15 yo dd told me she's suicidal.

I've got no answers for you. My heart aches reading this. I can not imagine.

I would look for professional advice. For you to know what to do/look out for. Obviously you're a loving momma and will do all in you power but talking to someone who knows about this has got to help.  Things that you might not even think of, someone with experience might.

Hugs, hugs and more hugs.

I'm sending you hugs, so many hugs - be strong and be proud that your daughter can talk to you about this....many young teenagers cannot talk to their mums about issues like this.

I don't have any experience with this but my first thought was that her medication needs to adjusted or changed. This sound to me like it's more than just therapy can remedy. Prayers and positive thoughts going out to your daughter and you.

I am not a mental health professional, but I would not be satisfied with a therapist saying that a 15 year old verbalizing suicidal thoughts was 'not an imminent danger.' I would err on the side of caution and seek some additional professional advice. The alternative, if this therapist is wrong, is just too grave. 

I'm so sorry you're all dealing with this.

I have to agree with the others who say not to dismiss this because the therapist doesn't believe she's in imminent danger.  I'd be seeking more help.

I'm so sorry for her pain and suffering. Wishing you strength to help her deal with this.

I am so sorry she feels so bad.

And (((hugs))) to you. There isn't anything much more frightening than this.

And please tell her that there is always a reason to live. Always some little good there to find. And that no problem is bad enough to end it all.

I once read that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Very true.


Also, I just thought of something. Did she just suffer any traumas? Any chance someone hurt her that you don't know about? Does she have a new boyfriend or girlfriend that you don't know well that could be abusing her? Has she recently broken up? Are her grades dropping? Does she have a lot of pressure to do well in school?

I know that's a lot of questions, and I'm not asking for them to be answered, only to give you something to think about.


(((hugs))) again.

I am so sorry you are dealing with this and your daughter feels like this.

I know you said her medicine is well controlled but I experienced intense anxiety after being on Zoloft for a long time. These medicines are so tricky. I have changed medications multiple times because they either stopped working, made me too exhausted to the point of depression, or made my anxiety skyrocket.

I know how hard it is as an adult to deal to with this, I can only imagine how it feels to a 15 year old. I think a different therapist also.

I don't really have any other advice, I'm sorry.

 I'm so sorry to read this. My dd  also struggles with anxiety and when she was in fifth grade we went through a time where she felt like she was going to kill her self.  She was already on medication and was seeing a therapist who was a psychiatrist. 

She was scared because she didn't want to kill herself but she couldn't control the thoughts in her head and she would go online and look up ways to hurt herself.  I don't know if that makes sense, but that is where we were and that was how she described it.  We never kept our knives on the kitchen counter because they scare her and to this day I still don't keep my knives on the counter.  She was about 11 and she's 19 now and she still has times when things creep up.  I think the thing has always been hardest for her is the fact that  One day things are going really great and then the next, Boom!, anxiety. 

It's so hard to see your kid like this no matter how old they are.  I wish I had some sage words of advice for you but we just had to take it day by day. The therapy helped a lot.  She was able to develop strategies to deal with the anxiety but it doesn't ever go away.  She even went back to the psychiatrist last year when she was have nag a lot of anxiety.  She has a really good sense of herself and knows when things are going south. I think that has been one of the most helpful things for her and for us.

Big hugs!
Lisa D.

Hugs to you Mum!

At least she came to you and you've got the ball rolling  

I agree that a change in meds might be in order ... I've had to change mine numerous times over the years ...

My dd was cutting and it was so hard to see my baby in such a bad state but through proper therapy and support she is doing well so don't give up hope!

Threats of suicide need to be taken very seriously ... I would maybe be seeking another therapist for your dd  

Whatever you decide, know that the Refupeas are there for you   

We lost a dear friend to suicide. She was 15 and had seen her therapist that day! Please call the suicide hot line. They can give you advice and support.

Hugs.this is a tough road to travel

Some antidepressants cause suicidal ideation in teens. Talk to the doctor who prescribed hers.

If she is thinking of ways then she is serious. You can't leave her alone. This includes sleeping. Also lock up anything that can harm her- knives, razors, tools, scissors, ropes, belts, scarves, medications- even over the counter ones.

I would take her to the nearest children's hospital. They can assess her immediate danger. They may or may not keep her. But they will not or should not let you leave without a safety plan. Her therapist should have done this.
I'm so sorry you're going through this.

I have no advice either. Sounds like the peas have it covered. I will send a hug and some prayers though.