mlana
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Post by mlana on Jul 29, 2014 19:01:44 GMT
My DD has an apartment at college this year and won't be buying the dining plan. She is planning on cooking, but has asked that I put together some meals for her to cook fast for nights when she has a late class. I bought her a 2.5 qt crock pot so she can throw these freezer meals in it in the morning on low or warm and come home to a hot meal that night. I am also doing something similar for my mom and Granny; Granny has been the cook but can't cook now and Mom hates to, so I am making them some standby meals, too. To do this, I am just making larger portions of what I already cook and am freezing it in separate portions as soon as DH and I are done and it is cool. This is not really any extra physical effort on my part, just a bit extra money.
In your case, I would ask him to help you with the prep on the weekend. Y'all could shop together, then prep and cook together, and split the meals. This way, he would get an idea of how to cook, even if he doesn't actually do all of it. If you make more than just enough for one meal each, he could shop the freezer on those weekends y'all didn't get around to cooking.
If he has a kitchen at his place, your could go there every so often and cook and shop there. I would definitely make sure he had a small crockpot, though. They are great for thawing and having a meal ready when you get home.
Marcy
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Post by PinkPrincess77 on Jul 29, 2014 19:15:22 GMT
At first I was like, "He's crazy!" and then I read Volt's response and was like, "I can compromise like that." and then I read YOUR response that you don't have kids, etc., and I went back to, "He's crazy!" LOL I'm with you in the fact that if it's just me, I'm eating pop tarts and cereal for dinner LOL....
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kate
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Post by kate on Jul 29, 2014 20:29:47 GMT
It's only 2 hours away? Good grief, he could come home on Wednesday nights for dinner - or you could go out to have dinner with him at his place. Seriously, I know people who commute nearly that amount every work day! Take him to the store and show him the frozen meals section. It would be very sweet of you to make him homemade frozen meals from time to time, but I do think it's unreasonable for him to expect you to cook all of his dinners, especially since you won't be cooking for yourself every day. How did he manage to eat before he met you? As a PP said, maybe he's looking for a bit of security as he starts his new venture. In that light, I'm much more sympathetic.  On another topic, do make sure to go out and visit him, meet his friends, etc. at school. It will make you "real" to his classmates (this is invaluable to any marriage), and it will make the stories that he brings home more interesting if you know the characters. |
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Post by Kymberlee on Jul 29, 2014 20:47:29 GMT
He'll be fine…he found the Wegman's in town. Ha! To clarify a couple of things, though. There is no meal plan and no mess hall at AWC. I won't cook much while he is gone, but I do think I will make at least one big meal that has leftovers to send with him once a week. I also will make extras when i fire up the grill so he at least has a main and can figure out the sides on his own. I will also fix something in the crockpot at least once a week or so and send him back with that. We have no kids so there is no reason for me to cook big meals while he is gone. I do get the food=love and will try to be more understanding of his needs. My initial reaction was one of WTF??? when he wanted me to provide him food and another WTF??? when he refused to learn a few simple recipes.
For those of you that suggested cooking on Sundays for the week. While I appreciate the suggestion (I really do), it isn't going to happen.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Jul 29, 2014 20:59:04 GMT
Now I see that you will only be cooking for yourself while DH is gone - and that most likely won't happen on a nightly basis. In that case, I would freeze any leftovers from the meals that I did cook during the week. However, he is going to have to suck it up and learn to manage to feed himself. Honestly? I wouldn't worry about it. He is a big boy and is going to figure out at some point that eating out daily is expensive and not healthy. I wouldn't say or do anything and let him come to that conclusion on his own. I suspect you'll find that he will be asking you to show him how to do things before too much time has gone by. And if not? Well, that's his decision. As for cooking on the weekends, there's no way I'd spend my time doing that unless it was a joint effort and he was in there helping me do it. What she said! |
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 29, 2014 21:04:35 GMT
As women, we are all so different. Some of us love to cook and take care of our man, and some of us don't love to cook and want our spouse to be independent. Whenever I see a post that says I would do it, I always read it twice. I am one who said I would do it. "taking care of our man" to me doesn't mean that he isn't independent. I guess for me it's the fact that he asked it of me. As a favor whatever the reason. My husband is my best friend, the person I chose to partner with for the rest of my life. The second half of me. The 2 shall become one. In this situation the husband didn't ask his wife to do anything illegal or immoral. Isn't being abused. If my husband asked this of me I consider it a chance to be a blessing to him. He would miss me during the week and sitting down at dinner time to a meal I sacrificed my time to cook for him would be such a boost for him. I don't see why doing that for a spouse would be that big of a deal. I do say this with the idea that she has not been asked to provide 3 meals a day for him. Even I couldn't imagine the logistics of that. I am picturing the supper meal. I think you two are very lucky to have each other. I am not that fond of cooking (but I do) and I work at an exhausting job so when I come home, I don't consider it a blessing. I love it when he cooks (retired) and I can relax. We split a lot of the housework so neither one of us has to do most of it. |
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Post by melanell on Jul 29, 2014 21:23:37 GMT
ETA: He just texted me that he found the Wegmans in town. I'm thinking things are looking good.  If strolling through Wegmans isn't enough to get him interested in preparing some of his own food, then nothing will!  |
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Post by SuPeaNatural on Jul 29, 2014 21:46:43 GMT
I'd do what Volt said - make the regular meal each night, and freeze his portion so he can take it for the following week. It may not be practical every night, e.g. if you have pizza or a barbeque, but you could substitute frozen TV dinners on those nights - much cheaper than him eating out every night.
Not everyone is good at cooking, and if he's good at doing other things and helping around the house, I'd do this for him.
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