Peal
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Post by Peal on Jul 27, 2014 22:10:03 GMT
My Dh went to as many appointments as he could. More with the first kid than the last as his job changed and he couldn't get away as easily. Or even be in town. With the first one it was a big deal as the Dr was an hour away and was routinely running 1-2 HOURS behind schedule. An appointment often meant the entire day.
I told DH he had to meet me at my last OB appointment with my last baby no matter what because I was sure I would be going over to L&D directly after. I did, so he missed the rest of the day for the birth.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jul 27, 2014 22:16:54 GMT
My DH went to a few of the appts (especially the ones where you hear the initial heartbeat and for the 20 week ultrasounds) but certainly not all of the appts. I had a lot of complications and extra appts that would have been difficult for him to attend. Many of the regular appts are pretty boring. If he wanted to come that would have been fine, but I was ok with him not being there. That being said, I know a few people who expected their DH to go to all appts and got mad if they didn't, which I thought was odd and they seemed insecure, putting too much importance on an appt, like it showed that they didn't care or something. I never would have asked my mother or anyone else to go to an appt (except maybe an ultrasound). The only people I have seen at the dr office with their mother are teen girls.
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Anita
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Post by Anita on Jul 27, 2014 22:17:35 GMT
My DH went to most of my appointments when I was pregnant. He was an EMT and understood things I didn't/asked questions I didn't know to ask. He was handy to have during delivery as well.
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peabay
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Post by peabay on Jul 27, 2014 22:18:02 GMT
With our first, dh came to most. 2nd? Fewer. 3rd? Even fewer. 4th? Dh met the doctor for the first time when she came in to the room to deliver the baby.
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luckyexwife
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Post by luckyexwife on Jul 27, 2014 22:23:47 GMT
We have 3 kids, the oldest just turned 10, and my DH went to 98% of all of my appointments. It worked with his schedule, so we would have the appointment late morning, the go out for a lunch date. It was a nice way to connect and relax together, just the two of us. I didn't demand it, he liked coming and hearing the heartbeat and all that. If his work schedule was different, I wouldn't have been upset if he couldn't be there. He also took 3 weeks paternity leave with all 3 of them.
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IAmUnoriginal
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Post by IAmUnoriginal on Jul 27, 2014 22:24:35 GMT
DH came to the first couple, the amnio, the anatomy scan, and the next to the last. I did most of my appointments during my lunch break, and he wasn't able to make it. My doctor was near my office but not his work. I didn't really want him there when I was just being weighed and peeing in a cup. He was there for the biggies. My brother did about the same with my SILs pregnancies.
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Post by Zee on Jul 27, 2014 22:43:00 GMT
It's not a new thing, although I didn't ask my dh to come. I didn't feel it was necessary. He did come to the ultrasounds.
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Post by eversograceful1 on Jul 27, 2014 22:46:04 GMT
My dh came to some, but certainly not all. Luckily he drove me to my last one, since they sent me straight to the hospital. That's exactly what happened to me it just so happened he had the week off. DH went for the ultrasound as well. He was also with me when I tried an external version, which I was very grateful for because it was very painful. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by lilacgal on Jul 27, 2014 22:51:25 GMT
My husband came with me to some of them, especially if an ultrasound was being done. I usually went after work though and my OB was in the opposite direction from our home and his job. Unless something special went on, he didn't come. I am happy he was with me when the doctor told me I'd need a picc line. I was glad for the emotional support then.
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kikinichole
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Post by kikinichole on Jul 27, 2014 23:27:33 GMT
Mine came to most...and our son is 18. He may have missed one, but he was there because he wanted to be. He enjoyed hearing the progress and being reassured that everything was good.
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Post by Miss Lerins Momma on Jul 27, 2014 23:29:10 GMT
Mine came for every appointment with D [HASH]1, bc he had a job that allowed him too. He wasn't able to make it for any with [HASH]2, only the birth.
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back to *pea*ality
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Jul 27, 2014 23:33:05 GMT
DS was born 22 years ago. DH came with me once. The OB mentioned that on the next visit we would hear the heartbeat and I thought my husband would enjoy that. I had an un eventful pregnancy and didn't need for anyone to accompany me.
p.s. I didn't get a "push gift" either.
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Post by anxiousmom on Jul 27, 2014 23:42:08 GMT
Oldest is 18, and his dad came to the big appointments (heartbeats and ultrasounds) and a few others but not all of them. Honestly, there were some that were boring to me and I was the one having the baby. He was, however, there for the birth.
Ex went to none with the second baby, but that was because I found out I was pregnant while we were going through our divorce and he had already moved to a different city. He did come to the hospital while I was having the baby, got there just in time to miss all the hard parts and to be there while the baby was born.
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stittsygirl
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Post by stittsygirl on Jul 27, 2014 23:45:45 GMT
I was lucky if my husband was even stateside each time I was pregnant . He came to a few of the more special ones (ultrasounds usually) if he was home, but almost all my regular OB visits were just me, and I was perfectly fine with that.
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Post by moveablefeast on Jul 27, 2014 23:47:00 GMT
Mine came every chance he got and I loved it. I loved that he got to know my doctors before delivery time came, and heard all the updates and advice and recommendations they made. He was such a good partner to me during that time and I was very grateful.
If they were doing internal exams he usually left because he couldn't stomach it. Heh. That was fine too.
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Jul 27, 2014 23:50:18 GMT
Kids are 16 and 12. DH came to every appointment because he wanted to. I had 6 miscarriages in 10 years, before DS was born, and both pregnancies were high risk, so I think it was reassuring to him to be there.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2014 23:50:28 GMT
My ex went to a few, mostly because we only had one car at the time. With my second son, ex took me to a few but kept our oldest occupied in the waiting room. I went to most alone. I either took ex to work or he took a longer lunch and stayed with our oldest. I wanted him there for certain ones.
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Post by ExpatBackHome on Jul 27, 2014 23:52:45 GMT
My husband just went to appointments for an ultrasound. I gave birth the second time in India and in India the husband always went and many times the mother in law went also. The foreigners were often there alone.
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Post by melanell on Jul 27, 2014 23:57:57 GMT
DH came to all but two of my visits and some of my tests with DS [HASH] 1 (now 11), because I couldn't drive for most of the pregnancy and we were being hit with a new issue every visit for awhile. With DS [HASH] 2, he was there for delivery and absolutely nothing else. It just had to do with where we were in our lives at the time. With [HASH]1, we had 2 incomes, so it was no biggie for both of us to burn some unpaid time if need be. With [HASH] 2, DH was the sole income earner, so unpaid time would have been harder and he wanted to save his paid time for after the baby was born. Luckily, that pregnancy was easier and I could drive, so all worked out very well.
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Post by theboydbunch on Jul 28, 2014 0:04:56 GMT
My dh came to many with me.
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Post by beachhappy22 on Jul 28, 2014 0:08:18 GMT
My husband would go if I was going to have an ultrasound but otherwise no. When I found out I had miscarried I kind of wish he was there but neither one of us was expecting that kind of news.
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Peamac
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Post by Peamac on Jul 28, 2014 0:08:39 GMT
DH went with me to a few, definitely the ultrasound. DDs are now 22 and 20 yrs old, so not a new thing. He couldn't always get off for them, but the doctor was a 30 minute drive away and we usually did extra shopping when we were in town.
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Post by periwrinkle on Jul 28, 2014 0:11:41 GMT
My husband went with me to every appointment that he was in the country for. (Spent the first half of my pregnancy bouncing between Germany and China for work). At least one appointment was scheduled for when he would be home. He was laid off half way through, so he got to go to almost all of them. He desperately wanted to be a dad and didn't want to miss a thing. He wanted to hear her heartbeat, see her on the ultrasound, and to make sure we were both doing well. He even stayed with me in the hospital until we were released. (Slept on the little couch) He loves being a dad.
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Post by keknj on Jul 28, 2014 0:13:04 GMT
The only appts my DH went to were the amnio procedures and that was because I needed a ride home! I didn't think to ask him to come tho. I just handled them on my own. I wasn't used to having anyone go to the doctor with me.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 28, 2014 0:15:50 GMT
I have noticed that many women take their dh or even moms with them.
It's never occurred to me to take someone but that's probably because I find doctor appointments a hassle and boring. I can't imagine asking another person to take the time off work and sit through them with me. I'm really glad dh doesn't ask me to go to his with him.
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Post by donna on Jul 28, 2014 0:19:32 GMT
My dh came to maybe one appointment with each of my two pregnancies. Our boys are 24 and 22 years old. He was in the Air Force at the time and just could not get off for appointments. I really didn't need him to come with me.
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BarbaraUK
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Post by BarbaraUK on Jul 28, 2014 0:29:18 GMT
It is very common at our local hospital for both to attend prenatal appointments and has been for a number of years.
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iluvpink
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Post by iluvpink on Jul 28, 2014 0:32:37 GMT
Hmm...I know my husband came to the first one, then for the ultrasound. I don't know if he came to any after that or not, that was fifteen years ago now lol. I know he didn't come to all of them. Ok, I asked him and he says he came to most of them but not every single one.
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Post by scrapaddie on Jul 28, 2014 0:38:31 GMT
30 yeas ago I had a friend whose she went to every ob and gyn at. I thought it was weird!
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Post by melanell on Jul 28, 2014 1:32:23 GMT
p.s. I didn't get a "push gift" either. I received 2 push gifts....2 bouncing baby boys.
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