freebird
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Post by freebird on Jul 3, 2015 2:41:42 GMT
OP:
He's really annoying me right now, so this post will sound annoyed. Because I am. lol
We're going on a weekend gig and I was packing the suitcase for us *as usual*. We're going out to dinner at a nice restaurant so I asked him where his dress pants were, if he'd seen them. He said he hadn't and they should be hanging up. They weren't because I'd folded them just a few days ago but couldn't remember if they were in a drawer or something. Well, you know how those simple conversations just seem to escalate? I asked him to check the laundry room and for some reason that just was too much and now he's all annoyed because they WERE in there, and it was all my fault. lol. what? Fault? I just wanted to pack your pants.
So that annoyed me and I stopped packing his crap and went to take a shower. Afterwards I asked him to check his half of the suitcase and see if I got everything he wanted. You'd think I asked him what is on the dark side of the moon. "I wasn't here when you packed it." "I know, that's why I want you to check to see if you have everything you want." "I can't, because I wasn't here when you packed it."
(lather rinse repeat a couple times)
Finally I take all his half and flop it out on the bed and tell him to look at the pile and see if it's what he wants. He's annoyed and says yes it's Finnnnnnne. Somewhere in there I told him I'm not his babysitter.
The thing is, I know there's something he's missing and I'd really like to let it be missing to make a point.
I'm just wondering if you have to pack for everyone including yourself.
/vent
UPDATE: This is my new favorite thread. Think of all the time I'll gain in my life by not packing for him. lol
Honestly, I do it for him not because he expects it, but because I love him and do things for him. (example: I make his plate and bring it to him every day at dinner time.) When it gets to the point where I feel like it's expected and not appreciated is when it stops. Yesterday, I felt unappreciated and it felt expected so from this point on, he'll probably be doing it himself.
This morning before we were even out of bed, he apologized for being snippy yesterday so we're all good now. But he's still going to pack his own suitcase from now on. |
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Post by workingclassdog on Jul 3, 2015 2:43:45 GMT
Never ever packed for my husband. I have packed for my kids, but that is it.
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Post by CarolT on Jul 3, 2015 2:44:24 GMT
I only pack my stuff... I've never packed for dh and I quit packing for my kids when they were around 10 or so.
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Post by tallgirl on Jul 3, 2015 2:44:48 GMT
Absolutely not, because I am too damn busy packing up me and the kids.
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MizIndependent
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Post by MizIndependent on Jul 3, 2015 2:45:46 GMT
No way, man. I'm his wife, not his mother!
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Post by peasapie on Jul 3, 2015 2:46:34 GMT
Uh oh. He really doesn't want to pack! Time for a glass of wine! LOL
I didn't pack for my first husband and I don't pack for my current husband. So that's a "no" x 2.
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Post by seikashaven on Jul 3, 2015 2:46:33 GMT
I pack for me and my child. That's enough.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2015 2:46:45 GMT
Yes. Ever since he showed up on vacation with nothing. Not even a toothbrush or underwear. No, really - NOTHING.
My husband is the sweetest, kindest, most wonderful guy on the face of the earth but that man cannot organize or plan anything. I pick my battles and that isn't one that I've picked.
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Post by scrappyoutlaw on Jul 3, 2015 2:48:25 GMT
DH packs himself. Sometimes I will ask what he's wearing if there is a nice event and he will let me voice my opinion but no, I don't pack for him.
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Post by scrapulous on Jul 3, 2015 2:49:31 GMT
Nope. I've never packed for him. I figure he packed before he met me, he continue that tradition lol. I quit packing for my kids around age 10 or so, too. I will, however, ask the kids if they have underwear and toothbrushes. The rest is up to them.
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Post by stingfan on Jul 3, 2015 2:50:24 GMT
No. Way. I have no idea what he'd want to take or not take. I don't know where he keeps his stuff. He takes care of his own laundry, his own closet, his own bathroom stuff, and his own drawers. I wouldn't know where to start and I'm pretty sure he wouldn't want me doing it. He never likes the way I pack for the kids (but can't/doesn't do it himself), so I'm sure he'd hate the way I'd pack for him.
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freebird
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Post by freebird on Jul 3, 2015 2:51:08 GMT
Hmm.... I think he might need to enjoy this last packing moment for him. He'll probably be doing it himself from this point on. Apparently, I'm mothering him too much. I'm done having kids! lol
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Post by padresfan619 on Jul 3, 2015 2:51:42 GMT
Uh, no.
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Post by blarneygirl on Jul 3, 2015 2:52:25 GMT
No, never. My husband used to travel for work a lot and always gathered his things. More often than not tho, I'd help fold some things neatly for him to put in his bag (like his dress shirts that came back from the cleaners on hangers) and we would go through a verbal checklist to make sure he wasn't forgetting anything.
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Post by jumperhop on Jul 3, 2015 2:53:39 GMT
Yes I pack my for my DH. If I don't we will spend unnecessary time and money shopping for new clothes. Or doing laundry.
I can't tell you how many shirts he has bought when we were out of town that he has never worn again.
jen
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Post by librarylady on Jul 3, 2015 2:54:02 GMT
He picks out what he wants to take and puts it near the suitcase. I put it all in because I like the way I arrange/fold etc.
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 3, 2015 2:54:03 GMT
I do all the packing, but I make DH and DS bring everything to me first and then question them as I go along.
"We're going to be gone for 10 days; how many pairs of underwear did you give me?" {blank stare}
"Go bring me more and count them in front of me."
"I see dress pants and a dress shirt, but only sneakers. That will make quite a fashion statement. And are you going to hold the pants up with string? Bring me a belt!"
"Five pairs of shorts will not be enough for 10 days. Have you forgotten how sweaty you get while hiking"
Since they both LOATHE trying to fit all their junk into the suitcase, they put up with my constant snark while I'm packing. Of course their tolerance might come from the few instances when I left their packing entirely to them and we ended up with a PS4 but no power cable, blu-Ray movies that wouldn't play in the condo's DVD player, and missing prescription medicine.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2015 2:54:13 GMT
Never have. Don't plan to, unless he's incapacitated somehow.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Jul 3, 2015 2:55:38 GMT
I will physically pack the suitcase because I have better spatial reasoning skills.  But I do insist that everything that needs to be packed be set out for me. |
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Post by totravel on Jul 3, 2015 2:56:13 GMT
No, I stopped it a long time ago and he learned to pack his own bag. It's too stressful packing for me, much less for him, too! |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2015 2:57:27 GMT
I only pack my stuff... I've never packed for dh and I quit packing for my kids when they were around 10 or so. Agreed. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2015 2:59:23 GMT
No, I don't pack for him. He gets all of his stuff out and ready. He's a clothes horse (more then me), so we usually pack in separate suitcases, too, and he packs his own. If we're intentionally packing light for a short trip and putting it all together, I usually tackle arranging things in the bags after we've both picked our stuff. Sometimes he does it, though.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jul 3, 2015 3:01:03 GMT
No. It's the opposite actually. We all pick out what we want to wear and my husband does the packing. He's a magician. He can fit clothing for a family of 4 for a week in two carryons.
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TheOtherMeg
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Post by TheOtherMeg on Jul 3, 2015 3:01:38 GMT
I don't care to pack for DH.
Which is not to say that I don't care for his package.
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Post by calgal08 on Jul 3, 2015 3:02:54 GMT
Nope, never. Then again, he's a better packer than me. He travels a lot for work so he has the packing thing down.
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Post by SabrinaP on Jul 3, 2015 3:04:23 GMT
I used to, but a similar fight happened and I was done. DH is fine doing it himself now. Sometimes he asks me to fold his shirts before he puts them in his suitcase, which I'm fine to do for him.
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Post by bc2ca on Jul 3, 2015 3:05:22 GMT
Everyone packs their own bag in this house.
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Post by cannmom on Jul 3, 2015 3:07:06 GMT
I feel your pain. I do most of the packing. |
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Post by bostonmama on Jul 3, 2015 3:07:53 GMT
Yes I pack my for my DH. If I don't we will spend unnecessary time and money shopping for new clothes. Or doing laundry. I can't tell you how many shirts he has bought when we were out of town that he has never worn again. jen This! It's far less stressful for me to pack everyone than to micromanage them as they're packing or purchase left out items after the fact (contact solution, meds, etc). I enjoy the planning and packing process. Now, unpacking...I never unpack. My DH unpacks, puts away & does laundry. We both have our strengths! |
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Jul 3, 2015 3:08:15 GMT
We don't really go places overnight but the very few times we have I did only because I we wait till the last minute to get things ready and he is usually working the night before we leave.
When we went a few days to the Poconos for our honeymoon I packed after the wedding. I forgot panties for me and socks for him. We had to stop at WalMart when we figured it out at the hotel lol
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But I do insist that everything that needs to be packed be set out for me.
