sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Oct 8, 2015 20:03:29 GMT
For help with his bipolar symptoms. This is the recommendation of the er staff. He's really paranoid and depressed
I'm afraid he'll be scared in there. And mad at me. __________ UPDATE 1: Thanks for the encouragement! He's checked into the facility. He wasn't mad at me, but he was terribly frightened. I was very grateful all day for the kindness of the professional people who helped us. It was a day of lots of sadness and a few funny things. I'll share the funny things later.
I just got home, and am wiped out but I do feel hopeful and relieved that he's safe and that we can sleep tonight without his constant paranoid interruptions. Poor Sam was receiving lots more nocturnal visits than I was, I'm learning. ________ UPDATE 2: I've visited him twice today. THis morning he was very drugged/sedated. He said he had 3 pills that were red, white and blue. He didn't talk much.
This evening he was more animated and expressive. Mostly at peace and grounded, but a few little delusions crept in. He described his day and his emotions quite openly. He sang part of Ave Maria beautifully. He's never sang for us before.
He's humble and grateful and more polite than I've ever seen him. I get the impression that the overly confident, know-it-all guy I've known him to be has been a mask to hide his anxiety.
It made me wonder-- will we get the original Ben back? Or a modified version?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 8, 2015 20:07:53 GMT
I'm so sorry. I know that must be tremendously difficult. It sounds like he really needs treatment, though, and hopefully this will help him get things under control and in a healthier spot.
((hugs))
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scrappert
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Post by scrappert on Oct 8, 2015 20:07:26 GMT
Oh, Hugs Sharla.
I know that has to be very hard.
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cakediva
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Making the world a sweeter place one cake at a time!
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Jun 26, 2014 11:53:40 GMT
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Post by cakediva on Oct 8, 2015 20:07:50 GMT
Hugs Sharla - it can't be easy....
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Post by Deleted on Oct 8, 2015 20:08:54 GMT
((hugs)) Sharla. It's not an easy decision.
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Rhondito
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Jun 25, 2014 19:33:19 GMT
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Post by Rhondito on Oct 8, 2015 20:09:23 GMT
I had to do the same thing a couple of years ago, although for other reasons. Severe depression was one of them though. Admitting my daughter was the hardest thing I've ever done in my entire life. I will have you and your son in my prayers. ((hugs))
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Post by deep on Oct 8, 2015 20:09:53 GMT
I'm sorry for your struggles. I hope he is able to get the help he needs to control the symptoms and get him home soon. I'm sure it was the right choice to keep him safe.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 8, 2015 20:10:20 GMT
It is one of the hardest things you have to do as a parent. Prayers to you and your son.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Oct 8, 2015 20:09:51 GMT
I'm sorry Sharla. One step at a time. He needs to be someplace safe.
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~Susan~
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Post by ~Susan~ on Oct 8, 2015 20:11:12 GMT
What difficult thing for you and your child. I hope everything works out for the best.
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Post by JoP on Oct 8, 2015 20:12:35 GMT
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Post by 3SugarBugs on Oct 8, 2015 20:13:44 GMT
Hugs to you Sharla and your DS. I know this must be heart wrenching for you, but know that you are doing what you think is best for him. It's wonderful that you recognize his struggle, and are there to help intervene with help. Be kind to yourself....you're doing good Mom.
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Post by Linda on Oct 8, 2015 20:17:58 GMT
((((Hugs))) and prayers - sometimes the right thing to do is so very very hard
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Post by auntkelly on Oct 8, 2015 20:19:47 GMT
I'm so sorry you and your ds are going through such a difficult time. I will say prayers.
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purplebee
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Jun 27, 2014 20:37:34 GMT
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Post by purplebee on Oct 8, 2015 20:20:32 GMT
Hugs and more hugs, Sharla. Sometimes making a decision like this is the real proof of a good parent. Hope he responds to treatment quickly....
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Post by Deleted on Oct 8, 2015 20:20:17 GMT
I'm so sorry you had to do this, hugs.
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scrapngranny
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Jun 25, 2014 23:21:30 GMT
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Post by scrapngranny on Oct 8, 2015 20:21:03 GMT
I'm sorry you had to make this choice. Hopefully this will give him the help he needs to manage his illness.
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Post by lumo on Oct 8, 2015 20:22:39 GMT
(((Hugs)))
You and your son are in my thoughts.
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Post by KikiPea on Oct 8, 2015 20:24:27 GMT
Prayers and hugs, Sharla!
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mimima
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Jun 25, 2014 19:25:50 GMT
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Post by mimima on Oct 8, 2015 20:26:17 GMT
I'm so sorry. Parenting is hard.
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Post by ametallichick on Oct 8, 2015 20:27:42 GMT
You are doing the right thing for him. Hopefully he'll get the help he needs to move forward.
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Post by scrapmaven on Oct 8, 2015 20:30:04 GMT
Even if he feels betrayed right now, which is normal in this instance, he'll be so much better off in the long run. He'll get much needed therapy, evals and the appropriate meds for his illness. Bipolar disorder isn't one size fits all. There may be other issues as well. The staff will take good care of your son and w/treatment you'll have a much healthier and stable son who will be happy to see you when he's discharged. Big mama hugs coming at ya'.
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Post by SabrinaM on Oct 8, 2015 20:30:03 GMT
I'm so sorry... I'm sure you're doing the right thing. ((Hugs!!))
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wellway
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Jun 25, 2014 20:50:09 GMT
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Post by wellway on Oct 8, 2015 20:30:14 GMT
I'm sorry. Being a parent is hard at times. ((hugs))
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Post by lucyg on Oct 8, 2015 20:31:43 GMT
Do what you have to do, Sharla. I'm sure it will be hard, but necessary. Hugs to you.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 8, 2015 20:32:43 GMT
For help with his bipolar symptoms. This is the recommendation of the er staff. He's really paranoid and depressed I'm afraid he'll be scared in there. And mad at me. I'm sorry Sharla. This seems like a no win situation, but I hope that with the right medication and some time he will see that you made this very difficult decision with only the best intentions.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 8, 2015 20:41:54 GMT
I'm so sorry, Sharla. What a rough thing to go through. Hugs to you.
May I add a good story? My cousin went to an inpatient facility for month and months when he was a teen for bipolar treatment. It took a lot of work to get his medication levels stable -- so hard to do with teens in puberty. He's been in great shape for more than a decade now, holds down a demanding job as an ER nurse, and has a terrific life. Your son needs this type of care right now to get control of his disease. You're doing the right thing, and it will result in long term stability for him. More hugs to you.
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tuesdaysgone
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Post by tuesdaysgone on Oct 8, 2015 20:48:23 GMT
All the best to you and your son in this difficult time. You have TONS of support here with the Peas.
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Post by leannec on Oct 8, 2015 20:48:19 GMT
What a tough decision to make Hugs to you!!
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moodyblue
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Jun 26, 2014 21:07:23 GMT
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Post by moodyblue on Oct 8, 2015 20:52:09 GMT
A relative had to do this for their son; it was the hardest thing they've ever done -- but it was the best thing for their son. And he's doing well now.
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