moodyblue
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Post by moodyblue on Jul 3, 2015 14:14:01 GMT
We each pack our own toiletries, meds, etc. I ask him what clothes he wants and pull them from the closet and drawers, sometimes making suggestions. He packs the "technology" bag with the travel power strip and other things, while I put things into the suitcase(s).
I did make myself a checklist that I use to make sure I don't forget something.
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caro
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Post by caro on Jul 3, 2015 14:15:16 GMT
I only read the OP but my answer is no. He's a big boy, he can pack his own clothes.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2015 14:24:32 GMT
I don't pack his suitcase but I do ask him before hand if he has anything that needs washing or ironing so it's all ready for him to put in. I'll leave stuff in piles so he can put it all in the case himself. He's a leave everything to the last minute kind of guy so knowing his stuff is at least clean and presentable makes me feel better, I don't see it as him not being a grown up or me acting like his mommy. We're married, we do stuff for each other!
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Post by keithurbanlovinpea on Jul 3, 2015 14:26:52 GMT
I do not pack for him. I do, however, have packing lists and I print one off for everyone who is going on the trip (kids, husband, parents, and anyone else who asks for one). The list has some items on there that I don't necessarily need but others do. It is the power of suggestion.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2015 14:27:03 GMT
I have a couple of times. If we are traveling together he gets his things and I pack them - we have always taken just one suitcase. On occasion I have got most of his things and he added to it. Not because he is a child, but because we are a couple and we work together. He works and I am a SAHM so sometimes it is just easier for me to do it. Over 24 years and MUCH traveling for DH a couple of times really isn't a big deal. Especially when he always packs for himself when he travels for work. When we went to Italy for 2 weeks we really worked together packing. We wanted to take just one rolling carry on plus a backpack and purse. DH is 6'5" and wears boats for shoes. At one point I realized that we would not be able to do it so DH decided not to take his extra shoes, but I was leery about it. One night in Florence was magical when the sole on his one pair fell off and we tromped around trying to find another pair. We laughed so hard. I would never give that night up, but next time we WILL be bringing a second pair for him.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 3, 2015 14:30:29 GMT
I have never packed for my husband and stopped packing for my kids around age ten or so. He has never packed for me either.
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Mr styler
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Post by Mr styler on Jul 3, 2015 14:32:00 GMT
No, I'm married to a man not a child.
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Post by bostonmama on Jul 3, 2015 14:35:20 GMT
Funny timing! We're going away this weekend & I forgot to pack a particular clothing item that my DH would have liked packed. I apologized & he said, "Why are you apologizing? I could have grabbed it or just packed myself. I appreciate you always getting us packed up." If his reaction was different then we'd be re-evaluating who packs what! I got suitcases packed; he got the coolers, water toys, dogs & their things, etc accumulated & into the car. He very much out-did me on the packing this trip!
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Post by psiluvu on Jul 3, 2015 14:37:33 GMT
Nope, never. I haven't even packed for my kid since they were 6 or 7.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 3, 2015 14:39:38 GMT
No and we do not share a suitcase either. We both have carry ons so they are small. I would never ask him to pack for me so I would not expect that I would pack for him. I'm kind of surprised at how many people share suitcases. We each have our own dresser at home so we each have our own suitcases on trips.
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Post by frostybuns on Jul 3, 2015 14:42:19 GMT
Heavens no. He packs himself. I pack for myself and 4 kids (we travel A LOT) so he is on his own. He is a chronic under packer though so I sometimes have to make him take more stuff than he wants.
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Jul 3, 2015 14:43:22 GMT
DH pulls out what he wants to bring, I then add an extra top, underwear and pants/shorts. He HATES to overpack. He has the mentality that if we are gone 3 days he only needs 2 of everything. He has clothes for day 1(travel day) which he is wearing, day 2 and day 3 (return day). He never figures that he may want to change an extra time or that he will decide he does not want to wear the shirt/shorts he originally chose. He will also plan on wearing clothes, especially shorts more than once.
Even while on vacation I like to have a choice of what I can wear.
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Post by freebird on Jul 3, 2015 14:43:46 GMT
This is my new favorite thread. Think of all the time I'll gain in my life by not packing for him. lol
Honestly, I do it for him not because he expects it, but because I love him and do things for him. (example: I make his plate and bring it to him every day at dinner time.) When it gets to the point where I feel like it's expected and not appreciated is when it stops. Yesterday, I felt unappreciated and it felt expected so from this point on, he'll probably be doing it himself.
This morning before we were even out of bed, he apologized for being snippy yesterday so we're all good now. But he's still going to pack his own suitcase from now on.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 3, 2015 14:44:11 GMT
I have a couple of times. If we are traveling together he gets his things and I pack them - we have always taken just one suitcase. On occasion I have got most of his things and he added to it. Not because he is a child, but because we are a couple and we work together. He works and I am a SAHM so sometimes it is just easier for me to do it.Over 24 years and MUCH traveling for DH a couple of times really isn't a big deal. Especially when he always packs for himself when he travels for work. When we went to Italy for 2 weeks we really worked together packing. We wanted to take just one rolling carry on plus a backpack and purse. We really worked together on it. DH is 6'5" and wears boats for shoes. At one point I realized that we would not be able to do it so DH decided not to take his extra shoes, but I was leery about it. One night in Florence was magical when the sole on his one pair fell off and we tromped around trying to find another pair. We laughed so hard. I would never give that night up, but next time we WILL be bringing a second pair for him. Maybe this is the big difference for me and my sister. She packs for her dh and 18 yr old ds even when they go hunting or fishing. I work full time and she doesn't.
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Post by paget on Jul 3, 2015 15:00:42 GMT
No. He is really weird about his packing so that is all him. I do mine and all the family stuff- like beach towels and food and games of we go to the lake (and now that the girls are older they help wth that, too). When the girls were about 5 they all wanted to pack for themselves. I'd have them pick everything out and lay it by their bags to make sure everything was there and then they'd pack it up. After a couple times seeing they knew what they were doing, they were on their own. This has always worked except one time middle dd had a brain fart (she was 16) and packed one pair of shorts -no other bottoms at all- a bunch of t-shirts and like 5 bikini tops and no bottoms for our trip to the ocean. Oh, and she brought furry boots! Hahaha. Now the family joke when packing is to make sure she is bringing enough bikini tops.
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Post by Ryann on Jul 3, 2015 15:19:49 GMT
Good update!
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Post by workingclassdog on Jul 3, 2015 15:21:20 GMT
Funny story.. I was just talking to my girlfriend and we were discussing vacations and she was telling me that her daughter, who is 8 now, has always packed her own backpack for stuff to do (either on a plane or a car).. they get in the car and an hour later she is complaining she was bored.. Mom said well time to get out your backpack and pick something to do. She had put in seven pairs of shoes and a dress... lol.. one small toy and that was it. Mom is like why did you pack shoes? She didn't want to leave any of them behind! haha...Apparently her dd has a thing about clothes!
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Post by scrappysurfer on Jul 3, 2015 15:31:56 GMT
I pack the suitcase but DH picks out what he wants packed. Although I usually have to tell him he needs X number of pants/shirts/underwear. I also put myself in charge of toiletries etcetera but I fret about leaving things behind and having to buy expensive replacement when we're on the road.
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Post by happymom on Jul 3, 2015 15:33:18 GMT
I packed once for him about 25 years ago. I accidentally packed my jeans for him so he had to wear girls jeans to dinner. Haha
That was the end of that and we still laugh about it.
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Post by StephDRebel on Jul 3, 2015 15:38:16 GMT
I don't pack for my husband, but most of the time he packs for me. If there is anything I definitely want to take with me I lay it out and if it's a trip he wont' be on i'll make a list of events and he'll give me a 'do you want this or this' scenario but 90% of the packing he does on his own. He does a great job and i'm super thankful. I hate packing!
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Post by monklady123 on Jul 3, 2015 15:45:33 GMT
No and we do not share a suitcase either. We both have carry ons so they are small. I would never ask him to pack for me so I would not expect that I would pack for him. I'm kind of surprised at how many people share suitcases. We each have our own dresser at home so we each have our own suitcases on trips. I think people do it to save hauling suitcases. But I was surprised by this also, more than once. I remember when I went to Israel there was a couple in the group who brought only one suitcase for the two of them. But it was too big to be a carry-on so they had to check it. So why not bring two suitcases then? Each person gets one checked bag for free anyway, so it's not like it would cost them anything more. My dh and I actually do share a suitcase when we fly, especially overseas. But we still take two. What we do is split our clothes half and half, and I make ds and dd do the same, because I'm paranoid about the airlines losing luggage. If one bag gets lost that person still has some clothes to wear. In fact, when we've traveled overseas with all four of us I usually swap stuff around and make sure that each suitcase has at least two shirts, underwear, and socks for each one of us. lol... Yeah, I'm crazy. But I've been the victim of lost luggage too many times to be complacent about it, especially going *to* wherever we're going. Coming home I don't care, since my souvenirs are all in carry-on anyway.
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Post by ten&rose on Jul 3, 2015 15:57:26 GMT
I have packed for DH when circumstances dictated (eg we were leaving right as DH returned from work). Usually he packs for himself and I add/subtract as needed. If we are driving, it's no biggie for him grab as much as he wants. If we're flying I have to reign him in. ;)I need someone to double check me, though. I chronically forget jammies.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2015 16:04:17 GMT
No, I'm married to a man not a child. So he never does anything for you in case people think he's married to a child? I don't get that attitude at all
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Post by jenkate77 on Jul 3, 2015 16:04:57 GMT
Yes. Ever since he showed up on vacation with nothing. Not even a toothbrush or underwear. No, really - NOTHING. My husband is the sweetest, kindest, most wonderful guy on the face of the earth but that man cannot organize or plan anything. I pick my battles and that isn't one that I've picked. I have to know - what was in his suitcase? I have a BIL like this. We all went camping a few weeks ago, and he had a projector in his camper, tools, all kinds of things.... 90% of which he never used, but he wore the same clothes all weekend!
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Post by underwatermama on Jul 3, 2015 16:13:01 GMT
Hell to the no. And then he forgets stuff. Like shirts (had none with him). Or his tie and dress socks when going to a wedding. Dork.
Now, we do share a suitcase when traveling together so everything gets put on the bed and he usually stuffs it in the suitcase, but if someone forgets something, it's on them. What do I usually forget? PJs.
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Post by coaliesquirrel on Jul 3, 2015 16:20:49 GMT
NO WAY! I might suggest categories of stuff ("probably one or two button-down shirts and the rest t-shirts") or something, but that's the extent of it. I do pack toiletry-type stuff for the whole family, but if it's a "just his" thing like deodorant or shaver, it's up to him. He can share the toothpaste I put in, though.
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Post by gar on Jul 3, 2015 17:10:49 GMT
No, I'm married to a man not a child. Being 'unable' to pack is not the sole reason someone might not perform the task.
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Post by Butterfly Momma on Jul 3, 2015 17:39:44 GMT
My DH is a pilot and when we were first married, I didn't work and he would be home long enough to sleep and get back for his next flight, so I started packing his bag for him to make life easier on everyone. This became a habit and continued on for years until I had a toddler and was in the sick phase of pregnancy with our second. I had just come in from shoveling our driveway (which had about 8-10" of heavy snow), while simultaneously trying to keep my toddler of the street. Anyway, he picked that inopportune time to call and happened to mention how hot he was because I had forgotten to pack his shorts. I said a few bad words and promptly informed him that he could pack his own bag from now on. We laugh about it now, but yes, 6 years later he still packs his own bag. Considering it has to be packed a LOT of times per year, I've saved myself a lot of foolishness When we go as a family, I do usually pack his bag for those occasions. Thanks for bringing back a funny memory
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Post by mrst on Jul 3, 2015 18:13:21 GMT
We go on long holidays quite often and we pack together! We both get our stuff out and work out what we'll be doing, then we pack half in each case...just in case one goes missing. He does electronic and camera stuff and I do tolitaries. We can both do all of it but we're partners as well as married.
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Post by Karmady on Jul 3, 2015 18:28:39 GMT
No. No and no. Even when I was a SAHM and he worked 6 days a week. No. Unless he called and asked me to pack for him because he was running late. He'd probably email me a specific list and in that case and yes, I would help him. But that has never happened. We are way too independant for that. Our kids pack for themselves as well. We all have separate luggage.
I don't even understand how someone packs for you??? Do they pick out the outfits that you are going to wear for your vacation? How does that work? You open your suitcase at your destination and it's all a surprise?
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