit his stuff for 2 days into the same bag. He often travels with free baggage so he "doesn't care" how many bags it takes. I on the other hand need that extra hand for a kid or 2. But to pick out his stuff?? Hell no.
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Post by peabay on Jul 3, 2015 12:33:58 GMT
We do a lot of weekends away. I only pack for myself. Dh would think I was insane and the kids had to learn sometime. I do make sure they have clean laundry to pack, but other than that, they are on their own.
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Post by anxiousmom on Jul 3, 2015 12:43:26 GMT
No husband, but I can answer for the kids. I stopped packing for them when they were around six or seven. I did check for toothbrushes and underwear, but beyond that I would tell them three pairs of shorts, three shirts (etc.) and they would pack themselves. I stopped 'dressing' them very early, they both had pretty strong feelings about what they wanted to wear, so me packing for them just caused problems in the long run.
My solution was just to buy very neutral shorts so that whatever shirts they packed more or less matched.
(I was that mom who had the kid who wore a power ranger costume for three days in a row...or mismatched shoes, or wild ass color combinations. I didn't care, and figured that letting them pick what they wore was not a battle that needed to be fought.)
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Post by lesley on Jul 3, 2015 12:52:03 GMT
When we went away as a family, I always did all of the packing. DD and DS would bring me their stuff to put in the case, but I would look out clothes for me and DH. The day before a long trip I would have a long list of 'extras', like toiletries, plug adapters, etc and I would order everyone to bring me different things. Then I ticked them off as they went into the cases. I always did the packing because I'm good at it, and I split up everyone's belongings over all the bags. That way, if one case went missing, then one of the others would still have a bikini for DD, shorts for DS etc.
On short trips, it's every man for himself, and on business trips, DH always packed for himself. Nobody ever remembers to pack meds though.
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Post by JustKim on Jul 3, 2015 12:52:21 GMT
No and we do not share a suitcase either. We both have carry ons so they are small. I would never ask him to pack for me so I would not expect that I would pack for him.
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Post by littlemama on Jul 3, 2015 12:58:53 GMT
No, dh is pretty finicky about his clothes and what he wants to wear and when. We each gather our own clothes, I coach ds through his to ensure he has enough of everything- we are typically packing for baseball tournaments so his packing is more complicated. And, I always have to remind both of them to pack something to sleep in.
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Post by tuesdaysgone on Jul 3, 2015 13:25:05 GMT
No. He packs his bag at the very last minute and it makes me crazy. One time he couldn't find his suitcase and it was time to walk out the door, so all his clothes were thrown in a trash bag.
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Post by TXMary on Jul 3, 2015 13:52:28 GMT
We don't have kids so it's just us.
I don't pack for him and never have. He is always dressed nice and knows what he wants to take. We travel a lot and we each have a pretty good idea what we are going to take depending on where we are going and what we are doing. We each have our own lists that we made for ourselves. I start pulling out things for a trip weeks in advance and hang them in the spare room. He disappears into the bedroom a few days before we leave and emerges 15 minutes later with a packed suitcase with perfectly coordinated outfits. I want to be him when I grow up. lol
With the exception of our garment bag for cruise dress/dinner clothes, we don't share a suitcase. Ever.
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Post by newlywoods03 on Jul 3, 2015 13:53:08 GMT
Nope, he does it all by himself.
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Post by cakediva on Jul 3, 2015 13:59:36 GMT
I've packed for DH once - we planned to leave right after he finished work, so I packed most of it, then he checked it before we left. I sometimes miss his medications/bathroom stuff.
But everybody is on their own in this house. I've spot checked for DS (three years ago when we went to Disney the first time and he was 11) but other than that, you are on your own!
MY pet peeve is the UNpacking.
It is seriously like the Everybody Loves Raymond episode!!
DH will return from a trip (that I didn't pack for him) and leave his suitcase on the bedroom floor. He will literally take toiletries out of it as he needs them. God forbid he throws the dirty clothes in the laundry! I have left that suitcase sit on the floor for a month before he finally realized I wasn't going to do it. He tried the "I didn't pack it" the one time I packed for him, and I told him what he could do with that comment....LOL
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2015 14:01:11 GMT
No. But he has offered to do it for me. DH is incredibly good at packing, it takes him like 15 minutes to pack for a 2 week vacation. I, on the other hand, stress about it for a week before and then fart around for hours on the actual day of packing, lost in an agony of procrastination, indecision, and deep concern that I am not bringing enough shoes. Then when we get wherever we are going, I invariably have forgotten some key item (aspirin, umbrella, sweatshirt), and DH will whip it out of his bag, which is about 1/4 the size of mine.
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Post by kckckc on Jul 3, 2015 14:03:28 GMT
DH packs on his own for business trips, but I do pack for him for vacation trips.
I have a lot more free time than he does, he's not picky at all about what he wears, and he would never say anything mean if I forgot something.
I can usually get everything packed and the car loaded before he gets home from work. We've been doing it that way for 36 years - it works for us.
i really don't understand all the peas that say or imply that their DH is a man not a child so of course they don't pack for him. Don't you ever do anything for your DH that he is capable of doing for himself? DH and I do things for each other. He does a lot of things for me that I could do myself - I do things for him that he could do for himself - packing just happens to be one of them.
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Post by melanell on Jul 3, 2015 14:05:39 GMT
I pack for everyone.
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